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2b7c87 No.478737

God has punished me by making me fall in love with a girl who doesn't like me and never will like me.

What is the purpose of this?

7259c0 No.478740

>>478737

Not every human being loves God, He feels the same way.


998e03 No.478783

>>478740

>God doesn't love everyone

Wrong


55d847 No.478784

>>478783

He does love everyone, but not everyone loves him back. How is that hard to understand?


7259c0 No.478786

>>478783

I meant God feels the same way as OP, you must've misread my post.


2ea829 No.478789

>>478737

Stop this meme of blaming everything on God.

It's your fault you're attracted to someone who isn't interested in you.


2b7c87 No.478790

>>478784

>He feels the same way

This part was interpreted by anon as meaning "Just as not every person loves God; God doesn't love every person [OP] too".

But anon >>478786 clarified here.

What is the Christian response to oneitis?


7259c0 No.478791

>>478790

>What is the Christian response to oneitis?

Thou shalt have no other gods before me. (Exodus 20:3)


9d14ee No.478811

>>478737

He did not


8a48c8 No.478814

cry moar kiddo

better yet, read the bible. try Job

better hurry now, 5th period starts soon and you don't want to be late again to your maths class


2b7c87 No.478829

>>478814

> try Job

I know that story. Job suffers for years but doesn't lose his faith. He is then rewarded. I will never be rewarded though.


e7365b No.478830

>>478829

Why not?


2b7c87 No.478834

>>478830

Because I told you in the OP that the girl I like doesn't like me and never will.


e7365b No.478842

>>478834

Do you think God couldn't reward you with an even better girl for you if he wanted to?


2b7c87 No.478843

>>478842

But I don't want a "better" girl. I want *that* girl. It's killing me inside.


e7365b No.478844

>>478843

How long have you wanted her?


2b7c87 No.478846

>>478844

Probably 18 months or so. But it's getting worse, that's the problem.


e7365b No.478851

>>478846

Sucks, but you'll get past it in time if things don't work out. Do you have any way you could get some solace? Could you talk to her about this, and if things don't work you know they never will?


4ddbbd No.478853

>>478846

I understand how you feel, going through something similar

God is testing you, god wants you there praising him in times of crisis like this, It's hard.

He wants you to draw near to him and he wants you to love him more than anyone else


4ddbbd No.478855

>>478851

Not op but not all the time are girls so predictable and reasonable, me for example the girl I liked literally completely stopped talking to me out of nowhere when I said I liked her, when I called to her house she threatened to call the cops.

Girls are crazy and don't know what they want, pray and be faithful op, cry out to god and he will comfort you.


2b7c87 No.478856

>>478851

>Could you talk to her about this, and if things don't work you know they never will?

Realistically no. Her family and my family are too close and if I say something it could create major consequences. I'm stuck.

>>478855

What did you do after she rejected you?


4ddbbd No.478864

>>478856

She was my only friend for a long time.

My dad was very ill and years of abuse were coming back to me in my dreams.

All my friends had betrayed me and said horrible things about me.

I told her how much she meant to me that she was there and I wanted to treat her properly when I got back on my feet and traveled with her.

She told me that she could move on without me and that I should seek therapy.

She was the manipulative lying tumblr weab type, she wasn't good looking either.

I am a muscular /chad/, I look good by societies standards but It ruined me none the less.

I had no friends and a dying father at that point, I tried to kill myself.

God saved me, he continues to save me, he wanted me to come to him and to love him with all my heart as I am doing, never give in and love god with all your heart and things will work out.


4ddbbd No.478867

>>478856

She also told my friends everything about my father and she made fun of me also, despite clearly being attracted to me, and being really nice to my face.


e7365b No.478868

>>478856

Have you done anything odd? What would be the problem in you just talking about it? I'm not in any way saying it would be easy, I get how it could feel impossible


4ddbbd No.478869

>>478868

Girls are like this regardless if you did anything wrong or not sometimes, society is rather fucked if you hadn't noticed


2b7c87 No.478876

>>478868

>Have you done anything odd?

Probably. I stopped messaging her for a few months after texting her daily because it was toxic and I couldn't take it. Then I admitted I got jealous when she spent time with other guys.

