/hope/ - Hope For the Hopeless

>>349

First of all, welcome to /hope/ and thanks for posting!

>have pretty much lost hope of ever finding work

This is a big obstacle to your ever finding employment. I know it's easier said than done, but you just need to keep looking. I can offer you my encouragement, advice, and prayers, but you're the one that has to keep looking. Think of finding a job as your full time job.

What kinds of jobs have you applied for?

>I applied to and noticed almost all the people who got the jobs (or in once case, all the jobs) were women.

For some jobs like retail, this is a definite possibility. Employers would rather have a cute, bubbly female that can't count to 100 as a cashier than any guy. Have you looked into the trades? If you can get an apprenticeship, it's a pretty sweet deal. Also, if your area is losing a lot of jobs, you might need to look farther away (i.e. moving out of your parents' house). Think of it like this. You're 25, so naturally you should want to move out and be more independent. This means that you'll be moving anyways, so you can basically look for a job wherever you want. And wherever you get a job, move there.

As for the gf situation, I've never had much luck with the ladies myself so I'm not sure how helpful I can be, but I'll try.

>I prefer a specific body type (BBW)

You're not looking at fetish porn or anything, are you? If you're not, then great! If so, then stop. And don't stop so you can get a girl; do it for yourself and for God.

It sounds to me like you're just not interested in anyone around you at the moment (if you're watching porn, that could be part of it). I would advise you then to focus on improving yourself, finding a job, and becoming independent at this point. And again, do it for yourself, not to get a girl, although it will probably help with that too.

I'd like to share a prayer that I've started saying recently, which I think has helped put myself more at ease with my romantic situation:

O almighty and eternal God, Creator, Preserver, and Multiplier of the human race, You instituted marriage while Adam and Eve still dwelt in paradise. You also honored holy matrimony by the first miracle performed by your dear Son, Jesus Christ, our Savior, at the wedding in Cana of Galilee. You know my heart, You know my disposition and attributes, and you know my weaknesses and strengths better than I myself. From You one also receives the gift of a good spouse because that comes alone from the Most High. I beseech You from the heart that You would grant me a good, Christian, God-fearing spouse whom I would ever hold dear in my heart. I pray that this companion and I might peacefully and harmoniously live upon earth in the true fear of God and in this Christian journey. I cry to You, make my heart fit regarding such things, and enlighten me with Your Holy Spirit. And having commended the matter to Your fatherly care, let me be at peace, for the sake of Jesus Christ. Amen.

I hope you got something from my jumbled thoughts. I'll be praying for you.

>>350

Don't know if you've read the other threads, but many of us use tox to chat >>56

I've left my email in case you want to get in on that.

>This is a big obstacle to your ever finding employment. I know it's easier said than done, but you just need to keep looking. I can offer you my encouragement, advice, and prayers, but you're the one that has to keep looking. Think of finding a job as your full time job.

>What kinds of jobs have you applied for?

I'm not going to stop trying, I've just lost hope at finding one is all. There are only so many places you can apply to, especially within the distance I'm able to travel.

I apply for anything I think I can do whether it be work in an office, or just someone who works as a cashier or stock person. Just upsetting when they turn you down to be a Janitor because you don't have 5 years of experience.

>Have you looked into the trades? If you can get an apprenticeship, it's a pretty sweet deal.

I'm not cut out for Trade work. I just don't have the skills or abilities that one would need to be in trade work.

>Also, if your area is losing a lot of jobs, you might need to look farther away

Problem is, I already live in a rather isolated place, the places within a few hours of travel are loosing just as much as here, and I've already been told by friends in Big cities it's not worth it to go there either.

Then there's the issue of you need money to be able to move, of which I have none. I also have no means of transportation.

>Think of it like this. You're 25, so naturally you should want to move out and be more independent.

Would love to move out personally. There is actually an issue with that too. If we ignore the fact that I have no job or money, there is actually a housing shortage here. My brother has being sleeping on a couch for over a year because there simply isn't any housing right now.

>As for the gf situation, I've never had much luck with the ladies myself so I'm not sure how helpful I can be, but I'll try.

If you don't mind me asking, why do you not having any luck? I'm willing to share my knowledge with you in any way I can. I'm not too bad with women.

>You're not looking at fetish porn or anything, are you? If you're not, then great! If so, then stop. And don't stop so you can get a girl; do it for yourself and for God.

Nope. I do not look at porn, and I'm also doing NoFap on hard mode. I've just had this attraction for as long as I can remember.

>I would advise you then to focus on improving yourself

I'm just curious, what else could I do to improve myself? I'm already reading books to expand my mind. I've been practicing an instrument, working out, and I've been researching on how to do a better job doing household chores. I've also been doing research on new meals too cook and I aim to try a new one each week to increase my cooking knowledge, and so I can stop serving the same 3 meals to my family every night.

Mainly though, it's to keep my sanity while I wait to not be called back by any employer.

>I hope you got something from my jumbled thoughts. I'll be praying for you.

Thanks! It's appreciated. I wish more people would pray for me, but it's hard to find people who will commit to that.

>>352

>I've just lost hope at finding one is all.

You'll feel a lot less motivated to find a job and put forth a good effort on applications if you don't expect to get one.

>Job shortage

>Housing shortage

>No transportation

That's a tough situation, brother. Well it sounds to me like you need to find a job far away, but that's hard with no transportation. There aren't cheap buses or trains that run to other areas around you? Also, as far as money for moving goes, that's why I'd recommend finding a job before you move somewhere, not moving somewhere and then looking for a job.

At this point I would recommend considering military enlistment, which is a great way for anyone to get out of your hometown and get some valuable experience, but idk if that's an option for you. (you mentioned you have a disability and sounds like maybe you don't do too well in high stress environments?)

>I do not look at porn, and I'm also doing NoFap on hard mode.

>reading, music, working out, chores, cooking

Wow, sounds like you're doing quite a bit for yourself. And that sounds eerily exactly like how I spend my free time (when I'm not in front of the computer). Out of curiosity, what instrument do you play?

>If you don't mind me asking, why do you not having any luck?

Eh, there are two parts I guess. One, similar to you, is that there's not really anyone around that I'm too interested in. A couple that I can maybe picture going out with, but no one about whom I think "I really wanna ask this girl out". Second thing would be general anxiety over talking to girls about that stuff. I've completely spilled my spaghetti in the past over that and not entirely sure I've gotten over it. I can talk to girls just fine, as long as it's not asking them out. Literally never been able to bring myself to do that even when I have been interested in a girl. So now I'm basically praying, like I said earlier, and waiting for a girl that I want to ask out to come around or something.

Anyway, sorry I don't have any sage advice, but at least know that people care about you and that I'll keep praying.

>>354

Sounds like a plan to me. I've been trying to help people out on other boards on 8chan, and other sites in general too where I can.

>>353

I haven't forgotten about you, I just haven't had time to reply, just wanted to let you know.