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 No.1215[Reply]

I don't know why I have to go out of my way to say this, but

DO NOT

Suggest an OP asking for advice kill themselves. If you can't offer real advice don't say anything at all. From this point forward I'll start taking action against it.

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 No.1505

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 No.1611[Reply]

Hi /adv/

>cute girl with whom i talk

>we have different opinions on politics, philosophy, etc

>we often discuss and she usually ends up angry

>says that she hates me

>somehow, she always comes back to talk to me again

>though sometimes i find her very annoying sometimes, i've started to feel something towards her

>i've realized that we have much things in common

>we always joke at each other

>those last days she's been asking me things like

>"do u have a gf, anon?"

>"have you ever had a gf?"

>"have you ever kissed someone?"

>after that, we discuss again and the cycle repeats

What should I do? I'm not sure if she feels the same way as I do



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 No.1610[Reply]

Any good advice on getting out of a shitty country? I was thinking about enrolling to a college in the US but fuck it's bloody expensive. It is really difficult to get work visa without any degree but I manage just fine finding a job locally. My only options are lottery visa, getting a scholarship, and maybe some random bloke willing to sponsor me for some reason. Any other way you guys can share?



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 No.1608[Reply]

BED GAME ADVICE

what lotion or oil is good for sexual massages?

could these be used for penetration?

could veggies be used as sex toys? (do they need to have condoms?)

is it easier to fist her ass or pussy? shes new.

 No.1609

>>1608

>what lotion or oil is good for sexual massages?

Most sensual oils are good for massages, and come scented.

>could these be used for penetration?

Some can, check the labels.

>could veggies be used as sex toys? (do they need to have condoms?)

They can but have a chance of breaking. Yeah you should probably use a condom if you insist because they might have residual dirt/pesticides on them.

>is it easier to fist her ass or pussy? shes new.

Her cunt would be easier since it's supposed to stretch further. Why are you fisting her if shes new?




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 No.1606[Reply]

This is probably far too common, but.

I'm having serious problems from the fact that I lost contact with a very good online friend years ago.

And I'm talking around 10 years ago or less.

I've done desperate searches that always seemed to lead to nowhere. I even reinstalled Skype to see if I could read through our old chat logs, sadly they don't seem to be stored serverside so they don't get saved.

There's thee things I know about him;

His name was supposed to be Alexander Key

We played a shit ton of Minecraft together, and his username was mateimrambo

He's also supposed to be from Bahrain.

Anything else I have no clue of and no amount of searching led me any closer to finding him.

he should probably be around 21-25 years old now, I can barely recall his age.

How do I go about finding him? Is there any hope? Have the muslims killed my old Minecraft friend?

 No.1607

Did you ever voice call with him? If so, did he speak with an accent? Alexander Key doesn't sound like a very Middle Eastern name. If he's not actually from Bahrain that's going to make this search way harder




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 No.1592[Reply]

>Hold the item in your hand.

>Ask yourself "Does it spark joy?"

>If you don't feel joy, you MUST get rid of the item.

What happens if I'm incapable of feeling joy and literally none of the items I touch fit into that "spark joy" category? I seriously have not felt joy in years.

For example, I own a winter coat, not because it sparks joy, but because it makes me less likely to freeze to death.

I recognize rationally that it benefits me, and I feel very mildly glad that it's available, and I feel afraid of possibly not having it later, but JOY is not sparked within me. The positive emotion I feel is as far beneath JOY as a candle flame is beneath 4th of July fireworks.

Am I supposed to give my winter coat to charity immediately in the middle of January and probably freeze to death, because I don't feel a very specific and powerful emotion when holding it?

 No.1594

pretend to have joy


 No.1595

>>1594

But then I'd be making a conscious choice in the matter, instead of letting the item speak for itself. So I choose to keep too many items in total volume because they all individually have some utility.


 No.1605

>>1592

I guess you could always say "would you fear losing this item in 30 days" or "would you fear keeping this item for what it is turning you into" if you fear becoming a hoarder.




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 No.1603[Reply]

What is the best cure / theraphy for depression ? Has anyone been really

been completely healed from depression ?

 No.1604

Depression is sort of like cancer - you'll always have the propensity to develop it again. It's not like a light switch where it's on or off, either. You will always have to maintain vigilance to not let yourself slip into whatever mental or emotional spirals take you down the paths you don't want to go on. Overcoming depression means finding a healthy balance, not slaying your sadness as if it was a dragon that will never return.




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 No.1582[Reply]

This guy and I have been close friends for over 10 years, and I have fallen hard for him. We've never dated each other but we both clearly have strong feelings for each other. We've spoken intimately and have behaved romantic towards each other, done most things just short of having sex. He is worried he is not mentally ready for any relationship due to his past failed relationships. Because I work and live abroad, distance is also a convenient excuse for us not to date.

