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57090e No.65734

It's pretty common to hear guys complain that women get showered with free gifts and a never-ending stream of compliments, validation, and support. However, this is not my experience at all. The only guy who has ever bought me a video game on a random day was my very gay friend, and whenever I spoke on the mic I would only get insults and people asking for nudes, even when I only try to discuss the game and call out where enemies were. I also suffered from a pretty bad case of depression for two years, and know that people will abandon you quick as fuck when you stop being fun. I certainly didn't have a bunch of male cheerleaders trying to make me happy every day.

So, what are your experiences with this? Do you get showered with gifts, support and compliments? If yes, then why do you think you're getting all this? Maybe I'm not hot enough, I'd say that I'm a 6 most days, so it would be interesting to get some hot girl's input on this.

f4f548 No.65735

I can't remember the last time I got a gift without an occasion. I'm not sure if it's ever happened, except from my parents. I never talk on mic in games, I don't want to stand out and if I screw up at all it'll just reinforce the (usually true) stereotype that girls suck at games. I have trouble making/keeping friends because I'm too reserved and haven't ever totally overcome being uncomfortable around someone. Came close once but then she became friends with my sister and we drifted because she liked my sister better. I don't generally get compliments unless I got a haircut or something, except from one guy I knew who would just compliment every girl randomly in the hopes of winning one over. On the odd occasion I've had guys sit with me if I was eating out alone but I think it's mostly out of pity and thinking I'll be an easy catch because I'm alone. I never know what to say and I hate eating with people so it's just uncomfortable and eventually they leave. I get offered help somewhat often when doing physical labor but I'm pretty certain it's just because I'm tiny and girls are weak, rather than flirting. I think the men here way exaggerate it. I don't think girls have it that much different, I think people generally hold females to lower expectations in work, but that's about it. I don't have guys throwing themselves at me, I'm a dateless, kissless virgin too. I think I've been flirted with a couple to a few times in my life, but it's kind of hard to tell what's an advance vs friendliness or pity. As for validation/support, of the few times I have opened up about something that troubles me greatly, it was respected once. I've never had any "orbiters." From my observations the supposed huge amount of male attention girls get doesn't happen even to the very bubbly, feminine, sexy type. Though you do hear about girls who get catcalled whenever they go out, so who knows. I second that a hot girl's input is needed.

For reference I think I'm pretty average too. I think I've got a pretty enough face but I don't wear any makeup, don't have big T&A, and I dress like a boy, so maybe that's why I don't get the heaps of attention girls apparently do.


b4dc28 No.65736

Men tend to become groveling retards when they perceive, even subconsciously, the slightest chance that a suitable woman will interact with them sexually.

Physical appearance only determines what kind of guys will grovel. i.e. a 6/10 girl might get showered with positive attention from 7/10 guys or lower, but not likely 8s or 9s.

How sexual your personality/demeanor is determines how much (if any) of that attention will come your way. i.e. an average looking but sexually charged girl will get more attention than a cold hearted supermodel.


88cd11 No.65737

>gifts

Only ever got random gifts from bfs/gf and once from an ex. Wouldn't call it showering

>friends

Had a close 5 friends or so when I wasn't neet

>support and compliments

Got and gave compliments on clothes/hair etc from girls frequently, but you know just in a casual way as you do to be friendly.

Have gotten passing comments from quite a few guys but I mostly just shrugged it off as most aren't my type.

Back when I had facebook I'd usually get a stream of messages from people who suddenly found me interesting when I put up a pic in a bikini or something but again I'd just put them down gently or ignore.

It can be nice if it's subtle or sincere but most of the time it's pretty creepy, especially given the time of guy who messages. For instance there was this older guy who didn't even go to my school who was messaging me near every day at one point with random compliments and asking what I'd being doing and if I'd like to meet up and go around his house. apparently he did it to a lot of girls in the city.

I did 'meet' my second boyfriend on fb though, but he started it out with a conversation and not shallow compliments.


c6ca4c No.65742

>>65734

be my gf


bd39be No.65743

eyy gäri var bor du ;))


3bb919 No.65923

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I could buy you a game on steam if it makes you feel happy if you want

Alternatively that feel when no grills to buy me games or give hapies, feels bad


177adc No.65945

YouTube embed. Click thumbnail to play.

>>65734

all you gotta do is be chill

people will be creepy and hit on you but all you gotta do is respond with confidence and give em a hard time

if they persist do not get upset and they generally should calm down

all the dudes in this vid besides the obvious one are pretty chill about it and maybe white knighting a bit


177adc No.65946

>>65945

also that generosity you claim there is an absense of is because a lot of dudes are self aware enough not to act like "that guy"


4128f8 No.66008

>>65734

Alright, no one has given a real straight answer. I'm a manon, but I've been on the internet a bit and think I can give a good answer because I've found myself being more generous to women at times.

The answer is this: People *used* to give out quite a bit of extra stuff to women in games or etc on the web, but that changed once men caught on to that fact. Boards/bbs's became overrun with "women" and eventually it became a stereotype and that's how "tits or gtfo" came about.

During that time, people did still give free stuff to women but it was usually if they had some evidence, like if they heard her over VOIP as a woman or she acted like a "token female". Eventually, a "nerd" stereotype formed, quite recently actually, about people giving women free stuff in videogames, and then that's when it stopped altogether.

