No.2012
Dommes –what kind of qualities do you look for in a sub? Do you like them to be more alpha outside of the bedroom/household? Or do you look for more meeker/submissive ones who are also submissive sexually to? Do you like skinnier, more effeminate males, or larger strong males?
Subs –what do you like in a Dominant Woman? Are you looking more for a princess-y female who just wants to be pampered and waited on by her boyfriend, or are you more looking for an intense woman who has her own deal in life, but wants a submissive male and doesn't rely on you?
No.2015
Yes, I'd like a sub that is alpha career wise, but I think if I made a shitton of money eventually, I would be fine with him doing whatever he wants. As long as I love him.
I like the skinny skinny sub. ♡
No.2018
I'd like a strong but gentle domme who I'd look after and cater for, though I'd be greeted with a sweet thanks and sincerity.
She wouldn't need to rely on me, but would love all the sweet things I do and show me off as much as she could.
No.2019
I like a sub who treats me like an equal outside the bedroom; I don't want to be praised all the time, but I don't want to be taken for granted either. In return, I would treat my sub as an equal outside the bedroom, giving him the same respect that I would want.
But, yes, I like the skinny boys, and it's a bonus if they're quite tall and have dark hair.
No.2020
>tfw skinny, tall and I enjoy controlling and running things in Real Life but have never dated an actual Dom
No.2023
>>2020It's not too early to start.
Where are you from?
No.2024
Sub here. Honestly my tastes in women have developed concurrently with my submissive tendencies. Would prefer a girl who is somewhat intelligent and has a sense of humor. Would prefer equality outside the bedroom. Do want a girl with a cruel streak though. I like someone who surprises me with something just painfully cruel.
As retarded as it sounds, looks are secondary. No way in hell Ill get a girl that fits all my criteria, but any girl who looks okay and hits at least one or two points is worth considering.
Also wtf is with subs who want to sub all the time? I like breaking back to normal relationship mode so we can just talk and be close when were not in bdsm mode you know? Cant do that if youre in subspace all the time.
But yeah, the hottest thing is a girl whos a bit of a tease. meh
No.2026
>>2204
>breaking back to normal relationship mode so we can just talk and be close
Sounds healthy.
No.2035
>>2023I'm in Boston.
>>2024Also agree with this, I only want to really sub while I'm turned on. I feel like guys who think they want to be straight up slaves all the time are mostly saying that while turned on and would find the reality dreary and depressing.
No.2046
>>2035Oh, well.
A little far for me.
Funny you say Boston though.
I remember talking with a male submissive when I was 18 online and he was telling me about how he really needs a domme. I was interested in what he had to say, but I didn't realize I would prefer it once I started having sex.
No.2056
No.2081
im a sub
thicker alpha women (preferably played a bunch of sports in high school) that have this thing for always being in control of the relationship (never gonna happen i know, although it sort of did when i recently dated this girl i was in control of before i broke up with her in college, then we sort of started dating again and realized she could control me (it was really hot) as sort of revenge i guess. she was on top of me one night, i had my arms behind my head and out of nowhere she grabbed them and held them down. it was the hottest thing ever. she started rubbing her pussy on my dick but not putting it in. she would for a second but made me beg for it. and made me cum on my stomach. then i had to move away a few days later. it sucked. she was always very subby before that and once she realized her power she loved it. it was amazing. im pretty skinny and small so a girl much bigger than me that would fuck me with a strap on. not like a dominatrix just a girl dominating a guy i guess
No.2107
virgin domme reporting in!
I do appreciate some muscle mass on a guy, but not so much that I feel like he could overpower me (I'm an ex ballet dancer and have wonder woman thighs, so having a beefcake bf would just make me feel inadequate? idk im competitive about being fit). Being smart and loving are my priorities though, since there aren't that many people that would put up with a girl that has few moral limitations (100 percent into consensual healthy relationships of course), and I need someone that wont get me off track for medical school.
