Hey /adv/ I hope this is the right place for this post but I have a problem that I need some advice with.
I have a long time female friend who I have known in rather complicated ways since I was in grade school (I'm 30 now.) She has always had a problem with drugs, in high school she and another friend of mine had a severe addiction to cocaine. I had given up on our friendship for a few years since she was generally a bad friend. Unreliable, constantly standing people up, always having drama, never getting along with other friends etc… When I was stupider and younger I loved her.
I ended up not talking to her for a few years, I would avoid her off and on, she would pop back into my life in a progressively worse and worse state. A few months ago a mutual friend of ours overdosed on xanax and no one else volunteered contacting her. I ended up being the one to get a hold of her.
We started talking again, bit by bit. She had a baby with someone who was at the time we started talking, out of the picture. A month ago she found out that the baby's father had died.
She went a bit crazy, got back to using heroin again. Her father, a powerful lawyer that pretty much funds her life and keeps her bouncing from apartment to apartment and rehab to rehab, petitioned her into a mental hospital (which she needed) then proceeded to send her baby to live with her sister in another state and set up a stipend to make sure that the baby was taken care of.
In her mind, her father was out to get her.
Before I left town last week I visited her in the mental hospital, she had said that if she can't get her child back that she would kill herself.
I'm in another country, I thought she was bluffing, that she wouldn't do anything until I got back into the country, which she had promised me. (I should be used to her lying by now.) I didn't hear from her after she got out of the hospital. A mutual friend didn't hear anything either, even though he had been trying to get a hold of her too. I checked Facebook an hour ago and I saw a message from her sister on her wall that makes me think that she killed herself, it was liked by a female friend that her family was close with.
I don't know what to do.
I'm in a foreign country visiting my girlfriend and her family, she has been talking about life altering things, like getting me my work visa so I can immigrate.
I don't know what to do. Do I message the older sister and ask? (From the tone of the message and recent events I feel like it would be stupid to ask.) Do I drop my trip and head back to attend the funeral?
Before anyone asks, I am not a drug addict like my friends were.