I posted this on half /adv/ because I didn't know we had an /adv/
I only got one conclusive answer there
but here we gooo
I'm nineteen years old and moved with my mother to live with my father in Texas in September. I was told it was going to take a short while for myself to get set up here, but that short while has been extended to eight months and counting.
My mother and father have done nothing to help me with 'getting started' with life. I can't drive because neither taught me, and I can't learn really because I have no money because I can't really get anywhere to work. I also had to lend my mother about $500 (out of a bank account of $650) to put down my dog. She is slowly paying me back and my father isn't even attempting.My father owes me about eighty dollars for grocery money I lent him.
I was actually offered a job, about eight miles away, but I have no idea how I'd get there and back. I considered walking, but that alone would take a good three-four hours there and a good three to four hours back. Currently, I walk a neighbor's dog for about 25 dollars a week so that's going to take a while to save up, unfortunately. I was going to hit up the DMV so I could figure out what I need to do maybe to get cheap driving instructions/pamphlets, but my mother can't take me there because they close at 5:00 PM and my mother works during those hours, and she's on probation because she just started this job and can't do it for 90 days. It's a 4 to six mile walk there, I believe.
Naturally, because I don't work or can get around more than a few miles, I have no friends, especially since my dog died. I've been getting more and more depressed over my sitation especially with the fact soon enough, my classmates are going into their second year of college/work soon, and I can't even get started with everything. It honestly makes me feel quite inferior.
I told my father this. All he said is that I needed to go to a doctor to get mental healthcare and be prescribed medication. The closest guy near me, within walking distance, provides his services at around $130 an hour, which is cheap, but without insurance I can't afford.
I talked to my mother just last night about how I'm upset I haven't been able to do anything except be cooped up in my apartment and occasionally walk around for the past eight months. She said that she'll be getting insurance, trying to help me with my driving and getting a job (she has, many times, told me not to get a job based on the fact she wouldn't be able to drive me) but that''s going to be about six months from now. I don't think I can wait another six months doing nothing just because I have to wait on her. Even when I offered to maybe take a cheap moped she said it'll be about six months before she's able to free up about a thousand dollars not-including- what she owes me. I would then have to find a way to get my motorcycle license and learn how to ride a bike first to be able to ride a moped. She can't, and my father isn't willing to teach me. I can't afford many lessons or even the paperwork to get that stupid license.
When my brother turned eighteen, he got a car, along with my mother and father to teach him how to drive and he was able to work, and basically start out life a bit. I'm honestly going fucking crazy waiting for something to happen so I can get my ass moving onto life.
Meanwhile, my father gets on my ass for not having a job and is getting on my ass for complaining about the situation while I live under their roof.
I am not a beggar, nor a degenerate, so I will not take disability for lolasperger's nor have some narcissistic gofundme.
I just have to ask, if these two posts weren't too blog-y, how I should tackle this situation? It seems like I'm screwed no matter what I do and I can't wait another 'six months' that turns into another year.
tl;dr parents aren't helping me whatsoever try to get started and I'm floundering while everyone else succeeds plus depressed not wanting to be NEET
Update: my father is no longer going to help me with anything since I got into an argument about how he treats my mother. He refuses to pay me back and now wishes to charge me twice what I make (200 dollars) per month in rent. If he's actually going to do this, I don't know.