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2b8b2f No.870[Reply]

Hey /adv how to clean your mind from all the filth thats collected over there in years ? NEET here and the shit is getting steadily worse with time.

780acd No.871

When i was doing nofap for /christian/ and recovering from a hand injury i stopped watching porn, read books, zero media ( because there is filth in nearly all media example https://vimeo.com/100178568 ).

Pick a specific time to spend an hour to count down from 100 to 0 slowly and let your subconscious baggage leave you into your concious mind and don't react to it, commercial jingles, fetishes, memories.

Make sure you sleep regularly.

Watch this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=By6yDL7LGgY the guy is black, anti-religious abd blue pill but hes right in these video, it talks about how your mind processes all the messages spoon fed to your eyes.


65b932 No.881

Abstinence and distance are the only solutions. Like just going to sit out in a park and watching people. It sounds very difficult, but that's because it's like medicine to us, that level of exposure.

Bring a journal or something to write in about what you see or how you feel about it.



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136165 No.872[Reply]

I'm renting in some shithole house filled with people who have ruined their lives with alcohol and children. Today I realized my landlord violated my last bit of privacy by coming into my room and conducting HVAC tests while I was out with my girlfriend (I live on the top floor by an exterior door). I'm fucking pissed that some piece of shit who's mooched off his mommy for the past 60 years thinks he can just come in and move my shit with his disgusting hands.

I'd burn this place to the ground if it was worth a tenth of the land it sits on.

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136165 No.874

it took them 3 weeks of intermittent power outages and lost internet to install a LIGHT on the floor underneath me. Fried my fucking computer, had to use most of my saved money to buy a new one. Expensive way to learn that surge protectors are not all equal. Woke up to the chink yelling "I'M GOING KILL SOMEONE" one day.


136165 No.875

On the plus side, I'm making above minimum wage and have some options. I could live with my parents or girlfriend if I absolutely had to, or go play tech support for a school district. Can't say I loved that, but it was good work.


8870c3 No.877

>My girlfriend's family is 80% shit.

Watch out, families are their offspring's future.


136165 No.878

>>877

Not necessarily. Her mother's an alcoholic and she's never touched a drink.


f509a0 No.879

>>878

Beware that the psychological issues associated with living with an alcoholic are in no way limited to you yourself becoming an alcoholic. The reason why the offspring of alcoholics are more likely to become drinkers isn't because "LOL BEER TASTES GUD" it's because of the unhealthy behaviors that we learn from them. I'm speaking as the child of an alcoholic/drug addict who has met and listened to the life stories of literally hundreds of others with alcoholic/drug-addict parents at different stages of life over the years. There are always problems. Even if it's the problem of running away from your parents' problems.

Really sounds like a shitty situation though, anon. Where in Cali are you located? I'm in So Cal. Culver City, specifically.

I would also say that if your parents are not completely insane, moving back in with them would not be a bad option.

How I look at it is like this:

You are going to be fucked, no matter what you do, the only thing you can change is how.

For example:

Would you rather be fucked by living in a mad house with no privacy while getting fucked financially (rent) or would you rather be fucked by not having privacy with your gf at your parents' house and having/saving more money (which doesn't sound like that bad a thing, relatively speaking) The point is just to make lists of pros and cons to help you weigh the decision.

It sounds like the privacy aspect is already lost at your apartment, so it wouldn't be any different moving back with your folks - the only difference would be you having more money.



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cecd06 No.876[Reply]

Spoiler in video.

Give me some advice on another advice image forum that isn't dead?

Video sadly related..


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c237ff No.521[Reply]

>in love with my best friend

>she's taken

what the fuck do I do? I hang out with her pretty regularly. I want to tell her, just to get it off my chest, but I don't think it's a good idea.

It's killing me from the inside out

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738e50 No.578

Meet other girls. If you're regularly flirting/hanging out with other people the one chick will be less important. This isn't nec. true if you've had sex with the girl, but you aren't actually all THAT into a girl you haven't shagged.


e662fc No.590

>>521

Did you try working the shaft?

CRANK IT TILL YOU TANK IT, ALONE 4 LYFE


7000e9 No.591

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You shud fug :DDDDDD

benis in bagina :DDDDDD


6368fb No.849

Dump her. Cut her off. Nothing will ever happen between you. Make it your doing, not her's or fate's. You can't make anyone like or love you. You can make someone want you, though. Work out, learn to dress, chase girls, and go on dates. If you feel like you want to earn her than do something about it. You may not get the girl, but you might find the girl that gets you.


