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/improve/ discord group

Updated the invite link to work.

If you're lonely and want to talk to a couple of anons or you want to discuss improvement elements or be kept accountable, this is the place for you.

For improvement elements, the following are what are being done:

>an accountability group

>weekly/monthly progress reports

https://discord.gg/q488BCG

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Recommended Reads

Looking for a book?

All the below books can be found using any of these methods.

https://sites.google.com/site/themetalibrary/library-genesis

http://bookzz.org/s/?q=&yearFrom=&yearTo=&language=&extension=&t=0

https://www.reddit.com/r/Piracy/comments/2oftbu/guide_the_idiot_proof_guide_to_downloading_ebooks/

Productivity must reads

Habits

Power of Habits, by Charles Duhigg

Superhuman by Habit, by Tynan

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/11/20/power-of-habits/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8

Willpower

Willpower Instinct, by Kelly Mcgonigal

Procrastination Equation, by Piers Steel

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

Time management

First Thing's First, by Stephen Covey

Art of Getting Things Done, by David Allen

Philosophy of life

Stoicism

Meditations, by Marcus Aurelius

Discourses and selected writings, by Epictetus

Letters from a Stoic, by Seneca

An introduction to Stoicism in layman terms:

Stoicism and the Art of Happiness, by Donald Robertson

Socialising

The Social Skills Guidebook, by Chris Macleod

http://www.succeedsocially.com/

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Get if off your chest

As the saying goes, “a problem shared is a problem lessened.”

What's bothering you? Get it off your chest.

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Mentat Training

The mind is a terrible thing to waste, and a wonderful thing to enhance to the peak of its abilities.

A mentat is a human computer capable of great feats of memory, analytics, mathematics and logic.

http://www.ludism.org/mentat/HomePage

I have recently begun my training to become a mentat. My current regimen consists of exercise, meditation, some kind of independent study (typically reading or doing coursera work), and then training/study/practice of memory (using anki to memorize all country flags of the world), a new language (studying spanish right now), music (learning piano) and mental math.

I take 100mg of caffeine (and will be ordering some L-Theanine tomorrow) in the morning before this, and soon will be adding more to my nootropic stack. And during it I'm drinking coffee and listening to classical music with binaural beats. Currently my exercise is just doing the Couch-to-5k program, but I intend to start doing more than that.

I have lofty goals for my mentat training. Who else has similar goals for their self-improvement?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTuEvnfgQcY

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Constant Fantasising

Hey, /improve/. As the title suggests, I am struggling with a constant feeling that I need to escape from my current situation, but I keep taking the easy way out and just imagining myself doing these things. This might be a long post, but I’m hoping that someone has some advice that might help me out, as well as anyone else in a similar situation.

I’ll start off with a little background information, as well as information about myself. I’m 20 years old, and graduated from High School in 2016, after which I took a “gap year”, and started going to University (which I didn’t really want to do, but I felt like if I didn’t do something I would go nowhere in life). After a less than a year, I dropped out of Uni, and am trying to decide what to do next. Since the end of High School, I’ve worked a minimum wage job, which is alright, but obviously I want to do something that will allow me to support myself, move out, etc.

Before I get into the part about escapism and fantasy, I should mention that there are somewhat interesting things going on in my life, and I’m not a complete shutin who’s just bored (although boredom likely plays a part). I have friends who I see regularly, I’ve had girlfriends, I go to shows and things like that. I’m actually going on a vacation overseas in a couple of days.

My problem is that despite all of these things going on my real life, I’m pretty unhappy with the fact that I’m not moving forward at all. The obvious solution is to work towards something better (get a better job, go back to school for something I actually want to do, etc.) Of course, being the extraordinary procrastinator I am, I’m not doing any of those things.

Instead, I spend the vast majority of my day (I only work a few days a week, and only for around five hours at a time) in my basement listening to music and fantasising about how great my life could be. The fantasies themselves range from the mundane (getting a better job, moving out of my parents’ house), to the extraordinary (winning the lottery, becoming a famous rock star), to the impossible (building a time machine, having super powers).

Obviously, when I’m spending anywhere from 5-14 hours of the day with my head in the clouds, I don’t get much of anything done. It’s a combination of the usual “I’ll just do that tomorrow,” and the fact that I get so much genuine enjoyment out of my fantasies. I’ve always had a very active imagination, and so it’s really easy for me to get completely lost to the point where I miss meals and things like that.

Even as I’m writing this, my mind is telling me “Fuck this shit, dude, nothing’s gonna get better anyways, just go listen to music.” Which is pretty much what I think any time I try to do something else. I understand that a lot of it is a result of the fact that I’m only thinking in the short term, because I know that if I keep this up, I’ll wake up one morning realising that I’m a total lose who squandered his life on nothing. I already feel that way sometimes.

I just don’t have the energy or motivation to DO anything long term anymore, and I guess that’s really my problem. I know this post was pretty rambly and disjointed in places, but I hope someone who can offer some advice takes the time to read it.

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Are fundamentals a waste?

I was a shitty kid so I tried to avoid washing, hygeine, and cleaning up as much as possible. I have had a hard time dealing with this, I'm 27 now and I still have troubles with my fundamental habits like doing the dishes and getting to bed on time. However I have some areas that have gotten better, I never fail to shower anymore and I never let my nails grow long, and I brush my teeth often. Is it worth continuing to put all of my planning efforts and self control into forming fundamental habits, or should I be focusing on forming my more hobby oriented habits (making more music, reading, working out, learning to do new things) that I've been leaving later first?

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workcel depression

im tired of workcelling at a minimum wage job, its just miserable and i work every single day to meet ends meet. what i miss most is my friends. i also miss leisure time.

i heard of this "make money at home" scheme but ive never looked into it. any insight on how to make a living from your home?

