/8lounge/ - The "8" Lounge

>>269
Similar to my girlfriend. She likes being dominated but not in the abusive sort of way. Not sure why…

>>289
You're right. Maybe it stems from psychological issues - the only reason she'll date me is because she's mentally ill with a variety of ailments, on a multitude of pills and potions.

>>274
Does your loved one have anything psychologically or physically busted, might I ask?

>>270
I want her to become my wife to take on such a role. I don't think it's demeaning to give you control over my abode and my children, quite the opposite; it means I trust you with the utmost respect.

Feminism is quite weird.

why can't we all be as fortunate as op? my girl is such a pussy that i havnt even sexed her yet because she feels that condoms are not safe enough

>>269
So ahhhhh…. What seems to be the problem?

>>298
I believe it is time to assert your love in a more forceful way, Mr(s). Mr(s). Anon.
>it's for her own good

Fetishes are usually influenced by stuff that you experienced in your childhood, I mean, remember how many shows with anthropomorphic animal characters there were in kid's shows in the late 80s and throughout the 90s? Notice how 15ish years later there was a HUGE influx of furries?

Ask her about her childhood and you can probably find the source of it.

>>316
So does that mean allowing children to interact with other children puts them at risk of developing pedophillia?

>>317
I don't know, but being around older women a lot definitely gave me a milf fetish.

>>317
This might be of interest.

http://psychology.about.com/od/theoriesofpersonality/ss/psychosexualdev.htm

Then again, psychologists are pretty messed up themselves.

>>293
My gf is relatively the same, with the edition she had a traumatizing childhood

>>269
Women want to be dominated and be submissive to a particular man. Otherwise she feels unsafe and dissatisfied.
It's quite understandable: if a woman's mate can't dominate her, then what hope does he have of asserting himself over other men and protecting her and her children?

St. Paul and the English Church understood this very well. Note the marriage vows for the groom:

>N. WILT thou have this woman to thy wedded wife, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live?

And for the bride:

>N. WILT thou have this man to thy wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, love, honour, and keep him in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live?

The first duty of the husband is to *love* his wife–which was understood as an act of will, not a matter of feelings. The husband was to always act for the good of his wife.

The first duty of the wife was to obey her husband.

The beauty of this arrangement is that the woman gains the security of submission, but submission to a man who has sworn before God and the community to place her good above all others.

One of the cruelest effects of feminism has been to destroy the social support for this balance of love and dominance. Human nature does not change. Women still want to be dominated, but they can't openly admit it or obtain it from feminist husbands.

They often wind up seeking it domination instinctively, without guidance, and often from vile men who do not love them, and treat them cruelly. The men who in other times would lead them with love have been socialized to be non-dominant "nice guys" who inspire no security and consequently have little sexual appeal.

>>356
It can be a fine line between the two.

>>579
I'm atheist, so I don't buy the religious aspect, but the general reasoning behind that is solid. Before the sexual revolution (or whatever it's known by now), relationships worked better.

>>269
I'm into submitting as well. I can't speak for all women, but personally things like uni place a lot of responsibility/work on me during the day and it feels great to be able to let go for a while and give someone else power over me. I think evolutionarily, women aren't built to handle as much pressure as men, and now that women are expected to study and work just the same as men are, having that element of release through sexual submission is freeing in a way. That's just my take on it though.

>>269
Same thing here, my ex and current girlfriend really love being dominated in bed. My current girlfriend however seems to think she has to keep up appearances as a Strong Woman(tm) and can't just fully let go, despite saying (and it being apparent) she wants to.

It helps that it sort of just comes naturally for me, but at the same time I wouldn't mind letting go and having her push back for a change. Like the Mr(s). Anon above said uni/work/organizing social groups is a lot of pressure and I don't really get the same kind of release I give her.

>>2269
Addendum; I actually really do admire dames who truly have strength of character and are confident in their own internal moral compass/judgment/whatever else. They get me hot under the collar quite easily.

However I can't help but notice there are a lot of women who simply act the part because that's what society expects of them, and it just seems fake. Instead of being sure of themselves and what they want they just puff themselves up.

this has been eye opening

>>590
Just because you're athiest doesn't mean everything concerning religion is irrelevant.
I don't believe in god either but I can acknowledge that the bible has some insight to society in the past.

What I want to know is why society can't just admit that women want domination.

>>269
Because it's hot.

were all fucked up when it comes to sex, better to be with a girl who's honest about what she wants then a stuck girl who lies to you then cheats.