No.49093
Has anyone ever fallen in love with a frequent /erp/ partner? I've been come infatuated with one for the first time and its making me feel such complicated emotions. If I confess and he's not into me like that will that ruin our ERP forever? will he not wanna be my friend anymore? Anyone that has had similar experiences please share
No.49095
You even said it yourself. It's not love, it's infatuation. Infatuation is tough to deal with, I know because I've been through it. But in the end, I knew I wasn't in live with the person, I was in love with the attention they gave me. I think you just need to take a step back and look at the whole situation. Do you like RPing with this person? Are you willing to push them away even though you might already have a good thing going on? There are never right answers for this kind of stuff. There are only decisions. Whether those decisions have a net positive or a net negative is something that you have to evaluate for yourself. I prefer a pragmatic approach to these kinds of situation, and I can only offer my own opinions and my prior experience, so take it with a grain of salt, but I think you really need to find out if it's love. Because I know that, at least for me, when I looked at the situation, it wasn't love, and that made the decision pretty clear for me.
Also, a thing to keep in mind is that, in the end, erp is still roleplay. You're playing a character, your partner is playing a character. Are you in love with them, or are you just in love with their character? Because the character is fictional, they are not. Falling in love with something that is fictional is only going to lead to further problems, and eventual dissapointment. Blurring the lines between your real self, and the role you play is why situations like these crop up, and why a lot of people prefer a distinct separation between themselves and the fictional persona that they create.
No.49100
There is one character I've fallen hard for, and their player is so fucking good, which is a rarity on F-List
But have I actually fallen for the player? Whom I've never met and only smalltalk OOC with? Not really
I'm a bit confused. Are you in love with their play and the character, or the person themselves?
No.49101
No, but I have had people become infatuated with me. Over two dozen at last count. All of them are still that way as far as I know, and it's kind of nice knowing that I'm loved. That said, I really wish that I wouldn't get so bombarded with IMs every time I log on.
No.49104
Not in the romantic sense, no. But there's at least two people who I love in the "really, really good friend" sense.
But in this case, ask yourself if you're really in love with them, or with the character, or you're just getting warm fuzzies from the typefucking.
No.49230
>>49101
That is literally all I ever wanted. How did you do that? Just a lot of erping or what?
No.49231
>>49230
not him but when it comes to online its really easy to infatuate people with you. I personally have an adjustive personally which ends up working quite well in ERP situations so I find out their fetishes, what they like, etc etc and I become what I imagine is their dream character. I'm also an asshole because I'm mostly just amused by how easy it is to play with people
No.49232
>>49231
ERP related people seem more and more sociopathic the more I get to know them
No.49233
>>49231
Same here. Actually I have such thing not only in ERP.
I have few steam friends like that.
No.49234
>>49233
>>49232
I'm really bad at it cause I've done it several times especially to people I know who are gay IRL. Its one of the reasons I don't understand people who are like tfw no gf when its one of the easiest things for me personally to seduce people. I'm not particularity fit or anything its just really easy as long as you have confidence
No.49235
>>49234
Do it with a girl then?
It's not like it's hard to do it with a guy, you know.
No.49255
>>49230
No, quite the opposite in fact. I think it's mostly due to thecharacters I play, but even my stone cold Warframe became the crush of one man. I just was kind OOC and motherly IC. It seems a lot of F-List users are in need of love just as much as sex. If you have any way I can contact you I can try and explain better.
No.49257
>>49255
>I just was kind OOC and motherly IC
>It seems a lot of F-List users are in need of love just as much as sex.
Guess I'm just really really bad at people now, since that was my intended effect since always and it ends up blowing up in my face.
Don't worry about it. I'm pretty 'used' to no-people anyway.
No.49265
I feel like my current favorite partner is super nice and cool, but even though I play bi characters, I don't think I'm bi IRL. Something like "I enjoy the idea of fictional traps but don't consider myself attracted to real men." I do feel somewhat attached to him, though. Great player and super sweet.
