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9d12fe No.326

Well I don't want to bother my friends about this so I might as well just talk to some random people on an anime imageboard.

So I've been having troubles with my gf as of recently, we've known each other for like 3 months and have gotten REALLY fucking close since then. We met in real life but our relationship has mostly been long distance until she can move to where I am.

What am I saying, we're not even dating. We only dated for around a month when we first met.

It's weird how our current relationship is, actually. We're not dating but we still have strong feelings for each other, and we constantly tell ourselves that the moment she moves up here we're gonna start dating again.

Thing is though, I'm an autist and I constantly worry that while she's telling me how much she loves me she chats up other guys at the same moment. I should have mentioned she left me for another guy, then left him so she could get closer to me again.

I just, need help. What do I do. Yesterday I got mad at her because her sister mentioned how she's been talking to another guy and I tried to cut contact from her. Today she told me how important I am in her life but for some reason I just don't believe her.

I still love her.

5d8164 No.328

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>>326

Thanks for Webm and for remembering to spoiler it.

Based off what you have posted your girlfriend seems to have divided her life into online and offline.

If your gf has a history of being unfaithful to her partners then it doesn't bode well for the chances that it wouldn't happen later, of it hasn't happened already which you don't know about.

Unfortunately she may belive that she is socially obligated to tell you that your are her world instead of it coming from her heart.

She may be under the impression that as your relationship is mostly online any feelings are less important.

Here have a funny auto correct stuff up.


9d12fe No.335

>>328

Damn, what do you think I should do Anon?


8ba8a6 No.338

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>>335

It's 326 here. ID's diff because not on mobile/settings changed.

To make it easier to analyse, lets break it down to two options. #1 and 2#.

Yes I am aware that life is not binrary and have have grey spots, dating being one of the big ones but for arguments sake lets make it so.

1#.If I wanted to be a hartless person, I would suggest that all a clean break is preformed i.e.

Block all means of comunication and try to move on with your life.

I hope this goes with out saying I hope but try to be civil but you never know how she will respond.

This might be a good template "I feel that I can't trust you [at this point in time if you want to possibly give this relationship another shot in the future]. If you try to conact me I will not respond at all. Have a great life, [gf name].

2#.Try to see if the relationship is recoverable i.e to do you still trust your gf.

I would recomend reading up on how to spot lying.

Then ,the next time you are able to see her in person, explain your situation to her and try to gauge her reaction.

If you belive that she is lying to you and don't want to give her the benefit of the dout. [Based of the backstory I probably wouldn't logically suggest that, but emontically it I would proababilty be hoping that I am her "one .]

It would be a good idea to try and preform #1.

Discloser: I haven't been in a proper relationship yet ;), but have a interest in psychology and relationships.

What ever you chose anon, I hope you stay safe and can live with the results. Sorry to be a downer.

Present I borrowed from our freinds at /b/.


a49d0e No.340

I dont have a GF


ef5205 No.347

>>338

Sorry for some really late replies, I want to give it time before I post something I might regret.

Right now, I'm almost certain she's interested in another guy. She mentioned talking to someone and wouldn't tell me anything when I asked who. (I didn't really expect her to anyways, haha.) I also noticed her getting real friendly with another man on her Facebook. (I don't stalk, this just shows up on my feed.)

We've been talking a lot less unless we see each other somewhere in real life. (She visits the area where I live on occasions.) Even if a conversation is initiated I don't say as much as I used to. I'm usually not the one to start a conversation.

I've also been less excited to see her than I have been previously. I think that with all the bullshit she put me through got old to me and it started to make me think more negatively of her.

I'll probably go with your suggestion of #1. I don't trust her at all, and maybe over time with not talking to her I can remember all the good times we had and not be pissed about all the shit ones. (I don't have the balls to confront her about lying.)

I really appreciate all the help, man! :) Thank you.


b523ef No.348

>>347

No problem mate.

Stay safe.


ef5205 No.352

>>348

You too, anon.




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