85aa98 No.865

>>521

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TY3rT2N1Ecs

Good luck OP



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c9d608 No.857[Reply]

guys I am fucking worried.

- my girlfriend is acting distant.

- I can't have sex with her. she literally keeps her hand in front of her pussy when I get my hand close.

- she's started going on birth control

- she goes out a lot "with the girls"

- she has tinder on her cellphone, when I made a comment because of it (it was running in the background) she said "she wasn't even using it every day"

- we haven't had sex in like 2 months

- there were 2 empty bottles of wine in her kitchen (she says doesn't drink and she is very petite, she doesn't eat or drink much) 2 bottles of wine is like 10 glasses of wine. it looks like she had a party or something? But it's not even her birthday, or something to celebrate in the last month.

- when I ask her if I can see her, she declines most of the time

I am fucking worried.

when I try to talk to her about it, tell her I am worried, tell her I love her, tell her I miss her.

she says I shouldn't worry so much.

HELP

87f616 No.858

I'd let her know your concerns and if she's just kind of "meh" about it, dump her and never look back. Don't get me wrong, it'll hurt. The goal here isn't to do what's easy in the short run but to do something long term. If she's distant and not talking to you, it's clear that there's a lack of trust there from perhaps both parties. If you can't clearly communicate all truths amongst each other, what's the point of pursuing a lifelong relationship?

Also no sex and all the other red flags seem kind of obvious. If you want to be a stalker, just follow her without her knowing. Though ask yourself this before following that route: "What then?" You find out she's fucking around on you or is legitimately just kind of a distant person, then what?


17c020 No.860

Honestly dump her, When I started fucking my gf she took some convincing to go on birth control.

Sure it might be normal for her to decline sex once every so often so she seems playful/cute, but for 2 months no.

She's cheating on you bro


f0bbb8 No.861

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It honestly sounds like you're done. Sex always ends before the relationship itself. It seems like she has little respect for you. End it now before you get jerked around even more. Your girlfriend's behavior is nothing but red flags. It's over.

I've been with the same girl for 8 years, just so you don't think I'm being bitter.


b355fe No.863

Anon, I'm sorry, but >>861 is completely right. It's over.

Hope you come back to dump about what might be the issue. How long were you together?



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a84317 No.846[Reply]

Why am I so gay?

014b54 No.859

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Because you're the OP. Next question.



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a1347b No.855[Reply]

I’ve recently been filling out applications for different jobs at the same company since the middle of January and typically have not received any response.

They have a page in the application where you can say if you have a disability, or not, or just not answer. I have major depression and general anxiety and have been on the verge of suicide a good handful of times. The MD also causes me to have near-chronic fatigue. Medication and therapy has had little to no effect. Now I’m not stupid enough to tell them I’ve almost killed myself or that I’m prone to intense suicidal ideations, but I know from my previous two jobs that It’s intensely difficult for me to be treated and constantly act like a regular healthy person. They say at the bottom of the page they don’t discriminate, but I’m skeptical for obvious reasons.

So I’m wondering if my gut feeling is true – that I’m essentially blackballing myself by being honest about having serious illnesses.

Also, as a rule of thumb, do you recommend lying about being mentally disabled in an application or a job interview?

a1347b No.856

>>855

Sorry, I forgot to clarify - I have been clicking on "yes, I have a disability" on this page I'm talking about.



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c085e7 No.843[Reply]

Tl;Dr:

>'Tards get in here!

OP is questioning how much he can hope to achieve, being a 'tard and all.

Tell him how you cope with your retardation or applicable alternative. Maybe some personal accounts would give him some idea.

OP's post:

Hi, /adv/. I'm a retard.

I got a Aspergers diagnosis 10 years ago. I was quite 'special' at the time, and I was glad it had an explaination.

Couple years after the diagnosis, and a paticularly awkward social situation,I forced myself to learn better social cues. I studied how people interact in the everyday and on television and learned to mold these behaviors into my own. The latter (TV) may have been less than ideal to study as I can have a bad habit of being dramatic and thematic in my line of acting and thinking in social situations.

I've become relativly natural and comforable, though I still struggle with maintaining eye contact. As of now, I'd say I'm just averagely socially awkward. For example: I don't like chit chat, I still avoid it, but I can do it if I must. I've gotten better, but I don't think I pass for normal.

I think that at 60% of my capacity, I can't keep in touch with people.

At 90% I can maintain a few relationships.

But my 90% effort, is a 60% effort for a functional person.