No.49267
>>49257
Still, feel free to shoot me a note or PM sometime. https://www.f-list.net/c/sable%20panthera/
No.49269
>>49093
>Love
Wouldn't that be a little silly? I obviously enjoy the feeling of being with some people but it's nothing like love, how could it be? I don't know them that much, really.
No.49272
It has happened to me like… 3 times I guess now? The first time it was mutual but then things went south. Second time it was mostly my partner who was really into me so I was flattered, that one also ended pretty soon. The third one was more one sided and she seems to only be into me for being older than her and seeing me as some kind of dominant male figure.
Which is nice of course, but I am honestly not the most dominant person. Though my RPing skills are a lot better than her's so that might also be a reason.
Needless to say it's usually been the female party who has fallen in love with me, not so much myself.
It's probably going to continue because people seem to find me and my character really cute even though I don't think so…
No.49275
>>49272
>3 times
You probably want to identity what is making that happen and put a stop to it if it goes south that often. Something like love over erping just seems like too much.
No.49282
>>49275
It is a bit much to say the least. I've been trying to take some time out of my day for self reflection and such. I am still unsure but I think it boils down to them being really charmed by my cute side and thinking that is all I am a as person, which is untrue. People who know me IRL have a very different opinion of me and are able to see different aspects of me.
While online I seem to get shoehorned in a role and unable to change their idea of me.
Though my advice to you and others is that I wouldn't recommend love over erping. Relationships are difficult enough and erping puts another kind of level of difficulty on it.
No.49292
>>49235
At a recent con I did manage to get a girl to sleep with me and I have proceeded to never contact her since that was just 2 months ago.
Girls take more effort since if I seduce them I generally am doing it just to sleep with them and I'm extremely picky since I don't like fatties
No.49294
>>49292
>I'm not particularity fit or anything its just really easy as long as you have confidence
k lol
No.49295
>>49294
I weigh 170lb at 5'11. Thats not really fit in my mind I have no muscle mass. I'm just not fat
No.49668
>>49269
>I don't know them that much, really.
>implying you can ever really know anyone
No.50455
Really wish partners would become infatuated or even fall in love with me after a session or two.
Knowing that I'm desired/wanted and sharing intimate details with one another… I think that's what I really crave from ERPing.
No.50521
>>50455
While I don't get infatuated/develop too intimate feelings, I do enjoy looking for my partner and finding out how they're doing. Feelings of desire and want are much more tolerable and easier for me to express than something that would be considered deeper than that.One or two sessions isn't enough to get on that level, but when you care and are open to being reciprocal with such emotions, I do tend to go out of my way to keep having sessions with you. Telling a preferred partner how they make me feel when they log in is especially thrilling.
No.51335
Happens far too often for me. I get infatuated with a partner and then it gets hard for me to keep this on just a friendly level and I end up going ghost out of the fear that I'm getting too attached to them. Maybe erp just isn't for me.
No.52070
>>51335
I want you to fall in love with me so I can make fun of you and make you do stuff out of mutual emotional attachment.
No.52072
I met my partner of almost two years through ERPing on f-list. I also had a six month relationship with a person whom I ERPed with daily, and we both realized that we had a huge crush on eachother.
I think those are the only occasions where I've fallen in love with an ERP partner, and I was lucky enough that on both occasions they had already fallen in love with me back.
It's pretty weird when people ask us how we met, but it's no less functional than meeting through online dating.
No.52089
>>52072
Same thing happened to me though with some obvious differences like time frame.
Met someone on F-list earlier this year and practically ERPed daily as well, she had feelings for me and I kind of had feelings for her but wasn't sure she felt the same. We ended up dating dating for a couple of moths before breaking up.
I happened to meet someone again on F-list and starting up another relationship, though this one was much shorter we ended on pretty good terms.
Recently I got back with the first person due to them apologizing and such. So far it has been going really well.
Though I do think people should be able to differentiate between infatuation, lust or love. I don't necessarily recommend it as it comes with it's issues but it does help you learn somethings about yourself.
