/erp/ - Erotic Roleplay

>>63780

Not dumb at all anon. I quite like the idea, because even I get extremely unsure of myself with new partners.

>tfw your partner really does it for you but you feel like what you've written isn't very good

Is it bad form to ask for feedback?

>>63782

Nobody I've ever asked had a problem with it and seemed excited enough to compliment me (when things ho well enough that is). If you feel after a while you don't know I wouldn't be afraid to ask. That's just my opinion though, if you're dedicated to not break character and go with the hints you're given then that's great too I say.

>>63783

I'm just relatively new to it and my partner has a lot more experience than me. I guess I'll ask for feedback once we get more done, I want to see if I grow into it a bit more. Like you said, I doubt they'd be upset by my asking.

I don't exactly understand the intention of this thread. "We're all spazzing and freaking out, lets spazz and freak out until we work something out!"?

>>63782

Just ask; worse comes to worse they admit your posts are lacking luster but still respondable too - which is a compliment in it's own right. You aren't entirely shit.

>>63783

I read that wrong and didn't really answer your question, sorry. Same thing I believe though. Working magic never breaking character is beautiful but if you think things aren't going well then it isn't really a mutual understanding and you should go for it I think. I do anyway, I've never sensed irritation from it. Just expect not much real feedback a lot I would think.

>>63786

>>63785

Okay thanks guys I'll see if my partner has any advice or criticism after we've gotten a bit further in our story.

have like, 20 characters bookrmarked from people in /erp/

don't approach any of them because no matter what i always feel inadequate for them and like i'm wasting their time if i do

>>63788

Do you have any sexy real world lesbian characters? Or a remotely interesting straight male character?

>>63785

OP here, for me personally I have very weak confidence and self-esteem. I've had sucesses but I mostly feel either incapable or like I'm letting people down and I want to run away among other emotional issues. I wanna participate in a pretty pretend land and find an artificial sort of happiness but I feel bad when things are going wrong and I just can't relate for who knows what reason. I just want some way to not be a real disappointment, burden or someone to be angry with.

So whatever exactly you mean the answer is probably yes and no. I don't mean for chaos or an excuse for breaking down, just trying.

Well, I also have these problems I'd say: It's just that no matter how hot I think a character is, or what idea I do summon up: It still feels like I wouldn't be capable of delivering anything substantial for my partner to work with, even if I do write paragraphs of content for them. That and I guess the feeling of Denial's also what gets me from posting in the Orgy Threads, F-List or the Fapbait threads.

>>63789

lezbots, no

straight males, yes

not sure if they're interesting, depends on what you'd be looking for; a sci-fi, fantasy, contemporary or whatever RP

I've send out about 15 notes to different people who have the same kinks as I do. Absolutely perfect for the things I want to do.

I've never gotten a reply. Not from any of them.

Every time I go on here and ask "Hey, this is how I do it. Is this the correct way?", people tell me what I do is absolutely fine.

I always try to leave an invitation as open as possible, suggesting an rp and letting them know I would like to discuss what would be the most fun to them. One time, I saw that someone wanted to rp with a shota character, and I decided to make one even though it is not necessarily my thing.

Honestly, I though f-list would be a step above something like omegle, but the result has been pretty depressing.

>>63791

What in your RPs makes you feel like something has "gone wrong" and what exactly are you unable to relate to? What makes you a disappointment or a burden in ways you don't think other people are? Is it something related to your writing, or your OOC interactions?

>>63796

Just keep writing until you get good. Nobody is ever satisfied with their work, but eventually you'll muddle along to a point where you can be almost certain that you're not cutting your partner short with your posts by any means. Just make a throw away F-list character, play with a bunch of higher end randoms, and wait until your posts and logs are observably better in your eyes than they used to be. That's what I did anyways.

>>63817

I'd post your profiles, because your approach sounds correct so it may be an issue there, but at the same time I'd say get onto chat instead of using notes. Most people can't do Note ERP, it's just a sad fact of life and more likely than not that's your problem. Don't feel bad or discouraged by it. Also don't expect much higher quality from here compared to F-list randoms, it's a tossup no matter where you go from my experience.

>>63825

I actually made a skype for this purpose so that if people saw my profile, they can just skype me. But isn't it regularly so that people initially note each other?

I have posted my profile on here quite a bit. Got some feedback which was handy. I feel like I have shilled a bit too much, though so I prefer to not post it in this thread as well.

