No.204675
Ok, /cuteboys/ how much of an age gap is too much? I ask because I'm 29 and I wonder to myself what's acceptable for dating below me.
When I was younger I dated a guy 5 years older than me, and at times I really disliked the age gap, and I would find that our cultural likes were too different.
I'm personally attracted to guys up to around 6 or so years younger than me. (Much more and it feels creepy on my end because I have sisters that age…)
At 22/23 I couldn't imagine dating a 29 year old. Even though my boyfriend at the time was 5 years, 2 more years isn't much..
No.204691
no age gap is too much, I mean yeah there probably comes a point where you'd be totally out of place hanging out with a bunch of people much much younger than you and they probably wouldnt be into it… but when it comes to relationships, if they're up for it and like you inspite of your age over them then go for it ! you'd be stupid to waste that, age is just a number.
No.204692
>>204675
i personally dont have a problem with age, im 20 but i would date a 29 year old, unless they were gross like all the dudes on grindr…
No.204700
>>204675
The rule of thumb I use (for sex at least, but it works well for relationships too) is minimum age = half your age + 7 years.
No.204702
Wouldn't mind if some young /cuteboy/ taking a liking to me. Even though I'm 21
No.204706
>>204702
please take this curse from me
No.204723
The only two rules I care about are:
Not <= 19 because these people are immature or bait (I'm 24)
If you ever have a kid or nephew, don't date someone younger than them
When I was ~19 the thought of dating someone older than 22 seemed weird, but now I'd easily go up to 32. Age becomes less and less important as you get older imo (I think most people agree).
No.204804
>>204675
im 18, but i would date a 29 year old.
i think though, it makes it less long term, becaues when youre in your mid thirties (assuming we would stay together that long) i would still be in the prime of my youth.
No.205535
I'm 34, but I've hung out with teenagers before and never felt awkward about it. I've got kind of a elder-brother mentor-figure vibe going on apparently, especially with how I actually like to sit and listen to people talk about shit that's bothering them.
I like being there for people, especially the young and confused….because that was me, once.
I want to be the senpai I never had growing up.
No.205542
You know the old saying - Seven is just heaven but eight is too late.
No.205565
date whomever the hell you want, Im probably gonna end up growing some 40 year old creep dating guys my age, I dont care anymore
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6PNc9KN50M
No.205688
>>204675
Half your age then +7
thank me later
No.205698
I'm 19 but I'd date up to 35
most of that is loneliness, I'll admit
No.205771
>>205698
And if you were my sorta cuteboy, I'd probably letcha.
No.205772
no age gap is to much as long as you are both happy
No.205781
>>205771
meh, you're probably too far away to bother anyway.
No.205783
I think 4-5 yrs younger or older than me is my limit.
No.205870
I just turned 20. Oldest I would date is 24-25.
>>204675
I met a /cuteboy/ who was 29. We had really similar interests and I would've liked to date him. Too big of a gap though. Wouldn't be able to do things like hang out with friends with him.
>>204691
>kinda agree with this
>>204700
yup
>>204723
It does but the age/2 + 7 rule also follows this.
No.205940
Also 29 and attracted to men and women younger than me. The age isn't an issue, having things in common isn't an issue, pop culture shouldn't be an issue (if not being able to get movie references is a problem you have other issues that need to be addressed). The problem is both people worrying about what their friends, family, and the world will think of their relationship.
Examples of this are throughout this thread and I've seen it irl as well.
Comparing the persons age to a family member, worrying about being out of place, worried about being perceived a creep.
You can rob yourself of a good relationship worrying about what other people think.
No.205964
I'm 19 and I guess I wouldn't really go as far as 10 years older than me so yeah 29 would be it
No.207811
I'm 18, my boyfriend is 28… I don't really mind, personally… I'd say it's more of a social issue than a intimate one. It's sad that we live in a world where that's rather taboo. I dread the day I have to tell my parents about him since they sure as hell won't share my views on his age.
