/fem/ - Female

It seems like you already know what to do. It may not be easy, but I don't know what more could be said about the situation other than that it's best if you get out of it.

>>55134
You think so? You're probably right, I guess I am aware that this relationship is pretty damn toxic. But I just wish that there was a way that I could still see him occasionally without dating him. But considering his reaction the last time we broke up, I don't think that's an option.

Find somebody else. Breaking up will be easier.

>>55137
Are you sure? Because breaking up last time was horrible. Still, I suppose you have a point; the more I drag this on, the more painful it will become for both parties.

DUDE

youre mentally ill, right? why the fuck you gonna complicate your situation with someone that DOESNT EVEN BELIEVE IN MENTAL ILLNESS

do you know how fucking arrogant that is? do you know how much we know about the human body? not very much, and combine that with the endless amount of interactions with the many, many compounds we encounter on a daily basis?

this guy is an absolute fuckwit, and you want to keep talking to him?

you want to plow this walking abortion while he's sexting girls and posting nudes (LOL)???

get fucking real, girl

ignore his texts, block him using an app, idc, just fucking forget he exists, because he sucks shit

this person will only exacerbate your suffering

FRIENDSHIPS AND RELATIONSHIPS EXIST TO AUGMENT HAPPINESS/JOY

IF OTHER PEOPLE ARE ACTIVELY MAKING YOUR LIFE MORE COMPLICATED FOR LITTLE RETURN, THERE IS NO REASON TO INVOLVE YOURSELF WITH THEM

there are billions of people on this planet, and people that don't do you any good have no place in your life

>>55138
I think you misunderstood. Break up AFTER you find somebody else. Will definitely be easier then.

>>55150
O-okay, I'm sorry if I made you mad. But, yes, I do get your point. It's just proving to be more difficult to break up with him than it appears on paper, y'know?

>>55153
Oh, sorry, I did misunderstand. But isn't that cheating? Sure, my boyfriend cheats, but I am not my boyfriend.

>>55155
oh man no im not mad

it's just… he sounds terrible and i feel for you that you think that WHATEVER redeeming qualities he has, is enough to make up for this shit, because this is pretty damn bad

you have your own personal demons

why are you going to involve yourself intimately with someone that vehemently denies its existence? it's UNTHINKABLY arrogant and he's totally speaking out of ignorance, and it's gross

you most defintely deserve someone that CARES and is open minded enough to understand how little they actually know, and how the body can be affected in so many ways by MANY different variables

and of course, someone that doesn't fucking post nude pictures of themselves online and sexts other girls

>>55132

OP

FIRST seek professional help GET OUT OF THE INTERNETs ,doctors neAOW
(the webs are full of psycho misogihaters just like me ,keep reading and you will see!)


maybe he acts this way because you are ful of shit tumblarina making stuff up every week


if your are a attention whore you deserve to jump headfirst into concrete at 200mph ,have a nice day

this advice works for the admins of this faggotry too!

>>55155
When cheating is bad, it's bad because it damages someone you care about, not because it's cheating.

>>55132

> One of my many issues with this relationship centers around the fact that he sexts other people and posts nudes online while in a relationship with me

Dox him.

>>55158
Ah, I'm glad you're not mad. Well, I just like to delude myself that he does care about my feelings, but he's too autistic to understand them. Maybe that's true, but I suppose in the end there isn't much of a difference, since the road to hell is paved with good intentions.

>>55159
That was a very strange post, though I must admit that I've been on the Internet too long for that kind of stuff to affect me. I'm too far gone, man, this ride will never end.

>>55162
Another strange post…

>>55164
But if I cheated on him, I'd be damaging him and I still care about him. I'm sorry, but not cheating is a no brainer for me; better I leave than cheat.

>>55167
Haha, that had never occurred to me! But he has nudes of me that he took for his own personal enjoyment (I'm not stupid enough to put nudes on the Internet, but I am stupid enough to send them to him), so I'm sure he could blackmail me with them easily, which is quite worrying.

>>55155
Leaving him for someone else is not cheating

My friend is in an open relationship and because she only gets sex from him like once a week she started hitting on me

I told her no because she is dating my best friend and I don't compromise my principles on that

However if she broke up with him and wasn't doing him I would jump all over that because she has a lot of qualities that I would consider marrying a person for

>>55158
Jeez calm your tits the fuck down. He's not some fucking psycophatic leech ass fuck. OP is literally scared that you might be mad on the internet, apologized for it and then was thankful when you told her you're not mad at her. Do you realize just how sensible she is, even for us, let alone for her bf. The fuck you doing flying off with caps and a dozen billion gazillion holohoaxillian rows and capped words like you're yelling at her. Get the fuck off your high fucking horse and stop abusing the fact you found a weaker one needing help, you fucking cunt.

OP, all you have to understand is guys can't read our minds and if you want something you have to demand it from them, implying or hoping they figure it out doesn't work. Not because of malice but it's just biology, that's just now how they function, they can't read this. He doesn't understand the mental illness things because guys literally can not think, so they rarely get depressed in the way we do since they can just… not think. It's not malice, your man simply CAN'T get it. Doesn't mean he wants what's bad to you, all it means he's too much of a man to be able to explain to you that you should simply not think and then you won't be depressed, which he is convinced is the solution.

>>55575
>He doesn't understand the mental illness things because guys literally can not think, so they rarely get depressed in the way we do since they can just… not think

… Huh?

>>55605
I think she means choose not to think

Except its not really a choice, just a thing that kicks in

Not all dudes are good at it though

My boyfriend cares so thoroughly to the extent that it actually has a negative affect. I desire to not share some emotional problems sometimes because solitude with them feels better sometimes but I can't really do that. There's also a whole lot of not being able to trust that I will be responsible in a lot of situations and I have to tell him a lot about my day. It's okay though, I don't protest because accepting and going along with it is apart of me caring for him too because it is actually his vunerability in a sense, since he has high caution issues.

You should break up. Both of you want different things out of the relationship. He wants a casual fuckbuddy, you want a boyfriend. It is not possible for you to both get what you want if you continue this relationship.

>>55660
We just don't give a fuck. Problems are meaningless when you refuse to let them hurt you.

>>55725
By that way of thinking anon, those aren't really problems

>>55132
>Yet when I tell him why I'm sad, he proceeds to explain why that's ridiculous and why I shouldn't be sad.
He is taking your depression as a personal insult, he thinks if you were really depressed it would reflect poorly on him as a boyfriend. So that's why he explains to you why he shouldn't be sad, because he doesn't think of himself as someone who could have a girlfriend who isn't happy.

BREAK UP WITH HIM.

Only path to salvaging this relationship is to put on your big girl trousers and go full black-girl on this motherfucker. Focus mainly on how feelings don't make sense, and being a dumb autist isn't a reason to start trying to solve your emotional puzzle, shit sucks and he'll have to put up with it if he wants to keep you, just like he'll have to lose the sexting. If it all possible, relate your experiences to his own, it should help jump-start his empathy.

>>55851
This, albeit I'd be less cynical about it. Chances are he's just insecure about having a sad girlfriend, and when faced with a problem he's unfamiliar with giving him a sad girlfriend, he gets frustrated.

>>55155
Yes, that is cheating. Grow a spine and break up with the guy before you pick up a new one.

anyone else feel like OP might be a 6/10 white girl dating a shitskin/nigger?

shes in UK after all

>>55132
Break up with him, seriously. Like others have already said, you already know you should. It will suck, it'll be miserable and lonely but it's just not worth staying with this person by the sounds of it