>>236097
You mean that it's hard to tell what theyre after? Yeah it can be, but logically, if they want someone to top them and dont want a non-trans cuteboy, isn't it sort of conflicting?
Its fine finding trans people attracting, it's just when some people fetishize them and find them attracting only because theyre trans. ie: if they didnt know they were trans, they wouldnt find that exact same person attactive.
Now, i can come up with an example of the same idea but not being bad. If they're more attracted to someone for being trans because being trans makes them more likely to:
-know them feels
-know suffering even if its not the same as their own
-be open minded
-similar things, or not-similar but nice things, however to word it
then it's cool.
There are probably other motives/whatever that are cool too, it's just, you know, as long as it isnt a list like this:
-can totally give me a dicking without it being gay
-finally fulfill muh sheemayle fantasee
Basically i think a lot of it can be be summed up like so: if they want a trans person, and are very, focused-like particularly about their dick and them using it, it really sort of conflicts with the idea of themselves that the trans girl has in a lot of cases. thinking about this example it just sound very conflicting to me
Like, if they wouldnt do a trans person who had magically been turned into a biological girl chromosomes and all, but had the same mind, then i really cant think of any excuse for them not being kind of huge pricks, but i may be wrong and have missed or not thought of something.
All this isn't to say we cant have fetishes like feminizing and sticking our dicks in people in some cases, it's just that those ideas are completely different from the ones of that particular type of "muh shemales" or similar chasers, a lot of who probably don't even realize that pretty much all trans girls want to be girls, and not a shemale that can top them for their (sometimes insecurity based) fantasies.
Although even some trans people can be ass-backwards and dicks and have backwards self-contradicting views, thankfully a lot of the ones who are like that seem to be tumblr snowflakes.
But yeah, definitely always make sure to let them know what kind you are if you are coming in from a chaser angle. But be honest too, personally i would find it oddly heartwarming if i was told someone felt closer to me because i know some of them feels.
(heres hoping the "muh shemales" chasers dont see this and use it as some sort of manipulation)
oh and sorry for wall of text im pretty bad at condensing specific ideas like this into shorter posts, but i hope it at least helped answer the question.