12d36c No.53718
Hey /fem/,
So, historically I realize and understand that exes can't or shouldn't get back together because the issues that caused them to break up would reoccur. I completely agree with this and have dealt with this in the past from experience. We see a lot of the previous case pretty often, so I'd like to ask this question from a different perspective. I wanna hear your happy fairy tale stories!
For the sake of this question, let's assume that the couple broke up because of personal issues and not actual relationship issues, and that nothing was said just to "soften the blow" or "not to hurt feelings". Let's assume that the reasons for the breakup have nothing to do with meeting another person, feeling bored or fights or anger.
Has anyone ever been in a similar situation where it's worked out in the end? If so, how did it happen? Did they stay your friend or did they give you space? I realize I'm making a lot of assumptions because this is 8chan and how many of us have actually been in a relationship, but who the fuck knows, there may be some good answers in here.
tldr: Have any of you ever broken up with someone for personal reasons (not related to the relationship) and successfully rekindled the relationship later on?
5cb828 No.53722
People grow up and change. If you think you can make something work, go for it!
d0935e No.53738
>dating
af31d9 No.53748
>>53738shut up slut
(USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST) 5bfac5 No.53750
>>53748>slut-shamingoy vey learn the progressive new ways like your peers goy
30e01a No.53755
>>53748>>53750Ok ok I'm going to jump in here.
Now, I left cuckchan like everyone else, I hate what feminism is doing, fully believe in gamergate, and over all thinks the whole world just needs to get its own head out of its ass.
That being said, I DON'T understand slut shaming at all, Now I'm not mr ShekleJewstine, and I have only know two trans girls that I don't hate (Hint, you kind of defeat the reason of transitioning if you tell EVERYONE your a fucking trans girl even if they already know)
I just don't get it, shouldn't we be slut encoring? More pussy for everyone right? I know I love sluts, love em, and when ever we go out looking to get laid THAT night, were trying to find a slut right? Man fuck slut shaming, its just some cockblocker plot if you ask me.
b8c8b5 No.53758
>>53755The issues is women being sluts isn't natural and is driven by societies push for equality.
If a man fucks 50 women he is spreading his genes and has a very high chance of continuing his line.
A woman can only have realistically 1 kid a year so should be very selective about mates. This was the case for all of human history until the bra's started burning.
30e01a No.53760
>>53758I know its not a natural way for women to act, and it pisses me off when anyone flaunts around sexuality for any sort of agenda.
But hey, some people are just different! If a girl ends up loving sex and enjoying all the dick she can get her hands on (alot) Let her I say, its sex, let everyone fuck anyone and lets do our best to keep "equality" out of it.
12d36c No.53761
>>53722Thanks for answering the question and not derailing.
b8c8b5 No.53762
>>53760If they want to ride all the dick they can find then good luck to them but don't cry when they die alone without children because they refused to be what evolution told them to be.
sorry for off topic eb010c No.53763
>>53718I'd like to hear some happy stories too, so I'll shamelessly bump :)
5bfac5 No.53764
>>53755The problem with that though, is it doesn't really make sense to say it that way. It's like saying "I like faggots there is nothing wrong with faggots I have met lots of nice faggots why do people hate faggots". I mean, don't people understand that some words also serve a connotation of disparagement along with their meaning sometimes? To say slut suggests you are being negative/disapproving of what it is, unless you are using it ironically or something. Well, I guess a lot of negative words do get adopted in positive use, like punk, or like black people saying nigga… so it makes sense in that way, but I personally wouldn't use the word slut in a positive light ever.
I don't think monogamy is the only moral way and I have my specific views about it, so I'm sure in perspective of other people they'd say I have a slut's outlook.
5bfac5 No.53767
>>53755Though I guess, their life and the acts you do with them is a filthy thing and it's like wild fun. I guess you have an embracement of the fact that it's sleasy and not very nice in ways, and it's an invigorating bit of fun to have? Like so, I guess saying slut makes complete sense in your case in actual fact.
I was thinking in more of a different context really. Plus I don't think a loosely arranged hook up with someone and having sex with them that night is really worth doing or okay.
