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Yeah, you got it. It's funny, I just realized that Stirner's conception of the Ego is remarkably similar to that of Maurice Merleau-Ponty's concepts of the tacit and spoken cogito - and as far as I know, Merleau-Ponty never had any connection to Stirner.
But yes, the Ego is something that cannot be made comprehensible to other people. It's your own absolutely unique and monolithic subjectivity, something which is immediately lost when you try to make reference to the vast framework of language that is the result of hundreds of years of collective consensuses on what to call each thing. The Ego is an end-point of language, as Stirner puts it.
If by individual subjective meaning vs. subjective meaning, you mean individual "created" and unique meaning vs. subjective meaning in general, then yeah, I think that's how you could put what I'm saying. Remember that my biggest gripe is that Nietzsche seemed to think an individual can create their own meaning ex nihilo, but in my view this is impossible because of everything that one needs to make reference to in order to even experience and judge themselves, let alone to do something like make a unified judgment of the sum of one's experiences in the form of this grand existential meaning. But subjective meaning in general exists I suppose. Like I said, it's a mediating concept between ourselves and the material world that we use to reconcile our material existence with our psychological and emotional expectations as beings that are peculiarly overly-conscious of our own existence. Peter Wessel Zapffe's "The Last Messiah" has a lot of great stuff to say about this psychological sleight-of-hand (attached.)
Indeed, I think you've got it as well with your second point. I think people have a misconception that nihilists not only deny meaning, but are somehow able to purge themselves of it and become completely apathetic as a result of it. That's more the ideal than what actually happens, IMO. You can continue to claim things as your own meaning with the knowledge that it isn't really your meaning and that you didn't really create it, and it would be fine. The point is that you don't believe that it is really your meaning, or worse yet that you believe in the cultural narrative/meanings that are explicitly and ideologically enforced (God and morality, in Nietzschean thought for instance). When you have accepted that everything is ultimately meaningless, you're free to exploit your own human psychological eccentricities with no strings attached. And if we want to continue to act as though our existence has any purpose instead of universally deciding to stop humanity right now and live the rest of our lives out sharing the resources collectively and freely (perhaps that might be the best choice of all, though), we cannot escape our belief in meaning, much like we must act as though we are free even if we don't believe we are free.
I think in this sense that nihilism is far more political ideology than philosophy. We make reference to philosophy very much, certainly, and there are great philosophical pessimists and nihilists, but ultimately I think nihilism is the state of a personal insurrection that has succeeded. You are no longer tied to your beliefs because you acknowledge that it's all meaningless; you believe in nothing, so you are free to use anything.