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Time to take responsibility

We all have multiple facets to our psyche even if we’re not schitzos. There are a great many of them but the two which are most dominant are the responsible adult and the frightened child. On paper I’m a responsible adult. The problem I have is I let the frightened child take control.

>the frightened child procrastinates

>the frightened child avoids reality with distractions

>the frightened child hides in the dark in dread of consequences

>the frightened child has no future so lives in the moment

>the frightened child is anxiety, self-doubt, the inability to own mistakes, perfectionism without purpose, the voice which says ‘I can’t cope’

>the frightened child would rather have you kill yourself than let you deal with your problems

<the responsible adult is calm when things go wrong and gets things resolved even if he doesn't 'win'

<the responsible adult knows you’re not perfect and recovers the mistakes made by the frightened child

<the responsible adult has perspective - your problems are not literally the end of the world

<the responsible adult has a future and invests in it

My life is on the verge of crashing and burning right now cause my frightened child has been dominant for the last six years. I tried to fix stuff today but caved in yet again to the procrastinator. I know the only way out of this mess is to make the responsible adult take charge and keep him there. That means avoiding the things the child likes and doing the things the adult needs to do. It will be stressful and hard because the child wants to run and hide forever. The adult knows that the chores of responsibility are nothing compared to the constant anxiety and consequences of avoidance. The alternative is suicide and I don’t really want to die. I want to live a less shitty life so I’ve decided to let the responsible adult kill the frightened child instead. Wish me luck because I'm gonna need it.

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Anxiety General

ITT: Anxiety general

How do I overcome these afflictions? Google is a friend I know, but I thought I could get more "red pill" and focused answers here.

I'm a 23-year old male who was bullied as a kid and thanks to that, I've developed a very uptight and inhibited personality. People can tell and the rift between me and others in any new social setting seems to form almost automatically. I virtually have no friends. Is it all over, or is there hope yet?

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Does anyone have a trick for waking up in morning?

I'm not looking for way to wake up early. I'm looking for a way to remind myself that I need to get out of bed. I've had times where I just lay on my bed for hours(with more than 8 hours of sleep). Sleep is not the problem. Getting out of my bed is.

The only times I have ever gotten out of bed the instant I wake up is when I get a nightmare. I like nightmares for that reason only. They allow me to enjoy the morning. Otherwise, I always wait until the last 15 minutes. I sometimes have to skip shower & breakfast and apply perfume instead.

Do you feel like you're barely conscious when you wake up? And then when I get out of my bed I feel just fine. What I feel that I need is a mental shortcut that takes me from zombie mode to out-of-bed mode. I'm gonna try putting a glass of water on my night table tonight.

sleep well, /improve/

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Self esteem issues

What course of action should I take if I can't hold myself with high self esteem? I wouldn't say that it's a product of my environment, but more or less a lingering whisper of the depression I had several years ago. It effects my confidence, obviously, to the point where I can't believe any one who calls me any better than ugly. My whole perspective on this world is that I'm some ugly mountain troll to be used kind of like a work mule.

tldr; I think that im uggo, wat do

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General Rules and Guidance

You lack the internal drive to do this alone. That's why you're here. You need a set of rules and external guidelines to get on the right path. This is what this thread is.

A beginning is a very delicate time.

Let's get started.

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Help with going outside

How to go out if I don't have friends or hobbies? If I am not at college I am at home all day and my house is really toxic, I really hate my mom and sister.

Help me anon, I just want to spend time out.

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Who also trying to #gaintheinch?

Many of us feel insecure of our penis size, so as a sample of desperation, we'll buy all this junk pills you see across the internet without any self-improvement.

But for me, I chose a different path and I got… results. I wanted to share with you and maybe you'll also get a few inches up your sleeve.

The human body uses a hormone called IGF-1 for cell proliferation, which is responsible for growth of various tissues, including penile fibers. So if you elevate IGF-1, you should be able to increase your genital size.

So I bought some IGF-1 from a respectable retailer, then sequentially inject of myself with this peptide and after two weeks, I'm proud to say, it worked. BUT the results produce a new set of challenges, more on that later

If you want to join #gaintheinch, you need the following; IGF-1 DES, syringe needles (25 to 30 gauge), 0.6% acetic water, alcohol wipes for your needles, liquid DSMO, first aid septic, hand sanitizer, and numbing gel (or a hand towel).

Once you attain your IGF-1 DES (and while everything is cold from the refrigerator), slowly add acetic water (with your syringe) into your vial until the peptide is fully submersed. Then transfer everything in the vial to your acetic water bottle and let it sit in the refrigerator for at least an hour.

When you decide to use an injection, first you want to apply numbing gel (be cautious of the ingredients, some gels can actually cause your cock become inflamed) wait for a period of time (and, if you want, at this time use hand sanitizer) , then rub some DSMO on your benis (except the head) and wait about 5-10 minutes. Afterwords, get a syringe and extract .25 mL of your IGF1 DES solution and add .05 mL of DSMO as well. (you might want to increase the DES dosage after a while because of tolerance). Clean your syringe with an alcohol wipe and location of injection. Inject on the side of your phallus, quickly utilize your first aid septic, and apply pressure on the area for 20-30 minutes. Afterwords you're done, until the next injection on the other side of your member.

The half life of IGF-1 DES is around ten to thirty minutes, so you can hypothetically inject yourself every hour, but personally, that sounds too damaging for the tunica albuginea. So do this at your own risk.

aight. Like I said, I did this for two weeks (although I took breaks) and I grew an inch/2.54 cms and width (but not really girth, so it looks kinda flat). One of the problems, I suffered once from a blister, because I didn't apply enough pressure. It's one of the most painful things I've ever done (I couldn't find any numbing gel) Also because the deep penile artery was growing more then the skin surround it, my dick pulled any loose skin forward…Let's just say, I'm hairy now. The head never grows.