1d78b8 No.56622
I got back together with my ex (it was more of a break, to be honest, it didn't last more than two weeks) but we broke up because of relationship issues, so you're probably not interested in my story.
But I will tell you that my personal reasons (e.g. clinginess, mood swings etc) were a part of the break up and so were his (e.g. emotional detachment, autism etc), but we're managing okay right now. Every day is different when you have mood swings like I do, but today I couldn't be happier.
af31d9 No.56640
>>56622and tomorrow you couldn't be more miserable than you will be then
1d78b8 No.56718
d24b55 No.56752
>>53718>So, historically I realize and understand that exes can't or shouldn't get back together because the issues that caused them to break up would reoccur.Meh, in my case it was me going to prison, probably wouldn't occur if we got back together but then again, why would I want someone who can't stick together through thick and thin, it wasn't as if she was innocent in the whole deal.
bc3658 No.64106
I don't know if it is. I don't hate those that broke up with me, but I wish they respected me when they did it. I'm pathetic, impatient, and selfish. I don't hate them, I love them so I'm desperate and take it out on them to make them feel bad. I wish they respected me more at least, I know they want to leave me really though. It's hard for them to do, they had to and it's very hard for them. I'd do anything to fix it while there is a chance or regret it. I love them so much.
bc3658 No.64110
I absolutely expect to be spoken to again, it's beyond unfair. They can't do this and to my mind and just walk away, they aren't allowed to do that. This isn't a small thing, I expect to be spoken to again if I'm cared for. They can't do this to my head, I have to be spoken to and not be ran away from. This will mess with me forever if I'm not spoken to correctly with out being ran from.
bc3658 No.64111
They have to understand what they have done, I'm being blunt. They can't do this, this is atrocious. They can't fool me into making me think they hate me either. I love them to death, they need to speak to me like an adult and clear things up. I can't believe their behavior, it must be hard but they need to talk to me. This is the worst thing they could ever do.
bc3658 No.64112
I love them, and I know exactly how bad I'm making them feel right now. I hate it that I'm doing this to them too. Please, they are the love of my life and they can't end things like this. I absolutely expect to be spoken to.
bc3658 No.64113
If they want my life to be hell because of their actions, which I know they don't, they need to speak to me. This is something that just disappears in a week or a month or a year, or in my case maybe worse seeing as how I view them. They are the love of my life, I'm so sorry for what I've done to them.
bc3658 No.64114
They need to take some responsibility for what they've just done, and understand what they've just done to me.
bc3658 No.64115
It wasn't just a break up, it was far far worse.
bc3658 No.64116
I don't understand. Did they think I had to get away from them? Because that wasn't the case.
bc3658 No.64117
I wouldn't hurt myself, but I'm telling the truth when I say that I'll never love anyone ever again. I'll never love anyone again, not after them. I'm not strong enough to ever move on from them, and I would never want to.
bc3658 No.64119
I'm perfectly aware of what I've done to them. If I loved them I'd not be this way with them at all, I must not really love them but I really do. Because, I know what real love is. Why would I hurt them if I loved them, I don't know if I know the answer to that. Because, I know I'm hurting them. I'm so sorry, I tried not to hurt you but I couldn't. I must be just selfish and weak, but I just don't view leaving you as strong either. I'm really believe in you with everything I am, I'm sorry that ends up hurting us both. I have to have them know, but it hurts them and that hurts me. I'm so sorry for what I've done.
bc3658 No.64121
Please promise me that you won't hurt yourself, I don't want you to drink. Do that for me.
bc3658 No.64123
Thank you for everything you've done for me and loving me, you'll still end up saving me. You're my best friend. I still wish you could hear my voice to be honest and know the real me, it's sad, and I'm sorry but I will stay in love with you or I'd be lost without true direction. Is it okay if I do that, keep loving you? I won't be around though, and if this is really meant to happen it will happen. I know that you're really a cool guy, enough of one to hook this magical girl and open her eyes. But, we never forget the same trick, and pick up on every slight of hand. And, I know who you really are, I forgive you for trying to protect me. You've always looked out for me and put me first.
bc3658 No.64133
It seems to be a good decision to vent these things out, I'd never want to say these things to him. Or, maybe I would, I'm not sure.
