/erp/ - Erotic Roleplay

>>61693

Well, what are the general plots you do as well as your biggest fetishes? I never do anything without a strong plot (unless with a good friend I've played with before), and find that focusing on story way before the sexy bits helps keep me going. Furthermore, it's important to keep in mind the character you're playing with (not your own, your partner's). Are they someone/thing that can be used for a good story based plot, or are you basing it just on fuckability? If the former, then good, if the later, then of course it'll burn you out. I'm into specific character archetypes/looks, so I know right off the bat if I can keep something up with a character that otherwise looks like they've just got compatible kinks.

>>61695

>Well, what are the general plots you do as well as your biggest fetishes?

As for the second bit, I'm vanilla as shit, which probably explains why I don't have any trouble finding satisfaction from ero manga. For the former, I don't even know what I'd qualify as a plot in regular use. Thirty different characters is a lot.

Honestly, huge sweeping story arcs over anything but notes are a pain to do and feel like they're just some artificial schlock slapped in top of the porn so that we can pretend it's something else.

I don't even remember the last time I actually sought someone out for play. They always come to me (pink name stronk), and since I'm on only one or my characters a majority of the time, that's obviously who gets the most play. I don't have trouble turning down anyone who seems like they're a shit, but then I end up with a bookmarks list full of people I planned something with, then never bother to hit up.

I don't remember the last time I had a scene I was genuinely excited to get to.

>>61710

I’ve been there. I’ve probably spend over half of the last couple of years on RP breaks for various reasons. Like you, my kinks are overall pretty vanilla, pink is stronk, and even though I play subby, I don’t have too much trouble finding dominants. The big change that has kept me still enjoying play after all that is being honest about what I enjoy about RP, and not compromising just to feel good for a short while.

The big change for me was insisting play has a back story and setting, even if it was just something simple. No more responding to “grinds the cock on your butt” types (no matter how many paragraphs they can push.) It pissed off a lot of people, and has greatly reduced the pool of people I play with. Yet everything has been a lot better since then.

There’s still one guy who is making it his business to change me back. He just doesn’t seem to get it. “Two weeks from now you’re going to submit and play how I want you too slut”.

>>61713

>The big change for me was insisting play has a back story and setting, even if it was just something simple.

But that's what I'm doing already.

>>61710

If drop a profile or something along those lines, I could see about contacting you for something more than just "they meet, but because they don't anything else to do they fuck". I usually prefer to get to the story bits, like really get into them, then touching any lewd stuff. Aside from my being pretty vanilla as well, I can't guarantee that anything will happen, but if I knew more about what you were looking for with some of your characters, I could try to work something out that'd catch your interest. From what I've learned over the past 2 or so years on F-list, is that it's often just one or two plot lines that keep you coming back and makes it all worth it. You've got to find something that really grabs you and keeps you really.

>>61736

http://f-list.net/c/Pramani%20Uprimny

That's the one you'd have the most luck finding me on.

>>61738

Well, I looked through a majority of your profiles, and I'd say that they're definitely well through out and nice looking to boot. Now I can see why it'd be pretty easy to end up just coming up with a paper thin story before getting to the rutting. That being said, although it'd be a bit harder with some of your lewder characters, with some of the others it might be better if you pitched something with more overt character/relationship development. Although this wouldn't work with all (since I see you have a ton of monster girls), try starting off with a date scenario and work your way from there. Keep it chaste, keep it interesting. It'd depend on the partner of course, but they should have a good reason for their character being out with a succubus or a taur for example. Furthermore, why is your character entertaining a date? Do they feel sorry for the loser? Is the interest mutual? Is she trying to get a free meal (in more ways than one)? etc. While it might not lead to lewd right off the bat, it does offer for some relationship development, which might make you as a player more invested in seeing things to the end for them both. This is just a single example and it might not be ideal as to what you're into, but I hope it helps

>>61744

I guess the best way to phrase my dilemma would be that I don't really get any enjoyment out of the story (or out of the sex, but that's a problem with the more immediate solution of "quit wanking twice a day every day"), but don't want to lower myself to plotless, "just because" fucking because… well, just because.

