>>253374
I'm a bit faded so please excuse me for the word salad
I know exactly how you feel. I know a few relatively cool gay guys, I can work and do group activities with them, but like you I just don't click with any of them on a friendship level. They take some part in the gay scene and I just can't wrap my head around why that stuff is so appealing. We respect each other but when I tell them I don't like that pride stuff they call me a no fun kill joy or grumpy old man.
On either sides of the homo spectrum there are people like us who happen to be average guys and not associate with the "gay community", and then there are the basic gaybois who love clubbing, hooking up, listening to top 10 pop and belong to an all-female bad bitch posse. And at our age, late teens and early 20s, there seem to be so many of the latter guys that it feels discouraging not being able to find a gay male that acts like you and me. I wouldn't say they annoy me or make me cringe, but all I can say is "nah, you an alright person but I still won't fuck with you". All we can hope for is that as time goes on, more guys grow up and drop their scene attitudes. In dating, being 27 with more mature options is better than being 20 with a bunch of faggy options. In the mean time I'll just keep crushing on too-good-to-be-true straight guys like I always do.
Like you I honestly cannot imagine finding another gay guy who I can really click with, like I do with my regular straight friends, while he also clicks with me. It's crazy to me. In terms of dating, the best bet for me right now is probably to find a cool bisexual guy. In my experiences at least, bi guys tend to be way more chill, level headed and loving, and they really love little twinky boys like me. Many gays on the other hand just seem more uptight, unstable and don't seem as caring to me. I know there are many many great gay guys out there, as evident from the anons on this board, but I've seen much more shitty qualities in gays than in bi guys irl outside of chans.
Btw why can't you form relationships with women? Not judging but just curious.