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>what size is the best for beginners?
Normal sized, like around 6in/16cm, and shaped like a penis.
If it's too big, use your fingers until your bum gets used to taking things in. Also clip your fingernails if they are long and file them if they are pointed.
It's better to get a normal sized toy because small toys are boring/useless once you have practice, and big toys run the risk of you hurting yourself if you go too far.
>also any other tips?
Take things very slowly.
Don't expect to take the whole toy on the first session.
Use lots and lots and lots of lube.
If you see a little bit of blood on your fingers or the toy, stop. It means you're doing damage, so quit the session, and either try again very carefully in a few hours, or start again in a few days.
Poop a few hours before. Then use a douche/showerhead/bottle to fill your bum with water. After holding it for a few minutes (or as long as you can) poop the water into the toilet, and do it again until the water comes out clear. Wait another 20 minutes and try to poop again to get rid of any left over water that might be stuck in your bum.
>what lube should i buy,how much?
Don't buy the expensive or cheap stuff, find a happy medium.
Get water-based or hybrid lubricant, it dries up faster than silicone lubricant but that can be avoided by using more.
You don't need the greasy or long-lasting lubricants unless you are going to fist yourself, so don't waste your money because fisting is really advanced buttplay.
DO NOT USE SILICONE LUBRICANT ON SILICONE TOYS, it will damage the toy (and a chemical reaction in your insides can't be good).
Recommend "Gun Oil" lubricant, it isn't too expensive, comes in small bottles, is safe for toys, doesn't dry too fast, and the label peels off to show how much you have left.
>do i need condoms too?
No, you're wasting money with condoms on toys. Unless the toy is penis shaped it will probably tear anyway and get in the way, and cleaning toys is easy cause you just need to wash thoroughly with hot water and soap, or buy a disinfecting toy cleaner.
>i heard they are also lubed…
Lubed condoms are for vaginal sex. Anal sex and play always needs lots of extra lubricant to prevent tearing, and you aren't going to find the amount you need in a condom packet.
Also, sorry for the TLDR. Just buy a normal sized dildo and a good water-based lube, take your time, and have fun.