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Always felt inferior, less attractive and less charismatic compared to a good friend. He always got with the girls I liked or thought were hot, always seemed to get invited out a lot more than me and was just more well liked than me. I've had resentment of him thats gotten worse and worse and it reached a peak after he hooked up with a girl I had a crush on that kind of strung me along. Should I tell him? Should I burn the bridge? All I know is I can't have a social life that resembles the one I had with all my high school friends. That's just not good enough and I'd rather die.

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What is the best cure / theraphy for depression ? Has anyone been really

been completely healed from depression ?

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I give advice

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This guy and I have been close friends for over 10 years, and I have fallen hard for him. We've never dated each other but we both clearly have strong feelings for each other. We've spoken intimately and have behaved romantic towards each other, done most things just short of having sex. He is worried he is not mentally ready for any relationship due to his past failed relationships. Because I work and live abroad, distance is also a convenient excuse for us not to date.

Each time we see each other in person, things get heated, leading up to the moment I fly out of the country. He seems good at compartmentalizing because he is content about staying friends with the intermittent benefit of physical intimacy. I feel like it's hard for me each time. I get overwhelmed by my feelings for him and want more than just friendship. Whereas he seems to be able to remain friends regardless of how far (short of sex) we get, I get frustrated and expect more. I have to piece myself back together and the cycle repeats.

I haven't confess my love for the guy, but I am sure he already knows–it was clear through my body language each time we hung out. Recently, I outright asked him if he would consider a relationship with me. In response, he said he says he cares about me, but he is sorry that he can't give me a straight answer. A flat rejection might have been easier to deal with.

A career opportunity is coming up that will let me be physically closer to him. I am hopeful that if I lived near him, we can date. But I wonder if it is worth it to have hope for me and him. Once circumstances change, would he be ready? Or should I expect to get friend zoned forever? Do you think I should close ties and move on?

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I've always had social anxiety but my taste for expensive clothing and my new york accent is starting to have people believe I'm some popular person so I get attention from people I despise them and everyone when I'm trying to be alone. sometimes comes in the form of sexual harassment. I used to be a normalfag about 5-7 years ago so its possible that influenced me. what can I do to become unknown and invisible.

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Hi advice.

I have been a chronic tobacco smoker since 1997. I am aware of the health hazards and I really want to quit.

My sister introduced me to e-cigarettes/vaping but refills are too expensive and they are not nearly as strong as the real thing.

Can you give me some advice to quit for good?

I wake up and I crave… Nothing helps.

Actual advice would be appreciated.


If a 70-year old tetraplegic with health problems can quit smoking after fifty to sixty years of it, so can you. Other than that, I can't help, because I am not said 70-year old and I enjoy smoking, still.


Quitting cold turkey is the best way for nicotine

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please help me


Why Temple of course.

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>be me

>find cute girl on some random Discord

>she’s fucking amazing and we share pretty much everything in common

>tell her I think I love her

>she tells me that I’m going too fast and she needs to get to know me better

How can I learn to slow the fuck down and not risk becoming some creepy dude in her eyes?


>Yfw this fuckup has been sold to every government and botnet on Earth


stop making orgasmic decisions


You're "in love". That's nothing but a nice little chemical cocktail of serotonin, oxytocin, and dopamine designed to biologically compel you to mate and breed. She is not feeling the same, or is feeling the same but is smart enough to recognize it. Point is, love is what happens when you get to know all of a person's flaws, all the unpleasant shit about them, and still want to pick them up when they fall down. You two met in a sterile digital environment, where you can project what you choose to as a persona and ignore the bad. She realizes this and is cautious, or she is just playing you for attention. Either is likely.

You should offer her your number, see if she wants to talk voice to voice. See what happens.


I just turned 17 and am a Sophomore in high school, and I am wondering if I should leave my home for a new one. The place I live in has poor schools, is expensive, and basically makes it impossible to leave for college. Also, my mother is going through financial struggles and it would be a load off her. I live in Hawai'i, and would plan to move to Columbus in a cheap apartment with my friend, I have a few thousand dollars saved up, and I could work part time to support myself. The issues I have with moving is:

>I currently live in a nice apartment in a beautiful place.

>I love my Mother and don't want her to think I am leaving her.

>I am also currently taking college classes at a heavily discounted price which I assume will be beneficial.

>I don't have to spend much of my money right now and I suppose if I get another job again I can save up a whole lot more.

>I know nobody in Columbus and would be going with one friend.

