/abdl/ - Adult Baby - Diaper Lover

>>17820

They are diapers a lot of the brands are comfy to begin with and for males being in a wet one can be arousing. Not a big mystery of why some physically like diapers.

If you need to do something other then just let it be. seeking out a therapist wouldn't be a horrible idea but the best ones will only make you try to see and feel that it's fine and there's nothing wrong with it. Unless you let diapers and your actions with them dominate your life.

>>17820

>Do you have a condition that would make resolving your bedwetting problem possible?

>You should seek a little bit of therapy or even counselling to come to terms with your issue if it's not something you can solve through talking with a doctor.

>Why are you scared, what fears do you have?

On a side note, try to not to get too wound up over the whole thing, just keep a level head and take it one step at a time.

I may have some idea of how you feel. I stopped bedwetting when I was younger, but even to this day I still wet every now and then. When that happens it really messes with me for several days afterwards. As in, I cant focus on anything else no matter how important it is kind of messes me up.

Im sure you have probably heard this analogy before, but in case you havent, think of it like this. If somebody breaks their arm, they wear a cast. If you wet the bed regularly, you wear a diaper at night for the same reason. If somebody has ADHD or has issues with depression or heart disease of some kind, whether it be a result of lifestyle or genetics or just bad luck, they might take medication to help deal with the problem. Same concept.

What part about it scares you? just feeling helpless or that someone will find out or something else entirely? Also, when you say you are attracted to diapers, do you mean that in the sense that most people on this board are attracted to them, or just that they help you manage a problem?

As for suggestions, something you might try is talking about it with someone. I know this sounds crazy, but hear me out. The last time I wet the bed was this past winter a few days before I went on a winter camping trip with my scout troop (inb4 underage b&: I am currently 19 and have been with the troop as an adult leader ever since I turned 18, before which I was a regular member). It was really bothering me plus when this happens to me it normally happens several times in rapid succession, and a week outside in the middle of winter is NOT a good time to have a wet sleeping bag (it has actually happened to 2 different kids over the past few years on this outing…) nothing dangerous as long as we take care of it, but sucks more than if it were not cold. Anyway, I decided to try a little experiment on myself the first night. While talking with two of the younger guys that I have become good friends with both before and after turning 18 I decided that I would see if I could force myself to tell them that I had wet the bed a few nights before. I told them I was trying an experiment to see if I could tell them something, and then spent 5 minutes trying to tell them before finally getting it out. the buildup felt awful, but I could have backed out at any time. Actually telling them was uncomfortable, but not nearly as bad as the build up. After telling them however felt great to my surprise. I think it is because it allowed some degree of control over the situation. I could have backed out and not told them, but I CHOSE not to even though I could have.

Long story short, if there is someone you know and trust enough, try telling them all about it. If you CHOOSE to do it, and are not forced to do so, it might help a lot. More than likely, they will be supportive. Even if they aren't, they most likely will not be negative about it or tell other people, but instead just feel a bit awkward about it. It might be a way to help you take some control over it.

Hope that helps.

>>17844

I just wished I took better care of myself when I was younger. I went through a terrible spell of depression when I was 14 and started to wet the bed again. Long story short, I took extremely poor care of myself and ended up getting a bladder infection. It fucked up my bladder pretty badly and left some damage that still hasn't healed. That's why I still have bed-wetting problems.

BTW, just outta curiosity, do you attend a college? And do you still live at home? I still live at home to save money, plus I don't want to live in a dorm with my bed-wetting problems.

>>17845

I attend collage and live in a dorm. Was really worried about my first finals week and the potential for bedwetting because it tends to happen if I get really badly stressed out, but fortunately I have not had to deal with it yet.

>>17846

Is it bad that I don't live in a dorm? I just simply don't have the money for it, plus my college is 20 minutes away from where I live.

>>17847

Not at all, especially living 20 minutes away. A lot of times they actually encourage people who live nearby to not live in a dorm.

>>17849

> Or even daytime urinary incontinence

For the most part. I do have a weakened bladder and at times I will wet during the day if I'm not being careful enough.