I don't want to disgust you much further, but I do want you to know that IGF-1 DES works, and because of your negative reaction to this knowledge, this proves that men won't do everything to grow their donga.

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This might be useful

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How to become better at math

As a kid I was home schooled because at the time i was poor and I missed a lot of things. Is there a way I can catch up ? I'm fairly well at other subjects but math is where I completely failed. I can do everything up until algebra. Am I too late to learn this (19 years old)or is there still time ? I feel really stupid and worried at the same time since I'll be going off to college soon

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leadership skills

How do I /improve/ my leadership skills? I am a young developer who was put in charge of a project about 8 months ago.

I have been unable to encourage first principles and company standards.

I have been unable to inspire initiative.

I have been unable to clearly express my ideas to guide people.

I have been unable to defend any of my strategies.

Most of all, I have been unable to gain any respect.

Please help.

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Infographic thread.

Post your infographics here, for improvement and general life bro-tips. I'll start dumping some.

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Can't Finish Anything

I'm praised for skill in lots of things. Writing, drawing, music, and programming.

I've been trying for 10 years to finish a project and I can't do it. I create these crazy styles, intricate works, elegant designs, have great ideas, but I just half finish them and can't stop staring at them.

First it was depression, then it was perfectionism, now it's work. I always find a way to excuse it away. I know ultimately it's my lack of willpower but I don't know how to fix it. It's just been so long and I'm so frustrated with myself that I'm wasting my life.

I've tried reading about and practicing willpower, meditation, exercise, good sleep hygeine. Nothing sticks. I can hardly do the dishes still.

Will therapy help with this? Revisiting my ADHD diagnosis that I've always ignored (there I go looking for more excuses)?

I've almost given up but I had an inexplicable 2 week stretch where everything I wanted to do came so easy just recently. Please help me make the most of what little I can make of my twenties. Please, where do I go from here? Where do I start? Am I beyond help? I know there's no magic bullet, I just want this so bad deep down.

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About to do something you'll regret? That spicy combo meal you just have to try, or those those beautiful ladies on the computer screen? Just remember, that's exactly what this little guy would want you to do.

I made him work for me and there's no reason you can't too. Whenever you're about to slip just think back to those little thieving hands, those deceiving little eyes. You're in control not him!

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Creeping alcoholism and how to deal with it

soup /improve/

I've been going through a particularly stressful period in my life. Lots of exams, lots of social anxiety, lots of pressure from parents etc. This has been going on for a while now, and has left me in a pretty shitty mental and emotional state. Though, that's not my primary concern at the moment, as I feel a much bigger problem creeping in.

Lately, I've noticed it's extremely hard for me to get through a day without having something alcoholic, whether it's beer or wine, or something else. It started after a couple of week-long benders during the spring holidays, and I can't seem to be able to function properly without at least a liter of whatever drink is at hand per day.

Can you guys give me some advice to help me kick the habit? Or at least, to keep it from transpiring into full blown alcoholism?

Thanks.

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canada entry level job decent pay

in canada, what's a starting job that pays decent?

i have a highschool diploma but nothing else.

i've read working at warehouse is good. any suggestions?

any other ways i can supplement income? like this amazon or ebay shit

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Well someone has to ask, so it might as well be me. /improve/, how do I last longer in bed?

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weight loss general

For the /fat/ folk around here. I lost almost 100lb (310 to about 215) ask me anything.

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Falling off the wagon.

My problem is simple: I keep falling off the wagon and having to start the journey over again.

I can do nopmo and work out and do all these things, but it takes about three weeks, and then something happens, either I relapse nopmo or have to spend too much money on lunch (hate spending money) and I completely fall off and I'm back to square one. It can be something tiny too, like getting a flat tire on my bike.

I need to become *impact resistant*, so I can absorb shocks in the road. I can't do this at all right now, and it's my biggest stumbling block.

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Maybe this sounds a bit obvious, but I realized that the secret to finding a good gf isn't exactly looking for her like some needle in a haystack. You first have to surround yourself by high-quality women constantly, you have go to social gatherings, widen your social circle, meet with people all the time, etc… and basically put yourself in a situation where high-quality women are always abundant. Whether or not you can hook up with one is a different story though, but I think this beats the strategy of just waiting for a chick to magically fall from the sky, or targeting just that one girl you know at school/work for months and without any backup plan in case she turns out to be a bad person.

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legit nofap advice

/nofap/ sucks for nofap advice, it's populated by stormfags and the like.

What advice does /improve give for nofap?

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Controlling Anger and Communication

I have a problem with a friend of mine. We keep getting into fights because I can't communicate effectively and have some real bad anger issues when we fight such as hitting myself or throwing shit cuz I don't want to hit him. Any advice to not acting like a subhuman ape and controlling my anger?

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What's the best way to build attention and focus?

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Coffee and caffeine

What does /improve/ think about caffeine?

I've never really been a coffee drinker, but today I had 3 strong coffees and I felt noticeably more motivated and energized.

I didn't realize the effect caffeine has was so noticeable. No wonder people drink coffee all day while working.

Going to try drinking tons of coffee every day this week and see if I get more done.

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/TGTG/

Welcome to /TGTG/ - Three Good Things General!

Three Good Things is a simple exercise that empirically reduces symptoms of depression and increases happiness over six months.

All you have to do is:

>Write down three things that went well today and why you think they happened.

Do this every day for at least one week to see results!

