/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover

>>17423

Isn't that a Catch-22?

this scenario lacks context and background.

>>17423

As with any other BDSM-type play, you should have issues like this planned out well in advance. Discuss with your partner the things each of you like and don't like to make playtime easier.

Most importantly, set a goddamn safety word. If your partner is legitimately uncomfortable, they can use it to stop things. Don't throw caution to the wind just to try to make things a little more hot.

>>17433

>Most importantly, set a goddamn safety word

Get your shit out of here. Safewords are for tumblrautists.

>>17436

Not sure if troll or virgin.

>>17439

>>17438

Cool, you really need a safe word? You go out in public and shout something autistic?

No thanks, I don't want to look like i'm a severely mentally retarded person.

>>17442

>I don't want to look like i'm a severely mentally retarded person.

Don't worry Anonymous, you've already got that covered. What the fuck do you think a safeword is, exactly?

It's opt-out consent for sexual situations. That's it. Makes it way easier to engage in play involving pain, movement restriction, mental abuse, humiliation, or dozens of other things without having to constantly think, "Wait, do they -really- mean 'no' here?" If you're doing open sexual play in public you already don't give a fuck about consent since you're involving anyone who sees.

We're not going to write your jerk off fantasy for you faggot. Things don't work like they do in porn. If this were a real scenario, situations like this would have been discussed before. A sub/baby/slave who's bratting is asking their Daddy to punish them, and such punishments would already have been discussed beforehand.

It's painfully obvious you don't understand what a safe word is, because if it's being yelled you're a shitty dom/daddy who doesn't have enough control to be doing anything to warrant it. If it were public play, the sub whispering the agreed upon term is enough to end the scene.

>>17469

Fuck off reddit shill.

>>17474

>If it were public play, the sub whispering the agreed upon term is enough to end the scene.

K den, it might not be autistic as fuck after all then.

>>17476

Besides, I really dislike public play and never did it.

>>17446

>>17457

> if you're doing this in public you're involving everybody in some shit that about 3% of people want to see. The other 97% are having their day ruined.

To be fair, this can be used as an argument against a huge number of things.

Public protest? Might upset people.

Hugging your same-sex partner? Might upset people.

Wearing revealing clothing? Might upset people.

Breastfeeding a baby? Might upset people.

While I agree with the general sentiment that you shouldn't go out of your way to annoy other people, everyone encounters things in public which annoy them. Nobody has a right to not be offended.

>>17530

I think for me, it has to do with actions that can be considered openly sexual being performed in public. It's hard to set a standard without having it be full of holes, but at least that covers your examples. Revealing clothing would probably be the closest, but barring anything violating Public Indecency laws (also up for interpretation,) people should just deal with it.

Sexual actions are so strongly rooted in the concept of consent in Western society that violation of that consent feels stronger than a person's right-to-not-see-other-common-thing-they-don't-like. ABDL is fortunate in that you can do so many public things with the fetish while being completely circumspect. Engaging in things like ageplay scenes though when people are around…I feel like people who pretend that it's only for comfort and has nothing to do with being sexual are deluding themselves.

I'm glad the conversation about this seems more civilized in this thread. There's something similar being talked about in the Star thread, and it's just descended into shit flinging. I actually like hearing what other people think about this stuff, since I'm not entirely comfortable with my own position.

>>17555

> Sexual actions are so strongly rooted in the concept of consent in Western society that violation of that consent feels stronger than a person's right-to-not-see-other-common-thing-they-don't-like.

You're contradicting yourself here. When you go outside of your home, you accept the risk of seeing shit you don't like. You don't have the right to not be offended, and you also don't have the right to demand being offended only if you consent to it.

Observation is not participation. If someone runs up and flashes you, it's a bit of a different story. But as long as it falls into decency laws, who gives a fuck if someone gets a sexual thrill. Your prudish nature is no one else's problem but your own.

That also doesn't mean freaks who do weirdo shit get to do it without social repercussions. You just don't have any place to stop them as long as they fall within the law.

The Star thread is a shitshow because Star is a fucking lolcow who keeps reading the thread and then letting the trolls now they're getting to her through journals. If she just ignored them like any other mentally functioning content creator it'd be less of an issue.

We've had this thread a few times, usually the normalcy crusader shows up to cry and shitpost about how diapers are just underwear and vomit their retarded insecurities all over the thread.