As silly as this sounds, another issue is that my little brother, who just turned 13, is slowly becoming less of a bedwetter and it's making me feel worse about myself because I'm going to be the only person in my house who still wets the bed.

>>17850

>I'm going to be the only person in my house who still wets the bed.

So what? Is your brother the type to be a dick about it?

>>17850

Try not to let that bother you. The fact that you have a brother that wets as well shows that there is a prevalence of it in the family.

That may be an issue from your point of view, but unless your family is a dick, they wont mind, nor should they.

What do you mean by he is slowly becoming less of a bedwetter?

>>17852

Probably that he's just growing out of it.

>>17851

No, he's very nice to me. He's the perfect little brother, but can be a bit blunt. For instance, I slept in one day when we had to go out for breakfast. He came up to my room to wake me up and that night I slept in just a diaper because I was hot. He noticed that my diaper was really yellow and said, "Wow Anon, you sure wet your diaper last night!" I mean, I know he didn't mean to make me feel bad, but I did.

>>17852

My family isn't a dick about it. They're pretty supportive, especially since I get my diapers for free because of my health insurance. Still, I'm sure they would like for me to stop being a bed-wetter just like I would.

When I say he's slowly becoming less of a bed-wetter, I mean he's waking up dry more often. However, his wetting has always been sporadic, so I'm not too sure if he is actually growing out of it or not.

>>17854

At least he doesn't feel like he has to walk on eggshells around you?

Someone else said this same thing, but i'll repeat it because it's important. Stop comparing yourself to your brother.

For real, even with slight daytime issues, it's not a big deal. If you're always stressing about how you wish things were different, you're not really alive. You still have family who sound like they care about you, you can still find love, your urinary issues won't prohibit you from supporting yourself.

Be happy!

>>17854

Your right about him not meaning to make you feel bad, Iv seen a lot of kids in my scout troop around that age that say things like that where they just have no tact. The thing is they are totally oblivious to it. When something like that happens, just tell him. like "hey <brothers name>, I know you don't mean to, but that's kind of upsetting/embarrassing/<whatever word choice you want to use?> when you say things like that." Not only will he know that it upsets you and thus he wont do it with you as much or at all, but it will help teach him how to be more delicate with other people in other situations as well. In other words, you will help him develop and save yourself some discomfort at the same time.

>>17856

yeah, you can't let yourself compare yourself to others all the time. I do that in some aspects of my life and it drives me crazy. I know its hard not to because that's just the way our brains are wired, and despite my best efforts I am still constantly doing it.

>>17857

I did speak to him about being insensitive towards my bed-wetting. He told me he can do it because he's a bed-wetter too. I REALLY don't want to get my parents involved because that would be embarrassing as hell. Most I'd go is tell my older brother, but again, that would be embarrassing too. Oh the joys of being a middle child…..

>>17866

One way or another, that shouldnt be an issue. And it's not just you making unreasonable demands either. Try explaining the logic to him. If one person robs a bank, that doesn't make it OK for another person to do the same. (I realize that that doesn't quite fit the situation, but at his age I doubt that he will realize that) If you can think of another way to explain it, go for it!

Try talking to him not about being sensitive about bedwetting, but about being sensitive in general. Sit down with him one day and say something along the lines of "We need to teach you a little bit about tact" or something. Try to have a bit of humor in it if possible.

Also try explaining to him that if it didn't bother you, he could be insensitive towards you all he wanted, but that it does bother you and it's not OK to make someone feel bad about themselves for no reason. Again, think of it as a teaching moment for him rather than an embarrassing conversation for your sake. If he goes back with the same argument, just be firm and persistent: you have every right to be.

Was your older brother a wetter too?

Also, how much does wetting bother your younger brother?

>>17889

> Was your older brother a wetter too?

Nope, he was not. Didn't have any case of bed-wetting past the age of 3. Strange too since my mom and bio dad's side of the family have a history of weak bladders.

> Also, how much does wetting bother your younger brother?

