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 No.1215[Reply]

I don't know why I have to go out of my way to say this, but

DO NOT

Suggest an OP asking for advice kill themselves. If you can't offer real advice don't say anything at all. From this point forward I'll start taking action against it.

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 No.1505

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 No.1586[Reply]

>Crush ~~8 months ago asked a 6’ 3” lanklet to a girls choice dance

>FF to ~2 months ago, start chatting up another girl we become friends (I think so anyway)

>Last night was another Girls Choice

>The new crush picked another lanklet

>tfw

So how do I go about either A) Destoying my ego so I never crush on anyone again or B) Dig myself out of this hell hole?



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 No.1579[Reply]

Is it worth it to get a non-STEM degree? I'm not very good at math/science but I'm a pretty good writer and I like the humanities (history and shit like that). Would a bachelors or masters in some humanities be helpful or is it just a waste of time?

 No.1580

>>1579

You're probably better off doing a trade. Non-STEM degrees are complete memes and wastes of time and money.


 No.1584

That really epends on what you want to do and if you're a really good student.

If you're just trying to write a novel then don't even bother with uni. Just strike it on your own using internet resources.

If you're trying to become a professor or historian then you'll need to earn a degree for the contacts alone. The paper is worthless but knowing experts in their field can find you a job better than any job site can.

If all you're looking for is a job then >>1580 is your best bet.




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 No.1582[Reply]

This guy and I have been close friends for over 10 years, and I have fallen hard for him. We've never dated each other but we both clearly have strong feelings for each other. We've spoken intimately and have behaved romantic towards each other, done most things just short of having sex. He is worried he is not mentally ready for any relationship due to his past failed relationships. Because I work and live abroad, distance is also a convenient excuse for us not to date.

Each time we see each other in person, things get heated, leading up to the moment I fly out of the country. He seems good at compartmentalizing because he is content about staying friends with the intermittent benefit of physical intimacy. I feel like it's hard for me each time. I get overwhelmed by my feelings for him and want more than just friendship. Whereas he seems to be able to remain friends regardless of how far (short of sex) we get, I get frustrated and expect more. I have to piece myself back together and the cycle repeats.

I haven't confess my love for the guy, but I am sure he already knows–it was clear through my body language each time we hung out. Recently, I outright asked him if he would consider a relationship with me. In response, he said he says he cares about me, but he is sorry that he can't give me a straight answer. A flat rejection might have been easier to deal with.

A career opportunity is coming up that will let me be physically closer to him. I am hopeful that if I lived near him, we can date. But I wonder if it is worth it to have hope for me and him. Once circumstances change, would he be ready? Or should I expect to get friend zoned forever? Do you think I should close ties and move on?

 No.1583

I'm no casanova so forgive me if this is a bit cheesy. Still, cheesy and cliche advice stays that way for a reason.

Since he hasn't outright rejected you, there is still a chance with him.

Let me put it this way: say you tell him and he says no. You'll feel like absolute garbage but you'll get over it in time. Might take a long time but I guarantee you that you'll find some other person in your life.

If you don't ever tell him? This will be something you regret until the day you die.

Are you prepared to deal with that? That's really what you need to ask yourself.




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 No.1581[Reply]

>be me

>22

>CS major still in Community College

>About to transfer to a university

>Only shit UCs like UCSC, UCM, UCR and possibly SJSU will accept me considering my GPA

>3.43 by the end of spring semester

>Can try to re-apply and finish up the last two physics classes I need to take for the upcoming spring 2020 term

>embarassed as fuck to go to CC as a fucking 22 year old man

>still a virgin

>could've had an A and got a 3.5 GPA if it weren't for my Calc 3+ vector analysis course but made a stupid mistake and our cunt prof didn't give any partial credit even though she admitted I just made a dumb mistake

>had an opportunity after cucking two guys to nail a 34 year old cougar but fucked it up by saying some stupid shit at the end when we were at my hotel

>Had a comfy job as a MEAN stack dev at a pretty big company in silicon valley but quit cuz I hated working in JS and Nodejs made my life miserable in general

>got super skelly in the 2nd half of 2018 (dropped from 210 to 130ish in like 5 or so months)

>Now I have a shit job that pays fuck all as a math tutor at my Community College

I have no will to keep going or doing anything even though it feels like I am close, because it feels like life is just playing a cruel trick on me teasing me with everything I wanted but then taking it away at the last moment and now I have to go and suffer by going to a shitty UC like santa cruz or to bear the embarassment of taking another semester to finish up the last 2 physics classes I need which might not even boost my GPA high enough to get in. I legit feel like ending my life at the sametime next year if mediocrity is all I have to look forward to now. What do /adv/?