(Here's a link to some evidence for it: http://www.positiveinsights.co.uk/articles/EMPIRICAL_RESULT_OF_INTERVENTIONS.pdf )

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eating when flat ass broke

Im unemployed and need advice on saving money for buying food.

What can I buy for under 25-50$ at a local Publix that will last me a week or so and is generally not shitty in taste..?

No, i can't shop anywhere else. I currently live in a upscale part of the town and all the cheap grocery stores minorities shop at are too far away.

i'm a powerlifter fyi

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Perfect Week

There was a repost on here recently about doing a perfect week where you do all of your habits.

Who's with me in doing a perfect week this week? I've got everything ready.

I'm willing to be held accountable and help others be accountable.

If you need some help getting ready, my next posts are going to be about what I've done to get ready.

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moving to canada, making money

hi, i'm moving to canada in a few weeks through the working holiday visa.

i want to save up good money the first month.

i only have a highschool diploma, straight out of highschool what kind of job could i get which is high paying?

where should i locate?

thank you.

any advice on how to save up money (budget) would also be appreciated.

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How do you deal with the loss of momentum after finishing something?

I'm a NEET and have been for a few months. I planned for this, of course, so I collected quite a bit of material and hobbies to hold me over for awhile and though I can finish something that I set out to do I'll take a week or two to recover and start something else. This is burning up through quite a lot of my time and I want to fix it. Can anyone help me out with this?

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How can I improve at not doing?

I'm fairly good at motivating myself to do stuff. For example if I need to work or go to the gym, even if I don't feel great I often find the spark to go and do the thing.

Sadly, I have a problem with not doing. When I want something like sugar or porn, I haven't found a way to stop myself. I can't find anything in me to give a boost to not do the bad stuff.

Do you have any suggestion? How can I train so I can control myself better?

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I’m going to avoid video games for a while

I do apologize in advance if this doesn’t deserve its own thread. I don’t know what is happening but I’ve been thinking a lot about my life lately. It kinda dawned on me last night that all I’ve been doing was playing video games my whole life. And in particular, this thought occurred after I tried out league of legends with my friends last night. Naturally I did terribly and my teammates hated me, however I just realized, I’ve been doing the same shit over and over again. It’s the same deal with any game I’m playing. I looked online if anyone else felt this way and I guess it’s called getting burned out. It’s pretty weird that I’m only now just feeling this sensation of no satisfaction from video games.

Apparently what people suggest is abstaining from video games for a while. Did any of you try this? I’m thinking of trying it out so I can get my life together. I was thinking of taking up skateboarding and drawing as hobbies for now. I’m also pretty fat so I just signed up for a gym membership hopefully things turn out okay. I’m just going to try to stay away from video games for a while maybe a month if possible. Do you think this is a reasonable thing to do? Or is withdrawal going to bite me in my fat ass?

Thanks

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/SIGM/ Self Improvement General Meta

Hello all, this is a thread dedicated to creating SIG threads in a more cohesive, organized, and information dense way. Currently most /SIG/ threads are either posted on 4chan /pol/ or /fit/ and use these two pastebins as the "stickies":

https://pastebin.com/mKbHxQLq

http://4chanfit.wikia.com/wiki//sig/_sticky

I would like to incorporate these two stickies together along with quality advice from this board as well as archived /SIG/ posts. My idea is to create infographics as they will be easier to post. Of course links would not work well in an image, so these should continue to be posted. This board currently has an inactive /SIG/ here:https://8ch.net/improve/res/1300.html

Here are some archives for some /SIG/ threads that need sifting for quality posts to incorporate to the final sticky:

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/142427273/

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/175400582/

http://boards.4chan.org/pol/thread/175366123/sig-selfimprovement-general

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/142635504/

https://yuki.la/pol/107397760

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/142386452/

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/155286084/

https://4archive.org/board/fit/thread/27653026/self-improvement-general

https://yuki.la/pol/118976276

https://4archive.org/board/pol/thread/86575043/iron-pill-self-improvement-general

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/146951339/

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/142629702/

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/117888279/

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/166812384/

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/116783298/

https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/136386292/

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advice

just finished highschool.

no friends, can't get a job and not going to university.

what do i do

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Nootropic/drug to help my stress, lack of focus and energy etc?

I'm 25 years old male. I'm stressed and nervous. It's hard to get out of bed in the mornings. It's hard for me to focus and get things done.

I have tried these with no effect: L-theanine (also suntheanine brand) with and without coffeine, Rhodiola rosea, Soy phospholipids, Different probiotics, Omega-3, Vitamins

So I need something to ease my life and issues I mentioned. I also need to be able to drive a car responsively even if I take nootropics. Also mood lift would be a plus (though mood will lift if something helps this situation). What would you recommend for me? I'm open for different kinds of suggestions.

5-htp, ashwagandha, lsd microdosing or what? Kratom sounds fairly good, but it negatively affects night vision so no to that. Somebody suggested magnesium l-threonate, but I'm sceptic if that's strong enough in my case?

Inb4 sleep, excercise, eat healthy, get a hobby etc. Good and important things, but not for me in this situation right now.

Thanks for help, I really appreciate it!

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Force myself to go to sleep

I don't understand this. I go to work, I get off, I bike home, I get home (at 5:00am, +/- 15 minutes) and then…. I stay up.

I need to gain some self control in this area, because this is literally destroying my life. Does anyone have any options? How do I force myself to do something?

Pic related.

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ITT: Resources

>noexcuselist.com

Has /improve/ ever been to/made use of this site? What are your thoughts? I feel like it's a decent start, but I think we can do better. Let's see if we can get a collection of online resources like this.