There are so many things I'd want to say and explore, too many. So, I have no idea what to say to him, and I can't because I don't know what to say at all. He also left me.
They shouldn't be with me anyways, I'm a liar. I had a secret I couldn't tell them about because I keep it from myself. I must be delusional, yes I really must be but I did do what I thought was right.
If they'd want I'd tell them my worst secrets. I'd also show them my true self as I am right now, and I'd take my leap of faith and be with them in no time at all. But, I'd do that for them and let them make one last decision that I'd accept. That's what I really want more than anything else in the world.
I don't know if they love or hate me, I hope It doesn't turn into hatred because it could, and maybe I should be hated and looked at unfavorable. I wasn't funny, interesting, and I was like a kid the entire time. They had no reason to really like me, I'm thinking it's turned to hatred for me now. I've gone through so much with this person, maybe more than they've gone through with than me. I'm actually certain of that. I want them to be sure, I'll completely open up for them and let that spark catch fire. I'm not a loser, I'll be there to hold you if you want me to.
bc3658 No.64134
I've shared all of my dreams with you. I can't be insane, tell me I'm not insane.
bc3658 No.64135
I'll open up completely and show you myself. I'll accept your decision, we could be together so soon if I did that.
bc3658 No.64136
Let me hear your voice after everything we've been through together, let me hear the person I loved. You won't do that for me?
bc3658 No.64137
My secret isn't all that bad, you might understand or not.
bc3658 No.64138
I'll be funny and cool, interesting, not awkward or needy or bad to be around. You'll like my voice. If you let me open up with you. And then, I can be with you very soon. If you don't accept me after that, then I know there isn't anything I could do.
bc3658 No.64139
Please, let me show you me, and let me tell you why it was so hard for us to be together. I think you'll like me then.
bc3658 No.64140
Let me show you how much of a shit I am please, you can fix me up for you. And, let me hear your voice. I didn't want to be a creep, I thought I was doing the right thing.
bc3658 No.64141
Please, let me show you how much of a shit I am so you can just hate me. Let me tell you all the things I had to do. Tell me I'm not insane.
bc3658 No.64142
Show me that I'm not insane. Then tell me I'm a creep.
bc3658 No.64143
I want you to be happy, one way or the other. Let's find out which one it will be.
bc3658 No.64144
I wanted to be perfect for you, that was impossible. Let me show you who I am, then tell you my secrets. Do you love or hate me? I should never have dragged you into my life. I'm a stupid idiot who is only hurting you right now. I'm just delusional and stupid and a creep. Hate me so I know love isn't real, it was an illusion. Tell me I'm awful, and I'm I talk about stupid things.
bc3658 No.64145
See how insane I am, no one wants to date this or be around it. Stop being nice and with the lies. You don't think I'm a good person. Stop telling me you think I'm amazing, when you were always just laughing at me.
bc3658 No.64147
Let me hear your voice, it's not fair. That's cruel.
bc3658 No.64148
Don't you respect me at all enough to let me hear you? Waiting for the acceptance to kick in so I'm stuck to ponder it for the rest of my life?
bc3658 No.64149
Don't you understand how important you were to me and will be? I'd never loved anything so deeply, and everything you did was perfect with me. I have your pictures, and your music, and your memories. I loved you, you were absolutely perfect. You made a big mistake, you need to fix it.
I probably only love myself too, and I'm all talk and fucking weird. But, you have to fix this. I see every little thing in the chat and it adds up, but I'll question and ponder it. I shouldn't have to. I don't care if you break up with me after we talk, I'll accept it. I know you were trying to protect me, fix it.
