Long distance D/s relationships?

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Long distance D/s relationships? Anonymous 01/10/15 (Sat) 10:29:36 No.1732

i'm a domme who currently has 4 submissives who i try to devote at least an hour of my time each day to. we have a routine, mostly consisting of verbal domination through 1on1 voice chat. (although two of them are partnered so sometimes it turns into group play.) but i'm worried that our routine is getting stale.

any tips for keeping things healthy and exciting while also being long distance?

Anonymous 01/10/15 (Sat) 11:21:54 No.1734

>>1732
Set goals, things you want to achieve with them over a week/month, occasionally just take that hour to talk not play and if you are, keep plans to move things to an RL relationship in plain sight

Good luck, I'm sure they're happy

Anonymous 01/10/15 (Sat) 21:28:23 No.1741

>>1734

yeah we do have some goals but possibly not enough, i'm implementing a rewards system via a sticker chart and i hope that when i finally launch it, there will be incentive there for them to jump through bigger hoops for me.

we usually talk on and off throughout the day as well, depending on who is available at any given time. our relationships are not purely sex-driven. i guess i'm just worried that aspect will start to override the other half of things, and it'll get stale/unsexy.

unfortunately moving it to a RL relationship is not foreseeable for most of them, as they also have real partners. i'm okay with this, it was never an end goal for me.

thanks for the advice

Anonymous 01/11/15 (Sun) 02:47:55 No.1775

>>1732

What keeps you interested in your slaves/subs knowing that there is no physical contact between you? Do you not feel that there is a sense of incompletion?

As a sub, I felt this way every time I got into a relationship with a Domme.

Some other things that I've heard of long-distance relationships doing includes things like chastity/key-holding, but these things require a large deal of trust. I have also done blackmail once for a month with a girl. It was an absolute nightmare, but I was usually aroused 90% of the time I was in that situation.

Anonymous 01/11/15 (Sun) 09:29:08 No.1811

>>1732
That image was confirmed fake a while ago.

Anonymous 01/12/15 (Mon) 03:51:08 No.1820

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>>1775

i don't feel especially incomplete, no. it's satisfying knowing that i influence them throughout their day-to-day, and that they have devoted themselves to me fully. that is the biggest gratification i get out of this, the cyber sex is just a fun bonus.

i personally am just in it for the psychological/verbal domination aspect, and less the physical. nothing against people seeking physical relationships, and i definitely do enjoy them myself/have a wide variety of gear from a 3-year engagement i had with one of my exes. it's just that in my 6 years of experience being a domme, physical domination didn't do any more or less for me than verbal/mental, i treat them both about the same. i've only been doing this virtual domme thing for a fraction of the time, however, and so i'm trying to sort out what really works for me. hence why i came to this thread, haha. i wanted to see if there was anyone else who was in a virtual D/s relationship and perhaps had successes and failures to share.

we plan on at least trying to meet up eventually, but 2/4 live in another country and are trying to get their lives together. i'm also trying to get my life together as well, and so there's little room for me to leave the country at this time. even less for the other 2/4ths. 1/4 and i plan to move in together at some point though

key-holding is fantastic, i feel so much power when i hold my sub's key in my hand. she wears a subtle day-collar that i personalized together with her, girls are lucky that they can get away with wearing the most gaudy bullshit! myself included, but that's another story. i'm hoping to get the couple collared and chastity-caged as well so they don't play around with each other unless they have my explicit permission.

blackmail is a great idea, i know we've fantasized together about it before, but i've never attempted it. i've got plenty of ammo, and their facebooks as well… thanks for the idea, i'm going to try that sometime.

thanks for the reply

>>1811

it doesn't remove the concept from being cute or tickling me, i still like it.

Anonymous 01/12/15 (Mon) 05:17:46 No.1823

>>1811

Well obviously, there's no room for figurines in that tiny corner.

Now I'm wondering where the original image from though.

Anonymous 01/13/15 (Tue) 18:48:41 No.1833

>>1820

Hey, i´m a sub and currently also in an online relationship with a domme. Things so far are going very well, maybe we´ll also meet up soon.

Anonymous 01/16/15 (Fri) 19:43:00 No.1880

>>1823

yeah me as well, looks like it's actually a woman considering the curve of the hip. but nah, definitely no room for figurines there haha.

>>1833

great! so glad to hear it. what draws you to it, just curious?

Anonymous 01/21/15 (Wed) 08:36:42 No.1945

Well, personally, I had a mixed time. I was LD with a dominant woman (also a prodom) for about 9 months before meeting them. A month after her taking a trip to visit me, she moved across the country and in with me. It was OK for a few weeks, and then pure frustration for 2 years until I finally gave up my security deposit and apartment to escape. Your mileage may vary. I was 22 and she was 20 (pretending to be 25), and I really should have put the brakes on due to her being somewhat crazy, but she was so perfect for me otherwise that my better judgment was ignored.