No.211054
I'm 21 and I'd be up for dating anyone up to and including 27. Honestly I want an older boyfriend anyway, I have fairly mature interests and it'd be great to date someone with more of a mature personality too.
The only reason why I wouldn't go much older is that I'd worry that our interests and lifestyles wouldn't have much in common. Also, 35+ doesn't get me going much in the looks department, to be honest.
No.211069
I am 18 and I would date a 40 year old man. I actually perfer men older than 25 and to 40.
No.211070
Im 18 and I would date up until 40. All my requirements are is that you are bigger than me and strong and are a father figure.
No.211073
21.
Youngest would go is 18.
Oldest is 30.
No.211096
>>204675
I got fucked by a 54-year-old man when I was 16. Really depends on your personal tastes. For me, silver foxes are sexy because of the knowledge, poise and gravitas they carry. Also, well-kept gray is hot. Long as someone takes care of themselves, I don;t see why age has to have that big of an impact as long as the dynamic is fully understood by both parties.
No.211145
I'm 18 and I wouldn't date anyone over the age of 22.
No.211176
>>211096
>Someone else who loves silver foxes
Mah nigga. Unfortunately I've never fucked/been fucked by one yet. Lucky bastard.
No.211242
No.211285
22 here
I only ever wanted to be with somebody older, but I get the feeling there's a fuckton of horny 19 year olds who would settle for me.
And by older I mean this much older
No.214501
I'm 18, my bf is 26… It's whatever really.
No.214521
>>211285
you want to fuck mike from Breaking Bad?
hes pretty sexy
No.214529
>>204675
I'd say anything beyond 5 years is too much
4-5 years is going to be seen as approaching too much by your peers, but if you make it work then good for you, and they'll probably learn to accept it
2-3 years is a definite, noticeable age difference, but shouldn't really matter too much in the relationship.
No.214531
>>214529
But of course, there's always the 10 year and even more age difference relationships that somehow work out, so don't be discouraged I guess. Plus, age differences in relationships seem to work better in gay relationships than straight ones, although I could just be talking out my ass here on that one.
No.230612
21, would not mind dating someone older. I don't know what my limit would be exactly, but 30 is definitely okay with me. It's sad that, like you said, differences related to age difference can sometimes make it so a relationship won't work.
I wouldn't want to date somebody younger than me, though. It just feels weird to me, I feel like I should be the younger guy in the relationship.
No.230614
No.230617
I think for short-term casual relationships, a big age gap doesn't really matter. But if its going to be a long-term serious relationship, you'd want it to be with someone around your age. I sure as hell don't want to watch my lover die of old age and still have decades left to live.
No.230622
I want a 40+ year old bf but I don't know if we'd even get along well outside of sex. I'm 22 and into anime, videogames and films.
Most people of that age seem to have given up on hobbies, and often life in general, and exist solely to work. That and all the 40 year olds willing to fuck me are obese, ugly creeps.
No.230645
>>230617
Because of my ridiculously good genetics and general stubbornness about life, I am virtually guaranteed to live to over 100. It's very probable that even if I pick up a boyfriend that is a decade younger than I am, I will outlive him by 20 years or more. Some families have extremely shitty longevity, dropping dead shortly after 60.
No.230777
I'm 19 and I would say your age is actually my limit. But I would definitely date someone who is, at most, 29.
No.230790
>>230645
Call me morbid, but if you're lonely at that age I'm sure you can find some other sponge to keep you company who's just as desperate as you.
No reason to keep you away from having the relationship you want, for however long it may last.
No.230830
when i was 19 i dated a guy that was 33 and after that fell apart i figured out thats a bittttt too much
5 years is fine for pure physical relationships honestly, but its entirely based on taste
No.230832
I was teasing 20 to 40 years olds when i was 15, was almost gonna meet up with one, pussied out though. feels bad.