Do you really just hate me now? What is love, because I was ready to love you forever earlier today. I was ready to be faithful to you for the rest of my life without you in it. I felt free, but I'm worse tonight trying to fight it. For someone that loves you that much, will you not help me? You really can't face me? It might sound creepy, but I've never felt more acceptance in life than this morning when I wanted to love you forever without you in it. That would have been my choice that I'm responsible for. I was even thinking about doing everything for you, for a good while and surprise ask you later on if you wanted to date me again when things could actually work out. So, I was more than in love with you. I guess you can do what you want, but not being able to talk to me now and help me. I don't know why you're afraid of me, just get it over with. You're like my husband to me, and maybe I will choose to love you forever, that's acceptance to me and I'd never felt better.
I won't show you me if that's what you want, but I will too. Why can't you ever talk? Was I right when I said you weren't open, meanwhile I have a bleeding heart? Do you hate me, or are you so in love with me that you're separating us? Typical man making all the big decisions, I'm just the little kid right?
Just talk to me jeez, you think I'm going to cry or something and I can't handle you? You don't have to run away the next second. You know, I can talk to you like an adult, can you to me? I'm not just somebody, you aren't allowed to do this to me. What am I going to do after we talk and you still want to split, what's your problem?
bc3658 No.64151
Do you even understand the thing you did wrong that you need to fix? It's not that difficult to figure out, be embarrassed all you want.
bc3658 No.64152
I'm not weird enough to hurt you, I'm just a little girl when it comes to you and only you, because you're the best. But even you being you, you don't make my decisions for me. No one can manipulate me, only I can do that. So, that's really your choice then? You're just going to end it like that and do that to me? Yeah, you're right I'm going to sneak back in. You can meet the real me for the first time if you want, be vigilant if that's not what you want. Why do you view me like this? What I think is that you are in love me, you really are. And you dream of being with me and me holding you and you can't stand it and had enough, and it may or may not have turned into false hatred. I actually might guess that it didn't. We can be together and I can be cooler than you maybe. But if not, just talk to me and settle your stupid crap. I make my own decisions, you don't.
bc3658 No.64153
You're totally right that I'm trying to sneak back in. Want to know another secret? I was told that I'd meet you years ago, and not directly. That person can't be anyone but you, I knew who you were when we met. I know you've been directly communicated about this as well, you shouldn't ignore it. You showed me it, it was so blatant.
bc3658 No.64154
You know what you showed me, I'd never seen that before you'd shown me. It was so obvious, there was a lot of communication going on. And it matched the thing I told you about that told me I would meet you, I know what a lot of it is saying.
There is other sync I'm not showing you, and other weird stuff. I wonder if you've kept anything from me.
I've tried giving you hints. I don't say it out loud because I know it'd sound crazy, which should tell ya something.
bc3658 No.64157
Why did all of this happen, why did we love each other? We went through so much, don't throw it away. I know you loved me, why are you giving up now? I don't want to regret you, be with me. You told me how much you needed me. I know you love me.
bc3658 No.64158
If I get ready for you, would you give me a chance in the future? Could I come back one day, would you talk to me then?
bc3658 No.64159
I'd do that for you, and embarrass myself more for you. Because I know you love me, and I can trust you.
bc3658 No.64179
I don't know what he's thinking right now. I've learned a lot myself and would be glad he did it, very important things. If he didn't want such an emotional response out of me, then he shouldn't have done it the way he did. I told him that he could break up with me when he wanted to though, wished he'd been more mature about it. I wouldn't dare blame him for my immature behavior though.
All of that would be very manipulative to even say, I'm just stupid for them.
I pick up on everything, he still makes me laugh. He's cheating on me with someone that looks just like. He thinks I'm too cute. He still picks on me and helps me with stuff.
We shared a video together, it was basically about us and for just us. I'm not sure he believes those things, but it's beyond a reasonable doubt that it isn't. I don't think he believes in magic or knows who I am still.
bc3658 No.64180
He told me he was sorry too, that was kind of nice of him. I just don't know what he wants, was he trying to invite me to hang out with him? I wouldn't know why.
bc3658 No.64184
I never cheated on him, there was no other guy. I'm not a liar, more so I don't divulge information.
I don't want to throw away our fairy tale.
bc3658 No.64185
No one else will ever have what we have, We can't lose the fairy tale.