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c65d8e No.55866

how do you girls deal with (physical) insecurity while in a relationship?


im not insecure when it comes to how i feel as a person, but as far as being a girl goes… fuck do i feel hideous

what's the point of even dating when you feel this way? it all feels pretty shit

and the thing is, i can't even quash my feelings by simply working out more, or whatever, because i know that with most men, whatever girl they see on the street will catch his eye, and she'll win out (because variety)

even if he doesnt fuck someone else, what's the point in being with someone when you're not truly desired?

2c6de0 No.55877

My experience, and I think a lot of other men's, is that when my values and interests align with a girl's values and interests, beauty becomes a relatively less important factor in desire.

This isn't just the fairy tale "emotional attraction trumps physical attraction" though. Something about the emotional/intellectual connection seems to subtly alter our perception of you, such that we literally find you more physically desirable than a girl we should be expected to recognize is objectively more attractive.

So your last sentence doesn't reflect my experiences; it's entirely possible for you to be "truly desired" even in the presence of super models.

(Not a justification for becoming a fat slob. Objective beauty will always play a role, and putting effort into your image plays into the "values and interests" part of things for a lot of guys.)

b7cfbc No.56397

>>55866
I can guarantee you that whatever flaw you think you have is completely blown out of proportion in your mind. I'm always stunned at the shit girls are insecure about. Sometimes the "flaw" is something that I specifically like. I knew this one girl who was practically obsessed with her weight, and how much she hated her glasses. Meanwhile my fetish is thick girls, and I thought the glasses were hot.

dc0926 No.56401

>>55866
If you see us look at a cute girl for a second don't think it's because we don't desire you or desire you less. If he doesn't desire you he'll break it off. It's impossible to turn off being attracted to other people but if he's still with you then you've won.

ca47d1 No.56404

>>55866
The problem is that you are basing too much of your value on looks.

Make yourself valuable to men in other ways, that other women these days don't. Develop actual hobbies, have interests.

You have to do what men do to get a woman. You have to be interesting, rather than just looking pleasing to the eye.
Because when you're just window dressing, you can be tossed aside at a moment's notice for new window dressing. (When you're 50, for what reason will someone want to be with you? Your looks are gone; do you have anything else that makes you fun to be around?)

A lot of guys will be, "hurr cook, clean, etc." but fuck, everyone should be able to do these things. The women I find myself attracted to invariably have interesting kinks, act mature, get creative, play interesting games and can hold intelligible conversations about anything from politics to science without getting lost and while adding their own things to the mix.

Basically, don't be a fucking airhead. Don't focus on your appearance to the exclusion of everything else like so many basic bitches do these days.

Your appearance is what catches male attention, your everything else is what keeps it.

ac668e No.56405

men come for the pussy and stay for the personality

find a guy you like, make sure he has classical european values (pic realted), and bring him in. men love it when you flirt with them, entice them, make it obvious you want them because it means we dont have to do any of the usual mating ritual shit

at the heart of it, men looking for long term women seek a warm, caring and giving creature (ie a motherly type so as to raise good children), so just follow that march and youll be fine. keep yourself in relative shape and take of him and he will do the same for you. easy

6f353e No.56431

>>56397
or how every girl with curly hair wants str8 hair and vice versa
absolutely mind bottling what girls let upset them

4a78a3 No.56433

Your man determines how beautiful you are.

dfb934 No.56446

>>56433
>Finding self-value in others
lel

859e0f No.56458

Just date a beta provider, and do whatever you want on the sly

43733f No.56468

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Feel insecure in relationship? Get rid of relationship. Now just insecure.

50% of the problem solved.

4a78a3 No.56472

>>56446
Well that's where it comes from…

dfb934 No.56491

>>56472
Self. Value.

Do you not understand this?

>>56468
lel

5b8dd6 No.56557

>>55866
When I was in a relationship I wouldn't watch porn or even masturbate. Not even on principle, I just didn't have the interest.

>because i know that with most men


Find an uncommon man.

8a6e43 No.57080

>>55877

You are such a cancerous fucking faggot how have you not been banned?

2c6de0 No.57085

>>57080
>how have you not been banned?
Banning practices here are pretty reasonable despite the opposite reputation. Why am I cancer? Besides the tripfag thing.



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