Each time we see each other in person, things get heated, leading up to the moment I fly out of the country. He seems good at compartmentalizing because he is content about staying friends with the intermittent benefit of physical intimacy. I feel like it's hard for me each time. I get overwhelmed by my feelings for him and want more than just friendship. Whereas he seems to be able to remain friends regardless of how far (short of sex) we get, I get frustrated and expect more. I have to piece myself back together and the cycle repeats.

I haven't confess my love for the guy, but I am sure he already knows–it was clear through my body language each time we hung out. Recently, I outright asked him if he would consider a relationship with me. In response, he said he says he cares about me, but he is sorry that he can't give me a straight answer. A flat rejection might have been easier to deal with.

A career opportunity is coming up that will let me be physically closer to him. I am hopeful that if I lived near him, we can date. But I wonder if it is worth it to have hope for me and him. Once circumstances change, would he be ready? Or should I expect to get friend zoned forever? Do you think I should close ties and move on?

 No.1583

I'm no casanova so forgive me if this is a bit cheesy. Still, cheesy and cliche advice stays that way for a reason.

Since he hasn't outright rejected you, there is still a chance with him.

Let me put it this way: say you tell him and he says no. You'll feel like absolute garbage but you'll get over it in time. Might take a long time but I guarantee you that you'll find some other person in your life.

If you don't ever tell him? This will be something you regret until the day you die.

Are you prepared to deal with that? That's really what you need to ask yourself.


 No.1587

This. You should tell him how you feel. Or else live a life of regret.


 No.1597

You're overrhinking this OP. He might not want LDR and that's OK. It's probably just distance


 No.1602

Does he have a reason to think of you more seriously now than he has in the past? You were both just hooking upbit sounds like, so what has changed? If you suddenly wanted to get more serious, what does that really have to do with him?




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 No.1572[Reply]

I've always had social anxiety but my taste for expensive clothing and my new york accent is starting to have people believe I'm some popular person so I get attention from people I despise them and everyone when I'm trying to be alone. sometimes comes in the form of sexual harassment. I used to be a normalfag about 5-7 years ago so its possible that influenced me. what can I do to become unknown and invisible.

 No.1577

>>1572

>what can I do to become unknown and invisible.

The less you spend time on social media networks (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc.), the better.

In public, if you really want to become unknown and invisible, you'll have to dress more like the average person, instead of your expensive clothes, but that doesn't mean you have to wear ugly clothes.

If you can somehow /fa/ subtly, then that's good.

The trick is keeping less and less contacts with people, no need to be rude.

You'll be 'unknown' and 'invisible' in no time.


 No.1589

Anxiety sux m8 lol


 No.1601

Anxiety is not some illness. If there is a bear outside and you enter a different mental state your brain is working correctly. If humans tend to be selfish douchebags who just want to milk you for what you have then dispose of you, so you don't feel natural around them , that is not a problem. Evil people conspire to have anyone who doesn't trust people until they've proven themselves labeled insane. Instead of them being able to work through their problems , they think they are weird and sabotage their own life.




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 No.1590[Reply]

How does one aquire an intellegent clingy gf that likes science?

 No.1600

99% of people who aren't trash were locked down before 21. If you were never "cool" you never will be. Being cool, talented, smart, is something that is easily identified at an early age. Success is requires like ten years of grooming, this includes creating friend networks, dating , playing sports or other activities, using momentum to tackle the next thing.

I'm fucking sick of all this aw just try harder! Use positive thinking! Maybe you need a therapist! Fraud bullshit. Society is designed so that one type of person succeeds. These are the people that just naturally do things and play life like a video game. These people NEVER questioned one of their actions . It's not your tinder profile or your style or your work ethic, in the corporate consumerist narcissist colosseum, every single thing is designed for normal people . Questioning things is bad for business.

Look at all these fags who do school shootings. Does that look like someone who just needed a pottery class , or just needed to smile more? No. They don't even look like cold blooded killers, only faggot Marines and cops actually dream about murdering for fun. These are broken people who were bullied either directly or subtly through things like being excluded. The only way that these people could have been saved is if at an early age they were given a different structure for education .

Take the black pill . Not to be a pussy, but to transcend this. If you have a tiny dick, you will never have the same life as Chad Johnson. Society will forever exclude you and offer you no alternative, and they will gaslight you for suggesting that people are shallow assholes. They will then, after knocking you down, kick you some more with some more stuff you should worry about.

Anxiety is not some fucking disease. It's a natural response to looking around and going this is fucked.