Rules:

>Must be free (paid content allowed as long as the bulk of the website is accessible free)

>Must be accessible by anyone with an internet connection

>Must help learn/build a worthwhile skill, or otherwise provide something valuable for improving oneself

Preferably all sites will assume the user has zero knowledge in their given subject. Sites that require a certain level of expertise are allowed, but only if there is already a link in the thread that can help reach that level. Lets start from the ground up here.

Examples of the kind of skills we're talking about:

>Cooking

>Playing an instrument

>Learning a language

>Looking good (fashion, grooming, etc.)

If anyone has requests for specific skills they'd like to build, feel free to ask, but try to keep it to a minimum, and make sure you attempt a search for yourself first. If you find anything helpful, post it!

Lets see what /improve/ can do.

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Flirting and Dating Advice

Sup /improve/, I was wondering if any of you have genuine advice on getting women and flirting. I ask this because as a teenager, I grew up being a shut in (opposite as a kid). So I never got much experience in life. Although I've done well to catch up on most of what I missed I still have issues with my love life. I can talk to women just fine, but I am completely oblivious to flirting. I've had girls flirt with me and not realize it, only later for a friend to ask why I didn't do anything which I respond with "She was flirting?". Sometimes people will think I was flirting despite not realizing it. I am not very confident, and everytime I've asked a girl out I have been rejected, and fall to self-pitying and despair about it bit. I am nearly in my mid twenties and I am afraid I will wind up alone, which is a huge fear in my life. I want a family especially, so I am not just trying to get laid just for "muh dik".

So any advice?

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Just made a blog

After a long time I made a small but real positive change in my life. I just started a blog to chronicle my attempts at self improvement. I did this mainly to increase my motivation by giving me another reason to continue with self improvement. I am posting here mainly because I planning to have my first real post (not just an introduction) done on Friday and by posting here I can remind myself to keep on that.

With this blog my goal is to experiment with different techniques on solving different issues in my life and having a record of that so I can look back on what I have accomplished.

Here is the link if anyone cares http://criticaliving.blogspot.com/

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any advice for a undecided Highschool graduate ?

I'm strongly considering becoming a welder or an electrician.I don't really have anything that I'm very passionate about and STEM degrees sound like the only thing that's not a waste of money but i'm terrible at math. Trades seem like a good choice but i'm worried I'll make the wrong decision.I toured a few colleges,they seemed nice but like i said I don't know what to do. Which is a good idea ? trades or college ?

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Cutting, diet advise

Ello. I'm trying to reduce my daily intake, I'm a pretty big guy, but its something I want to honestly work on. Can someone reccomend advise on resisting food temptations, and how to work with what I have, say if I don't buy my own food. Thanks

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Story time

I had to move 3 separate cupboards up and down my stairs long story but after I didn't really feel tired but that night I slept like a baby (havnt been able to sleep properly for a long time) and then the next day I was really fucking determined to lift more shit, so since I currently don't own dumbells, I grabbed my step ladder and I'm basically just holding it in the middle and using it like a dumbell, it's pretty heavy but I do it until I can't anymore, I'm basically doing that as well as situps/pushups and then today I'm going for a run, but its like something clicked in my mind and I honestly can't stop I feel like I'm a fucking god, feels fucking great honestly, my question Is could I do everyday if I do pushups/situps/the dumbell shit one day then the next I go for a run? (I'm also going to be altering my diet ect)

In conclusion I've never been happier, I sleep like a baby, feel great in the morning and I've already seen my arms gone from skinny to noticeably musclier in not that short amount of time.

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Diet!

Going to cut off all sugars what else should I watch out for on this diet

Also daily cardio workout any tips for my workout?

Im 95 kg my goal is 70 im 177cm

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Any good things to do during summer ?

I've finished my final exams and eventually got the results. These were right in my expectations so there was no surprise. The thing is I want to do some "meaningful" things this summer instead of just surfing internet,…

P/S: no sports here, i just hate them..

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alright
so
to get started

got a haircut what else to do to not look like a total trainwreck?
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Day 5 today, boys

As you can see, I don't consistently do the other things on the checklist. But I cannot comprimise on nofap, because then my checklist would be pointless and I might as well delete it and start again.

So I forced myself against a wall. But I did hold out. I was very close to masturbating yesterday. It was very hard, but through sheer power of will I managed to hold it off.

That day I coincidentally got a lot of things done.

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Kayaking

> be me

> have good time kayaking with family

> search about kayaking

> order inflatable kayak

> book flight to nice place for kayaking in Europe

> going camping with the kayak

> should be really nice

> breaking computer addiction

> going to get in shape

Wait a minute I love this plan

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Modern 13 Virtues

How do you think each of Benjamin Franklin's 13 virtues could be adapted to the modern world? What do you think examples of following each would be?

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I freeze in front of the camera/mic

I want to record some tutorials because I've a specific skillset in programming that could help a lot of business/programmers and (hopefully) make me money. I also like learning things and teaching them, I've already written a lot of content, but today if you don't do video people don't consider you enough.

The problem is that I completely freeze in front of the camera/mic if I'm alone.

I googled a solution, but there isn't anything that seems to work for me. I'm not like that with people, I don't struggle socially more than other humans. I've even been on the radio to promote some volunteers group I was part of, and I nailed it.

Yet, when I'm alone I can't find a way to speak, I become shy and almost freeze. How can I unlock this? I was thinking of getting drunk and doing video drunk just to see that I can do it. Or maybe reciting tongue twisters for 2 hours a day in front of the camera until I get good at it: could this work?

I'm going to be honest: this post is 60% for complaining and 40% for looking for advices. But the advices, I'll treasure them.

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I am going cocoon mode.

I have some things I want to do. Meet people, get new friends, talk to girls.

There is just one problem. I weigh too much. I want to shred at least 10 kilos, if not more.

