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314d16 No.298

As an autist, I need your help with social situations.

So I managed to get a real girlfriend. and I am a mute, so I barely talk and hate social situations.

Now, her dad is trying to figure me out. So whenever I have to visit her parents, he stares at me, like in an annoying way.
when I look back at him, he is like looking back at me in an obtrusive way.

He even tries to intimidate me by showing off his karate moves from 30+ years ago.

I have no idea why people do this. I have no single interest in the old man.

it's not like he is the only one, at work male colleagues also seem to watch me like hawks and people gossip about me at work.

The problem is: I don't know why, does somebody have the empathy or social experience to explain?

also I severely lack interest in other people. Why can't they just leave me alone, like I leave them alone?

it pisses me off. it's like they want me to engage in their social nonsense.

8db511 No.299

Some people have the need to figure out other people, because you are quiet and don't follow the typical social agenda, ie, talking to people, faking interest, they look at you like you are scheming something.

Imo, if you can't handle that, you really should try to at least fake empathy with people so they think they have you figured out and don't care anymore.

f919a8 No.364

I'm somewhat normal, probably a little on the quiet side but I notice people at work watching me like you have described. It is probably just some dominance and/or primal urge in my case, can't speak for yours.

Some people feel the need to engage with others like you, they feel as if they need someone and it makes them feel good. Other reasons too, but if you can, tell them you're not much of a talker as you've got a whole lot going on and you need time to reflect (or something along those lines) Works for me sometimes, I had this one kid during high school who would always talk to me after school when i was walking home but I humored him for 2 years because he was a genuine good person.


850530 No.367

>>298

Your colleagues probably find your separation odd, and people are generally afraid of odd things, because they don't know what to expect from them.

Your girlfriend's father is probably a little jealous – in the way that he is afraid that someone dear to him might get hurt. Again, he doesn't know what you plan to do to his daughter who was brought up by him with decades of blood, sweat and tears.

And you probably reflect the same suspicion and hostility toward them. Because you are alone, they might think you actually hate them, and because you see they're discussing you, you get paranoid the same way.

Actually, you just made me realize that getting simply acquainted (nothing like friendship, just getting to know each other) serves exactly the purpose of developing mutual trust through understanding the other as a person.

I used to be a recluse myself, and I still have issues understanding or empathizing with normal human motives. But then I started meeting people with common interests, and slowly, as I figured out them and myself I became better at understanding and connecting with others, and now I even have a small but profound circle of friends I actually enjoy spending time with.


6a1a78 No.375

>and I am a mute

>Autism

>I managed to get a real girlfriend

Calling bullshit.




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