Though if anyone asks how we met I should say I met them through a writing site and not a Erotic Roleplaying Site…
No.52179
This has happened to me at least half a dozen times by now, and it's part of the reason I don't ERP much anymore. If I find a good partner it's very difficult not to want to talk to him OOC as well, and I find myself getting closer and closer until I'm really infatuated with him. I guess the line between raw sexuality and affection is pretty confused for me. Getting a guy off - even just in character - starts a ball rolling in my head somewhere every time.
No.52181
>>52179
Please gib profile
No.52315
>>52309
I'm a total slut, tell me your details too.
No.52324
>>52181
Why? Because you know a way to ERP together without the oncoming emotional attachment, right? R-right?
No.52332
Not in love but in lust with an anon I had a couple sessions with here and will probably never find again. Should have gotten an e-mail or skype or something.
No.52339
>>52332
Well, if you give a few details about what you did, who knows? They might see it and reply.
No.52375
>>52315
Details? Not sure what you want to hear, it's just instances of me really wanting to please my erp partner and accidentally getting too invested in them because I like the praise I get when I do something they like. I had one partner that I would have sessions with, and the way he'd encourage me to do lewder and lewder stuff was just great, he even did the whole "OOC blurring/flirting" type stuff. Sometimes when we'd get really aroused and couldn't be bothered with following a cohesive plot we'd just typefuck or he'd tell me how to fap (get naked, type while on your knees, moan, etc). Our replies would have more and more errors as we got closer to cumming and stopped caring. It was probably just my imagination but he even seemed a bit possessive at times which made it even hotter. I even set up a sort of passcode with him, so that whenever he messaged me the codeword, I'd drop what I was doing and start a session with him. I usually only fap a few times a week, but due to the sessions it was becoming a daily thing, and when he wasn't on I'd go over the conversation logs and fap to his posts and the things he said. Eventually though I started feeling as though I was pushing things too far and being too clingy. Then there was a period in which I wasn't able to log on for like 2 weeks and I guess it cleared my head and I realized how attached I was which made it awkward to chat with him. After that the relationship sort of just dissolved. Looking back, it does feel a little silly to have gotten so infatuated. Though part of me wanted to take it further and see what would have happened. I guess I just can't help it.
No.52390
>>52375
>>52375
>tfw nobody will fall for you this way
No.52396
>>52375
Mmmm, I have something similar going on with a regular partner of mine - not possessive though, but he's regularly stated that I've blown his previous partners out of the water and that I never fail to drive him wild no matter what kind of scene it is and I worry I'm spoiling him for any actual lovers he'll have in the future But yeah, nothing wrong with what you had, that's pretty hot and I'm glad you could enjoy yourself with someone that much, and I hope you can have that again without feeling too insecure about it, because god when you hit it off with a partner like that it's amazing.
No.52400
>>52390
Don't lose hope anon!
>>52396
I did screw it up with my insecurity, I guess the smart thing to have done was just ask him if I was being too overbearing. Nice to hear they you're loving it though! i wish you and your partner the best.
No.52402
>>52400
Talking is always the way to do things, whether in an actual romantic relationship or ERP fuck buddies… or really, any platonic relationship for that matter. Communicating how you're feeling and making sure you know how your partner feels are so incredibly important to maintaining a happy and healthy relationship of any kind, so don't feel like it's weird or awkward to do that with someone who's "just" an ERP partner. Luckily, this is a small board, so maybe whoever it was will see this if he's still around! I'm rooting for you Anon <3 Also if the sessions were here on the board kind of curious to see them, they sound hot, but if you don't want to outright say which ones, I understand and still hope for the best for you <3
No.52405
>>52402
Oh, it was quite a bit before I'd known about /erp/, also that was probably the most intimate I'd actually gotten with a partner which is why I was so uncertain of everything. But gosh, once he'd get my engine revving I sure as hell wouldn't care and I'd just be too lost in lust to think straight.