It depresses me, the fact that: applying almost all my efforts, I'm still not impressive. My best is average.

No matter how hard I try, people won't notice my efforts.

>Shepard: We don't give medals to soldiers for doing their jobs.

But then I got to thinking some more:

I'm in my mid 20's, I'm on welfare. My parents made great effort (bless their souls) to get me a intern job which may lead to a steady job down the line. I've been very fortunate. The employer doesn't have to pay mePost too long. Click here to view the full text.

12a07f No.847

Why do you feel you need to interact in a certain way with other people?

What's wrong with the way you interact currently?


12a07f No.848

Define 'general faggotry'.


c085e7 No.852

>>847

Because social skills can get you a long way. Working hard is good too, but it helps to have charm. If by interact you mean with people?

>>848

Everyone else on /adv/ who isn't autistic.

Not really meant as an insult. Don't take it as one.



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0d9037 No.812[Reply]

So i met a girl a couple of months ago, we just clicked. She was funny, cute and appereantly liked me. Altough I was to shy do do anything about it.

Last months we went on a citytrip together, and ended up making out on the third day. Every thing we do together just feels right, and i really feel like i want this to last a long time.

Now, last saturday we where telling eachother secrets and general truths about ourselves. Ended up talking about her fucked up youth, and my situation, which isn't that good. I was totally on board with everything she said and i could understand most of the things she went through.

At the end of the night, she told me quite casually that she used to have sex for money right up untill we went on the citytrip. At first i brushed it off, but it really went through me like a knife. I lay awake all night, thinking about it. I could not imagine her doing things… I mean, it's even hard for me to write it. But in the morning i concluded that she did those things in the past, and we all did some stupid things in out past.

I sat down with her and told her that i didn't like her ding it, but i'm ok with it as long as it is in the past. Which is true, I do feel that way. We both got very emotional and she told me that she at first didn't want to tell me. She was afraid of losing me, but she wanted to be honest. When she said goodbye and went home for the week, i kept on thinking about it, and i can't seem to get it out of my head. As I am a bit of a geek, i looked her up on a website today and saw that she was last online 5 hours ago.

I don't know what to feel anymore. At the one hand, she told me that she will always tell me the truth, on the other she lives quite far away and we only get to see eachother once every 2 weeks give or take.

What is your take on this?

And how can i make peace with this, because i'm still very upset.

93fec8 No.835

Well anon, I guess that the true question here is what about that bothers you? I mean yes she had sex for money and that's pretty direct. Did she do it A LOT with a lot of guys or did she just kind of do it with one or two of the same guys? If you really think about it, most girls (and guys) do the same thing in less of a direct manner. "Oh you should get me this or this and I'll do that thing you like ;)" She was a bit more direct.

TL;DR-What about this bothers you?


d22689 No.845

>>835

But anon, it's not in her past she was online 5 hours prior to his post.

OP, it is up to you if you are comfortable enough to go the distance with this chick. There's a good chance she is currently phasing out of this stuff and her activity is harmless. Do you trust her? Do you trust yourself?



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2e117f No.815[Reply]

my hobby is getting photo evidence/screencaps of thugs and sending tips to fbi/police

is there any way i can get some sort of payment for this

52c4d4 No.844

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Op is lyrtweraly a faggot



884a53 No.810[Reply]

What should I ask for for christmas?

cf1b92 No.840

>>810

A calendar



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44fa64 No.836[Reply]

I learned that good guys never finish recently

>be me

>lonely.jpg

>roommate meets girl he likes, asks me to come along with her and others so he's not the only guy

>go there, instant connection between her and I

>I act like good friend, I stay out of it and let him try to do his thing

>fast forward two months, he never asks her out, is basically a beta orbiter

>I later meet up with her to discuss the situation

>we talk about him for a little bit, rest of the time we talk about our feelings and we confess that we like each other

>because of situation, we decide not to do anything for a while until we tell him the truth

>we text frequently all throughout winter break

>Inlove.webm

>get back to school, she starts talking to me less

>we haven't seen each other in person ever since

>feel alone and forgotten, but at least my friend has his chance now

>he tells me he lost interest over the break, now just friends with her

>mfw I lose the perfect girl for me being the good guy

>mfw he just loses interest despite my sacrifice for him

>I've never felt so alone, so forgotten, and so betrayed in my life

>I don't know what to do /adv/ anymore

Thoughts?

54ac71 No.837

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Well, be prepared to be let down in much worse fashions than this.