Sometimes when I see myself in the mirror, I think I have a decent enough face.

But in pictures I look worse. And I know exactly why that is.

I am tall and when I look in the mirror, I don't look up to myself. I look straight ahead at me.

But in pics I often get captured from the side or from a lower perspective. It really shows the facefat I have more and my doublechin, which I have in some situations.

I want to meet girls, when I am near my best and not someone who has an Assad chin.

That's why I am holding off from doing these thing, untill I emerged more shredded out of my cocoon mode.

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Improving myself to run a business

So I’m starting a thread here today to get myself in a routine where I update within the thread to hold myself accountable and also pick up on criticisms. Now here’s the story, I’m with only an associate's in business administration. That degree is really not showing its worth in my position unfortunately. I’ve only held two jobs, one where I was a telemarketer in a small mortgage company and I was fired in after two months. The other where I was a machine operator where I operated a 4 head CNC router, only drilling holes in circuit boards. That place was a hack shop and I was the only white guy amongst mexicans who had no discipline in quality. I quit that job to go through my 4 year university in business administration and I dropped out after the first year seeing how much it would cost and I’m not in the mood in taking loans. I have no job currently.

Now my father owns a CNC machine shop. It’s currently stocked with a few CNC mills, with small profile of 4th and 5th axis capability, CNC Lathe, one manual mill, and one manual lathe. We have CAD and CAM. The shop is stocked with enough tools and cutters to get most jobs done and the materials that are mainly focused on is aluminums and plastics. My father has no employees, he’s working by himself. My goal is to improve myself to take over the business and to bring the business into a healthy state of being.

The problem I have is that I have little experience in machining, grinding, CAD, CAM, turning, threading, speeds and feeds, tooling, fixtures, how different materials cut, using inspection tools during quality control, among other things. I have an idea of all those things, but not enough to do it all alone. Secondly, the company has a lot of penalties and interest from years not filing tax returns. I need to budget the company to make up for those expenses and still keep us afloat.

So there’s primarily two tasks at hand:

1. Get enough experience to create an extra income in the business

2.Use the extra income and budgeting expenses to eradicate the tax penalties, and get us up to date in tax returns

My father is good with me taking over the business, I just need to bust my ass off to get up to the task. I understand this is /biz/ related but it’s more about me improving myself to make myself capable of running a small business. As for those tax penalties, we already sent out penalty abatement letters and have abated 2008 - 2009 penalties and they will not abate further years so I’m stuck with the future penalties. I’ll be reporting in my own thread to mark my progress and hold myself accountable as I’m notoriously undedicated and lazy. If I were to fail in reporting in, just assume I’m dead or in the streets.

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eternal neetdom

I only have a highschool degree, how can I make lots of money?

Like 70,000$+ a year at least

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e-commerce?

anybody know anything about e-commerce side hustles, my business teacher said he made more money than his job through selling shit on amazon/ebay…

anybody know anything about this?

i think he said he bought products in bulk and sold them for a higher price

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self improvement is masturbation

ive been depressed most of my life due to a a rough childhood of being bullied, isolated and family problems.

i feel like the combination has lead me to be socially inept and neurotic.

i have a very low self esteem and lack confidence and ive developed self hatred from it.

although im well aware of what i should be doing to improve myself (like exercise and meditation ) i kind of like the pain. i'm satisfied with being unsatisfied in a way.

i've tried to improve myself in the past but it always leads to failure.

i have a tendency to plan ahead to feel productive but i feel it is a coping mechanism i use to starve off guilt.

its like a cycle which never ends and if i escape it i slip back in eventually like its inevitable.

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Good Self-Discipline Exercises?

Aside from taking cold showers, what are some great ways of practicing Self Discipline, exercising your Willpower, and stretching out your Comfort Zone?

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/improve/ pictures

Post improvement related/inspirational pictures. Or anything else that feels appropriate.

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Internet Addiction

No doubt most of us here have suffered or are suffering from computer and internet addiction. Daily 8+ hour stints just staring at screens.

I've been working on this a lot lately but the trouble I'm having is that although I can get myself off of the screens and stay away from them, I have NO idea what to do with all the time afterward. In the end I just kinda drift around my place.

The best way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a good one, but I haven't found a good habit that's compatible with this. Working out, meditation, reading, etc - they're not something you can do for 12 hour stretches.

Has anyone found a good way to deal with this

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General Confidence Thread

What is it to you? At what instances do you notice that your confidence seems to have a boost? Do you have different types of confidence?

This thread stems from a reply I was going to give to >>8336 but I think this actually warrants a completely different thread.

I believe what he says about "if you want to feel like a man act like a man" but I also think there's more to it than that. I feel this way whenever I change my car's oil. It's such a simple act but for some reason it never fails to give me this boost of confidence that I can do real legitimate "things" I have somewhat of the same feeling whenever I buy a thinkpad and overhaul it but it's much less pronounced. In either case the act of being able to fend for myself is incredibly satisfying.

A similar thing happens when I take drawing classes too but those give me a different sort of confidence; they take place in a pretty high end part of town so I'm rubbing shoulders with people that aren't complete bums and generally I'm taking in a lot of contemporary culture(however bizarre it may be to my working class ass) so when I leave and return to my area of the city which is more industrial it's such a dramatic shift that it takes awhile for my mind to acclimate to the obvious lower social status that I am in. However, during that shift I have a confidence boost that is based more on contempt and snobbishness in the contrast between my experiences and what I perceive the experiences of the people around me may be.