I don't know what to do but I did more nice things for her than most people.


e7365b No.478877

>>478869

Don't get me wrong, I've been single for two years since I had my first and only girlfriend, mostly do to pushy friends on both sides. I understand that things can be difficult and that society sucks in this regard. What I was wonder is if there is anything that can really be said against you if you talked to her about this. For me I struggle with determining which problems are real and which are imagined, so I can think of things to be said against me if I asked someone out and it went poorly, and that's where my thoughts gravitate when I'm talking to someone else about similar issues. What are you worried about happening if things didn't go well? That people would hear you did this and think you are a failure? That some information might leak? What's the problem with you expressing some interest in someone? Are you not similar ages or something?


e7365b No.478880

Also sorry if I'm getting weird, kinda working my own mind out here


4ddbbd No.478882

>>478877

I should have clarified I was not op, my bad


2b7c87 No.478886

>>478877

I'm 4 years older than her so there's no age problem. She has gone really cold on me. We used to hang out all the time, watch movies, play games, message each other. But now we never hang out and if I message her the conversation will be over after 2 messages basically.

Should I just accept it and move on? She was like my one good friend and I probably messed it up.


e7365b No.478887

>>478882

I should have checked ID, I'm bad at that

>>478886

Your choice, but to be clear I'm not talking about messaging her, I'm talking about talking to her face to face, it's really the only way to go if you wanted to spill the beans


2b7c87 No.478894

>>478887

I wouldn't know what to say. She would reject me and it would hurt as much.


e7365b No.478896

>>478894

Do you think it would hurt for as long it you were rejected? Sometimes helpful things hurt us


884ec3 No.478906

>>478737

You should not assume God is punishing you. Maybe He is testing you, or is showing you something like what >>478740 said. Or maybe He's building you up to fight against lust. No matter what His purpose is, pray about and talk to your minister.

Also, I guarantee that girl has spiritual baggage that if you knew about would drop your attraction like

>>478789

>Attacks God's sovereignty

>I check the flag

>"Methodist"

>Everytime


e7365b No.478908

>>478906

>sovereignty

>I check the flag

>"Calvinist"

>Everytime

meme


2b7c87 No.478909

>>478896

I don't know how much it would hurt but yea I think it would be a heavy thing to take. It would make things so awkward between us too if we ever saw each other.


e7365b No.478913

>>478909

> It would make things so awkward between us too if we ever saw each other.

And with that between you do you think you would still be hooked on this girl?


4ddbbd No.478915

>>478909

Have some courage man, go.

If it's awkward use it to your advantage.


2b7c87 No.478918

>>478913

>>478915

Timing is crucial to those things. Maybe I could have said it like 12 months ago when she still seemed fond of me. These days she just doesn't want to know at all. It would probably be too much of a bolt.


c0c63e No.478919

This is a stupid thread, OP please use your brain and get over it and not creating tfw no gf threads.


e7365b No.478920

>>478918

You haven't been as involved, now you have a lot to talk about because of that and you can catch up


e7365b No.478921

>>478919

>This is a stupid thread, OP please use your brain and get over it and not creating tfw no gf threads.

pls no

I find these helpful and I want people there if I ever need to make one of these threads


2b7c87 No.478922

>>478920

I think she honestly just resents me now though. It's almost like I'm dealing with a stranger. We used to be so close too.

I must have fucked up big time. I don't even know how I would go about making things better *first* before admitting my attraction.


e7365b No.478924

>>478922

>I must have fucked up big time

This is what I want to know. Is there a thing you knew you did that did this?


2b7c87 No.478928

>>478924

I'll throw out a few:

1. Not texting her for long periods of time.

2. Being cold to her when we met.

(The above were recommended to me as a way of getting over her but I never did).

3. I may have stood her up once.

4. I told her I felt jealous when she spent time with other guys.

I think that's literally all the bad things I did.


e7365b No.478933

>>478928

>1. Not texting her for long periods of time.

I don't think this is that bad

>2. Being cold to her when we met.

This could be detrimental, but I think it's a natural occurrence with anyone you meet enough times

>3. I may have stood her up once.

details?

>4. I told her I felt jealous when she spent time with other guys.

Woo babby

Not saying this is good or bad, but at least you aren't a spineless coward like me


2b7c87 No.478937

>>478933

>details?

She invited me to a quiz with her friends and I didn't go.

>Not saying this is good or bad, but at least you aren't a spineless coward like me

I think it may have made her uncomfortable.

Plus I think she has just replaced me with new friends.

I'm gonna be AFK for a bit now but if you or anybody else has anything decent to say please let me know.


e7365b No.478941

>>478937

I think you need to make your choice over whether you really want her, and then make your actions align with your decision. It doesn't seem like you're in that bad of a place with her.

>She invited me to a quiz with her friends and I didn't go.

Seems like nothing

>I think it may have made her uncomfortable.

Sometimes things go that way, but I don't think that was too crazy

>Plus I think she has just replaced me with new friends.

