Okay let me see if I can't help you out here, fellow tranny with some degree of knowledge here. I went from some messed up shit to something coming close to cute and will be cute by start of summer so my advice is fairly decent.
Here's what I want you to do:
>Get on hrt. There is NOTHING better than hrt for transitioning, it's the treatment.
>Start losing weight, I want you to get nice and thin over the course of 3-6 months. Get close to underweight but stay healthy.
>3-6 months into your hrt start gaining weight by eating healthy foods: proteins and fats rather than carbs and sugars for example.
>Additionally start exercising throughout this whole period:
3x12 squats, 3x25 kickbacks, 3x25 lunges, 3x25 side lunges, 3x25 hip abductions, 3x25 glute raises.
So that's going to take care of your frame and get you as feminine as possible. Already I see you have decent hips so you should be good! Skin wise:
>Hrt will soften your skin and clear you complexion. That said, why settle?
>Get a loofah and learn to use it right, exfoliating is important. Change it 1-2 months out.
>Take fish oil and vitamin C supplements
>Your weight gain and loss might result in stretch marks if you're super unlucky, if it does no worries slap some bio oil and cocoa butter on those suckers. Worked great for me.
You're also concerned about your hair right? There's no need to dye it, women have their hair in all sorts of colors. None is more intrinsically trappier than the other. Black hair is qt though. That said some tips:
>Wash your hair in cold water
>Wash as few times as you can, washing your hair isn't actually all the great for it and strips it of oils
>No more shampoo. It might look a little worse at first but your follicles will thank us later.
>Condition your hair every so often (I go for once a week but I have very curly hair) and when you do make sure it has no sulfates in it.
>Your body hair will be reduced by hrt but not permanently. For that you want laser hair removal
>To remove your hair for peace of mind you can use Veet just fine. Exfoliate before and after using it. Use a sugar scrub after for extra smooth skin.
I hope this stuff helps you like it did me.