1fac6c No.56568
Hey /fem/
I come here with a serious question. Can someone who goes a lot on chans, who is really immersed into the entire chan community and all that, be in a relationship with someone who doesn't know anything about it. It's easier for guys I guess. But as a girl that spends a lot of time on chans and was shaped by chan culture (lol i know 'culture'), I am very hesitant of getting involved with someone who doesn't know of it. I met a guy I like. He is into sports, even games. He has a good sense of humour. He does go on 9fag but apparently everyone and their mothers go there or at least follow it on facebook. He likes me back. But I am scared of doing anything because of that. Chans are a big part of my life. I tried being with someone like that, always met beta virgins which is so not what I want. No offense to any guys here.
Then again, maybe it would be healthy for me to go out with someone who is 'normal'. I mean, we do have a lot in common and his sense of humour is good, unlike the average 9faggers.
Am I overthinking it? Probably am but still. I could use some advice.
Thank you girls, and guys!
1b26f9 No.56569
>>56568I'd say he might grow to look immature or exasperating to you, or he might turn out just fine. There is, really, only one way to find out and it's to try.
My life is clearly centered around music, and I need someone in my life to talk music with for hours, but if I meet a potential partner who really blew me away i'd be ready to set that aside.
1fac6c No.56570
>>56569He ticks almost every box. He is smart, studies medicine successfully, he is funny, we both like similar things and when we joke around he always knows what I'm going to say and vice versa. He plays video games. He can be really morbid in his jokes and that's great because then I don't need to hide that side of me. He is sporty. Only things that are missing are lifting and chans. I think it could be good for me. But then again what if I just lose god knows how much time on this, maybe get my heart broken as well. I'm stupid I know.
1b26f9 No.56573
>>56570Looks like you should give it a shot, at worst it'll turn out to be a somewhat disappointing attempt at a relationship and you'll go "oh well".
1fac6c No.56582
>>56573I will think about it. Thank you for your input! I appreciate it
1b26f9 No.56584
>>56582No problem - keep us updated c:
a14cc0 No.56586
>>56568>As a girl that was shaped by chan culture>I met a guy who isn't>>56570> we both like similar things and when we joke around he always knows what I'm going to say and vice versa.what even
1fac6c No.56587
>>56586You know what. You are right. I can actually be who I really am without him going to chans.
5af4d2 No.56594
As long as he isn't a soulless ginger, you've got nothing to worry about.
37e958 No.56597
>>56587So you use the Chans as a crutch for a lacking personality?
fbaa81 No.56679
I am in the same position OP, but my only concern is whether or not I should even talk about the few things I find here that are interesting to talk about with him without referencing where I read it. He doesn't seem to care, but he doesn't lurk or post or anything, just reads the news.
>>56597More like lacking other people to talk to, probably.
50db46 No.57386
So. We met on Monday, had fun, we really clicked. He told me he hasn't liked anyone this much in a really long time. Yet he tells me he doesn't know what he wants. And he still took me to a hockey game with him the next day, even though he was (and now still is) sick. Said we can go again if I liked it. But he needs time to think about what he wants. I'm treating this as if he said no tbf, but I'm really sad. Cuz we both had a good time together. He went back home for the rest of the holidays and we won't be in the same town for 2 weeks now. I don't know. He said he'll try to make up his mind soon but like I said, nothing is happening with it..
30f4f5 No.57391
>>57386He said he would go again, just keep doing stuff together and see what happens.
50db46 No.57393
>>57391I think he might be thinking as friends. But yeah, I'll wait it out
30f4f5 No.57395
>>57393I find that pretty doubtful.
50db46 No.57398
>>57395I hope you are right. I really like him
50db46 No.57400
I also don't know how to play this now. I'll let him text me when he wants and stuff. I guess. Which is going to be hard because we talked all the time before yesterday when he got sick and I worked
30f4f5 No.57403
>>57398>>57400Make sure that you are really clear about how you feel and all that. Otherwise he might get the impression he has been friendzoned.
Initiating conversation yourself every now and then can go a long way for showing interest.
5c52a1 No.57404
>>57403He knows I like him and that I don't want a friend or a fuckbuddy. So I was just thinking of giving him some space to think.
And he apparently doesn't want to hurt me and all that so he wants to think about what he wants. And is frustrated because like I said, he hasn't liked any girl this much for a long time. I don't know.
Then they say women are complicated
30f4f5 No.57405
>>57404Hmm, okay. Of course I'm just making a guess from limited information here, but to me it sounds like he got burned by the last girl he liked. So now he has conflicting feelings, he likes you but doesn't want to get burned again.
5c52a1 No.57407
>>57405Actually his last gf did fuck him over from what I gathered. He was depressed when she dumped him, they were together for 4 years
30f4f5 No.57412
>>57407Yep, that would do it. Just be patient and keep where he is coming from in mind.
2e7ed5 No.57424
Hey femanons there's this guy I'm dating but he's a leddit casual how do I break it off without hurting his filthy normalfag feelings?
5c52a1 No.57437
>>57412yeah i think that's going to be a no altogether. oh well. not like it's the first time someone doesn't want to be with me. you get used to it
30f4f5 No.57440
>>57437Don't give up so fast, because the problem isn't that he doesn't want to be with you. He just doesn't want to get hurt again. Keep going out and doing things with him and having fun, and he should warm up to the idea.
5c52a1 No.57442
>>57440we are not in the same town, won't be for like 2 weeks. but he asked for distance now so he can think without being under pressure.