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Ugly Anonymous 07/26/15 (Sun) 08:25:25 1ed6c6 No.497

Simple question here: How do I cope with being ugly?

I've managed to make it this far in life alright. I've made some good friends. I've managed to snag a job. I made it out of my mom's house. I even managed to get laid once, but sadly that was 2 years ago. I've never had a girlfriend, either. No woman has ever found me attractive that I've known about, and guys disgust me.

I'm not here to ask how to get a girlfriend. I already know that option's off the table. I've come to terms with that as best I can. Even if I weren't ugly, I have no fucking clue what I'm doing there anyway. Rather, I just want to know if there's anything I can do to take my mind off the loneliness. I've got friends, sure, but that only helps so much. Sometimes I just feel miserable, sometimes even when I'm with friends.

For reference, I look like Daniel Johnston, except I'm 21. Take his face and swap on some blonde hair and blue eyes, plus a red/brown neckbeard if I don't shave, and you've got my ugly mug.

Anonymous 07/26/15 (Sun) 08:26:57 1ed6c6 No.498

I uploaded a picture with my post, but it doesn't display on my end. You can click on the filename to see it if you otherwise don't, though.

Anonymous 07/26/15 (Sun) 18:45:09 adee71 No.499

>>498

do you have adblock on?

Anonymous 07/26/15 (Sun) 19:06:54 915fa2 No.500

>>497

>Sometimes I just feel miserable, sometimes even when I'm with friends.

I am in the same boat and think about suicide every day. What I do is try to stay active and I work out twice a day, which has become habit for me. Sometimes I get so depressed, I literally don't want to do anything. It's gotten to the point now where I will turn down invitations to social events or parties because I got sick of being ignored and also being the guy who showed up alone to a party.

Things I do to stave off the inevitable:

1) Befriended a camwhore who treats me like a friend and says nice things to me. It helps that I really like her as a person. Of course, this approach costs money but I've become accustomed to paying people to be nice to me.

2) Get an hour long happy ending massage every week or so.

3) Hang out with my friend's troubled teenage daughter who just so happens to have some "issues" in common with me.

4) Work a job with regular hours. When the end of the day Friday rolls around, the D hits me pretty heavy, but it gets me through the week at least. I used to be self-employed and would stay in bed until 2pm sometimes if I didn't have work to do.

5) Found a restaurant I like to each lunch at with nice younger female wait staff and tip well the ones who talk to me.

Anonymous 07/26/15 (Sun) 20:51:29 915fa2 No.502

>>500

Natural "mood enhancers" I use:

L-5-HTP

Curcumin

Dark chocolate

Anonymous 07/26/15 (Sun) 21:26:36 1ed6c6 No.503

>>499

That was it, it seems.

>>500

That all sounds like a downer, to be honest. I'm depressed, sure, but I don't want to seem as desperate as I am or I'll end up feeling worse.

Anonymous 07/27/15 (Mon) 01:29:28 18a53c No.508

>>503

>I don't want to seem as desperate as I am or I'll end up feeling worse.

That's up to you, but short of having anti-depressants prescribed, getting into Scientology, or volunteering at a soup kitchen, not sure what the options are. Good luck.

Anonymous 07/27/15 (Mon) 02:29:49 79d184 No.509

>>508

And I'd add, once you've felt desperate for a decade or so, you won't think twice about employing any of these tactics.

Anonymous 07/27/15 (Mon) 09:46:55 1ed6c6 No.514

>>508

Welp, it looks like I'll be spending money one way or the other. At least right now I've got project cars.

>>509

Well, it's already been going on for about 3 or 4 years now, so I guess I'm not too far from that point.

Anonymous 07/27/15 (Mon) 21:06:07 e9d59a No.516

>>514

It doesn't seem all that bad once you hit 50, when you find out you can't even look at women under 30 anymore and you realize you're that weirdo who has no wedding ring, or kids, or girlfriend. I'm ok with it.

Anonymous 07/30/15 (Thu) 07:26:00 1ed6c6 No.528

>>516

Man, I didn't even think about how it will look on me then. That's depressing.

Anonymous 08/12/15 (Wed) 01:00:16 000000 No.617

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Look around and you'll find lots of attractive women with ugly guys, guys who are far uglier than you.

Simple traditional ways to become attractive:

1. Make money. Women love wealth.

2. Make funny. Women love comedians.

3. Play guitar in a rock band. Obvious.

4. Dress well. Has worked for centuries.

Look around and you'll find tons of dudes uglier than you with beautiful girlfriends or wives. Any of the above work.

Or, if you're mathematically inclined, go to Wal-Mart and walk around. Count the number of guys uglier than you vs those more attractive. Realize that you're actually not ugly, just average, and that you've invented your entire problem out of whole cloth.

Anonymous 08/12/15 (Wed) 02:01:38 65a75f No.618

I am kind of in the same boat. I am just not attractive enough to become a bf but just so good enough a guy so that they are nice to me.

But I am also on antidepressants after I got diagnosed with major depression. It really does help but you'll feel loneliness regardless. At least the meds make me function in society where going out with friends and having a job is possible.

Good luck

Anonymous 09/02/15 (Wed) 21:35:23 f62983 No.662

>>497

Being nice to others and being a positive person is the only way to make it far while being not pleasant to look at. Theres is no other way, you HAVE to do you best to have a golden personality, theres is no other way. Life is NOT fair.

Anonymous 09/03/15 (Thu) 02:54:08 f99d61 No.665

>>662

Not completely untrue, but some of us just repulse women regardless of how "nice" we are. I've seen women literally recoil as they walk by me in hallways as I looked up and smiled at them. I had a chance when I was younger and blew it because I didn't marry the 2nd or 3rd crazy bitch that came along. When you're ugly or plain looking and you get to a certain age - it's over.