No.2112
>>2012>what do you like in a Dominant Woman?>princess-y female>intense womanA bit of both, I guess. I have a fetish for athletes, and that usually means 'intense', but I'm also willing to give out massages and tie her shoes for her.
>>2107>but not so much that I feel like he could overpower meThat's what chastity cages are for No.2133
>>2107Eh. I do fighting sports, lift a lot but it could still work out.
Where do you live?
No.2134
You know the incredibly common dad/little girl thing in maledom/fsub? The reverse of that. Mom/boy sort of setup. No, I don't care if that squicks anyone out.
My fantasy Domme is a maternal figure that likes a physical hurt/comfort dynamic. Someone older than myself who gets immensely turned on by physically thrashing me but likes to pepper that punishment with cuddles and kind words and concern about how it's really for my own good. Comforting words mixed with serious and cold justifications for my beatings. :)
Very, very niche arrangement within femdom too, but that's how it is.
As for physical features, facial features a bit like those in the picture (of course that's a model but we are talking about fantasy Dommes). And a husky voice is irresistible!
The "omg take me shawping lusarrr!!" findom/little princess with a high-pitched voice thing is a turn off.
No.2164
>Do you like them to be more alpha outside of the bedroom/household? Or do you look for more meeker/submissive ones who are also submissive sexually to? Do you like skinnier, more effeminate males, or larger strong males?
My preferences are along the extremes: Shy, feminine paintoys that would be the undisputed bitch in the relationship, or big, masculine guys that act independently when the leash is off. A tiny dash of stupid can be endearing, and a big dash of honesty is a requirement. Mostly I want the same qualities I want in a vanilla partner, plus I want him to be clear on whether we're 24/7, or bedroom only, and stick to that.
I would also prefer a guy that wasn't obsessed with foot stuff. While I would certainly do it as a treat, I find it awkward, and there are better things to spend his tongue on.
No.2296
>>2134Is this really so niche? I do this with my boyfriend all the time. Though I do have a naturally high pitched voice.
No.2368
>>2296From my experience, most claim to be squicked out by the maternal thing and call them mommy issues. And I'm not talking about age play or whatever. Just the looking-up-to and being tenderly comforted thing.
No.2505
i like a wide range of subs. looks only matter in the face. have a handsome face for me to sit on. i also look for someone that is not a slave.
as someone who has been submissive myself i know what kind of dom i want to be. i am not into hurting you, but i do want to break you down, make you feel completely free under my control. and then i will clean you up nicely. my little fuck toy. (even if you are taller than i am =p)
No.2529
I like a domme who's sweet outside the bedroom, funny and smart and geeky, while she gets to do what she wants with me inside. My biggest turn on are the cold types who really get going and get off at my expense; like denying me orgasm, humiliation and pegging.
As for looks, as long as she's clean and have 1 or 2 points, shes alright, although being hot isnt out of the question :p
So basically I want a bestfriend and life partner out in public, and a queen I would serve and be humiliated by while were alone.
Too bad I live in a conservative christian country. Girls like that are rare
No.2624
I like the idea of a girl who doesn't really care about the roles in the relationship, but just really likes doing femdom stuff. Who isn't really direct and aggressive in the sense that she'll force me to do things, but takes initiative and expects to get things her way. So a little selfish, but in a cute, playful "you'll do this for me, right~?" kinda way, rather than a forceful "you will do this for me, no objections" kinda way.
I also sometimes fantasize about being the pet of a wealthy young lady who is willing to take care of me as long as I submit to her, but it's a kinda selfish and unrealistic fantasy, so I'll just let it stay that way.
No.2630
>>2505this is so fucking hot.
No.2634
My ideal domme would be someone with dark brown hair who is slightly taller than me. She would be a gentle domme who most would call needy. We would always be cuddling when in bed and whenever she would want me to pleasure her she would make it clear by forcing my head under the covers. She would be very loving towards me and I would be very loving towards her. She would be very open with what she wants and what she expects me to do for her. Most importantly, we would be in love.
No.2692
>>2529Anyone know the sauce on that?
