/erp/ - Erotic Roleplay

>Reads this

>Comes to the startling realization how fucking retarded I must have sounded ninety percent of the time

I mean, I never did this. But you sound needy as fuck you trip-fag fuck

Irony, etc etc.

>>71125

>What I'd like to know is how other people deal with those who disappear randomly or putting you on ignore without a reason?

I take the hint and leave them alone.

>>71125

>This happens… a lot, and I couldn't stand it anymore.

Maybe you should adjust your own mannerisms before criticizing those of others.

>What I'd like to know is how other people deal with those who disappear randomly or putting you on ignore without a reason?

Don't.

>(also I don't know if this is a lawful good thing to do or chaotic good)

>implying breaking the law is lawful

>implying hounding people and not taking the hint is "good"

Lawful Evil for trying to justify your supposed vigilantism with your constant rejections.

>>71162

>Lawful Evil

Meant to say Chaotic Evil, but it's early and your original post left me considering a change in hobbies.

The only people I've ever seen complain (hardcore complain, not just a passing mention of it being annoying or rude) about being 'random ignored' seem to have that problem happen a lot.

I can count on one hand the number of times someone I've wanted to talk to put me on ignore. I'm pretty sure it's at 1 finger right now, at most. The same statistic is true for most of my friends when we discuss this strange phenomenon that is so foreign to us.

It has led us to believe that the people who complain about it happening all the time are in fact the problem and not the people doing the ignoring. Stop doing whatever you're doing that's making people want to put you on ignore and it'll stop happening.

Also you're an asshole for bringing it up in public where the person could neither see you doing it, due to having you on ignore, nor defend themselves, because they would have probably broken site rules if they shit talked you in return. I bet if we had their side they'd claim they saved themselves a night of annoyance by putting you on ignore.

Stop being an asshole. Stop being needy. Stop thinking you're entitled to RP with someone or that they're a bad person if they don't want to RP with you and put you on ignore to make you stop asking for it.

>>71125

>(also I don't know if this is a lawful good thing to do or chaotic good)

Neither, you egotistical fuck. You deserve your bans, it's pretty obvious why people ignore you if this is the kind of attitude you have. You're the problem here, not them.

>>71233

Urgh, I'm so disheartened by the OP that I can't even sage right any more.

>I probably saved quite a few people from having their evening ruined

The irony is painful

>>71170

> Stop doing whatever you're doing that's making people want to put you on ignore and it'll stop happening.

As someone who left F-list due to this, often it's not perceptible.

>Hi there, I saw your profile and wanted to discuss a scene with you-

>Ignored.

>Hello, are you still looking for scene x?

>Ignored.

>(Open with a prompt)

>Ignored.

and so on.

>>71309

Is the art of seduction dead? You do of course have to be appealing to the person. If you get rejected a whole lot you need to increase your desirability. A hint - complaining on a imageboard doesn't do that.

>>71309

You were discovering you were ignored upon sending those messages or they ignored you immediately after sending those messages?

If it's the former then it's likely they already had you on ignore for some other behavior. Perhaps for a past interaction with them that you don't remember, for a past interaction with one of their alts (who if you knew you might be able to pinpoint why you were ignored), for something you did in a room, etc. This is especially going to be common if you're ticking people off, whether you mean to or not, in a small fandom; a lot of various characters are going to actually just be alts of someone you already interacted with.

I'm currently part of a very, very small fandom (about 20 people on a good day) and someone IMed the mod to say one of my alts is super rude as I was just randomly ignoring people from the room I'd never talked to. Actually the person was an offensive cunt to a bunch of people (saying they hoped another user killed herself) so I put them on ignore; it showed I had them on ignore when they IMed my new alt they had never before spoken to.

If you were sending a message then getting ignored, that's bizarre, but I really doubt that was the case (and if it was, it was probably a case of you having an alt that they recognized was you and they ignored you on one alt so then ignored you on the new one to avoid drama).

I've never been blocked once on all my flist time, so its baffling to me that someone manages to constantly and consistently get ignored somehow. Hate to say it but you're probably the problem in one extent or another if it happens so frequently.

>>71757

The last time I was blocked, it was for hard-hitting questions such as "why are you approaching me if many of my faves are you in your no column," "why doesn't your profile match the description you gave me," and "why aren't you suggesting scene ideas and expect me to do all the work."

>>71793

People who pull this shit off are most assuredly shotgun-approachers. They play a numbers game by PMing literally everyone in a channel, and hoping at least one answers back.

And even if you answer back, they don't really get smarter. I've had shitheads of the sort get my gender, species, and even name completely wrong. If you call them out on their bullshit, they insta-block and move on to more promising waters.

Trying to answer these people is an exercise in futility and frustration. You're better off dis-acknowledging their existence.

>>71793

I'm always so relieved when the mass spamming twats ignore me. Far too many of them won't put anyone on ignore, because they want to be able to spam you at a later date. Instead they tell you to do it. But that doesn't help when they make a new name every so often - probably to get around being on all the ignore lists.

>>71312

It's kind of hard to learn anything when you get zero feedback from your mistakes, no indication of your errors, and literally no avenues to learn from.

Like, what the fuck do you expect? For someone to just magically get better over time?

>>71847

There really are a lot of avenues to learn from, as you put it. First of all, and the most direct way - ask for advice on roleplay forums. This is a good place to start. Post your profile and ask for criticism. Read the new roleplayer advice thread stickied here.

Aside from the absolute mountain of books concerning social relations that will absolutely help your approaches there are also a goodly number of excellent ERP-specific resources to make yourself more attractive.

https://www.f-list.net/c/profile%20references

is an excellent place to start touching up your profile.

http://rpedia.tumblr.com/

is a fantastic website for learning the common ins and outs of roleplaying.

Try reading some logs, too. Doing that was helpful for me when I was starting out - regular adult stories, too. http://pastebin.com/u/Molly_Liesel is a player that is proficient and that I enjoy reading, for example. There are more posted on this board.

>>71161

This.

I had a partner I thought I got along with in a major way. Talking to them further about seeking roleplay however - has led to me being ignored. Not on an ignore list, but totally shunted. I gave up and moved on.

Still, F-List isn't as Bad as Chatango with it

>Userwhoeverblahblah: Hello!/Hi+EMOTES/Sup.

>You: <Insert greeting here>

>Userwhoeverblahblah has logged off.

>Their account doesn't exist the next day.

Happens every time.

>>71847

>Like, what the fuck do you expect? For someone to just magically get better over time?

No. We expect them to go away.

Potential partners are a dime a dozen. It's several orders of magnitude easier to throw out someone who doesn't make the cut, than attempt to "fix" them somehow. There is little to no reward in trying the latter.

>>71916

Really? In my six (or is it seven now?) years on chatango, I have -never- had to deal with the inane stupidity that comes from F-list.

Like, really. I may get a "Mreowh hellow =^.^=!" On chatango, but that's leagues above what the stupid shitters on F-list toss you when you're an appealing dominant.

"mayb ill b the exception 2 ur post length rule? ill be a good fag for u"

No fucking joke there.

>>71945

How do you even find rooms on chatango? I made a profile once but I never really seemed to get anywhere with it. Probably didn't get some site feature.

>>71945

Nobody gives a shit, Fai. And nobody ever will.