Karma is not real. I thought I was being punished or something. I went out of my way to make sacrifices. I was there for anyone on command. I'm viewed as less than dirt by these people. I used to write fucking step by step guides for people, and today if I ask somebody addicted to their phone a simple quePost too long. Click here to view the full text.




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 No.1581[Reply]

>be me

>22

>CS major still in Community College

>About to transfer to a university

>Only shit UCs like UCSC, UCM, UCR and possibly SJSU will accept me considering my GPA

>3.43 by the end of spring semester

>Can try to re-apply and finish up the last two physics classes I need to take for the upcoming spring 2020 term

>embarassed as fuck to go to CC as a fucking 22 year old man

>still a virgin

>could've had an A and got a 3.5 GPA if it weren't for my Calc 3+ vector analysis course but made a stupid mistake and our cunt prof didn't give any partial credit even though she admitted I just made a dumb mistake

>had an opportunity after cucking two guys to nail a 34 year old cougar but fucked it up by saying some stupid shit at the end when we were at my hotel

>Had a comfy job as a MEAN stack dev at a pretty big company in silicon valley but quit cuz I hated working in JS and Nodejs made my life miserable in general

>got super skelly in the 2nd half of 2018 (dropped from 210 to 130ish in like 5 or so months)

>Now I have a shit job that pays fuck all as a math tutor at my Community College

I have no will to keep going or doing anything even though it feels like I am close, because it feels like life is just playing a cruel trick on me teasing me with everything I wanted but then taking it away at the last moment and now I have to go and suffer by going to a shitty UC like santa cruz or to bear the embarassment of taking another semester to finish up the last 2 physics classes I need which might not even boost my GPA high enough to get in. I legit feel like ending my life at the sametime next year if mediocrity is all I have to look forward to now. What do /adv/?

 No.1588

meditate and observe your dreams


 No.1598

losing all interest in going forward or doing anything is just a really shitty situation. it's shitty because from my personal experiences, i don't think anyone but you to can help you to get out of it because you know how you'll react to things, you know yourself better than everyone.

trying to get help from someone is mostly going to end up you being heartbroken as usually the other side is not as enthusiastic about the thing as you are and may lead you to think that you're broken and nothing can save you.

i don't know anon, i really don't, just stick around for a while, stay away from things that make you uncomfortable for a year then start again, it has a weird motivating feeling to it.


 No.1599

>>1581

I'm 29 and deliver food for a living and live with my mom who literally beats me and harasses me 24/7 and there's nothing I can do because id be homeless. Holy fucking shit you babies are annoying. Waaaaaah I only make 45k doing nothing not 46k waaaaaah.

Go

Fuck

Your

Self

Nigger




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 No.1586[Reply]

>Crush ~~8 months ago asked a 6’ 3” lanklet to a girls choice dance

>FF to ~2 months ago, start chatting up another girl we become friends (I think so anyway)

>Last night was another Girls Choice

>The new crush picked another lanklet

>tfw

So how do I go about either A) Destoying my ego so I never crush on anyone again or B) Dig myself out of this hell hole?



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 No.1579[Reply]

Is it worth it to get a non-STEM degree? I'm not very good at math/science but I'm a pretty good writer and I like the humanities (history and shit like that). Would a bachelors or masters in some humanities be helpful or is it just a waste of time?

 No.1580

>>1579

You're probably better off doing a trade. Non-STEM degrees are complete memes and wastes of time and money.


 No.1584

That really epends on what you want to do and if you're a really good student.

If you're just trying to write a novel then don't even bother with uni. Just strike it on your own using internet resources.

If you're trying to become a professor or historian then you'll need to earn a degree for the contacts alone. The paper is worthless but knowing experts in their field can find you a job better than any job site can.

If all you're looking for is a job then >>1580 is your best bet.




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 No.1567[Reply]

My isp got banned recently and my static ip has a permaban, what should I write to make them forgive me?

 No.1578

>>1567

> to cuckchan


 No.1593

>>1567

Nothing. You're finally free. Go live your life.




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 No.1574[Reply]

>be me

>shut it nerd faggot at uni

>spend my time shitposting/doing CS shit

>in physics class for science requirement

>do bretty good 'cuz autism

>get 92% on test most people fail

<Girl approaches

<anon tutor me! I have a tutor but you seem to be doing better! I'll even pay you!

I don't need the money and I have a decent amount on my plate. I don't like the girl (she isn't pretty but isn't ugly) and I'm to beta to do anything about it anyways. I was thinking it might be a good idea just bc I don't really get enough (any) social interaction outside of classes. I'm not afraid of teaching (I work as a teacher on the side) and the material is pretty easy. What should I do?

 No.1575

>>1574

Should do it, it'll help you socially and she's willing to give you fuck you money that you can invest into your future career..




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