>What do you look for in a partner?
Passion and motivation to provide a wholly unique contribution to the world. None of that self-help kitschy nonsense that everyone can be a success if they try hard, either. I mean: whatever it is you do in life, you're the best in the fucking world at it, or are striving toward that and have a method to do so. There is no trait that infuriates me in others more than "settling" for an easy life, a simple existence, a "work eight hours at a job you hate and are merely competent at, go home, drink beer and watch sports; rinse and repeat until retirement" kind of life. Someone who has no ambition for becoming greater (and not merely "richer") does not interest me.
What I'm looking for is someone who believes a "legacy" is something far greater and far more enduring than just the spawn of successful fucking. Someone, like me, who works to create, knowing the entire time: "I am the only one who can and/or will do this". It doesn't have to be an amazing world-changing paradigm, a grand invention, a sweeping social change. But it has to be personal, and they have to give a shit. That's the minimum. The world is too full of boring, vapid people who are content to be small and meaningless, and both live and die with all the importance of a wet fart.
When I ask someone what they do, I don't care about their job. I don't care which giant capitalist treadmill they're running on to make rent; that's like asking what kind of toilet they piss in or which grocery they shop at. What I'm concerned with is what they DO — what their meaning and purpose is, what they're made of; I want to know what kind of permanent mark they're going to leave behind, not what kind of trash pile.
>Masc or fem?
If only given those choices, I'll go with masculine, but really I prefer "boyish". It's hard to define, and only partially a physical aspect. A wrinkled sixty-year-old can be boyish, in a fashion. Stoic and grim (or worse: smug) Western machismo is almost as disgusting to me as stereotypical women's behavior.
But for the physical, the body type would be trimmed and athletic. Not girly (which is basically just "fat in the 'right' places") and not muscular. I want a firm body, not a soft or hard one.
>Tall or short?
Preferably slightly shorter than I am. Somewhere between 5'4" and 5'8" is fine.
>(If masc) Body hair or no?
No body hair would be best. Trimmed short (like less than a half-inch) would be the minimum acceptable, especially around the genitals. I don't want his fucking ballsack looking like he painted it with glue and then rubbed it on the floor of a hairstylist's.
Something creative, something made with the hands, is ideal. Sports bore me; games that don't have a heavy creative or strategic element bore me; most TV and movies bore me. In short, it should be something productive, not consumptive. I understand that it's difficult to have a productive hobby alongside a productive job (the brain tends to classify both as "work" and not recreation) but so long as he does SOMETHING that's not "sitting on his ass with his eyes glazed over", that's fine.
That said, I love nature and the outdoors; but I'm a miserly shut-in, so rarely do anything. So, someone that likes to go camping and hiking and stuff would be nice. Then they can drag me out as well, where much to my chagrin I'll end up enjoying myself.
>Monogamous or casual relationship?
I'm incapable of enjoying sex outside a committed relationship, so unless it's purely platonic, it has to be monogamous. I'm looking for a partner to stand beside me as an equal; if I wanted a quick and meaningless fuck, I'd get a dog.
>Is penis size important to you and, if so, what's your ideal size?
So long as it's around average, I don't really care. Between 5" and 7" in length, and as girthy as possible is best. He does have to be uncircumcised, however. I don't ever want to have to deal with that, or be reminded it exists.
Note: I'm not always this much of a cynical jerk. Just most of the time. Very few people see any other side of me than a human-shaped mask, and none yet have seen who I really am.