/cuteboys/ - Boypussy

I mean while /lgbt/ on 4chan is obsessed with mones, asking those kind of questions here is just asking for shitposting. While there is some people that do take hormones on this board, I don't think they're outright transitioning and more kind of lost in some sort of dysphoric middle ground.

Only advice I can give is to take anything you hear about the topic with a grain of salt and do a lot of self reflection.

>>245457

See, to me "lost in a dysphoric middleground" seems instantly way more preferable than being a non passing girl. I want to take hormones for the physique more than anything. I could give a fuck about others seeing me as female. Only on trans boards, it's almost heresy to see any kind of middleground when it comes to HRT.

>>245452

I don't think transitioning is a very good idea. It's biologically impossible to change sex, we can never really be girls no matter what we do. In the end you would just be deluding yourself, even if you "pass" (and I'm afraid the majority of mtf trans people don't pass).

The way I see the liberals use people with gender dysphoria to promote their political agenda. They don't really care if hormones are dangerous, or if someone can regret having a sex-change surgery. That's why they don't accept other opinions.

If I were you I would try to accept myself as a male. It doesn't mean you can't be more feminine or use female clothes, but after all you are who you are.

>>245464

It's not really a clothes thing tbh. It's a body and face and mind thing. It's not really about the risks either, i can know them all. It's not about passing. It's about being happy i guess. Trying to accept myself as male hasnt really worked so far. Female clothes make me feel shitty since i'm not feminine enough to make them look good ( i have the potential at least). I know i can never really be a girl, but i can get closer than i am. It's not exactly a delusion if i'm fully aware of what i am.

I agree with you that trans is a new "civil rights flagship" for the left. It's true, and it's kinda fucking gross at both ends of the circus. But to be honest, i absolutely despise politics. I'd never join in on any "civil rights for trans" because the circus is just as bad far left as it is far right. It's just a happiness thing and i'm scared i'm being trapped by some cultish shit into something i didnt understand fully/had skewed ideas about.

>>245458

/lgbt/'s femgen threads might be up your alley then but I can't guarantee that they're exactly a super positive influence. I stopped lurking there due to the massive HRT peer pressure since I value having a functional peen.

>hormones

That's great if you want to inject yourself with stuff that science is still pretty iffy about the long term effects of and if you change your mind you're stuck being a freak of nature forever.

>>245508

I'm pretty sure i'm already a freak of nature.

>>245521

I was curious about this as well because I also saw a lot of people being directed to surgery when, in my opinion, it's like cutting off the arm that you think has bugs on it. As far as I was told, transitioning isn't as common as all that with the silent majority. A lot of the therapy (be it legit or just navel gazing with friends) seems to center around liking yourself for who you are (which I happen to agree with, actually.)

I'm a 360 pound bear of a cripple who can never hold down a job because harsh smells and noises can knock me out. I'm married to a wonderful woman and I like a wide variety of pornography that I'm honest about (the gamut from tomboyish girls to cuteboys to shemales to the occasional furry.) I enjoy cooking, psychology, sociology, history, video games of a strategic nature, and various musics.

In short, I am a well rounded person with good parts, bad parts, perverted parts, and just plain broken parts and I'm fine with most of it. The parts I'm not fine with (my weight for example,) I work to fix.

Can't you do that? Who are you, OP?

>>245532

Thank you!!! this is some of the most legitimate advice i've recieved on the subject. In truth i was set to arrive at the same conclusion in my life up until "coming out" to my mom. Had i never told someone and seen how un-scary it can be i'd probably arrive where you are. It's how i lived most of my life i guess. But i never i guess really thought transitioning was a possible thing. Now that i have an ally, and the reality of the possibility is from a spark to a flame i really dont know if i can make myself not? It sucks coming on here asking for advice with a seemingly already made up mind. But i assure you it was not made up. Weirdly your reply made me more certain than i've ever been.

If i think about myself i'm perfectly happy with the way i am, but in my mind. The yearning to go through with it IS a part of me. Does it make sense to accept that? Like i have good parts and bad parts. I feel like this is just a reality of that ball of tangled wires that i cannot really ignore.

>>245541

If you want to be a chick, be a chick. If you want to be a crossdressing dude, be a crossdressing dude. Some people don't like the idea of irrevocably changing themselves. Some people hate themselves so much that they feel like they have to. It's your body. It's your life.