Now, it still may happen, but as some people in this thread have already said, it's rarer and people are afraid of being seen as "sexist" or "misogynist".


b448be No.66013

>>65734

I've never used a mic and barely even text chatted when I played online. It was really rare that I played online and then mostly I'd play by myself. I hated how people would treat me differently if they thought I was a girl so most of my internet friends (gaming, forums, whatnot) thought I was a guy. I identify as androgynous transgender so it was kind of the first and kind of that it felt good.

So no, I've never gotten free stuff. The only compliments I got was when I started dating this girl from this forum and she thought I was pre-op ftm transgender. We gradually separated and last I saw, she's a raging TERF and scarily aggressive vegan. She sent me a Halloween card once.

The only gifts that I got were from significant others and they were rare and often a piece of their jewelry or clothing. Most of them I gave back when we broke up.


d737b2 No.66218

Not at all. Most men are full of shit. They're creepy if you're attractive and downright horrible if you're not. Either way the only thing you're guaranteed to get from them is spam.


bd9c8e No.66223

I've never had a random man give me a gift. Most of the gifts that I have received have been from close friends, or coworkers. If it ever happened I would probably turn the gift down. I've never liked it when people say you owe me, or I got this for you so you do this for me.

I don't care what men say when I play online. I play video games to enjoy the game and talk to people who like the game as much as I do. If they become to much of a bother I mute them, tell them to fuck off, or go to a different server.

I never cared for men who constantly compliment women just to get in their pants. The first few are fine, but after a constant barrange I tell them to stop.


b186a8 No.66225

>>66218

this tbh.


ba2c33 No.66230

>>66223

>I never cared for men who constantly compliment women just to get in their pants. The first few are fine, but after a constant barrange I tell them to stop.

I'm so sorry anon, have you recovered from this horrific experience?


bd9c8e No.66239

>>66230

I go to therapy now, because of it.


d95d01 No.66332

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d95d01 No.66333

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Despite being a penis-wielder, I think I can share some limited insight regarding this.

It is my opinion that the (as OP so strikingly put it) showers with free gifts, never-ending streams of compliments, validation etc etc is a real thing.

I speak from years of experience, abusing this phenomenon by impersonating girls in a range of online games.

Quite successfully so since my time playing certainly was a never-ending stream of niceties. Generous "donations" of strong and rare game items, power-grinding, shared secrets, HUGE monetary gifts, guidance and so forth. On an unrelated side-note, in some games, items are worth actual money. Any items I got that were, I resold and put the money in an account called "The Coffee Fund", used to purchase hot beverages in my favorite cafe every Tuesday. Initially, reasons like this was why I started out, I was too lazy to progress on my own. However after a while I realized that It wasn't why I kept going (even though chai-lattes are damn good), because rather than the practical aspects of the games, the ones that had me hooked was the social ones. The barrage of care and compliments, true or false & ill-intended or not.

Like a coin, it has two sides. The gifts and compliments are followed by non-stop sexual harassment and so much drama you wouldn't believe.

Stalkers are another hazard, most are harmless and a nuisance at most but every now and then you come across one that is especially notorious.

I certainly understand that the very graphic & violent harassment can be incredibly disheartening and that the more impressionable girls might not only be offended but also hurt.

On the other hand, the massive amount of affection and approaches from males was overwhelming and touching, so much that I developed an strong addiction for it.

However, the female-female interaction was the most alluring, girl friendship is a fascinating concept and keep I experiencing a warmth that simply does not exist in male-male friendships, and in a sense its fun to talk hours upon hours about essentially nothing.

I made alot of lasting friendships this way with both girls and guys, this really put things into perspective about how the genders interact.

Also, its an understatement that since this concerns computer games, not all is translatable to everyday life but I do still believe the core concept applies.

I apologize for the blogpost. ;^)

>>66008

>People *used* to give out quite a bit of extra stuff to women in games or etc on the web, but that changed once men caught on to that fact.

You're wrong, the phenomenon is still more or less standard practice, I've only noticed a hint of decline the last two-three years or so. Men haven't "caught on" to anything & honestly I don't think they/we will, haha. Its interesting that you mention it though because I've actually given this some thought and I think it is because openly-female players are more common now and that games intended demographic have widened from kiss-less skelly NEET wizards to Average Joes/Juliets that presumably have a more healthy/functional social life.

>During that time, people did still give free stuff to women but it was usually if they had some evidence, like if they heard her over VOIP as a woman or she acted like a "token female".

About that, there are indeed some that would require loose/easily forged proof and even then they are only a fraction of the crowd. Personally I quickly disregard the ones that do, because generally they're not worth the hassle. On the topic of VOIP, there are voice-wranglers publicly available and I've tried with varying amount of success but again, not worth the hassle. I do admit that it has become increasingly challenging/fun the past years because of advancements in communication methods. The guys are very eager to extend their line of communication to outside of the game, what used to be Myspace and Msn is now a plethora of communication platforms spread across both computer and phone. They say that people who live under double-identities develop schizophrenic tendencies, hehe well they should try managing 11 identities at once.

>>66218

Seconded.

>>65736

Seconded.

>>65743

Blatte PLZ GO




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