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 No.1567[Reply]

My isp got banned recently and my static ip has a permaban, what should I write to make them forgive me?

 No.1578

>>1567

> to cuckchan




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 No.1574[Reply]

>be me

>shut it nerd faggot at uni

>spend my time shitposting/doing CS shit

>in physics class for science requirement

>do bretty good 'cuz autism

>get 92% on test most people fail

<Girl approaches

<anon tutor me! I have a tutor but you seem to be doing better! I'll even pay you!

I don't need the money and I have a decent amount on my plate. I don't like the girl (she isn't pretty but isn't ugly) and I'm to beta to do anything about it anyways. I was thinking it might be a good idea just bc I don't really get enough (any) social interaction outside of classes. I'm not afraid of teaching (I work as a teacher on the side) and the material is pretty easy. What should I do?

 No.1575

>>1574

Should do it, it'll help you socially and she's willing to give you fuck you money that you can invest into your future career..




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 No.1573[Reply]

I would like to have a STEM career. Thing is, I have done absolutely nothing to advance it and knowing how many of my teenage years I spent idling just shys me away from action. The thought of me being behind when I know some people who want the same career with tons of networking and experience behind them also scares me from trying. Honestly, I don't want to do the academic paperwork stuff, I just want to do the dirty work, I want to do the hands on but that requires me to be in uni for at least 4 years writing shitty papers which bore me.

I have other things I want to dip into but this career is something I just want to do.

I know the turnout is bad for me but I still want to try,

Should I just cup my balls, and go for it?

Realize the state of my person is at the weakest point its been so this doubt its probably caused by neglecting my person since I have hobbies i'm more passionate about that haven't even start doing.

 No.1576

Always do a productive thing that you WANT, because that would denote passion in things you do, and passion is very lacking.

But never expect to come out on top.




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 No.1572[Reply]

I've always had social anxiety but my taste for expensive clothing and my new york accent is starting to have people believe I'm some popular person so I get attention from people I despise them and everyone when I'm trying to be alone. sometimes comes in the form of sexual harassment. I used to be a normalfag about 5-7 years ago so its possible that influenced me. what can I do to become unknown and invisible.

 No.1577

>>1572

>what can I do to become unknown and invisible.

The less you spend time on social media networks (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.), the better.

In public, if you really want to become unknown and invisible, you'll have to dress more like the average person, instead of your expensive clothes, but that doesn't mean you have to wear ugly clothes.

If you can somehow /fa/ subtly, then that's good.

The trick is keeping less and less contacts with people, no need to be rude.

You'll be 'unknown' and 'invisible' in no time.




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 No.1570[Reply]

the only advice for girls is clear

you're a virgin because you behave idiosyncratically, because you look like a ten year old boy

it is clear that you must win her otherwise

become a great poet

when you have gone to italy and done this, she will be yours

cheers



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 No.1563[Reply]

So there's this girl i met the other day and we talked for a bit, she's a solid 8.5/10 and she seems pretty nice (i'm not sure, because i only talked to her once).

The thing is i want to know her better (not necesarily as a potential partner, because i don't even know if she has a boyfriend), but there's like 0% chance i will -casually- see her again in the upcoming months. I've got her number because we are in the same whatsapp group, but i think it would be weird if i randomly slide into her dms to ask her for a date or meeting.

Any ideas?

 No.1565

She's not a cat, approach her!


 No.1566

File: 2d87eb65fce6bb3⋯.png (75.7 KB, 1280x720, 16:9, ClipboardImage.png)

Cover yourself in baby powder, hold a stack of cash in each hand and kick down her door. The smell of talcum will remind her of children and get her ovaries fired up, and seeing your money will make her understand you'll be able to provide for her. 99% chance she will fall for you.


 No.1568

>>1565

But i don't know how to create a situation when she and i are in the same place at the same time

>>1566

I will leave that as my last option


 No.1569

>>1565

But i don't know how to create a situation when she and i are in the same place at the same time

>>1566

I will leave that as my last option




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 No.1564[Reply]

Weird problem. I use Linux Mint and had similar problems before I switched from W*ndows 10. When I click on something I cannot click on smething out of the active window afterwards unless I click on a drop down menu or right click and it creates a menu. On W*ndows I just pressed ctrl+alt+del and it got rid of it.

Things do not respond to my mouse hovering either if I cannot click it.

I think it might have something to do with my Nvidia drivers but I did update them in W*ndows.