No.52408
>>52405
Ah, you initially said "here" so I figured it was something on the board. And isn't that just the best feeling? Just being able to forget your worries and doubts and concerns and just transforming into a beast of passion, sucking and fucking and moaning and cumming~ I love it <3
No.52410
>>52408
Oh sorry for any confusion, and yeah I totally agree. There were times when we'd have a session and I'd be leaking precum without even touching myself, or where I'd have to cross my legs because I get so horny. Sometimes I'd actually even have to ask my partner for a break to clear my head because I'm just so aroused that it starts to seep into my writing and mess me up, making my replies sloppier or take longer. Which usually just resulted in him teasing and telling me to just write whatever comes to mind.
No.52413
>>52410
No problem, and gods yes. I often have to just bite my lip and focus on how much I want to make my partner cum to keep myself from just giving in and cumming all over myself it doesn't help that he encourages me to give in and just cum even if I pass out afterward and can't continue the scene <3
No.52415
>>52413
Exactly! My partner would write lewd OOC comments while it's my turn and fill my head with all these hot ideas, trying to push me over the edge. Sometimes I'd do the same to him, which is how we'd usually end up just typefucking. Thanks for helping me remember just how much I loved doing all that.
No.52416
>>52415
Mmmmm, a lot of times when my partner gets close, I just drop the action angle and just start begging for him to cum, rapid fire sending him pleas for his thick seed, and he just loves it, it's great. And my pleasure sweetheart, anything for a fellow slut <3
No.52464
>>52324
I want the attachment
>>52375
I meant I want your skype or f-list details
and now I want you both even more now.
No.52496
>>52464
Oh, my skype is kinkie.stuff
I'm into corruption, body transformation, rape, consensual, and cocks, just off the top of my head. Generally I'm pretty open for anything except scat/guro.
No.52497
>>52496
Also I'll try to be on tomorrow.
No.52499
>>52496
Different anon, kind of want to add you but not sure…
No.52509
>>52179
God, I wish I could find someone who would really get infatuated like that. I'd love to have a clingy RP partner send me messages instantly when I log on, complete with "<3"s and "~"s. That is literally the best feeling in the world.
No.52514
>>52499
Feel free to do so! I won't be on for a while since I've been cramming for an upcoming test, but I'll try to log on tomorrow if I don't crash from exhaustion.
No.52529
>>52509
>tfw do that with a few people
>tfw talk a lot with one specifically
>tfw our schedules don't line up and we say we miss each other when we finally get play
Shit, I think I'm a total faggot now.
No.52530
>>52529
Plenty of loving, available members on if you're still looking to get attached, anon.~
No.52532
>>52530
I guess my point is I'm already attached
No.52583
>>52339
I've tried before. I suppose again wouldn't hurt.
I was his queen, he was my adoring palace guard.
No.52951
>>52583
From the Fapbait threads? I think I know who you're looking for in that case I think he's asleep right now, but I'll pass on that you're looking for him.Also if you're the queen from the Fapbait threads I'm thinking of, I believe you're also the player for Miranda? If so, log on to Skype when you can, he'd rather not post his Skype info on the board directly, so if you are who I think you are and he's interested, it'll be easier to set you two up directly that way.
No.53096
>>52951
>I think I know who you're looking for in that case
Wow, really? Thanks. I didn't expect anons to really know each other here.
No.71120
>>52583
>>52951
>>53096
awww.. this is cute <3 good luck finding your partner, anon!
No.71150
This is particularly tricky for me. The first, and honestly, only relationship I ever had came out of ERP. It was when I was twelve on AOL back in the 90s ( yes, I'm old. ) I chatted out of character a lot with a person I frequently played with… she turned out to be a girl a few years older, one thing lead to another and she actually ended up moving to my state. Despite it probably being very illegal we had lots of forbidden straight shota loving. Then she left me before I turned 18; I guess the thrill just died.
Now I still ERP, and constantly find myself wanting to fall in love again. Of course, I'm not a smooth pretty bishounen twelve year old anymore. Also the times have changed a lot and females tend to be really, really, really paranoid about meeting guys online. Especially ones they do rape/abuse RPs with like the ones I'm fond of… still, it seems like every time I get to know ( a female ) ooc I get a huge crush on them and want that old story to repeat itself. Ah well.