Even if that happened I don't think that seals anything down


2ca08e No.478969

>>478737

>God has punished me by making me fall in love

Thats where you're wrong, kiddo. God isn't responsible for your decisions


1afded No.478986

File: b093defb0dc3ba3⋯.png (40.28 KB, 326x118, 163:59, candyYum.png)

>>478737

could be worst


e7365b No.478993

>>478986

what is this? an image for ants?


1afded No.479001

File: c15ab5c781f6d67⋯.jpg (135.15 KB, 928x336, 58:21, kn.jpg)

>>478993

*My cover has been discovered


e7365b No.479003

>>479001

wages of sin right there


2ca08e No.479004

>>479001

>not pulling more nodules out of her and shoving it in her mouth before beating her half to death

wew


2ca08e No.479006

>>479001

anyways thanks ant-man now i want to throw up


2ca08e No.479008

>>479003

aside from eating her out, what did he do to deserve THAT?


0680ce No.479170

>>478737

>current year+2

>being a teenager


ee4819 No.479260

>God made me fall in love

Please dont push me to atheism you two digit iq tard


2b7c87 No.479268

>>478941

Maybe I'm over analysing things and blowing things out of proportion then?


443ccf No.479413

File: ead1f122e008f88⋯.jpg (20.87 KB, 377x325, 29:25, paulie.jpg)

>>478737

life sucks.

whataryagonna do?

But you're on the right track asking for the purpose. God has purpose in all things. Ours is not to know what that is but to have faith it is for the best both for us and for His glory.

But, if she was a heathen, you ought to know better

Bear with it, anon. Mourn, yes, but know that no tear is wasted


e7365b No.479443

>>479268

probably


2b7c87 No.479454

>>479413

God doesn't seem to give advice on what to do about oneitis though.

Or does he?


26b977 No.479466

Maybe you've fallen in love with this girl because you can't control your emotions.


62cfad No.479484

File: f0ce24478296813⋯.png (234.67 KB, 660x443, 660:443, 1476638446167.png)

>>478867

women come from devil, son. (damn whore)

I feel you here. Women (good-looking for that part) are acting shy and you name it around me (some even proposing to me through third persons); yet i never ``truly`` desire them nor "fruits" of their affection, for miserable me was granted with His Divine Love for which i could never repay.

>>479466

"Psychic" ""science"" time: We don't fall in love to a human being, we usually make up various images (literally idols) of someone/something before we would ever truly experience them in the first place. OP told us he was "close" to her; for woman it probably means something else - like a backup plan, beta orbiter or just "a male friend". Yes women act strange and ungodly (probably there is a reason so many witches were burned at the stake), it's sometimes impossible to understand them at all, yet looking at OP's situation she (probably) picked someone else as her "main" and now rejects him in a "kind manner" (for a woman's thinking).

>>479454 Pray to get a better woman or better no woman at all.

Not trying to discourage you from trying, but consider the attached picture.


ebc199 No.479486

>God has punished me by making me fall in love with a girl who doesn't like me and never will like me.

So what, you can still be with her, you ever read Job?


2b7c87 No.479689

>>479484

> OP told us he was "close" to her; for woman it probably means something else - like a backup plan, beta orbiter or just "a male friend". Yes women act strange and ungodly (probably there is a reason so many witches were burned at the stake), it's sometimes impossible to understand them at all, yet looking at OP's situation she (probably) picked someone else as her "main" and now rejects him in a "kind manner" (for a woman's thinking).

Well that was painful to read.


4ddbbd No.479724

Read the proverbs about strange women my dudes


e6e956 No.479767

>>478737

Women get very turned off by men who obsess over them. Move on with your life and worry about getting good with God and things will start falling into place.


4d9428 No.479967

>>478737

Obviously to make you grow mentally and spiritually, anon.

maybe you'll cherish your beloved even more next time


61cc94 No.479980

File: 4ac1b860374d395⋯.jpg (87.3 KB, 621x621, 1:1, disgust.jpg)

>>479001

Everything about that story is disgusting. The sodomy, the pus ball, and the girl's adultery.

They were both out of state and she was fornicating with him before that, so I don't know what he expected she was going to do while he was away. Women like that aren't loyal.

>>478737

My advice to you is to focus on God instead of this idol. Obsessing over the image or imagined persona of a girl is idolatry, and will turn you away from God if you aren't careful.

