/adv/ - Advice

Alright bud, what are your marketable upsides? Are you attractive? Funny? Rich?

What are your downsides?

>>559

I'm moderately wealthy, i'm young, and easy going.

My downsides are that i'm a skeleton, short, unsure of myself, and I limp when I walk.

>>559

I'm also quiet

>>566

How limpy are we talking? "Stubbed my toe" or "Tiny Tim?"

You've got some strong things going for ya

>>568

Slightly. It almost looks like i'm swaggering.

>>569

Alright. That's workable. So what do you perceive is your stumbling point when dealing with women? Is it your lack of confidence? Do you think it is a matter of looks? Are you too afraid to make an approach?

>>571

I think it's a lack of confidence and inability to approach. It's like I just don't know how.

>>573

Very common problem. So the biggest piece of advice I can give about confidence is fake it till you make it. Don't be a jackass 24/7 but believe in the things that you do and learn to love yourself or at least work until you reach that self you love.

Now with approaches, everybody always gets hung up on overthinking the approach, being too scared to do so, and never "finding the perfect moment." These I find to all be excuses.

If you're overthinking it, you're fucking it up from the get go. It should be easy. I find that I can be beneficial to work yourself up and set little triggers. For example "If she buys another drink, I'm going to approach her" then following through. Another thing that can help is to just straight say to yourself "Fuck it." The worst thing that the woman can do is say "no." And that is fine. Simplifies the list of potential hookups. Some of my finest memories come from me just telling myself "fuck it" and doing what comes naturally.

Now when you approach, to avoid seeming creepy, always bring attention to what brought you over. For example "I saw your t-shirt had Queen on it, I'm a huge fan, what's your favorite album?" If she says that she was wearing the shirt just because it looked cool, walk off without saying another word because that girl is human refuse

Also try to start hitting the gym or something. If you're too strapped for cash to actually get a membership, just get some simple gear and work from home. Make sure to change up your diet so as to built muscle more efficiently. Some heavy martial arts like boxing are good to build up yourself

>>574

I'll be sure to remember that. Thanks for all your help. I really appreciate it.

>>573

So now that you've approached a girl who has responded to what you've said, you have to find a way to keep the conversation flowing naturally. If the dialogue feels too forced or awkward, she's not the girl or anything more than a quick lay.

When you are talking to her, you need to make the conversation mostly about her. People girls especially like to be asked about themselves and could give two shits about anyone else. Make sure that you are keeping the topic of conversation to questions about her and her life, not about you.

The model should go like this:

"Question about something that is meaty enough to not require a "yes/no response"

"They blab their fucking mouths and you pay attention"

"Ask a few follow-up related questions intrinsic to the topic, keeping the conversation upbeat and easy"

"They will talk about themselves"

"Ask another question about them and repeat the process"

Congrats! You have now proceeded to converse with a girl. If you are interesting enough, you might get laid or become a significant other. If not, work on yourself until you become someone interesting

>>575

No problem man. I feel where you've been and I know it can be rough. Stay strong and remember, "You don't need a woman, you want one."

Best of luck mate!