No.230962
They say that the lowest age you should go is half your age plus seven.
I say: Half your age minus seven works for me.
14-year-olds, here I come!
No.230966
I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 26.
The gap isn't too bad, but it's a bit amplified by him being 6'2" tall and me being 5'6".
No.231019
>>230962
Yeah, I don't really see a 100-year-old dating a 57-year-old.
No.231095
>>230962
>MFW half my age minus seven means seven-year-olds
I can get on board with this.
No.231122
>>231095
I got 2. Get on my level.
No.231178
>mfw older than my bf by almost a decade
>mfw he is the top
No.231212
>>231122
Get back to school.
No.231221
No.231265
>>204675
For me the oldest that I've fallen for was 47 with whom I get a long very well with but sadly it will never be. Overall I've found myself gravitating more towards guys in their 30s/40s for a variety of reasons. Oddly enough the guy I'm dating right now is two years younger than me though.
No.253903
I can totally get how someone would stress / over think age gaps, but if you're in a relationship with one it's honestly the least of your concern.
I'm in a relationship with someone almost twice my age. We started dating when I was 16 and he was 31. We get along very well, and I have since moved in with him (I'm 18 now), in a different country lol.
The most difficult part of it for me is that I'm obviously the sub in this relationship, which is awesome, BUT I've always wanted to be in a dominant position with someone younger than me. This brings in a lot of tension, because I get these mad urges to just break up with him for a qt. But we've endeared this far, it's edging close to two years now…
No.253915
>>253903
I support the bumping of this thread. It's a pretty interesting topic.
Even though it's dumb, I tend to follow the "half-your-age-plus-7" rule.
I'm late 20s. Would date a sub up until 45 I think. That's my hard limit. Provided they're a major geek and we have a lot of stuff in common and they're from the generation of early otaku who watched space operas n stuff.
The only issue is that that demographic tends to be made up of "sissies" (blurgh) who don't want relationships and just want to have their brains fucked out and probably already have aids from being indiscriminate cum dumpsters with low to no standards and a death wish.
On the other end of the spectrum :
Would not date below 23. I don't know. I have no plans of opening up a kindergarten, so… The more I get older, the more I find the idea of dating people much younger than me borderline repulsive or revolting.
The outside is nice, but meh… the inside usually tends to be hollow. Superfacial tastes, dumb as chickens, edgy af.
Yah, no thx.
No.254799
Bumping this thread for advice. Next week I have a date with a guy I met. I really like him and we have been texting back and forth. I am a 20 year old 6'3 super hairy mountain man from deep TN. He is total cuteboy material but here is the deal. He is about a year older than me. 21 almost to the day. I have never gone out with anyone that I am not older than. Thinking about it there is nothing about this that should bother me. I think he is really cute and he is super submissive but I just can't get over it. Tell me /cuteboys/ am I being a stick in the mud?
No.254805
>>254799
a year difference is not that big of a deal. your personalities will be a larger factor then the age difference. good luck tho.
No.254810
I'm 29 and my husband is 22, but we've been together since he was 16. Some people think the gap is a little odd but we're a perfect imo.
Don't know if that just means I'm immature though *shrugs*
No.254811
Relieved I'm not the only 29-year-old here.
No.254874
>>254811
32.
Get on my Daddy lvl.
>>205940
This guy gets it. The issue is largely social. Forget the formula. The 1st test is if you can imagine the rship working on a deserted island.
No.255001
>>204675
5 years is pushing it for me.
No.255023
>>254799
>am I being a stick in the mud?
Yes, there are a lot of couples that have the smaller person being older than the larger person. Plus, it's only a one year difference in your case.
>>254810
It means that your story is adorable as fuck, it's heartwarming.
No.256431
>>254874
3 years is just around the corner.
>tfw you like 'em older but internet is getting younger
No.256444
>>254799
>1 year age difference
Anon, I'm working with a 10-year age difference.
