/cuteboys/ - Boypussy

>>228988

Keep calm and carry on. And by carry on I mean don't pester him anymore, let him decide when to chat or meet next. You have to remain in control of your emotions.

>>228989

This has happened with like 6 different guys now. When they don't contact me I start thinking they're seeing someone else or they're bored of me. So I contact them and they give one sentence replies hours later.

They make me feel attractive and wanted and then they pretty much blank me. Then I get clingy and whether they were attracted to me or not at this point now they're just freaked out so they tell me to fuck off.

>>228990

You can cling to me anon, I'm a big strong american white man so I can handle it.

>>229006

It's all I want anon.

To wait hand and foot on my bf, to hug him when he gets home and dote on him, to cuddle him in the evening and pleasure him at night.

>>228990

>Meet new guy and hit it off

What does this mean exactly? Did you just exchange numbers ? Did you date for a while?

Anyways.

I think it might have to do with maybe the rate of clingy-ness and how long until you meet up.

Like if someone I barely knew got all attached after maybe blow job at a party and kept that up in text messages for weeks on end without any chance of fucking in the foreseeable future I would leave too.

Its awkward and it puts a weird pressure on the guy, it might even get in the way of his life with people that exist outside of emails.

>To wait hand and foot on my bf, to hug him when he gets home and dote on him, to cuddle him in the evening and pleasure him at night.

How is he supposed to know you're just desperate and have a fetish for loveydoveyness, instead of being insane.

Cmon anon. Just be chill, other people have a life too. When you feel the urge to pester them just hug a pillow and remember they'll message you back eventually.

>>228988

I will let you cling to me anon, it would honestly be a good change of pace.

>>229010

I lie in bed and sob gently waiting for them to respond. I can't help but think terrible things like "they don't want me", "they're bored of me", "they're seeing someone else". I'm a jealous person by nature and at the first hint of rejection, real or imagined, I just blow up. It's like a defense mechanism.

>>229013

Easy for you to say, you already have a bf.

>>229015

I realise this might not be the same thing, but I once had a girlfriend who was very similar to you.

Basically, she was completely obsessed with getting attention and affection from me, and pretty much anybody she could get to be around her. She'd keep me up for hours into the dead of night, when really I'd have to go to school the next day. She never had anything worthwhile to say, and when she texted me it was usually some vapid shit like "Mrow" or "I love you.", and it got FUCKING INFURIATING.

Now, her problem was much the same as yours. She had abandonment-issues and she was deathly afraid that I'd stop loving her - which is ironic, as her constant doting was the exact reason I stopped loving her.

I know that you want affection, and you're afraid that people will stop talking to you, but believe me when I say that it doesn't matter. Even the most patient person in the world will get tired of overly clingy people eventually. It makes them feel bad, it stresses them out and makes them tired/annoyed.

So try to control yourself. Something I tend to do when I have somebody I really like talking to, and I feel that I'm being too clingy; I try to have a point with sending the message. Wether it's a personal question or something that you feel that you actually need to know. Look at the question and ask yourself "Is this important?". If it's not, scrap it and wait for another question to come to mind. In the meantime, the person you want to talk to might come to you.

>>228990

You can get all clingy on me, I'm lonley and In need of cuddles and lewdness.. + were both in the UK~

>>228988

>>229050

are either of you on the map?

>>229137

No, all the guys near me wanted hairless skellingtons so I didn't bother.

>>229144

I would pop myself up on map but I don't want to be the only cuteboy in Cumbria

plus im not even cute anyway

Do you at least have an idea why they are responding so little?

>>229146

Because they're normal people with normal lives, lots of friends and shit and they don't notice the time flying by wheras I'm a pathetic loner who gets all tingly inside when I see a new message.

>>229149

the feels, they're many

>>229149

Oh man, I get how you feel ;_; You'll find somebody, anon.

>>228988

My last BF being super-cling was one of the reasons I had to end things last time around. >>228989 speaks truth, at least from my point of view.

The cling can be endearing for a little while, but after a certain period of time, my expectation is that I should be trusted enough to get back in contact with you on my own.

IDK how far any of your relationships have gotten, OP, but I might recommend setting some limits so that the guys you go after have some room to breathe, while you don't feel totally abandoned.

By that, I mean if you get to the point where you and another guy are dating, agree on one day a week where you promise to talk to each other. Then limit or don't send any emails or texts outside of that window.

If he's really interested, he'll be texting you outside of that window, as well, and you can both pick up the pace of communication a bit.

Something along those lines.

>>229036

I had a similar situation happen to me

>>229079

Would not, I would be flattered by all his attention and love him back for it, fuck you cat :c