I know how you feel, though. I've had oneitis before, it happens. But in the end you must come to terms with the fact that she is not interested and move on. Instead of obsessing over her, obsess over God. That works for me, at least. But then again, I can't stand dating, because I've never dated a girl who I turned out to actually like (they all turned out to be whores, one eventually literally demanded I pay her to date me, which I refused)

Women are a curious sort. They are attracted to men in control of their own situations, men who have self-control and discipline. This is why home-wreckers exist, as well as girls attracted to athletic guys. A faithful husband is attractive because he has the power to control his impulses and desires, while a weak man fornicates with everyone he sees. A body-builder shows he has the self-control to watch his diet and frequently exercise. They both have one thing in common: they are self-controlled and disciplined (at least in appearance).

Not obsessing over women is step 1, but not all of them. What you need to do is learn to discipline yourself and control your emotions such that your temptations will not easily take control of you. Even though I'm skinny and want to be a priest, for instance, I resist my temptations and don't fornicate, which has caught the eyes of a few local roasties, as well as local church-going girls. You just need to learn to control your temptations instead of letting them control you, and to keep your eyes open for girls who embody the same principles as you.

(Its always important to note that the principles women embody are as varied as the ones men embody. Some choose God, some choose narcissism. We all share certain traits about us that make us appealing to those of the opposite sex, but most people in one ideological camp will stick with that camp. A lot of mistakes happen when you compromise on belief.)


965e14 No.480081

>>479980

>one eventually literally demanded I pay her to date me

<whatthefuckamireading.jpg


0b3586 No.480185

>>478737

Oneitis is painful idolatry. I have suffered because of this in the past and still do to a lesser degree to this day.

These are a few key thoughts to remember and pray on whenever you feel the longing in your heart:

salvation comes only from God

Often I thought that if she'd just be mine I wouldn't be so depressed. Only God can save you.

wherever your mind rests is where your hope is

Obsession has a very negative connotation but essentially whatever you think of when you aren't thinking about anything is your obsession. Don't let your hope lie in a woman "Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope in God!"

not everyone is meant to be happy

Happiness is temporary. The joy of The Lord is forever

For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife,


0b3586 No.480187

Read kierkegaard he's just like us.

>tfw knight of infinite resignation


0b3586 No.480189

>>478908

Don't blame him he didn't choose to be Calvinist lol


483b08 No.480225

Just go for it man. Every decision worth anything is a gamble. No risk, no reward.


d78011 No.480237

File: 764fc29e804e8c1⋯.jpg (174.31 KB, 600x833, 600:833, IMG_5844.JPG)

Grow up kid


a60871 No.480242

File: dd9bd5b0eb4884a⋯.png (771.73 KB, 849x694, 849:694, Do you ever fall 1.png)

File: 967801cc1d078ee⋯.png (832.21 KB, 850x694, 425:347, Do you ever fall 2.png)

>>478843

>But I don't want a "paradise". I want the fruit.

Get up, stop being a bitch, and move on. God doesn't like lightweights, ya priss.


af6acc No.480660

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>>479484

this makes me very, very sad for non-Christian men

>>479454

>God doesn't seem to give advice on what to do about oneitis though.

<assuming "oneitis" means "forever alone-ness"

So, proceed how you feel is best until the Spirit tells you otherwise.

But, I'll give you the advice I gave to an also-single, desperately desperate friend: learn to accept that God MAY never fulfil your need for a wife.

DO NOT make an idol out of woman. They are fit companions, they are how we men learn to love and to be as Christ, they are a wonderful means of sanctification we are made to long for, but we are perfectly able to live without them.

We were made to love God, first and foremost. Learn to do that and then all these things will be added to you.

Well, if He wills it.


aded88 No.480669

>>478737

God didn't make you fall in love with her, he permitted you to.


af6acc No.480673

File: f6b7c6fd59a380b⋯.jpg (54.33 KB, 420x510, 14:17, kekkles-the-klown.jpg)

>>480669

>bringing free-will debates into a forever-alone thread

kek


859140 No.480728

>>478737

Unrequited love happens to everybody at least once in their life. It's wrong to assume God is punishing you because of it.


956055 No.480802

>>478864

God bless you and may he always watch over you. I hope you recover anon and put this all behind you.


44d73d No.480839

>>480189

ayy lamao


3930f1 No.480871

File: 2afc38021537ac5⋯.jpg (67.89 KB, 618x450, 103:75, white.sharia.jpg)

Just another clear example for why we need WHITE SHARIA now.


340ead No.480878

>>480871

>Bane's purpose was to give false hope and eventually kill every last person he "set free".

Yep, sounds like white shariah.


93cdce No.480909

>>480871

shitty meme




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