Hey. This is my first post in this subreddit (although I don't usually post much at all in any subreddit, I just lurk) and I thought it was the best place to talk about my issue. I have depression (in addition to OCD and ADD) and have been dating a person for a few months who has been diagnosed as bipolar, has OCD, and possibly depression herself. Things got serious pretty fast and I'm learning to adapt, since that while I date a lot I haven't been in many long-term relationships, just short ones.
Things have been a bit hectic, as my girlfriend texts and calls me a lot (often at odd times, which usually isn't that bad since we have similar sleep habits) and often gets angry and/or sad at me when I respond in ways she doesn't like or isn't expecting and seemingly gets sad or angry when I can't be with her all the time, which makes me sad because I feel responsible despite always responding to her in a timely manner and being there for me whenever she needs me. But it feels like if I say the wrong thing, it can even be something innocuous that I will upset her and she will be actively or passively aggressive with me or become depressed herself. I often need time to myself to unwind and not be depressed myself, but I feel like if I told her this she would think it was because I didn't want to spend time with her or that I didn't really care about her, and I do care about her a lot so I often don't say anything at all.
I'm really not sure how to deal with the issue, as I will never experience what she's going through but everything I do doesn't fix the issue and only results in sadness or anger (although it seemingly quickly fades and we default to our normal states–but it's terrible feeling it when it actually happens).
Has anyone had a similar experience? If so, any advice on how I should handle things?