Sure, in my case, the big spoon is the older one but who cares? As long as you're both legal, stop caring what "society" thinks.
No.256454
23 y/o trans bottom myself. I get what you're saying about cultural likes. But I don't mind it as much when the other person has "older" cultural likes. I'd probably go like at most 3 years below and up to like 25 years above.
No.256540
>>256431
yup, those three years may fly by. We're both past the age where everything feels longer and meaninful simply due to novelty. It's like living in a compression algorithm.
I wonder if the internet is getting younger. A lot of guys 30+ don't post for whatever reason. The frustration with belligerently naive boys does get harder to manage. I like a challenge. How old do like 'em?
No.256563
>>256431
Bad news: internet isn't getting younger, the newfags just keep getting replaced and you keep getting older.
>>256540
There's a myriad of reasons for guys 30+ to stop posting:
>Older guys could have missed the whole imageboard thing, or left it behind when 4chan started sinking.
>You probably outgrow certain imageboards eventually anyway. Memes and shitposting probably gets dull in your late 20s.
>You get less insecure and naive with age, and that means actual relationships and a lower desire to attention-seek.
>Posting your nudes on the internet is more of a dumb, younger guy thing. That's why amateur twinks are dime-a-dozen while amateur daddy and bear stuff is harder to come by. Older guys tend to be wiser than whoring themselves for a little praise.
>They do post frequently, just they're indistiguishable. Only reason you can't tell is because they don't do lewds because that shit isn't too popular on boards like this one.
I'm only mid-twenties and I already feel ancient around some boards. Hell, my oldest brother is early 30s and he only recently discovered imageboards because he wasn't an autistic shut-in like me. Point being: internet isn't getting younger, just people seem to outgrow it.
No.256566
>>256563
>Point being: internet isn't getting younger, just people seem to outgrow it.
Are you implying that I - a 32 year old man - am posting here because I have some kind of maturity issue? A Peter Pan syndrome?
Sir, that simply does not square at all with my desire to fuck a nubile femboy wearing a Pikachu onesie. Not one bit.
…Boulderdash I say!
No.256579
>>256566
>Are you implying that I - a 32 year old man - am posting here because I have some kind of maturity issue?
You probably remember the internet back before there were memes. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, but yes, I'm saying you're old.
>Sir, that simply does not square at all with my desire to fuck a nubile femboy wearing a Pikachu onesie. Not one bit.
Here's some perspective: most of the twinks around here won't remember dial-up internet. Here's another: I was part of the first Pokemon generation when I was eight, and now I'm nearly twenty-four. The reason oldfags aren't really present around here is because people grab their pitchfork for me sometimes, and you've only got nine years on me.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a relationship with someone over a decade younger than you and the whole "0.5x+7" thing works fine, but I'm just saying that older guys probably don't post here simply for the vast culture differences. Some of us come here simply because there's no other (non-4chan) gay communities and cause dying alone is unpleasant when you're a shut-in, but it means blending in a little to avoid the vitriol. I miss /hm/ back on halfchan, I wish it hadn't went to cancer like the rest of that place.
Still, I laughed at the balderdash thing. 8/10 for effort.
No.256585
>>256579
Hah, yeah I dig what you're layin' down fellow oldtimer. No real argument here. I doubt if a 22 year old would fit me, but I had to make the joke and dare to dream. The vitriol struggle is real though. I hear things will be brighter when turn 40. That's when we become daddy fetish material. Not sure I've ever fallen in to a porn fetish category before. So that's exciting.
How's your not-dying-alone-as-a-shut-in effort going so far? Found any potential pair bonds or just boners?
No.256597
>>256585
> I doubt if a 22 year old would fit me, but I had to make the joke and dare to dream.
Nothing wrong with dreaming though. There's plenty of twinks out there with father issues that need hugging out, but as noted by others too: it might be difficult finding common interest unless at least one of you has broad tastes.