If his bed-wetting bothers him just as much as it does to me, then he's doing a great job at hiding it. He's still a happy, out-going kid with a decent social life for a 13 year old. I don't know, as silly as this sounds, I'm almost jealous of him because I remember when I was his age and I had a lot of great memories.

>>17909

hey dude. Are you doing ok mentally?

>>17910

Not so much. I'm always under stress and I've started to cry more. I don't know why but I've felt weaker lately. Like I just want someone to hold me and tell me it's all going to be okay.

>>17911

Where do you live?

>>17942

I live in New England.

>>17945

It was worth a shot. Maybe some other anon can comfort you.

>>17911

What's your major?

Is the stress from school, wetting, or something else?

Keep in mind that crying is a totally normal way of dealing with stress. In fact, it is arguably one of the most effective ways. My first semester I had some stuff go badly both grade wise and socially / emotionally, and one day I just waited until I knew my roommate wouldn't be around (he was actually a big source of stress and has since been kicked out of the dorm for various reasons) and just laid down and cried. It honestly made me feel better to do that.

Do you mean physically weak or emotionally weak?

I know how you feel just wanting to have someone be there for you. I hope that talking here has helped and will continue to help in some way.

>>17909

Does your family know how much it bothers you? In other words, from their perspective, do you hide it?

Thats not really all that silly if you think about it. I often look back to being 11-12 and around that age as being great times. Its normal to wish it were still like that. And just because things were better back then does NOT mean that they will never be like that again. Life goes in cycles.

>>17911

well dude

I hope you know that you can always vent to us

Your school definitely has a resource for mental health tho. Ive been to see my schools therapists and it was definitely better than nothing.

They can also help manage school to help with the stress.

>>17950

Listen to this, OP. You mentioned you have health insurance too, so you could possibly even find an outside therapist if you wanted. I was an RA back when I was going through school and trust me, there were TONS of bedwetters. There was at least 3 on my floor each year confirmed (They notified us on dorm reg) and usually one or two more that I suspected. The school's default response we were supposed to give if students came to us about it in distress was to recommend them to the campus counseling/therapy. I know this is only anecdotal, but the kids I knew who took the advice ended up a lot more well-adjusted to the school environment and happier than the ones who didn't.

TL;DR: Talking to someone helps, anon. Give it a shot.

>>17947

> Do you mean physically weak or emotionally weak?

I mean emotionally weak. Due to past trauma, my emotions are pretty fragile.

> I know how you feel just wanting to have someone be there for you. I hope that talking here has helped and will continue to help in some way.

It has helped me understand I'm not completely alone here.

>>17950

I've carried a mistrust of therapists and medical professionals with me for years. I have been around some very poorly trained therapists and doctors that only caused me more stress.

>>17961

ive had some serious mistrust of therapists as well.

it really took a hospitalization and forced group therapy for me to realize that there are some helpful people out there.

i beg you to reconsider. You shouldn't have to go through this alone

>>17969

The last therapist I went to tried to convince that my bisexuality was linked to my bed-wetting…. Then there was a therapist I went to when I was a little kid that made it seem it was my and my older brother's fault that my bio dad left the family. I'm sorry, therapists have only caused me pain and suffering in my life!

>>17973

I have also had a really bad experience with a therapist. I wont try to convince you that they are not all bad. I was with one from 4th grade to between 8th and 9th grade (cant remember for sure) and it was awful. I always came out on the brink of tears, and really hated that person. I finally put my foot down one time and just refused to say a single word because it seemed like everything I said was used against me. a couple weeks or months later I stopped seeing said person and started seeing another who made the comment that has stuck with me. "therapy should be therapeutic" if it makes things worse you have every right to not want to go.

as this guy speaking >>17844 Im glad that you can talk to us. And if you want to talk about other stuff totally unrelated to this, thats fine too. I imagine that others feel the same on this, but I for one am happy to talk whenever you need/want.

>>17953

At my dorm we put up a paper on the wall in a hallway where people put down new years resolutions. One, written in small letters read "stop peeing my bed". Although this is an unrealistic goal as we all know that bedwetting is not the fault of the wetter, I still found it interesting that there is at least one bedwetter in my dorm.

