/erp/ - Erotic Roleplay

>>55111

>not having people come to you

I'm a blue profile, I F-List on Dante Must Die mode. I get messages, yeah… But not terribly often, and when it does happen it isn't even always from people I wanna ERP with.

>not just going for it

I do, it's just that the act of doing so is cumbersome.

Honestly? If I'm being a 100%-maxmode lazy bum? I chat a little bit casually in a room with my status set to looking. Never fails. Well, sometimes everyone who bites are very bad. But at least it gets things moving a bit.

I feel the same way OP. It's really enjoyable to just jump into something with a partner and have fun, but the extent that RP meta has reached these days borderlines actual, real world relationships sometimes. I've RP'd for years and this last year has had a heavier focus on ERP than any other point in my life. What I've noticed is that people throw out these long, elaborate definitions of themselves expectations of a partner and that just totally turns me off.

I get it, you put a lot of work into writing that out, and finding pictures to go along with it, but the thought of even approaching someone for ERP these days feels like I'm at the bar trying to chat people up. That's just so annoying when all I want to do is screw and have fun. Alternatively, if I really enjoy a partner and we mesh well, I'm not one to prevent some character development and enjoy talking in depth about what we like to do and wish to play. It's just the initial process of getting there has becoming highly annoying due in part to how demanding everyone is being lately. It's like they actually think they are their characters or something.

>>55112

>blue

So what kind of kinks are you actually looking for, then? What sexuality?

>>55121

Glad someone else feels me on this, this is my sentiment exactly. ERP is supposed to be fun, and I feel as though we've made initiating ERP on sites like F-List to be a chore.

>>55128

Hardcore, rough sex. Asphyxiation, slapping, abuse, rape or pseudo-rape are all cool to me from both the sub and dom perspective. I like every gender but I'm typically picky about other males, especially dom males.

>>55121

I used to enjoy smutting, now it feels like a job because I'm constantly stressing out over making some elaborate, unique and "interesting" character that is supposed to appeal to the masses I probably don't want to appeal to, all in hopes of finding a female who would be down with getting dommed by a pushy trap.

The place I used to RP on had plenty of people like that, but it was much smaller. F-list is a giant place and it's gone from "well this is a fun hobby" to "wow, I need to perfect my resume so it's up to everyone's unrealistic standards."

>>55318

Honestly? I'm kind of feeling the same, after only some six months of playing. It's still fun, it's just… less so.

Eh. It's only shit because 'muh length' doesn't get hit by 90% of the people on F-list, whilst on Chatango, the ways and methods you go about finding other people is simply knuckle dragging slow. If I wrote the amount most /erp/ers demand (thus ruining my enjoyment of the hobby) it wouldn't be much of anything even on my more vanilla males.

>>55323

You can never get what you want when it comes to erp. Between finding a partner with everything you want, or simply a good personality that also likes you. Is hard as it is, then you throw in post length/quality and it becomes a massive bomb of fuckery ready to explode which leads to failure each time. I personally can write walls of text if I really want to, but its pretty hard to find others that are into that and that and having all the other problems of finding erp partners. I just hate finding one liners that dont have anything else to make them interesting. At least give me a wall or decent chunk of pure dialog/dirty talk to make it fun. I can get off to degrading talk if it is really good. I just have horrible luck finding people to do the standard type fucking as it is with some of my fetishes I have, pretty much only wanting to do roleplays involving them. I also cri inside from not being friends with / fucking up the few amazing roleplayers that were into what I want the most and could write massive walls of text that were the best quality ever.

>>55318

I'm stuck in a similar rut to this, and it may be because I too am getting older, and have been E/RPing going on about 9-10 years. There's only so many times you can fuck in a white void, or some generic, scarcely described bedroom/bar/what-have-you before posting feels like a chore and you're just going through the motions of foreplay>orl>cumshot>vaginal/anla>cumshot.

Sadly, what I want is even more of a ballache to obtain, and that's a world and story, where sex is the seasoning to something more fulfilling. Why is that a pain? People constantly advertise for story over sex, right? Hah! 80% of the people that I successfully set something up with, who claim to want story above sex, end up wanting to suck dick after a few posts.

Then, of course, there are times when the planets align and you find the God Partner that delivers what you want, and they end up postponing, flaking, or quiet simply deleting their character with no warning.

Well, there's my rant. Tell me what a baby I am.

>>55318

Depth and characterization make everything better. Even "boring" pOnOs in vagOOO scenarios become more interesting when there's more to it than a couple of fuckwads jacking off over cybersex with character art.

Holy fuck this has to be the most depressing thread on /erp/.

I see a lot of you complaining about the foreplay into sex way of RP. Tell me, have you ever gotten kinky with it? Such as capping him with a condom so he can't cum everywhere, then eating him out… as the dom? or letting your partner explore every curve of your body with their hands as you kiss so deeply your tongue bulges his throat?

From the sound of things, boring vanilla sex is boring to you because that's all you're doing. Set a tentacle monster loose, break out the handcuffs and sounding rods, and grab a bottle of liquid latex. You can still have intimacy and passion in those bizarre scenarios. Most of the time it makes it hotter!

>>55529

>From the sound of things, boring vanilla sex is boring to you because that's all you're doing.

OP of this thread here. You're ridiculously off base. Who was complaining about foreplay? I like foreplay and buildup more than the actual fucking. And just because I don't want to fill out a job application every time I wanna ERP doesn't mean I'm vanilla. I literally can't even cum in real life unless I'm being asphyxiated so hard my face turns blue, I refuse to stand for this insult to the integrity of my deviancy.

