/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover

While people are often quick to criticize Fetlife, it's probably the easiest way to find meetups in your area. Some basic shit to remember:

Don't go to a public meet dressed like your pic.

If you absolutely must wear padding to a public meet, make sure it's discreet.

Meetups are not play parties.

If you intend to go to a play party, you should go to at least three or five meetups and get to know people. The organizers have to be constantly on watch for creepy/abusive people that assume kink groups are easy pussy.

Basically, don't be the guy people make greentext stories about and be mindful of basic courtesies and personal boundaries.

>>17464

>While people are often quick to criticize Fetlife, it's probably the easiest way to find meetups in your area.

Absolutely this, listen to the guy who posted it. Fetlife's problems stem from the culture of the website and the boards themselves, but the amount of information it provides for meets, munches, and play parties is priceless. Join up, make a basic profile, and look for ABDL groups in your area.

As to etiquette, just go in with the intention of making friends with common interests, not finding someone to do kinky shit with. Look for the first and the second will follow, ya? Also bear in mind that the first group you try may not be the right one for you. I'm sure you've heard about people calling out groups for being cliquish or closed off. Most of the time that's just outsiders crying because they aren't willing to invest the time, but sometimes it's true. If people are being douchebags, you've got no obligation to stay. More often than not a city will have more than one group of ABDLs that meetup with some crossover between them. Don't be afraid to shop around a little til you find one you mesh with.

>>17464

arent you supposed to kind of initiate play in soft ways if you're at a play party?

>>17464

3rding Fet. The Tumblrina crowd does have some overlap where I'm from but there's still quite a few people who have a decent head on their shoulders. I've gotten babied by a few people over the years and went to a few parties and it can feel clique-ish at first but most people can't just open this side of themselves to new people right away. Feel out the group and find the people you get along with and avoid someone if you feel they might cause trouble.

If you do get invited to a party where alcohol is allowed, don't get white girl wasted the first time. Sounds like common sense to most but we're on a chan here. I've seen what happens when people go a little too far with the sauce at one of these parties and while nobody said anything about it that night, I'd never seen them invited back to the house parties.

>>17464

Gonna throw my support in for Fetlife too, had some great experiences, but there is also the possibility of bad experiences too. Depending on the size of the city you are looking in, you may end up with a couple flops and some or a ton of bizarre greentext moments, all it takes is patience and sooner or later you will find a group that works with you.

It's best to stay vigilant, always look up where meetups/parties are located, as well as checking out who may be attending or organizing events. The best bit of advice I can offer is that you should never be forced or feel obligated to stay somewhere just because you signed up to be somewhere.

>>17473 is pretty spot on with the alcohol advice, just make sure to test the strength of your drinks before sucking them down. Also try and avoid taking a drink that you didn't see someone pour.

>>17506

I've tried to use fetlife before. I can't find any events or meetups in or around houston.

>>17512

I had a similar experience when I tried looking around; DFW Anon here. Maybe our state is just a cursed backwater.

I always wondered what is the etiquette at play parties? How do you not come off as some weirdo other than be polite and not a spastic?

>>17518

Attend pre-party munches, get to know people, never expect play at your first play party it's more of a chance to get a feel for the venue and meet even more of the people there. I've found that unless you go there with specific plans to do play with people, you really shouldn't expect to do much. Sometimes it happens spur of the moment, but most times not. What's important is to always know that nobody is obligated to play with you, it's meant to be something mutual. Don't be a total creep, just make friends and eventually the play will come.

>>17518

>How do you not come off as some weirdo other than be polite and not a spastic?

If you seriously have to ask this question, you ARE the weirdo/spastic. There's no "teaching" someone how to have common sense or social etiquette. Apparently you don't have it. Sorry kiddo ;)

>>17576

Get the fuck out, not everyone isn't autistic or has a mental disorder..

>>17593

Oh I'm sorry - did I offend the obvious autist?

>not everyone isn't autistic or has a mental disorder

Well it's pretty fucking obvious you do. I don't know what to tell you. Get some therapy - find someone that works with autists/socially retarded people and see if you can't get trained in basic human interaction.

Don't get mad at me because I can socialize normally and not be a fucking weirdo.

>>17618

He honestly can't help it, he's a tripfag anyway. But this guy always acts like this and is always questioning if he's autistic / socially awkward. He really only speaks in memes and other chan lingo I guess because it makes him feel cool or something, but really it just makes him appear as a giant faggot with no social skills. Best to stop talking to him before it begins to rub off on you.

>>17576

>>17593

>>17618

Holy fuck what. The reason why I asked this >>17518 is because I meant it more like how into baby play do you have to be at these things, and if there is a general rule set of things to do and not do such as don't mess yourself, etc. I've never been to any meetup and I was just wondering from the people who had what their experience was like.

I have no issues talking to anyone, I'm not autistic or have a mental disorder or any of that. But it seems most of this community does.

ITT: Everyone trying to feel superior to each other.

>>17621

I'm honestly finding that I really don't have to try at all.