/fem/ - Female

My Mother was abusive and kept me sheltered. I had few friends, all guys, who I only saw in school. I wasn't allowed to go out with anyone, anywhere and I was only allowed to go to family parties. I could only be inside, so I read, played video games, and spent time online. My Stepfather was completely pussy whipped by her and did nothing when she was beating me or throwing things at me. Tried to have my biological Father get custody of me and it didn't work because my Mom bawwed while she was pregnant in front of the feds and they felt sorry for her and told me that I was a liar, despite showing them marks I couldn't have inflicted due to where they were.

So, I suppose all of that kind of shit. She didn't help me. All she did was instill a fear of people in me and brainwash me into thinking that her side of the family was all that mattered, when none of them lifted a finger to help me and knew about how I was treated. She helped to cultivate esteem issues through years of manipulation, leading me to believe that I was to blame when she was just fucking insane.

Because of this, I'm extremely bothered by hitting your children. I get that it's how some choose to raise their children, but it doesn't have to be mine. I think it's barbaric to be a grown adult and solving problems by hitting a child.

>inb4 well I was raised dat way n I'm fien

Good for you, not everyone reacts the same way.

Step-parents a shit.

I think girls get molested way more. One look at /b/ pedo threads or /younglove/ will show you that the majority of them want to fuck little girls.

That's a tough thing to grow up with, whether it's just one incident or it happens regularily.

I know, I know, women get molested, daddy issues har har, but it is a thing that makes childhood difficult.

>>51409
Hit reply before I finished

But yeah, the worst human being I've ever met has been my stepmother, my father has been with her since I was a kid and she's been nothing but a bitch.
>Assumes she has equal standing with my mother when it comes to making decisions about my or my brother's future.
>Was a stupid drunken whore in her youth, acts like a pure maiden who's shit doesn't stink
>Hypochondriac, on permanent disability and has a laundry list of make-believe physical disorders because 'I hurt muh back liftin a barrel in 1994'
>Has 'perpetual victim syndrome' any argument or conflict had to inevitably end with me kow-towing to her because I hurt her feelings or some shit.
>Demands I go to a therapist for being a run-of-the-mill angry hormonal teen, massive waste of time, she maybe follows his advice for about 2 weeks before slipping back into her old habits.
>Rooted through my shit all the time, wanted to have me and my brother's facebook logins so she could see what we were doing.
>Thinks women should be put on a pedestal, hounded my brother for breaking it off with a bipolar bitch from a broken home expecting him to put up with her bullshit moodswings. Yet tells me that the only thing that's important to a woman in a relationship is her momentary happiness.

Ironically she was probably my first redpill, I always resented my father for 'acting like pussy-whipped beta and not putting that bitch in her place' and promised myself that if I ever decided to have kids, I'd fucking make sure it was someone I was staying with forever.

>>51448
>althou i do feel like somethings wrong with me i rather fix i myself.
Of course something wrong with you, you're on 8chan.

However if the only one person you're having constant fights with, it's probably not you. I moved in with my mother when I turned 17 and my life has been leagues better ever since.

No specific incident but I wish I were raised as a boy, I don't like how little girls are treated like they're fragile and encouraged to be emotional. I always wanted to be a boy scout too.

>>51517
Fuck boy scouts. My time there was crappy as a whole because it was full of cliquish bullshit. I guess it depends on which troop you end up going to…

>>51448
The thing is that it wasn't discipline. Not how she did it. My mom was prone to switching moods like crazy and while she also lashed out at my stepdad and half sister, she didn't hit them. I was hit, had things thrown at me like tv remotes and toys and the house phone, and she made eating come down to me hiding granola and water under my bed because being downstairs was too much. I grew up scared of her and the world, while hating myself and trying to die. Therapy helped so much and I realized I was never crazy or bad. She just made me think I was so she could justify the abuse.

>>51471
Ehh lots of men like tomboyish girls.

I really hate the way women are raised. When I was younger, I was treated like my brother for the most part, but as I grew up I noticed things changed. I was lectured about my looks and my weight more often than I was my studies, and my dad straight up told me in middle school not to date boys "because to them, your only worth is that…/thing/ between your legs."

Even after school, when I told my parents I wanted to go to college my parents wouldn't pay, and my dad told me to just work a factory job until I found a husband to get married to.