>>55622

This, but it's Sable Panthera (Aka The Mentalist) so I didn't feel like it warranted a response.

>>55622

If you look to >>55318 and >>55344 They talk about the "routine" of foreplay. Who said you had to fill out a job application? Have you ever just set yourself to Looking and added a kinky little description, then waited to see what came your way?

And as for asphyxiation, nice kink! I'm not in any way insulting you, just asking in general if these people spice up their RPs with those kinks.

>>55650

Here's your reply.

>>55663

Well you've posted the -exact same fucking thing- in like, six goiddamn threads on here. What're we supposed to say. You're so hip and cool for eating out your lover's ass when you're in the dominant role? Neato Saber, you missed the point. Doing 'more sex' isn't going to change it. It's still just fucking 'sex' even if its 'different' sex. You're still describing sexual activity, perhaps from a different perspective and a shifted focus, but as someone who 'aspires to be a l33t wreeter' you should know damn well that it doesn't exactly change the descriptions of what you're doing to a fucking asshole much.

You're basically going 'You want to do other things besides sex? Well, do more different sex instead which will totally spice it up!"

No matter how hard I work on kinks and scenes, the most common request I’m always going to have is “I want to play a nice kind guy that drains all the conflict out of the scene in the first post so we can have happy sex. I’m going to eat your pussy too!”. From that point on the scene may as well just be two self inserts fucking in a void. I have a partner that’s exceptionally good at describing things in sex. Outside of that he struggles with anything more complicated than “I’m master, you’re my slave, I want to fuck.” I’ve tried explaining over and over with some partners adamant to play with me that it just isn’t enough. I’ve spelt it out, given examples, took charge in a scene, but it rarely changes things.

On the flip side, someone that approached me a few years ago with a blank profile who barely scrapes semi-para gets it. He flavours almost every post with the setting, turning what is essentially blowjob-cumshot-penetration-cumshot into an ongoing set of scenes that are still fun even though we’ve been doing them for years.

>>55105

It's a Catch 22, OP. Without the profiles and images and kinks lists, you won't know what someone's into till you talk to them. If you allow users to have all that then they start critiquing your profile and won't touch anyone who ticks off all their checkboxes beforehand.

One possible solution for you is to hang out on F-Chat in a couple of rooms that cater to your kinks. Usually they'll have less than 50 people in it at a time and you can be approached more often. If the room allows it, try public RP and see if someone's willing to indulge you in front of others.

Post your profile?

>>55665

Here's your second reply.

>>55702

This is my profile.

https://www.f-list.net/c/jotham/

It's kinda half baked, I couldn't really find many images that represent the character the way I wanted, let alone lewd images.

>>55809

Ah, I can see some problems immediately. Anime-only art, excluding furries… You've made what appears to be a generic animu male #470,532.

That was not your intent, sure. But by the icon alone most people would make that assumption and immediately exclude you. Should you ever approach someone, they'll take a look at your pictures and see nothing lewd, or indeed unique. They'll assume that you're uninspired and lack anything really neat, apart from your kinks. And as a Usually Submissive, you're fitting the stereotype even more.

>Now then, on to how that can be reworked. It's fine if you don't want furries, a good chunk of F-List users don't. Animu art needs to be changed else you'll get the kneejerk denial almost every time. Your dropdowns can be combined since most contain only a paragraph each (Appearance and Personality could be one without a problem). You can remove the ! before and after each custom and check the settings box that auto-sorts customs to the top of the list.

>And one last thing, a personal preference more than anything. Spice up your descriptions. They're very factual which tells us what we want to know, but being descriptive and sexy at the same time add to character appeal. We'll take Asphyxiation as an example since you mentioned it earlier. "Receiving, preferably. Anything from gentle choking to full on throttling is great, so don't hold back!" is nice, but we'll go a little further. Something like, "A pair of hands wrapped around his neck, strangling him and letting not a single desperate gasp of air escape. Throttling the life out of the boy's(man's) body, making him kick and struggle weakly in your grasp. Don't let his breathless pleas fool you, he loves it." Does that all make sense?

Feel free to ignore this stuff if you don't like what I have to say. This is just my view on the profile.

>>55823

>Anime-only art, excluding furries… You've made what appears to be a generic animu male #470,532.

So all it takes to be generic anime is to have vaguely Japanese art and not be a furfag?

>>55825

And be a straight male, Usually Submissive. There's a ton of examples on F-Chat right now, if you use the search function.

>>55823

I appreciate the criticism.

>>55830

Not a straight male though, this character has probably played with more blues than pinks at this point.

>Am I the only one who loves ERPing, but finds the process of finding partners and stuff incredibly annoying and tedious?

Me, right here. I also find it tedious. After approaching quite a few people and getting ignored, or people feigning sick just to avoid me, I just don't bother anymore.

People who approach me don't get turned down unless they've got like, a real bad profile. Or are a wolf/canine. Haven't met a good player of the canine variety yet. Sure, 10,000 view murr hello, but I don't give a shit. Dogs rub me the wrong way.

I just play the waiting game, and it seems to work once I get involved with my game of choice.

>>55864

On behalf of all the flaky fucks, you really shouldn't feel bad about it, if you were. I get a lot of approaches and most of the time I just don't respond - even though they seem good and I'm interested. Too much to do, just stresses me out. No help, but maybe a bit calming.