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 No.1532[Reply]

>Be me

>Grill is the only person who's not a dick to me in entire class

>Grill may or may not like me

/adv/ how should I approach this situation

 No.1539

If everyone's a dick to you in class, the real question is what did you do to deserve this?

Are you the weird guy?

Also, I think it's more important to know WHY she's the only one not being a dick to you, maybe she only wants you for something.

Proceed with caution.


 No.1559

I was in this situation long ago. Ghe best thing I could have done is be upfront. K dont mean pour your heart out 'your the most beutiful.. ' bullshit. I mean I should have asked her out to do stuff, or just said "I think I like you as more than a friend". What I'm trying to say is, you have to make your feelings known. You cant expect anyone to do anything. Theres only one way to find out if she likes you.


 No.1561

>>1539

>Also, I think it's more important to know WHY she's the only one not being a dick to you

Yeah, pretty much this. Sometimes people (especially girls) are just nice to everyone. It is sort of a way to give them social currency. They'll branch out and be with a friendly with someone they'd not normally be friends with.

Could be pity. Could be just being nice.

Honestly OP the best way to approach this is just to be friendly back, not more so than they are (that could be creepy, like don't buy gifts or drinks or stuff like that). Just be chill and everything should go well.




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 No.1542[Reply]

so

i have a friend whose girlfriend and her bestie wrote me today at the same time "nice userpic anon"

i mean, i've seen them only once when we played board games together and after that the single one tried to befriend me and wrote about 'tusk' film, but it didn't really work out

is she trying to hit on me? wtf

 No.1558

Probably something akin to those old email viruses. If you respond they probably send you a link which makes your profile send the same message to your contacts




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 No.1544[Reply]

So I'm 21 and I have a boyfriend who is 17. We're both guys so if that bothers you, you can leave now. We met up on Halloween in person for the first time, and we were immediately close, and very in love. In fact one thing led to another and we might've taken it too far. You see, it was 2 weeks from his 17th birthday, and my 21st birthday was 2 months ago. By all rights, we're 4 years apart, and I barely feel older than 18, considering I'm a struggling college kid who still has to rely on his parents.

However, according to the long arm of the law, I'm a sex offender now, by the skin of my teeth. It was consensual, at least colloquially if not legally, for both of us, and he's even legal in my state, and was 2 weeks from legal in his state. However, I'm still too old, by one year, or more specifically, 2 months. Since my state decided 5 years was the arbitrary number they wanted to settle on for a limit for sexual misconduct with a minor. Under 18 is still a minor, even if they're legal.

Worse still is that his mom walked in on us, so now she has me by the balls, almost literally. The minimum in his state is 3 years in prison. Minimum in mine is 10, or 6 if the judge is generous. I'd rather kill myself than spend 1 year in prison, much less on the sex offender registry.

So what do I do? Hope his (questionably homophobic, clearly only tolerating it for his sake) mom is understanding and keeps quiet, or kill myself now? I was already suicidally depressed beforehand anyways.

If you want to shriek at me for having a boyfriend 1 year too young, go ahead. We're 4 years apart. When he's 20, I'll be 24. My parents are already 12 years apart, so fuck me.

 No.1545

This is my first relationship by the way. It also might very well be my last.


 No.1546

what happened? keep us updated


 No.1547

>>1546

About our relationship in general, I talked to him before I had any idea about his age, and I was weirded out by it at first, but I slowly came to accept it. We were still the same people, and still liked eachother.

About the event specifically, he was upset the day before, he's depressed too, so I pretty much dropped everything to go see him, and he's 3 hours away. He was very happy to see me and once his mom stepped out of the room he got up and cuddled with me. Well, he seemed to like skin contact, and you can probably guess where it went from there. Well, it was in the back room at first in his house, and his mom walked in on him giving me oral. (I gave him oral first and he enjoyed it, neither of us did anal because we weren't prepared.) She allowed us to take it to his room but wanted me out when it got late. His mom talked about him "exploring" and was seemingly understanding, though she did bring up statutory with me in an awkward conversation. Also banned him from seeing me until he was 18.

I started looking specifically into legal consequences just earlier today, since I saw a post on a similar topic and got screeched at on reddit by a bunch of people essentially convinced I was a pedophile.


 No.1557

I think the mom realised you aren't a predator. As long as you wait to fool around until hes 18 you should be fine. To be completely real with you 21 is a bit old for a seventeen year old. Theres a lot more maturation that happens from 17 to 21, a lot more than from 20 to 24. This is why you should stop, because if you end up in court the prosecution will paint you as a child predator and that is how the jury will probably see you.




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