But yeah, I'm here and I think a lot of other people are as well whenever you need to talk, be it about the current issue in question or anything else.

>>17976

Also, always remember you are not alone.

>>17976

You seem like a really cool person. Do you per chance have a Skype or something we could talk on? My Skype is luke.d32. Anyone else who sees this post can add me on Skype. I'd love to make some more friends.

>>17973

dude. holy shit. I am sorry you've had those experiences

those were terrible people and i hope they are not practicing anymore. There are professionals who can help. I know you may be weary about the college resources, but know that they are open if a crisis occurs.

im glad that it seems that you can open up to us.

Youre not alone and people, even if they are internet strangers, care about you. Im almost done with college but Im sure I can relate.

If you want to talk more, PM me at my reddit name: The_Boom_Room

>>17983

>>17973

otherwise,

Im here and at /r/abdl to a lesser extent

this community is big and very supportive. were all here for ya

>>17983

Honestly, it's not so much that the therapists were terrible, but that they fed off of my vulnerability and confused me further. If I were to be approached now and told that my bed-wetting is due to my sexuality, I would laugh in your face. However, as a scared and emotionally torn 14 year old, that was the LAST thing I wanted to hear.

Just curious - are you abdl? If so, did your attraction to diapers always exist, or did it come later from bedwetting?

>>17980

I do not think I have a skype, but am thinking about creating one. Iv never really done much as far as chatting on the internet except for image boards like this. I could do just about any chat room though. There is actually one that I heard about recently called "5 million friends" but has been dead for at least 3-6 years. At one point it was a place for wetters to talk to each other about anything as the description goes, but seems like it is pretty much dead now. I put in a thread under the name Cody there to see if anybody would respond to it. We could create a thread there for people to talk or on some other chat board or website if you wanted.

(I am a bit paranoid about things like skype… It's totally unfounded Im sure, and its not like I wear a tinfoil hat or anything, but I probably am a bit more extreme than most when it comes to minimizing my digital trail… probably a habit I should try to break… I know that actual people don't watch us, its just algorithms and servers that do, but still lol)

anyway, the url for the 5millionfreinds board is

http://pub36.bravenet.com/forum/static/show.php?usernum=3087143879&frmid=178

the site that goes along with it is ancient, and looks pretty cool to be honest, but seems to be more or less fossilized. it was made in 1998! the board is more recent however.

>>17993

Again, I mention this because I just posted in it a few days ago but if there is another place Im totally cool with that too.

>>17993

Also, for anyone it may concern, this was a site made for wetters by wetters to support wetters. It was not built for any fetish. I personally would like to see our community respect that, both on this site and others like it. If we want to use them, than we should use them as the authors/owners intended. In other words, separate real life for the people affected by this from the fantasies of those who choose it. Obviously I cant enforce this, but still, lets be decent human beings.

Just wondering, how many people here are also on reddit?

Curious that the reddit thread was much less active than this one.

>>18001

did not know there is a reddit thread. Never been there, is reddit basically like any other image board?

>>18002

I assume this is some kind of bait but here.

https://www.reddit.com/r/ABDL/comments/4azheg/how_to_deal_with_bedwetting/

>>17820

Not gonna lie, I think that's pretty hot. I did hypno to become a bedwetter too, but only when diapered.

>>18004

Nope, Iv actually never been to reddit. honestly.

>>17980

Also, just out of curiosity, are you an aspie? if you have no idea what Im talking about, no big deal, just forget about it. Just going to put it out there that I am an aspie though.

>>18010

It's not an imageboard. It has lots of users and traffic, but the way the site is set up, unpopular posts are hidden. So it's bad for serious discussion of anything controversial.

>>18011

I do have Asperger's, yeah.

>>18015

I see

>>18008

I can see why an ABDL would find bed-wetting to be hot. Honestly, I am glad I have some attraction to diapers or else I would hate myself a lot more. I was sick all today and spent the entire day in diapers. I'll admit, it was pretty damn fun.