/fem/ - Female

Wealth signals a lot more to a potential mate than the amount they can run away with down the line. Regardless, it's not nearly as shallow a selection criteria as you might think. By analogy, would you date a morbidly obese woman because she claims she was skinny and will be again soon? I wouldn't.

Moreover, if you're not wealthy independent of your income despite having made $200k+ for a period of years (i.e. you don't have significant savings or investments), you've got nobody to blame but yourself for having to ask this question.

You probably should have put this in the sticky.

>How can I tell if a woman is interested in me or how much she can leave with in 5 years?
lmao dude just ask her

>>53772
>You probably should have put this in the sticky
True but I figured this subject is broad enough for a thread.
>you've got nobody to blame but yourself for having to ask this question
I wasted it and admit that but how does that change the question of how to tell between looking for a mate that can support and outright greed.

>>53780
My point was that the increase in female attention you notice at higher income doesn't necessarily imply greed on their part. It's just a part of attraction. Your wealth shouldn't change the traits you look for in a woman.

If you're just asking what traits are more likely to signify a willingness to cheat you out of money I'd say poor education, low income, frivolous hobbies etc, but also be mindful of how your traits can change things. e.g. A woman might enter a relationship with no pretenses of running off with your money but do so anyway, based on her perception of your weakness or naivety.

>>53752
In what situations have you ever had the absolute necessity of communicating your income to potential partners?

Just lie and say you earn less than that. This shouldn't represent any harm in your relationship. If your woman passes the "not a greedy fuck" test, marry her and tell her you got a new job or something.

Its going to take some patience and tact, so be prepared to go on a lot of first dates.

>Avoid giving any specifics on income.

If a gal asks about money on the first date, that should be a red flag. Its fine to talk about your field in general, but "How much do you make?" isn't really an appropriate first date question. Unless you're talking business, finance is more of something to talk about before you decide to move in together. If you're looking for a relationship, its probably best to do it on a level playing field.

>Do dutch dates

A woman with her own income stream probably doesn't need yours. If they're super worried about something as simple as a cup of coffee, they probably have poor money management skills to begin with.

My advice? Find women that stand on a common ground. Getting out and doing your favorite hobbies would be a good starter for meeting a suitable match in general. Like to surf? Say hello to the cute surfer girl who stole your wave. Are you an amateur cyclist? Enter some races, talk to people. Remember that women are people, just like you or anyone else, they just got dealt a different hand. Compatibility and common interest is a pretty important thing to keeping any relationship going, not just romantic ones.

Also: There are dating sites tailored to the affluent.

Alternatively: Be a bachelor for life and only date women for a season at a time.

>>53789
>frivolous hobbies
Like what?

>>53974
Gambling, horoscopes, ForEx speculation, reading Sylvia Plath.

>>53970
You make a good point about finding someone with their own money but I grew up below the poverty line and don't like the arrogance that is common with wealth.

As for not mentioning my income that makes no difference as the job is construction in the resource sector. I fly back and forth from remote sites spending weeks there at a time.
I need to tell anyone I want to date that I do this and in Australia everyone knows if you fly to work you have money.

Oh Pigfuck my dear
when will you realize that there are no woman on /fem/? Even if there were
they're not worth it

>>53990
Coming from poverty, I'm sure you can appreciate the value of a dollar, and that's not a bad virtue to find in a partner. Having grown up in the poor house myself, I understand where you're coming from. The important thing isn't so much finding another person on the same income level as you, more that you find someone who wants the same things out of the relationship as you is what you want. Financially speaking, you don't need to find an independent woman, but a stable one. Not knowing age, if you're still in your 20s, you have plenty of time to start a family. 30s? Still have time. 40s? Ehhhhh. 50s? Probably time to give up the picket fence dream and buy a yacht.

>ferry flights

Leave out the details on flying then, generalize a bit and just say you spend a lot of time in the field.

>>54012
Thanks this has helped. 31yo by the way, want kids by 35 if I find a keeper.

>>53974
Surfing the internet and posting on imageboards…

Get a prenup.

>>54029
I agree.
While it seems cynical, nothing says "I love you, and not your money." like a prenup.