Hello /hope/ first time poster, an anon recommended here from /b/.I'm down in the dirt. Or at least it feels that way. I think it would be easier to screen shot the previous thread instead of typing it out.

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Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 02:00:59 8e2cbb No.329

Hello /hope/ first time poster, an anon recommended here from /b/.

I'm down in the dirt. Or at least it feels that way. I think it would be easier to screen shot the previous thread instead of typing it out.

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 02:03:23 8e2cbb No.330

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I think that's all that are relevant

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 07:40:18 5da3f9 No.331

>>329

I'm going to bed right now, anon, since I just got done with a fully day of moving in to a new apartment; but I will try to help you out tomorrow. This board isn't very active yet, but the handful of people here do watch threads for activity. Anyway, good luck in the meantime, time for me to pass out.

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 10:00:07 8e2cbb No.332

>>331

Thanks I'll see you in the morning, I don't sleep much anymore

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 14:49:22 5da3f9 No.333

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>>329

Okay, awake now.

So, your problem seems to be that women are picking up on your anxiety about women. You said that it is difficult for you not to spill your guts around other people and you think they'd hate you if you don't - presumably because you think you have some flaws that are explained by your "baggage." Women are the social sex and easily pick up on things like this, if only subconsciously, and they don't find such traits attractive in men. Pic related. Let me clarify, however, that it is not your flaws that women dislike. It's your own anxiety about them. Women like confidence in men. If they even smell a whiff of fear or anxiety from you around them, they dry up like a riverbed in the Sahara.

My advice to you, friend, is no less effective for being timeless and cliche:

work on your own problems and insecurities and stop worrying about women. When you are able to become confident in yourself, they will come to you, because the corrollary to women being repelled by anxiety is that they are attracted like moths to a flame by confidence.

Now, if you'd like to talk about what it might be that is causing you such constant anxiety, we could begin working on your real problems. Your real problem is not that you can't land a woman. Don't worry about women right now.

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 21:13:45 8e2cbb No.334

>>333

Sure but idk where to talk about in this regard

Anonymous 11/25/15 (Wed) 21:35:34 8e2cbb No.335

I guess it's from living in a shell of a person, I always strived to be like both my older Chad brothers. But I'm a very introverted person and all I was was a ear for them. I had a speech impediment when I was younger but now it only comes out when I'm overly excited or frustrated. I fear failure even tho I play games such as dark souls where failure is built into the game. I fear that my life is a failure and whatever I want to spill out is only going to push ppl away, I might sound like a 15 year old when I say this but I am genuinely fascinated by edgy stuff. I'm slowly finding out I'm not as smart as I thought I was now that university is going to shit.

Anonymous ## Board Volunteer 11/27/15 (Fri) 19:21:36 fefaf7 No.339

>>335

Well, you've already proven that you can succeed by how you've improved your speech impediment. Part of succeeding is believing that you can. It sounds cheesy and fake, but it's not. Going into something thinking that you'll fail makes it more likely to happen.

Don't be afraid to be yourself. Projecting some sort of shell or falsehood is a really tricky road. Sometimes you want to be more reserved than others, but creating a false persona and leading a double life is a lot worse than just being who you are. There's plenty of people in real life who don't like me because of who I am, and there's people who do like me. I would much rather have it like this than pretend to be someone I'm not to be more popular.

As far as the intelligence aspect. This happens to everyone. That's what university should be all about. I remember reading a quote from some doctor saying that he never felt more stupid than right after getting his Ph.D.

I guess the main thing I would say is just don't let everything drag you down. It's really easy to get into a negative feedback loop especially on the chans but breaking away from that will help you be more confident.

Anonymous 11/27/15 (Fri) 22:22:45 b24365 No.342

>>339

Thank you for the feedback, I talked with a friend over Skype and he helped me out a lot, I'm still having a hard time getting to class but at least suicidal thoughts have left mostly