No.71158
>>71150
Oh man, anon. Tell us a little about your 90's sexcapades with a fucking teen girl.
Did she let you fuck her?
On a more serious note, sorry about what happened to ya. I suppose that sort of thing only happens once in a lifetime. I'd say it wasn't true love, and was simply based off sex and an affection for your looks, but I doubt you'd care.
Best of luck to you anon.
also post profile
No.71169
Infatuation and crushes were the name of the game for me in ERP for a long, long time. Had a few players I just lost my shit over and when they vanished on me, it crushed me. I took a good few years break from the game and only recently coming back in full force.
Now? I'm inbetween two boys and realizing I'm bi all at once. One's my age with most of my interests, and the other is ten years my junior and so sweet and kind it warms my heart. We're all friends and do lewds with each other and it's just… so comfortable. It's obvious what they are but they both act full on anime girl with me just for my own enjoyment, I guess, with the one my age being full onee-sama/mama towards me.
We've all told one another we love each other. Not IN love, but… love. We care a lot about one another. Not sure where it'll go if anywhere but I feel really nice with these two…
No.71173
>>49093
Happened once in my early days of RPing, at least the infatuation bit, blew up in a rather spectacular storm of drama that I don't want to get into, after that never again. Friendship is fine but the moment anyone tries to push it forward I cut the cord hard. Don't look for love in ERP, just like you don't stick your dick in crazy. Course being mostly emotionally dead due to life experiences probably helps a lot with that at this point.
>>49269
>I don't know them that much, really.
I know you're pulling the whole tsundere routine there but just gonna grab this to point out exactly why you don't want to fall in love over ERP. You DON'T know the person on the other end of the keyboard and the magic of the internet is with time and practice you can present yourself as anyone on the internet. It's probably best to approach it as two actors in a movie, just because they fucked on screen doesn't mean they give a shit about each other in real life.
No.71176
No.71178
>>71150
> we had lots of forbidden straight shota loving.
Congrats, man.
No.71194
>>71176
/erp/ - bringing anons together.
Those queen/palace guard interactions were (and remain) goddamn amazing, by the way. Hope you two have lots more fun together~
No.71204
>>71176
That's adorable and i really wish you two the best of luck. Can't wait to read the logs and furiously jerk off to them like i have your earlier stuff.
No.71206
>>71204
>>71194
I should start pulling the logs from skype, what with the older fapbait threads getting lost with the archives going down. Perhaps I'll post a few we've done since then tomorrow.
No.71225
Is it sad if I kinda wish this would happen to me? The idea of someone becoming infatuated with me is really flattering… but at the same time I can't handle an OOC relationship because I'm too nervous and anxious. I guess I just have that desire to be loved; I'm lonely and I guess I want validation. Then again no one has really been interested in my characters and I wish at least someone would like them and/or how I play them as much as they do other people…
idk I just wanna feel cared about ;.;
No.71227
>>71206
That'd be awesome, but no pressure. Just happy to know those two are continuing their scandalous antics.
Still relatively new to the fapbait threads myself, and only caught up on those posts after the fact. The things you two come up with are hotter than actual sex, so hats off to you both!
No.71228
I did. Once. I think they ended up killing themselves last Christmas. Or maybe it was all a lie from the start. I can't tell anymore. If it was real, I don't think I'll ever find one like her again. We never actually ERPed now that I think about it, it was all OOC stuff that kicked off one day when they were especially horny and I was available. F-list is one hell of a drug.
No.71229
I am quite infatuated with a partner right now actually. I haven't heard from them in 2 weeks and it's really worried me. They did this idea about being fucked over by a crime family I've wanted to do forever perfectly with me, and actually got me into femboys.
I feel like maybe they have college classes or something and they did say they can get busy fairly easily, just wish I could know if they were okay or something. Best case scenario get a conversation or two, and when they'd be around again.
No.71230
>>71194
>>71204
We have new stuff planned. But more voyeurs, or even participants, is never a bad thing. I learned that in the Ryuko erp~
No.71231
>>71230
Sounds delicious. Looking forward to it!
The audience is never too far away~