No.2698
I like effeminate subs, someone who is physically bigger/taller than me (I am quite short/petite), but thin and fragile looking in a way. Even though I am feminine and girly looking, strong looking men turn me off, I want someone who looks like they need to be nurtured. Outside of the bedroom, they could be anyway they wanted, career, hobbies, whatever would be up to them, but in I would expect to be the main focus of attention and their needs met second, if at all.
I don't want a fuck toy really,I get off on the psychological aspect more, I want to control them, having them know it or not, until it's too late and I consume every thought they have, feeling worshiped is a big part of it for me. I have a cruel/degrading mouth if I can't get my way or feel they were getting out of line, and they would have to deal with that at times, but with every cruel word (I don't do physical violence) they took, it's always rewarded with affection and love. Teasing is also a huge turn on, and it's very fun to do~
No.2702
>>2698what you just described is my ideal dom/sub relationship. Do you know where I can find a girl like you?
No.2703
>>2698You sound pretty awesome.
What are your thoughts on pegging and orgasm control?
No.2704
>>2702In the USA ;)
>>2703Thanks love, and my thoughts on pegging are that, if my sub is comfortable with it, I love it. It's obviously a very intimate experience, and the sub has to trust me. Orgasm control is very fun, I love to get my subs on the brink and then laugh and walk away.
No.2706
>>2704>in the USA ;)Care to delve a bit deeper on that answer?
No.2777
>>2698ugh god you are perfect. where do you live? i consider myself a very good looking thinner guy. i can be effeminate also if thats what you like :)
No.3493
I need my subs to be on an intellectual par with me. A lot of my sessions can be quite psychological, I really like to get inside my slave's heads and punish them from inside out.
I could never touch someone that wasn't on my level - even with the bottom of my boot. Luckily I find that men who appreciate Femdoms are generally smarter than your average fella.
Also, I require a certain dexterity or sexual flare as I demand an orgasm during a session.
After the session I like returning to the lovely blonde lady I am who likes to order pizza and watch something Japanese and hang. Not exactly sexy, but you and your sub both need it after a lengthy session…
No.3495
I like the idea of making my significant other in the relationship happy and letting them do whatever they want with me as long as it makes them happy. If anything I wouldn't mind relying on my significant other and being their little slut. But with that being said being rely good friends and doing allot of things together is ideal since I don't like distanced relationships but rather be rely good friends with allot in common who immensely enjoy each other's company.
No.3747
>>2698
I've been told I look like Natalie Portman :^). I'm 5'8, good abs, lean, 130 lbs, mid to long wavy dark auburn brown hair, and I'm sweet :3. How do I measure up?
No.3754
>>3493
Sounds like my ideal as a sub guy tbh. I'm not sure why the intelligence-sub correlation seems to exist but yeah, I'm a phd student and most sub guys I know are disproportionately in the arts and sciences.
No.3757
Personally, I'd like a domme that would treat me as an equal while outside, but when we are at home I really want her to take the leash and have full control over me. Unfortunately, here where I live (Croatia) there aren't many women like that, let alone girls my age that are dominant.
No.3758
>all these dommes saying they like skinny guys
>tfw /fit/ as fuck
Fuck it, I'm not gonna lose my 6 pack abs for the sake of a fetish.
No.3759
>>3758
>>all these dommes saying they like skinny guys
Hush. It's only ONE saying she prefers them skinny. Dry your eyes and go back to lifting, I'm sure a few dom girls have perved on you before.
No.3789
>be skinny wimpy virgin
>see thread
>apparently some girls actually like guys like me
Thanks for the hope, girls.
>what I like
Gee I really don't know. Probably someone who has some level of independence but still likes doing stuff with me. Someone I can be myself around and not have to worry about getting bullied too much a bit more than I'm truly comfortable with is fine. She doesn't have to partake in my hobbies if she doesn't want to, just tolerate them. Really I just want someone who will be there for me when I need it. Someone who will hold me and tell me it'll be okay.
…god I'm a fag.