I'm fascinated by this, what do your confidence boosts look like? How do we bring this under control the /improve/ way? I was thinking that maybe we should list all the things that gives us confidence boosts and maybe can use them whenever we need the boost itself. Also, perhaps we should identify in detail what exactly causes the confidence boost and maybe even the duration.

brb gonna read wikipedia for more information

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entrepreneurship for NEET

any hobbies that i can turn into a business?

e.g.

small engine repair

anything that is profitable.

please do not say coding or writing lol..

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Money career advice thread.

ITT: we talk about ways to make dank dollar$ throughout our lifetimes. Career planning, entrepreneurship, etc…

Broad breakdown of ways to get money:

God tier:

>start a business (obviously risky, difficult, and requires startup capital, etc…)

Great tier:

>STEM job

>become a doctor if you can tolerate all those years of schooling

good tier:

>learn a valuable trade, skill, etc…

>non-STEM degree that will still get you a decent paying job

>learn programming

ok tier:

>military

>work on an oil rig

shit tier:

>useless non-marketable degree

>dead end wageslaving

>eternal n33tdom

p.s. list is very broad and based off limited personal knowledge so feel free to amend it how you see fit.

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im 18. school drains me. no energy during weekends or after school.

tend to isolate myself.

have dreams but unmotivated,

i am 18. no job experience, no friends and unsatisfied.

anti social tendencies. school drains me. bad upbringing. school environment depresses me. mother is ill.

no motivation to study and pursue hobbies.

dont want to pursue higher education or trade school.

( doesnt align with my goals.)

want to learn how to invest (stock market), (gambling) poker, blackjack etc

in a few months i will be independent, living by myself..

ive been investing in the self help meme to improve myself.

ive researching jobs that dont require higher education, that are potentially high paying

so far

-automobile sales (comission based sales)

- casino dealer

-oil rig (oil and gas industry)

-construction ??

- hazmat emergency clean up

-UPS/Fed ex jobs (transportation and logistics)

im looking towards automobile sales, seems most realistic and promising.

second job/side income

restaurant - flexible hours?

blackjack/poker

investing etc

your thoughts and advice would be appreciated. thank you.

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Abstaining from masturbation and pornography

Masturbation and porn mess you up. Stop it! It takes 90 days of abstaining to "reboot" your system.

http://yourbrainonporn.com/
http://www.nofap.com/
http://www.returnofkings.com/13587/the-benefits-of-not-masturbating
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Workouts for Skinny People

What are some good ways to get muscle if you're really skinny and bad at running?

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Why do people attack me?

I'm in no way insecure about who I am, which is why I'm baffled as to why I just seem to have this terrible luck.

I was attending GED night classes and went there just to get on with my life, had no disrespect for anyone and mainly kept my head down, made a few friends and exchanged memes on Facebook (they were even going to help me find a job which was cool), but one kid threatened to assault me! "This kids gonna get knocked" is what the kid said. I reported them to the instructor, but nothing was done about it! I also noticed that my instructor was being passive-aggressive, it's almost as if he was attacking me too. I actually got expelled and banned from the building entirely because on one of the later days I was staring into blank space thinking about how I'm going to start an essay, and another kid is fucking with me threatening to assault me because I was just staring in his direction! Then the other kid who said "This kids gonna get knocked" told the instructor when the instructor inquired about what the fuck was going on and told him that I was messing with the kid who thought I was staring at him. This was confusing as all hell and I had to attend some kind of meeting or make a phone call, but I sleep before class because I was REALLY trying to move on with my life, and I don't have transportation to make it to these meetings so I rely on my parents to drop me off at night and pick me up. I was apparently banned from the building and was expelled without a reason why. I've been bummed out about this for months, the structure was good for my ADHD and I'm now trying to do this stuff on my own so I don't have to put up with that kind of crap ever again.

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Sorry for a blog postish op here but I think it's actually helpful advice.

I got my resume in order and sent it to 5 small companies I found in my area on Google maps. I emailed their contact number and got replies from 2 companies already asking to talk with me further.

It was a huge confidence boost that spilled over into other areas and inspired me to work harder at the gym and to start work on a project I've been meaning to get a start on.

Taking very small practical steps towards basic things is at least as useful as the "starting strength + books" advice people give.

Hopefully this isn't a totally useless thread.

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What did you do last to /improve/ yourself

I think some people here might benefit from having a topic dedicated to what they did last to improve themselves.

I'll start: Read a book over the weekend.

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/NOVIDEOGAMES/

Haven't played video games for 4 days already. Saved myself >4 hours daily. I'm going to keep it up. Anyone with me?

I have 1300 hours in Dota 2, and possibly couple thousand more in other games. Shit's addictive as hell. Deleted Steam from my PC also.

Watched movies instead of vidia. Not as good as studying, but at least I receive new information and don't get as tired as after playing dota.

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2018 thread

Its almost the forth installment of the current year. Have you made any goals for the next year? Do you have any strategy for achieving those goals? Now is the time to reflect on the current year and think about what you should do for the next.

Mine are the typical goals:

1. get more in shape

2. nofap for at least 1 month, and maybe go even further beyond

3. greatly cut back on time wasted on video games and shitposting

4. gitgud at programming

I'm also going to try those jaw exercises posted in a recently bumped thread.

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Podcast #196: The Science of Self-Motivation & Productivity

Podcast #196: The Science of Self-Motivation & Productivity

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2016/04/27/podcast-196-the-science-of-self-motivation-productivity/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+TheArtOfManliness+%28The+Art+of+Manliness%29

Show Highlights

How habits and thinking productively are different

What does it mean to be productive?