>>63827

>Skype

I can't help ya there buddy, I'm a F-chatter at heart so I'll only speak from my experience. Everyone says notes are a decent way to introduce yourself, but the amount of plays I've started based off a note to put it into perspective for ya is one and I've been around for almost 2 years now. Some of the note chains got pretty far, but when the time came to actually play the people were a no show or I just never actually saw them on chat when I was on.

>>63828

Alright, that sounds fair. just one more question.

Are smileys accepted? Things like ";)" or ":P"

Some places seem more keen on it than others.

>>63829

Depends on your partner really. I'd steer clear of use until your partner uses one though, just to make sure.

>>63782

I always make a point to ask for feedback, even with people I've played regularly with. Even if they don't have any downsides to point out, it's good to find out what they liked in particular about your posts.

If you're unsure, asking for feedback is the best thing you can do for certain.

>>63825

-I'm just not very bright (I struggle remembering words and what things are especially) and I'm at a loss much too easy. I feel I can make witty dialogue sometimes but that's all it ever really comes down to. I start of as a generic character and try to adapt to my partner's fantastical one usually but in the end my imagination is lacking and there's tons of stuff I can't wrap my head around. The sex itself is especially an issue, on top of rarely getting aroused (though enjoying myself regardless) I'm a numbskull for matching my partner's wavelength or delivering something sensual. -and again, it's not even just my intelligence but my partner has to hit a sweet spot for me to maintain interest and overall I lose my mood for reasons I'm not entirely sure.

I once picked up a three people from here, only one of which I consider moderately sucessful. The two that stayed it's gotten to the point where we don't even roleplay anymore (I suppose I should be flattered in a way that they still want to talk to me). I'm ashamed at how it turned out but here I am back again, trying to fill some void.

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>>63825

Thanks for the advice. Say, before I start jumping in (just so I don't look like an idiot) exactly how do you make the text tilt on this board? I'm not familiar with how it's done here.

>>63846

Testing.

>>63817

Sometimes people just don't respond. Just make sure your profile has a bunch of custom kinks and a basic character summary and the rest is up to fate.

>>63828

Yeah this happens, people saying they're interested and we plan out a story and then they just never get started.

>>63832

How far into it should I wait before I ask?

>>63885

>How far into it should I wait before I ask?

I do it after every session, just asking how they liked the scene or some parts of it after the closing post. Has worked great so far.

Maybe we could post profiles, maybe someone could find a good partner or something and win 'at anxiety'.

>>63920

What, like this?

Contact:<insert Skype, RP specific chat, throwaway email, ect>

MO: x

Likes: (favorite fetishes, preferences)

Will Not Do: x

What I'd like to play as: x

Would prefer to partner with: (sexual orientation, age, characteristics, form, affiliation, role, rstablished characters, ect)

What you should know about me: (what brings you to the thread or what you otherwise would like to lay on the table. No need to be so brutally honest you're afraid to scare everyone away.)

<link to successful rp log if applicable>

>>63845

I'd suggest playing a character which you enjoy instead of catering to your partners wants and needs entirely. It may help with maintaining your interest, and I find it makes scenes more interesting as well when you're not playing generic character 2102343. If you really aren't that bright, then just keep things simple and play a simple character, simple characters are by no means worse than really complex ones. Double read your partners posts to make sure you got everything the first time around. It's actually pretty rare to match a partners "wavelength" in my opinion, so you shouldn't feel bad about it not happening a lot. As long as your partner is generally enjoying themselves and finds the scene lewd enough to get excited to, you're doing a decent job.

A lot of roleplay partners end up only being one shot's as well, so even if they don't RP with you anymore ya shouldn't feel too bad. Real life, fading interests, and scenes just naturally coming to their close are usually the main source of things ending. Really, just sounds like you're a bit too self-conscious and are taking every little thing too seriously, just try to improve yourself and throw yourself back into the game until you get used to it.

>>63974

I would also like to know this.

I've been trying to write a presentable male character for the past few hours, also my first, and it's an uphill battle compared to writing a woman. I feel as though there's some secret to it that I'm missing, yet managed to find by accident with my female characters. Targeting him to a specific type of scene that I want to do is working well enough, but otherwise I'm pretty lost, and I'm just as tired of playing girls as you are.

>>63976

I remember a while back there was a thread about 'how to make appealing males', but for the life of me I can't find it. Probably gone.

Making my characters in non-erp communities, in non-sexual contexts was a straight forward process in the past. But those circumstances were more closed - strict settings, limits, ect. Not open ended like F-List.

And holy shit. Art. Just -art-. What a nightmare.