>Hawai'i has a lot of nature and I don't know what Columbus really is like

However, on the other hand:

>I will have to leave eventually and I'll have a larger head-start on getting everything in order before I enter college full-time

>I will have access to a better higher education

>High School is significantly better

>Stronger economy

>I'll finally be a real man

>Columbus is more cultured

>Cooler weather

Let me also add, I am pretty certain with what I have figured out, I could support myself on a part time job. But should I do this?


If you think you can juggle schooling with supporting yourself financially, go for it. Baby birds are supposed to leave the nest. If you fail, you still have a safety net in your mother.

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Hello, I am autistic, have social anxiety, have no friends and have a complete inability to form social relationships. I do not have a good relationship with my parents. I have no job and quit going to college when I burned out and fell into a deep depression. On the bright side, I am a computer programming genius and started weight lifting a bit ago (the Stronglifts 5x5 program) and doing tough 30 minutes interval running training. So far, I'm still doing small stuff but I'm working my way up: the bar is 45lbs and I can squat with an extra 80lb, overhead press with an extra 45lb and deadlift with an extra 80lb. Anyways, I'm having trouble with my overhead presses currently. What can I do to give more stability to my overhead presses? Just kidding, how can I make some friends and have some social contact, I'm lonely and depressed as fuck.


Speak to a psychologist. All you can do really - cognitive behavioral therapy should work and your college should have someone who can help you.


I can't get help at my college because I'm not attending classes, and I'm not attending classes because I can't see get help at my college.

I am actually seeing a psychologist apart from college though so things aren't entirely bad.


I had social anxiety for over ten years due to getting my ass kicked on stage (choir performance in retirement home) and being suspended for it.
I went to by doctor and she hooked me up. I didn't do the group therapy but talked to friends about it. The drugs helped and within months I was off the drugs and now I am better. You have to want to get better. It needs to be the quintessential goal of your life or you'll just rely on prescription for the rest of your life.



>What can I do to give more stability to my overhead presses?

Core exercises. Planks and sit-ups and leg lifts.

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I'm going to just keep bumping this thread with stories of my life until I get better.

>be me

> graduate hs in 2012 at age 16
>attend community college because poor
>one year passes by of monotony
>get associates of science with mediocre grades
> feel awful about life
>no money so go into navy
>won't let me be a nuke because mom is israeli
>"fuck it" go in as some shitty job
> make it three weeks before being kicked out for panic attacks
>arrive at parents house and feel worse than ever
> meet a 16 year old girl online-randomly
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I'd say reach out for psychiatric help or spend time volunteering for a cause you feel strongly about. At least then you can interact with other people.

Do you still have a contact from that hospital you were in?



next time do the job properly, if you're gonna kill yourself don't let anyone know, nothing worse than being half dead and held back.

Alternatively devote your life to charity or something if you're truly suicidal and not just an attention whore


how do you get mediocre community college grades?


fuck off kike, we need lesser people like you


Post pics of your feet OP. If that's actually you I think you have a pretty face

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So I finally got my first girlfriend at 19 years of age. I've had kisses and makeout sessions before, and sex one time.
Now I was ready for a relationship and fell in love. She's a virgin, I'm her second boyfriend ever (My relationship is already longer than her last, and it was 6 years ago)
I really need advice on the fact that she was out of town for 3 months a week after I asked her out. During maybe the beginning of second month of her being gone, my buddy had a party. Where I got stupid drunk and made out with two girls. One was just on me, the other one I saw an image of my girlfriend and she was almost the same girl in everything and I made out with her. She wanted a relationship but after an hour of sobering up and a liter of water I realized I fucked up and told her I don't want anything with her when she had feelings.
Is that considered cheating? I have not told her for over 2 months. I know I fucked up but I swore to myself that I will never do it again and completely stopped drinking to become Drunk.

pic related: its alcohol


If the relationship is worth having, you need to get right with her. If you're in it for the long term, you need to be willing to be transparent about these things.

And you need to lay out what happened if you really wanna get right with her and keep the relationship in shape. Otherwise the guilt will eat you alive.


Dishonesty is how relationships die. Romantic or otherwise.

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I am damn sure I just came across evidence that in 2015 a guy I was in the Navy with was on line preying on underage teens. I want to to find out if he is still doing it and to get new evidence that will get him in trouble. He is still serving and it disgusts me that I know he was and likely still is doing so. The problem is that what I found is old and not enough by it self to do anything with. Does anybody have the knowledge or skills necessary to track somebody online or hack them and find out for sure?


Just report it to the DOD with as much evidence as you have and let nature take its course


You should probably give me his deetz.


I don't know what I did with the last five years of my life. I don't know what I'm doing with the next five. I just feel aimless, like some meandering mote, where everything is so far away that I can't create any meaningful focus. Or where if I had erased the previous five years of my life that it really would not have meant anything important to me.


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