7c0d2f No.272
It's strange and I don't really know how to handle this.
There is this girl and she wasn't interested in a relationship with me. Because of other things I don't see or meet her often and last time I saw her is around two months ago. I (still) think it's a good thing to keep distance.
But here's my problem: Through common friends we are in the same im-group. Normally this doesn't bother me much and I kind of ignore her posts, but lately she posted a pic of a man and the girls started talking about how photogenic this guy is. Especially her talking/agreeing to this bothers me and I don't know why.
I guess my feeling are still (too) strong for her and I don't want to see her around/with other potential men.
The problem is I don't want to think this way. I don't want to think in a romantically way about her, because she doesn't want me. I want to move on and I want to wish her luck, honestly. I don't want to be the guy which doesn't grant her happiness or is jealous.
I guess a reason could be that there is currently no woman in which I'm romantically interested. But I don't know how to overcome this and what to do in this situation to be a better person.
I'm currently studying for exams and do some things beside for fun (a few times a week). If I would do more stuff then this would distract me for the moment, but then there are moments in which I think about her again. Normally not often but after messages like those more oftener.
So /adv/ what could I do? What to make myself a better person? How to wish persons around me luck? What did you done which helped you?
Best regards
anon
cce6c6 No.273
You're basically over thinking things.
You aid yourself. There is ZERO things you have anything to do with her and this is all just you. The way I see it, is that you just want to sleep with her once or twice and move on, which is normal for us men.
What you can do is master your own thoughts on her. Just gather yourself someplace quiet, then just imagine separating yourself into two. One is the you you want to be, and the other is the you don't want to.
Have the latter yell out it's desire or needs. Just have it simply be heard. Then the former, the you you wish to be, must acknowledge what the latter you said and explain why things cannot be like this.
It sounds crazy, but having your thought actually be heard instead of being denied helps a lot more than people think.
cce6c6 No.274
>>273You said it yourself*
2c0306 No.277
>>273This. You wouldn't know she feels about if you don'task.