I took the advice of /r9k/ and the hypnosis files and i've been trying not to give a fuck anymore, and it's working. I feel better about myself and who I am. I now realize that i'm doing myself and everybody else a favor by being alone. I think this is a healthier mentality for me to have as well. Now I live for myself, I eat better, dress better, and am generally happier and healthier in body and mind. I wasn't any sort of psycho land whale before, but I felt like one. I feel like a stud now.
The stress of wanting to be normal was too much. Acceptance is the way to go, and who knows, maybe turning my life in this direction will lead to those things I wanted before. Life is funny that way. As soon as you stop searching for something it turns up when you least expect it. But for now i'm content with my thick diapers, footie PJs, and watching all the leaked screeners with my paci. I'm not saying go full indulgence, this isn't just about being an AB/DL, that was just one of many hindrances in my life. It's about accepting where you are in the world. You can't use all that stress to wish away your problems. But you can sit down and enjoy where you are and who you are while you wait.