>>6864
>What about not wanting to marry adulterous women?
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>What about women who don't want to have children?
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>What about women who don't want to marry at all?
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>What about different religions?
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>What about women you just can't develop feelings for? How would you even change that?
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>>6862
> superficially I mean, going for looks alone not character where you should have high standards
Judging women according to their character and setting high standards here is good. Women will also realise this.
Setting (too) high standards on a matter of outward beauty, or hitting on a woman just because of that is not wise and will lead to suffering.
>The problem is that being the best partner is not a clear objective.
>Everyone's trying to look for something else in a partner.
Exactly.
Think about the woman you wish for. The one YOU wish for, your dream wife. Now imagine which man this woman would want. Become this man.
The objective is not to be liked by everyone, that's impossible. It is to attract the woman that you wish for.
>So should you assume a different personality?
Tricky one. Generally no, unless you have a bad personality anyway. So don' betray your values, but start fulfilling them if you haven't done this so far.
>What if she is superficial? Do you undergo plastic surgery?
If you want a superficial woman and are not naturally beautiful this is the way to go. However, if you want a superficial woman your problem is not that you have no gf, but that you want a superficial woman ;^)
>Should you have sex before marriage?
This is a matter of morals. If you're a catholic ie the answer is no.
>Do you think it's a good idea to connect with the people of your church for this reason?
A relationship is something social. So social interactions, at church for instance, are of course in favour of finding one.
If at your parish people share your values this is a good idea. ask the mormons ;^)
But pls don't make it too forced. Just go there without any expectation but good hope. Then only good can come of this.