Few things you need to realize:

1) If he's your bro, and she doesn't like him, you're not doing your bro (or the girl) any favors by leaving her with a guy she doesn't like. "I was here first" is not always how things work.

2) You backed away from her too, weren't willing to say "Hey, let's keep in touch" so how the fuck is that supposed to communicate to her that you're interested, either?

3) This will be the hardest one for you to swallow: She did not pursue you. And all that that implies, and you'd better get used to it if you're going to continue playing "The game" we call dating/relationships. Women RARELY pursue, RARELY put in as much effort into casual relationships, and will expect you to do essentially everything that you did not do (which she should also, morally, be expected to do, but she gets the pussy pass on these things.) Things like:

1) Stand up for her to your friends (this must have a healthy balance)

2) Pursue her

You did not get exclusively fucked over, anon. You made mistakes too, and you'd better learn fast. The most important thing in the fucking world is communication, and once you start down the path of blaming other people for shit they didn't do, for shit you should've done, you are a lost cause. Resist displacing responsibility and emotions at any cost.



42ff08 No.834[Reply]

I've been having really bad nightmares about something recently ,and every time I wake up from said nightmares I've wet the bed. I only do it for these specific nightmares and not anything else I swear. Talking to someone is not an option too damn embarrassing. I am about 18.


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e4bcd5 No.831[Reply]

Alright /adv/, I just bought my girlfriend these hoop earrings for her birthday, and she loves her jewelry. Do you think I made a good choice and do you think she'll like them? (I know that's a bit far fetched but work with me). Femanons, I would love to hear your inputs

3ed2db No.833

i mean those are pretty basic as far as hoops go, but i'm sure she'll love the thought and wear them anyway



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000000 No.821[Reply]

I got hired for a part time coding job (basically a, "Write a program that does a thing, and when you're done, then you're done" job), and even though the pay was shit (I could have worked on the factory floor for more money), it was by far the best job I ever fucking had. I would have liked to keep working there at that rate, but of course there was an issue.

I hid knowledge of my advanced degree (a PhD in math) in order to get in there.

Long story short, they found out and I have to find a new job now, but I find myself in the same position I did before. Before this, I hid my degree so I could find this job after a nearly year-long unsuccessful job search, so how the hell can I expect to find one now? It feels as if I might as well put 'ex-felon' instead of this fucking degree on my CV.

867403 No.822

What's holding you back from finding work that you can apply your degree to? Job market, I'm guessing? What country are you in?

Some ideas, given the somewhat ambiguous nature of your post -

If you have a great-grandfather that was 1/16 Navajo Indian or X minority or whatever, you might include that on your applications for the diversity-quota thing many tech companies have.

You might try to re-connect with people from your school to find out what they're up to and ask for advice they have on looking for new work, because you're "ready to leave your current gig." Be humble and most people will be receptive and willing to help - people are generally good.

Hopefully this gets the thread rolling.


000000 No.827

>>822

>What's holding you back from finding work that you can apply your degree to? Job market, I'm guessing? What country are you in?

I feel like if I knew that, it would go a long way towards figuring this out (for example, you suggest to go after the 'diversity quota' thing, which I am able to do, and on some applications I've done this and on others I haven't to little avail or ability for me to be able to determine the difference). I'm in the U.S., and I feel very similar to Zhang Yitang's story ( https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yitang_Zhang#Career ) at the moment (minus the ability to solve some huge problem like he did to get out of his situation). This is also why at the moment I've been working on just trying to leave my area completely to a new one (and since I have a lot of dual comsci degrees, this is why I tried to pick up part time programming work, and partly what led to the current situation).


b1a179 No.832

>>827

> This is also why at the moment I've been working on just trying to leave my area completely to a new one (and since I have a lot of dual comsci degrees, this is why I tried to pick up part time programming work, and partly what led to the current situation).

Well, consider that what goes with you to your GNU/location is what you take there. If the problem cannot be positively identified as your physical location, it can't be relied on that it will solve the problem. Mind you, I have no idea where you are, so yeah, if you're in a town of about 300 people, you probably won't find any compsci related work.

That said, how does your resume look? Is there a way you could upload a link to a copy with completely falsified information? IE not a direct doc upload, but a screencap of a doc with false names, contact information, false school/city/etc? I have heard some good resume-building tips recently and may give some spark that gives you a better idea on how to do things with regard to that.

As for work, what have you done? Do you have projects, scripts, or other improvements you can directly attribute to work you've done? Things of that nature?



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