>>61745

Without sounding mean or anything, why do you eRP then if you don't get any enjoyment out of either aspect of it? Or is this just more of a recent problem that's cropped up for you?

If story really doesn't do much for you other than take up additional time, then how do you feel about pre-established relationships as a means to having reason why two characters are together? Companions for quite some time, lovers, a contract being renewed for the xth time, etc. You don't have to do larger plots then, as you could always jump into the middle of a relationship that draws the two characters together. Heck, you can even expand upon that relationship in the middle of play either with monologue or the characters just reminiscing to each other. I'm not sure if that'd do anything for you, but it might seem like a better solution given what you're saying.

>>61746

It's not ERP that's the problem, it's me and an all-around lack of patience for the hours to write the ~15 posts of character development it takes to get into bed, followed by ~8 posts of sex that don't do anything for me because I started jerking off an hour into the SFW shit to thoughts of what's to come. My lack of patience and the pretension that prevents me from going to people and just asking for sex.

I'm ambivalent about preexisting relationships. They're easy, but they still feel kind of empty of the dynamics that actually playing things out would provide.

>>61751

I'm not sure what to suggest to you at this point then, since it seems to be a personal problems with maintaining interest and the proper mindset. Unfortunately there really isn't a middle ground between going through the motions to building a story and having said story already there so you can hop into bed. It seems to me that the only way to fix your problem would be either to learn to actually enjoy the story aspect of things (which might not be possible) or the more likely route of learning to hold back on the urges to touch yourself while playing.

If you actually enjoyed the story aspect of things though, I'd suggest to go to a partner with non-lewd intentions instead. Don't talk about lewd don't plan them, just play out a story to see where it takes you. If anything, the lewd stuff will happen a bit unexpectedly and (hopefully) prevent you from thinking about it ahead of time. Risky overall if you don't know/trust your partner, but if you can stomach the story bits, it would be a possibility.

>>61757

It's rather unfortunate, because I can see the desire to play or at least some sort of enjoyment given the effort put into your profiles. If you were to hop on chat, I would probably willing to talk things over more and see if there's anything to help you get back into the swing of things. I'm starting to think that perhaps you haven't often been doing stories that don't hit good points for you? I mean, there has to be something story-wise that you enjoy outside of ERP that could be integrated into it, whether it be related to books, tv, video games, etc. Maybe that would be a good place to start then work from there.

>>61693

I've been burnt out of the RP scene for a while. I just would rather watch a hentai or read doujin than find someone to RP with anymore. I just get the short end of the stick with people poofing, or when I do enjoy a scene with their char they're never seen again.

>>61693

I also tend to burnout every now and then. I come back after spending more time with other things, occasionally reflecting on my rp and each time it gets easier to deal with.

>>61693

I feel like you, OP. I like flirtatious and suggestive scenes more than actual sex scenes, but they have to be part of a story and involve a character with background. But I'm too impatient to write background or finish characters or participate in long-term RP featuring a story full of flirtatiousness and suggestion.

There's probably no answer but to just buckle down, make a character, think of a plot and a few scenes, and find a partner.

I might be able to do without a long-term partner if I piece the story together myself and roleplay scenes in it with anyone.

>>61751

>>61693

I don't think there's anything "wrong" with you. You're recognizing that you're at a point in your life where it seems kinda unreasonable to spend hours of your time toying with erotic fiction for the sake of masturbation. A detailed ERP can be extremely time consuming, to the point where it's easy to lose track of hours. That's not a trivial amount of time.

Rather than try and motivate yourself to tolerate longer RP sessions, I think you ought to try long-term ERPing through irregular PM's. It doesn't have the instant gratification that comes from RPing with someone in a chatroom, but it allows you to refine and add details to a post at your own pace. In my experience, the quality of the scene tends to be better too, since each partner usually comes up with better content.