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4ae3ee No.408

How do you all deal with others being superior than you?

I have always felt myself depressive about the dynamic of superiority and inferiority of inherent ability for every individual in existence. AKA I firmly believe that the reality is that there are individuals who are inherently superior at performing most possible tasks in life. An extreme example is a comparison between someone vegetablized but conscious since birth and someone who is superior for most of life`s tasks because of both genetics and life experience.

If there are truly those individuals who are superior and inferior, how can I accept this emotionally? Humans' differential ability levels have always been terribly depressive.

d84309 No.409

>>408

Superiority and inferiority do indeed exist, but it's very much possible to move up and down the ladder, if you want to.

I would also say the consistent climber is superior to the plateauing "superman".


e69ebf No.410

>>408

>how can I accept this emotionally?

Short story is you can't derive your self-worth from being better than others, because you'll always be able to find someone whose better than you at something (or a lot of things). Who has worth in that system, if anyone?

>>409

>I would also say the consistent climber is superior to the plateauing "superman".

This. You have to learn to focus on self-improvement, and realizing your own potential, not comparing yourself to others. You can't run faster than the fastest man, but you can run just as hard, if not harder, than him. That's worth something.


4ae3ee No.424

>>410

Where is someplace else someone could derive their self worth from?


3f910e No.484

its all in your mind.

if you perceive yourself as superior you will act like it.


3f910e No.485

>>424

>Where is someplace else someone could derive their self worth from?

if you need something or someone to feel worthy you are doing it wrong.

it should come from yourself.


d9f671 No.489

>>408

I get VERY jealous about people who are superior to me and I use that jealousy to fuel my self-improvement. Most people say jealousy is an irrational and childish feeling but it is not because then we wouldn't have it as human beings, whether it was God or evolution that gave it to us it has it's uses.

eg: when I see some rich guy driving in a fancy car, I don't necessarily hate him because it's good that he has these things, but I hate the fact that I don't, so I rarely get lazy anymore and I don't skip any important work because it's hard to be idle when you think about all those people better than you and when you can be just like them or even better. In fact, I would even say that that is the primary purpose of jealousy, to help us improve and get better than who we are but just like with everything else, it's good in moderation, too much and it will consume you.

>>410

>Short story is you can't derive your self-worth from being better than others, because you'll always be able to find someone whose better than you at something (or a lot of things). Who has worth in that system, if anyone?

This is also true, there will always be people better than you, there is nothing you can do about it and don't take it too seriously. Sometimes it can also be the case that you simply suck at that thing that you are doing, there is no shame in that, you are simply not cut out for it and your talent lies elsewhere, you have to accept it and find the things that you ARE good at because not everyone is good at everything.

Instead of always comparing yourself to others, you should sometimes compare yourself to who you were in the past and ask yourself if you are better now than before and if you are happy with your position, then it shouldn't matter who is better than you.


cbaf17 No.493

>>489

I get extremely jealous too, but only with things like people having friends, girlfriends, social skills, hanging out with others, sex, etc.

It doesn't really fuel my self-improvement though, if anything it hinders it; I get really envious and bitter, feel miserable and lonely as shit, and this usually sets me back.




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