At some point, I feel there has to be some sort of protest for anything to change, and yes, the protest will probably become violent. This should be expected and is a good thing as long as the protesters don't initiate the violence.
What do you have to lose? Your job? Not if you save money and have the support of your family. Going to jail? Unless you admitted to doing something retarded, you can't be arrested for excising your first amendment rights. One man walking alone is as good as dead, but if you gather a group of 100 or so you would have a better chance of being noticed and remaining safe.
Can't be arsed to protest? Make a youtube video where you come out. If you aren't in a situation to release it at the moment, you should still make and keep it private until you can.
Putting your coming out on video has a massive impact, especially if other people can see your family still accepts you. It will lead to a chain reaction of more and more people speaking up, and eventually challenging culture's sex-negative attitudes.