>The vitriol struggle is real though.
Damn right. I've tried making friends with some twinks before only to get pic related type responses. Some of the whippersnappers are alright and cool people, but holy shit are there some egotists floating around this site who act like their shit don't stink.
>I hear things will be brighter when turn 40.
>Not sure I've ever fallen in to a porn fetish category before.
I know the pain. I couldn't cut it as a twink here and I figured I missed my window once I left my teens, so I've been trying to masc up and get like a bear. Now some are telling me I'm not hairy or manly or chubby enough to cut it as a bear, and it's frustrating to say the least. I'm trapped in faggot limbo here.
>How's your not-dying-alone-as-a-shut-in effort going so far?
Gave up on twinks aboout a year ago and started looking for more masc guys around my age. Even went on a date once but he turned out a little fucked in the head, now I've found another awesome 20s guy and I'm trying some LDR stuff. Like I said, nothing wrong with dreaming of twinks, but you'll probably find better payoff trying things with non-teen guys. You had any luck on the "not dying alone" front? Or are twinks as tough and tedious as I remember?
No.256622
>>256597
>that comic
So the moral is, if you're the fucking punisher and/or max payne and/or wolverine you'll get shitty dates?
No.256623
I'm 20, and am planning to start meeting up with 40+ years olds soon.
Maximum age for me is 70.
No.256625
>>256623
I hate people my age, and am in need of affection from someone who is old enough to be my daddy.
No.256635
No.256637
The age gap doesn't apply to gay people
No.256670
>>256540
Around my current age, or older. I'd rather not live through the same coming-of-age experiences twice, even if only vicariously.
No.256702
>>256625
Thats my problem too. I'm 21 now and have been in a relationship with a 32 year old last year. Now my only goal is to reunite this.
It felt odd at first but when we met I didn't mind it anymore. I don't want any other person than him.
No.256792
>>204675
18 and currently really liking someone who's 26. I feel like he's more weirded out by the age gap than I am, which I understand.
No.257108
>>256597
>>256597
>You had any luck on the "not dying alone" front? Or are twinks as tough and tedious as I remember?
No love yet. I could be trying harder and with a refined strategy. I have found friction with egotistical twinks, but not all fall in that trap. They have to deal with social pressures I can only attempt to understand as a masc bi broh. Much of it is affective armor and a want to belong to a culture.
The main obstacle always boils down to fear. Everyone is afraid of vulnerability. There's a lot of "mind reading" and "fortune telling" of bad outcomes amongst the shy boys. This isn't a gay problem exculsively of course. On image boards, the pretty guys who do share pics are likely looking for attention and praise, but those who seek fame are the least able to cope with the crowd. It leads to a lot of mercurial resentment and stonewalling. As we get older it becomes clear that not giving a shit and taking chances is the only way to live a Full life without regret. This realization may be the biggest gap between stonewalling. I wish I could like older masc guys, but I'm happy you get to enjoy them at least.
>>256670
I understand that. It can be tedious. Honestly though, I think I want that because I see an opportunity to be the mentor/father I never had. Men want to feel needed anyway, but that's a lot to take on I know. I won't pull the psycho analysis strings on that just now. It's just how I feel.
No.257116
>>257108
*biggest gap between young & old.
No.257240
>>257108
>I understand that. It can be tedious. Honestly though, I think I want that because I see an opportunity to be the mentor/father I never had. Men want to feel needed anyway, but that's a lot to take on I know. I won't pull the psycho analysis strings on that just now. It's just how I feel.
I respect that a lot. Being the leader is a lot of pressure, anne frankly I don't think I'm cut out for that role. I'm support class, and I would like to find somebody that would appreciate it.
No.257310
>>257240
Gotta know yer role. Good for you.
Support classes are just as important in life as in MMOs. Posssssibly even slightly more.
>
So do we all think the same rules apply to trans/traps/genderwhatever as gay dating?