>>63977

>Art. Just -art-. What a nightmare.

Let me guess, terrible tagging and mountains of yaoibait? I haven't even gotten into finding art for my guy and I'm certainly not looking forward to it. Maybe just clothes? If he's a businessman look for guys with suits? I don't know. I wish that thread were still up, or that I'd saved it for future reference. It'd be a godsend right now.

>>63927

It's not that I'm trying too hard to be generic, it's that I have no imagination to start with I guess. I mean, before you write that off as "Well sorry, just don't roleplay then." it's sort of comedic really. What tends to happen is that I'm a girl who has an imagination herself and my dialogue flows out easy from there. She's a witch now (or even just dressing up)? I can think up some funny/sexy banter to respond for most things. There's a pretty strict limit of what I'm capable of thinking up though. I can't paint up a picture to imagine really and my action narratives are just okay but I take a long time to write them (like, say, 15 minutes a paragraph on average? I've never actually timed it). I just get too upset I'm not smart enough and can't take charge as needed and that emotion just makes things worse I guess. I just wanna be a good girl who makes people feel good and gets told she did a good job. ;n; (oh right, I also pick a loli because in addition to liking them I feel like my behavior is never wrong because I'm already established as precious).

-so anyway, that's where I'm coming from with this thread. I either get things together somehow with practice or it's just time to give up on what feels like it should be a super neat way to have fun. Maybe I'll find a tolerable MMO and settle for being a healslut someday.

Sorry for the blog vibe of all of this.

>>63974

Well, the only successful non-canon profiles for mostly straight human males I see are…

>Hung shota

>Hung cubs

>Hyper variants of the above

>Worst gender cock sleeve sacrifice accounts

>BBC accounts.

Take your pick.

>>63974

Real talk? Doesn't really matter as long as your profile shows that you can be kinky and fun to fuck, either through customs or good images, approaching a specific kink from different angles or just an unusual character with something neat to it.

The things that are actually really important? Go looking. Look, post ads, contact people and don't give up when you get rejected/no reply a dozen times because people in Flist are just wildly unreliable and a lot of times they are not actually around despite being logged on.

Second thing? Make it easy for people to picture bedding your character. Give them an easy, simple route or reason for them to fuck your character and do it even if you are looking for story heavy stuff because in RP plot is born around a couple looking to fuck, not the other way around. No one throws themselves purely into plot with hopes that things will click and maybe there will be sex at some point, now do they? This is also the reason why approaching people with an idea for a scene is so important, since you are basically saving people the effort of figuring out how penis goes in hole.

Now, note that this doesn't exactly mean "be a slut" or to play one of those worthless, disgusting femboys that happily get their shitter ruined by whatever. The point is that no matter what type of character you make, they should be sexual in some way that's easy to digest.

Athlete sort of guy that works out all the time but is actually kinda sensible? Elementary school boy that's top of the class but is secretly super devious? Any sort of feral character? Alien that has been hiding on earth for centuries? That's cool and all but doesn't really give people a way in. Instead make it so that your profile mentions, however briefly or subtly, through description or customs, that they can't help but steal glances at the girls at the gym and it's kinda embarrassing. That they've been stealing mom's underwear. That they get turned on at the sight of humanoid females for whatever reason or that they are looking for a girlfriend because most everyone has one and it would help their cover. Those or another million ideas and combinations of kinky little things that alone say more to a potential fuck than a million pages about super powers or family or who knows what else.

Remember: You are at a site in which most people will want to fuck at some point or another. It doesn't matter if you want to do it after some incredible adventure or just get down to it, your character has to be welcoming to that kind of thing right from the get go or else people will simply look elsewhere. Why bother spending hours buttering up one guy and figuring them out when you don't even know if they'll be down to tango when it comes down to it?

>Well ok! But I'm still not sure! I want more concise examples!

If you REALLY don't want to fuck it up, don't try being any of these cause most are real bad and you need to have a feel for what people want in order to make them interesting:

- A millionaire playboy/wizard/doctor that's into BDSM/Pet play/Illegal stuff and probably fancies himself irresistible

- S-s-s-tutt-sttutering shota OR spunky, super playful shota that's too dumb to go for it when he should

- Some retarded musclehead/Biggus Dickus with nothing to it other than "i fug good" or "LOOK HOW MANLY I AM"

- Wannabe gentleman based solely around NOT being macho. Those always end up being eye-rolling tryhards that flex nuts all the time anyway; it'll just be about how much they don't care or how nice they will be instead of how manly they are.

>>64166

This. This is good shit.