I basically ended up with shit self esteem, and with the viewpoint that because I was overweight, that I was worthless, because nobody would ever want to have sex with or marry me.

>>51382
All western kids are fucked up

>>53678
>work a factory job
>find a husband

What

Are you like 50 years old or something?

>>53678
your father was based as fuck. should have listened to his advice and not become a fatty

I dunno, I think I more or less grew up totally unaware of all the social issues floating about. My did just loved me and my siblings for who we were no matter what we liked or who we were interested in.
That being said one thing he DID do right was try and teach us to wear shorts or something under skirts. Pedos a shit and I'm glad I didn't have to deal with it.

Overall I think people probably have no fucking idea how to raise a kid these days, and they just do the best they can (Though sometimes the limit is emotional, which is really sad).

>>53678
Silly silly. Of course there will always be someone willing to fuck you no matter how fat you are.
They just probably wont be someone you wanna fuck back. Probably. If you get lucky you might find a skinny guy with a fat fetish.
This coming from me, a fellow fatty who just doesn't give a fuck.

>>51382
Being told how I was going to grow up barefoot and pregnant and how I was going to be beaten by a loser husband, all when I was 6, when I told my mother I liked a boy. She did this every time she thought I liked a guy. When my brother was 15, my mom started telling him to get a girlfriend. When I was 15, my mom told me the exact same thing she told me when I was 6 when I asked if I could start dating.

She was pretty overbearing in general. It didn't help that my brother and I were homeschooled for most of our lives. If she called us to come downstairs she expected us to be down in ten seconds, regardless of whether you were watching the final unpausable cutscene in a videogame (I can't remember NOT being interupted during a cutscene), in the middle of a movie, or on the toilet with shit coming out of your ass right that second. We could never answer "what is it" or ever have a frown on your face, and we always had to smile and ask cheerfully what inane task she wanted. If one of us messed up she'd scream at us, but was much harder on me than my brother.

I wasn't allowed outside without supervision until I was 17. I wouldn't have minded, but she never wanted to supervise, so I spent almost all of my childhood and adolescence inside the house, save for running errands with her. When I argued with her as a teenager because I wanted to ride my bike around the cul-de-sac, she said that it was like I wanted to be kidnapped, raped, and killed. If I spent time in the living room with her it was like walking on eggshells because if you said anything that could be taken as a difference of opinion she'd scream at you. I ended up trying to spend as much time in my room as possible, but she took it as me hating her and would scream at me for staying in my room.

The worst part was her building up little perceived transgressions that we did, and would suddenly blow up every month or two, yell at us for about 2 hours straight, and tell us that she wanted to get rid of me and my brother and send us to an orphanage. This would happen regardless of how well we tried to behave.

It's fucked me up. Thankfully I no longer live with her. I met my husband on a videogame (she didn't realize new nintendo consoles had wifi and didn't know enough to control who I talked to) and we became friends, and eventually started dating once I was in college. I still always feel like I have to be constantly doing something to satisfy someone somewhere, otherwise I'm being a bad person. It feels like I can never really relax.

>>53746
shit a honest to god hooker how much to piss on your mouth?

is your lucky day ,making some money while you shitpost!

>>53745
Yeah, well I'm not exactly into guys, and I don't want to ask somebody to lower their standards for me. That's why I've been losing weight and improving myself recently.

>>51419
Guess you didn't notice the thread in the catalog where female posters got all wet and bothered at thoughts of molesting little boys.

I've met a lot of girls that told me their parents don't allow them to have boyfriends or even male friends and I have a problem with that

But I guess they weren't that strict since they changed their minds once they met me

>>51419
I think you just hear it more. In the UK things are changing on that front. When I pick up the Metro paper, usually it has a story of a female teacher having sexual relations with a underage teenage boy. I think the reason why this is only coming to light now is because men are starting to speak up more about it and we all know that nothing shifts news papers faster than adult fucking a minor, especially pedo paranoia UK.

>does /fem/ have an issue with the way women are raised in comparison to men?
No.

It took me a long time to realise how coddled I was compared to my brother. He was quite bright, got into a very good selective public school, left home to go to university on the other side of the country and became fully independent at 19. I went to an expensive private school, lived at home until my mid 20's, got a car and an overseas trip bought for me by the folks. They still whine at him because they helped him in his first year of uni. No expectations put on me. He's definitely a stronger person than me.