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>>2011

To note I havent even had sex, I just fap and the urge of it withers away

>>2011

>Post here if you're sad

Sad like in: Darn, my favourite pair of shoes is gone.

or:Darn, I have a sever life crisis

>I just realized (this isnt anything new) that a lot of things in the world dont really matter .Ive had this thing before but the feelings come back again after a while.

Have you ever read Ecclesiastes? Could help.

>>living in general

Life has the meaning you give to it.

>Only things that matter to me is what I anticipate to do in the future

Do you expose yourself to other people?

I mean like helping them, or achieving something together.

This could help to direct your energies away from yourself and towards something fulfilling.

Something like helping out at Church or whatever it is you could do to help someone. It will genuinly make you feel better.

>>2012

Try not to fap, at least fap less.

Do not obsess over it though.

Do not obsess over sex in general, as you said it is not important.

Everything has its time.

>everything just feels like waiting and waiting.

If you don't want that just take action.

>>2126

> sever

*severe

I'm really sad right now. I keep telling myself that it's a useless feeling and that no human can know what God considers good as in part of his plan. I tell myself that there are so many others that are worse off than me and that my problems are too petty to be considered.

But the feeling won't go away.

Not expecting anything, it just helps to write about it.

>Only things that matter to me is what I anticipate to do in the future, everything just feels like waiting and waiting.

Then you get older and there's nothing to anticipate anymore as you realise it won't happen, your dreams are dead, and now, time passing is just bringing you closer to old age and death.

That's how I feel.

>>3847

> I tell myself that there are so many others that are worse off than me and that my problems are too petty to be considered.

Plenty of people do this and I urge everyone to stop. You cannot compare pain or sadness. Some people who have less than you are much happier. Don't hurt yourself with meaningless comparisons: you know you'd exchange a lot just to be happy.

Everyone's worst moment is the worst they can really imagine because that's the worst they've known. Pain is personal. No problems are petty if they're important to you, and I don't care what it is: if it makes you sad, if it is a big problem to you, then it is a big problem period. Let no one belittle your problems, not even yourself. Fuck that "first world problems" bullshit.

I hope that helps.

>>3850

>No problems are petty if they're important to you, and I don't care what it is: if it makes you sad, if it is a big problem to you, then it is a big problem period.

But it's just that I'm an idiot. I know that it means nothing and I am the only reason for this. If I just decided to stop feeling like this everyone would be fine, literally no one but me cares about that. So it is my fault, I only unnecessarily add to all the bad that already is. How could I even try to justify this?

>I hope that helps.

Thanks. Talking helps of course.

>>3851

>But it's just that I'm an idiot.

You aren't an idiot. I know idiots, you're not one.

> If I just decided to stop feeling like this everyone would be fine

No, especially not if you suffer from a mild (or worse) form of depression. Don't let people tell you to snap out of it, if it's been going on for over a month (or even a week), it's definitely not something that's only your will. It's not your fault, don't unncessarily burden yourself with responsibilities that aren't yours.

>How could I even try to justify this?

Don't even try, but stop beating on yourself. If you know that it doesn't help, then be kinder to yourself and see if that works any better. We have to be pragmatic eventually.

There are things you can do, most likely, but bashing yourself is not needed, in any case.

If you want to tell me more, go ahead. I have plenty of time these days and spend much of it here (instead of doing all the other things I should do with my life, but if it can help, then Hallelujah).

If you want to give me more details I'll be able to be more helpful.

>>3852

>Don't even try, but stop beating on yourself.

I don't even care about that. But everyone will realise how I feel and I'll drag them down.

>No, especially not if you suffer from a mild (or worse) form of depression. Don't let people tell you to snap out of it, if it's been going on for over a month (or even a week), it's definitely not something that's only your will. It's not your fault, don't unncessarily burden yourself with responsibilities that aren't yours.

It's something that just happened. I was rather sad for a long time and mangaed to cope with this, also thanks to my faith. I was content for a while now, but I fear that everything will be undone now again.

>If you want to tell me more, go ahead. I have plenty of time these days and spend much of it here (instead of doing all the other things I should do with my life, but if it can help, then Hallelujah).

You need to take care of yourself. If you wont no one else will if things go bad.

I see the irony in me writing this

>If you want to give me more details I'll be able to be more helpful.

As I said it doesn't matter, it's nothing. Nothing I could change. My feelings are just hurt and I know that I just shouldn't care for the greater good.

You are very nice.

>>3854

>I don't even care about that. But everyone will realise how I feel and I'll drag them down.

You're not dragging me down. Other people's problems relieve me from my own. This may help you too, don't forget it. You can help others too, and doing so will help yourself along the way.

>It's something that just happened. I was rather sad for a long time and mangaed to cope with this, also thanks to my faith. I was content for a while now, but I fear that everything will be undone now again.

Milder forms of depression can happen over time. Any specific reason why things are going down or it's just happening again?

>You need to take care of yourself. If you wont no one else will if things go bad.

Don't worry about me, I'll do these things at some point, just not today. I can take care of myself and try to help you at the same time.

>As I said it doesn't matter, it's nothing. Nothing I could change. My feelings are just hurt and I know that I just shouldn't care for the greater good.

It matters to you, so it matters.

>You are very nice.

I try.

I'll stick around for a while if you feel like telling me more.

>>3855

>You're not dragging me down. Other people's problems relieve me from my own. This may help you too, don't forget it. You can help others too, and doing so will help yourself along the way.

I know that I'll face someone tomorrow that is the reason for me feeling like this. I won't be able to pretend all was fine. It will get clear that I'm hurt. Other people will start feeling bad and accusing me to overthink unchangeable things, or even giving them fault for things they can't change.

I believe this will end several friendships and will make them feel bad. I don't want them to feel like this. I just want to deal with this by myself and don't want to involve others.

I think I will start being for myself in the future. I can't deal with other people without hurting myself, which ultimately hurts others.

If I'd be isolated all would be better. I could deal with my shortcomings alone without harming others.

>>3856

I'm intrigued now.

What could possibly end friendships so radically?

>>3859

>What could possibly end friendships so radically?

I will have to accomodate my behaviour according to…something I found out today.

This will of course be recognized.

I'll stand there as a bigot, when for real I just have no choice. It's not like I wanted to shun someone or make him an outcast, I just cannot be close as I was without it causing me serious pain.

I think I need to go to sleep now. Thanks for your answers, don't be upset if I won't answer to your next post until tomorrow. Maybe I will post how it went. I'll just have to suffer it.

>>3860

I may or may not have guessed your problem.

No problem. When I check this thread, I check everything everywhere. I'm here every day currently; we can pick up right where we've left off.

sadboys 2001

Ecclesiastes thread? Ecclesiastes thread.

Ecclesiastes 1:14

I have seen all things that are done under the sun, and behold all is vanity, and vexation of spirit.

WTF is this sad-sack bullshit? Don't you people realize we're on a mission from God here?

sorry you're sad, OP

>>3983

>Don't you people realize we're on a mission from God here?

You mean this board?

>>3986

>You mean this board?

I was just goofing around, but sure why not.

But seriously, all Christians are on a mission from God to spread the Gospel.