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3de9ac No.351

Every time I try to take myself seriously and let people know I'm trying to change I get a huge fluxuation of negative attention.

I'm generally a pretty silly person, on top of that I'm lazy. All the time I'm thinking about how I want to change and that I can only really do it myself. But when I begin to stand up to doing that and let people know I'mm serious about fixing my issues I get things like, "Typical anon, you'll be back to your old self in a week or so." It makes it so fucking hard to motivate myself to keep going. At times I've tried getting back into self improvement without making it public and people come to me asking why I've changed, I had someone actually say to me, "If you manage to do something I can't I know I have to work harder." This was one of my friends and we still talk, they're having a serious problem at the moment and I'm so fucking happy they're struggling because fuck that person.

What I'm asking here is how can I get people to take me more seriously? Because I've tried everything I can think of including telling people clearly that I'd like to be taken seriously in simmple honest words.

I really need help, this is really fucking with my life, I can't even get into a relationship anymore because once they become familiar with how my peers see me (a funny, lovable loser apparently) they lose interest and I often end up getting treated as if im a hurt fucking animal or somemthing like a clueless little brother.

7a03ba No.355

>>351

They want you to stay the same: a fucking pushover they know how to deal with. I'm the same and I have a hard time coping, but we must man the fuck up and earn our fucking place, because noone else will ever do that for us.

>Fall seven times, stand up eight.


3de9ac No.359

>>355

I'll fight the power if I know you're fighting it too, friend.


7a03ba No.360

>>359

Fuck yes! I'm rooting for you.

Oh, and one more thing: Don't think your friends are your enemies for not believing in you. You were like that all the time, and now you're saying you're going to change. Sounds ridiculous, but when it's done, it'll be a miracle. :)

>Man cannot remake himself without suffering, for he is both the marble and the sculptor.


75fad7 No.423

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Seriousness "traits":

1. Having nothing insignificant (such as bravado) to prove to anyone. 12 year olds have got something to prove. You sir have not.

2. Talking less and listening more. I remember when I was a kid I'd have the urge to say things and so I'd blurt them out. Once you've got a little experience though, you can perform an analysis of the situation and think for a brief second whether that dumb question in your head really matters whether it's answered or not. That's not to say that men of wisdom don't fuck about or tell jokes. They do. A lot. They're just a bit less hit-and-miss because they've thought about whether they're worth sharing or not.

3. Talking about serious things. It helps if you're into politics, science, economics, etcetera. You don't have to berate people about the "strong opinions" you hold or talk "seriously" about said serious issues. Just make sure that the jokes you're telling are based on the stupidity of politicians or recent events, rather than on "lol so random amirite guise?".

4. In addition to talking about serious things, try doing a few serious things as well. Political engagement is the best way to do it, but if you can't stomach that kind of crap then pick some other issue that affects people's lives. Try doing something about the poverty in your city (or some other shit you care about) for example. It doesn't matter how significant your contribution is, say if you volunteer to help a charity store with moving stock around once a week. Nobody is going to say "anon is such a loveable idiot, what with him helping worse off people than himself".

TL;DR

Pick your battles.

Pick your words.

Pick your subjects of discussion.

Don't give me that "I'm too forthright or impulsive" crap. *Just a little*, just a split second longer; Think A Little More.




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