In short, I wouldn't do the surgery or transition. I wouldn't recommend it to other people. I won't stop anyone from doing it because it's their body and their mind.

Glad I was able to help.

>>245545

Forums and friendships do much more than therapy ever will (and I say this as a psychology nut.) There's an inherent flaw with asking a single person for advice no matter how well learned they might be.

View a problem from all perspectives. You'll often see things you might have missed otherwise. Also, you'll save some scratch. Those therapists are expensive.

>>245549

Yes this is extremely multifaceted, for sure. Reason i'm asking here is because overwhelmingly it seems, those who have transitioned report very little regret and immensely elevated levels of happiness. (about their decision, their lives still may suck) It was raising some red flags at just how many people turned out to not regret it at all. Maybe i'm being cynical to a fault, but i'm just here to get some opinions that aren't whirling around in the trans world.

>>245549

Well the funny thing is I'm in this group and after a while I learned a lot of them are trans themselves (and they've all started or finished transitioning). They all seem pretty happy about it, and before I met them I'd always thought to myself, "I'm girly as hell but I'm not a woman" despite recurring dickgirl fantasies and the like.

And anytime I'm feeling confused I ask them for advice and they seem pretty clear that transitioning was the best thing for them.

>>245551

>>245552

"What works for one of you might not work for the person next to you. We're all… snowflakes." ~Lewis Black

Just because it made them happy doesn't mean it'll make you happy. There are a lot of people out there who've transitioned and hated it because, and I can't stress this enough, it is a huge thing to do to your body and doing something that major does have repercussions down the line. If you want to roll those dice, go for it but all I ask is not to do it frivolously.

You can't get a divorce from this chick, dig?

>>245452

Spend some time away from trans boards and from online info about trans. In the meantime, if you have the money order some hormones. Don't browse anything related to trans stuff in the meantime, in fact maybe limit your time on the computer in general until the hormones arrive. Then when they arrive you will have a clear head and can decide what you want to do.

I'm trans myself, I wasn't sure if I wanted to actually transition but I ordered HRT just so I had the option, and as soon as I got them I just started . That strategy with ordering before deciding worked for me so far, but of course I can't really make any bold claims about it. Good luck!

I did something similar to (>>245566). I broke down one night after coming home from drinking and then spent the next month gathering information and questioning the whole thing. But once I disconnected myself for a week so I could clear my head and make a decision, I realised that it really wasn't for me.

The whole pressure from 'you have transition or you'll regret it', 'you should transition as soon as possible' and 'If you're having doubts, you're probably trans' is really dangerous in my opinion and often misleads individuals who do have their doubts and reservations. It's been over two years now since I broke down and I haven't looked back or regretted it once.

Nobody can give you an answer, you have to find it yourself and whilst it might not be easy, in my opinion it's the only way.

>>245452

The transgender community just like most community has been infected with SJWs That's why they are so crazy now.

>>245452

1st question: yes, it's been conquered by ideological zealots and flimflam artists using the trans condition for selfish gain.

You must ask yourself what your strategic objective is and stick to it. Don't get lost in the weeds. So long as you're informed of risk, the rest is opinion.

This is one of those times when academic deconstruction is actually practical. Ask yourself what you want while cutting through cultural norms no matter which side they're on or how deep. Do this alone without worrying what people say.

There was a video from a pretty well known trap/trans girl saying she was a boy and didn't suffer a delusion otherwise. She prefered female pronouns and wanted to be pretty & girly. She was blonde, and Irish I think. Very pretty. Can't remember name. But basically she did all the "transition" stuff besides surgery and said heresy. But she became a beautiful girly boy-girl-ladyboy and it worked for her. Most cultures dealt with such things in a similar way before politics and pathology took over our cuture. Anyway…

Ignore objective reality or don't. So long as you achieve your objective. I'd prefer to be happy rather than right, wherever that leads. Wouldn't you?

>>245779

>girl saying she was a boy

>didn't suffer a delusion otherwise

That's like saying I eat McDonalds everyday but don't eat unhealthily otherwise.

They are cultish. They are afraid they've made a mistake so they get into online message boards and tell everyone else to do what they've done so they don't feel they've made a mistake. Changing your body's chemistry like this is a huge deal, it can't be reversed, either.

Not all trans people are like this, but ask yourself why people would be on a message board telling everyone who comes across to transition, after they already transitioned.

Leave those communities for a bit, and clear your head. I would also suggest doing something that really turns you off and see if you still feel like transitioning. If you feel like you're a woman and you killed off the sexual portion of it, then you might want to consider it. But I'd only consider it under those circumstances.

You can listen to advice people give you but in the end it's a decision you need to make ignoring everyone else. It really comes down to something simple like,

Do you want to be a girl?

Do you want to be one enough that you're willing to go through transition?

Do you NEED to be a girl?

How do you feel as a guy?

I spent a lot of time in /trans help general/ while I was questioning and while there wasn't cultish I don't doubt elsewhere was. You should do your own research and try to inform yourself as much as you can. Don't let your decision to transition be purely based on other people telling you to.

Recommending HRT isn't entirely terrible, because it would probably filter out cisgendered people pretty fast. As a side note, cis isn't an insult of some sort, it's just kinda hugboxy in that by using it you're suggesting you don't have to be cis to be normal instead of implying trans people aren't normal by calling cis people normal people. anyway back to what I'm saying. I lost dick functionality pretty fast when I started and if you're just some dude you're probably not gonna be okay with that and ideally you'd stop.

The cultish push to transition comes from repression. A lot of trans people would repress their feelings for a long time and then regret that they didn't transition earlier in life. They may be pushing someone to transition because of their own experience, or how common it is to repress for a long time. They don't want you to end up waiting too long when it probably is that you're trans. Is that wrong? Of course. They're not professionals however, so that's to be expected. But even professionals fuck up so be careful.

Ultimately as with any community you'll get some cultish people and some reasonable people. Even /cuteboys/ is kind of cultish. You need to filter everything people say to you out until you can decide if this tough road is worth it for you. Don't worry about it being a fetish, pretty sure you'd know if that's all it was. Transition is a lot of hard work and faith in yourself that this is the right thing for you. That's gotta come from you, nobody else can do the work for you or tell you if you're trans or not.

Also be careful about /cuteboys/ if you do decide to transition, they'll hate you if you can't tell.

>>246100

I won't hate him. I don't even know him. I was just giving him the advice I'd give anyone going through this.

>>246111

Maybe not you but many people are pretty vocal about their hate of transgirls here. There was that whole "Decline of /cuteboys/' thread that used them as a scapegoat. There was another thread where someone asked what the board things of them and it was overwhelming hate. I don't even know which posts are yours so I have no reason to say you hate him because of what you posted. I'm just saying that in general he/she isn't going to be very welcome anymore.

every community within the LGBTWTFBBQ "community" is cultish.

>>245452

Almost all trannies are suffering and just want others to suffer with them so they can feel like their retarded decision to cut their dicks off was a good one.

>>245545

>mfw weird middleground dysphoria

>mfw I present as female online but live 100% male IRL

Sounds just like fetishism tbh

>>247074

that is some next-level degeneracy tbh

>>246112

>used them as a scapegoat

Talking about a real issue isn't "using them as a scapegoat"

Trannies and HRT-Faggots are cancer.

>>247146

It's porn, so they likely have undergone a lot of disease testing. You'd be kicked out of a porn shoot if you had any disease.

Trans woman here, ignore them and go through proper channels. Tell the truth to them and it will work out.

I'm in the dysphoric middleground.

I've been on hormones for a few months, but I plan on just living as a man unless I somehow end up being able to pass 100%. As much as I want to be female, I'd rather just be a somewhat effeminate guy than a disgusting man in a dress.

Going on blockers will kill your sex drive and make it obvious if its just a fetish, but just questioning doesn't make you trans. You should avoid any kind of trans groups/boards for a little while (they really are pretty cultish) and see if you still want to transition.

>>245452

>I'm not 100% sure it's not purely fetish

Well I've got new for you : it is purely fetish. Stop thinking whatever it is you're thinking immediately and go back to accepting who you actually are and making the most of it, like people have been doing for the thousands of years of human history. It isn't the best, but it's a hell of a lot better than trying to convince yourself that you're something you can never actually be due to psychological problems.

I advise you to do everything except surgery for a while and see how you feel. There's plenty of lady boys happy with a penis and If you change your mind, well you didn't lose your dick.