Why the definition of productive changes from situation to situation

Why autonomy is the key to motivation

How to motivate yourself to tackle the most boring of tasks

How a cancer researcher motivates himself to grade papers

Why self-motivation is a skill

How the Marines train new recruits for self-motivation

Why self-motivation is an increasingly important skill to have in today’s economy

Why the tools that are supposed to help us focus can actually distract us

The role of mental models in focus

How to set better goals

How to-do lists can make you less productive

How the Yom Kippur War is a perfect example of goal lock

Why you should re-write your to-do lists every day

Why our brain is designed to love being distracted and why you have to overcome that tendency

Why you need to create systems for thinking

The difference between productivity and efficiency

Why being productive is a struggle and why you have to embrace the struggle

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Reposting my advice from /kind/. Remember, I'm not any professional but those ideas seem to work for me. Take everything I say with a grain of salt.

Forget your goal.

Yes, I'm serious about that. I know that you definitely have some goal in mind when you're trying to self improve, but it's necessary only to begin the process. Later on, it actually might be harming to you. If you constantly keep reminding yourself of your goal, you will become impatient. Visualising yourself completing the goal, or keeping your goal in mind makes you want to accomplish it in this very second, so you're less likely to work for it. I think that a better way to view self-improvement is doing things you're supposed to do as something completely normal like eating breakfast or brushing your teeth.

For example: You start exercising to get less fat, but after you begin doing it, you should forget about that and try to exercise everyday without thinking about it. I prefer to think about a workout just as a part of my schedule, or something I do because I want to, not something that I do to accomplish some specific goal. If you view it as a part of your normal routine, it will eventually become a habit.

>Don't rely on motivation

No, don't do it. Motivation makes you feel better about the things you do, but only a short amount of time. It's an emotion, it will fade away after some time. You won't feel it everyday.

Instead, try to train your self-control. Your motivation might make things easier for you, but it won't help you in the long run. By training self-control, it will be YOU who will learn to take care of hard tasks easier. And the best part? If you train your self-control, not only will you be able to get better at the subject you're training, but it will be far easier for you to pick up, and get better at other things a well.

>Keep a schedule

Remember to work with some kind of a schedule, but try to make it so that it will be easy for you to start doing, whatever you want to do. If you're a NEET, or have a lot of free times, you should probably start right away when you wake up, if you're still in school, starting right after school is also a good idea, if you're working, start after work.

>Don't push yourself too hard, try to start with smaller tasks, but do them everyday.

It will be hard for you to take do harder feats at the start. Instead of learning for two hours every day, try learning for only a half, but be sure to do it. After some time, you will be able to carry on with the harder stuff.

>Don't let anything break your schedule.

If you stop with your routine for one day, it might be hard for you to get back in it the next day. Keep that in mind.

>If you want to exercise, check your health first.

I'm serious, that can make you break your routine very easily.

>Don't give yourself strict time constraints.

They are hard to follow, especially at first. Think in lines of "morning", "afternoon", "evening" and set your schedule according to that.

>Be prepared to fail

You are not likely to succeed at first, self-improvement is hard work! You will definitely make mistakes, get bored, tired and unable to go further. BUT

>Most importantly, never give up.

You might fail, you won't succeed at first, but every time you do, you will become slightly stronger. You will be able to control yourself better, and the next try might go further than before. Withstanding even a few days, and then coming back for more is a feat in itself! You should be proud of even the fact that you tried again don't get the pride get to you too much though, if you do you'll stop trying. It's better to fail and then try again, than to succeed and never build upon that success.

I would wish you good luck in improving, but you don't need it. You're perfectly capable of doing this on your own. Believe in yourself anon!

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Please stay away from this thread if you have a problem with habitual movie/tv watching.

Can someone recommend some /improve/ films?

Jordon Peterson said to stand up straight like Clint Eastwood in a spaghetti western.

What other films and tv shows can be used for self improvement?

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What are you goals in life, /improve/?

I want to get rich, buy some land and build a comfy house with a small farm somewhere near the forest, also try to marry a qt while I'm at it too.

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My macbook air is starting to show the signs of aging, keys falling apart, scratches all over the screen, fan making screeching sounds. So I've decided to build a desktop to replace it. I wanted to build a nice desktop both to see what all has changed in the past 8 years but at the same time I'm nervous that I'll fall back into my old gaming habits which rekt me before.

How do you guys recommend I go about this? The plan was to build a moderately specced PC and use a small laptop(11 inch or so) as the portable option. I rarely take my macbook anywhere since I've finished college and it stays on my desk most of the time. Or should I stick to laptops? I was thinking of maybe getting a smaller sized case and weaker cpu to discourage gaming but that would defeat the purpose of getting a desktop in the first place.

Give me some advice here.

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Very little things that improved your behavior

Let's share some very minor things that you did and improved your behavior.

Only things that you actually did.

For example my doctor told me to take some supplements for two months. The problem is that I would always forget, and this went on for some weeks.

Then I moved the supplements to the desk where I work so I always have them under my eyes. Now, I never forget to take them and they are working really well.

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Self-improvement youtubers

Post any good youtubers you know in this thread. Provide some info about them if you know what they usually post on their channel

>illacertus

>https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmvhCWvHk3-SJqljh5cCm8A

He's revising famous books of power like "48 laws of power" and "33 strategies of war" by Robert Greene in animation style. He plans on revising a lot of other books like "Prince" by Niccollo Machiavelli, "The art of war" by Sun Tzu and other famous books. A must for anybody with poor social skills.

>FightMediocrity

>https://www.youtube.com/user/phuckmediocrity

This channel helps you to find why you can't find the motivation/discipline to start doing stuff. He helps you realize how to stop being a wasteful NEET and get going.

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Do you ever consider leaving 4chan / all internet time wasting to fulfill your patrician potential? I waste so much time here it's unreal.

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Can we get a "useful alternatives to useless shit" thread? Most of the time we keep doing the bad shit we do simply because we don't know what else there is out there, bad habits don't get eliminated, they have to get replaced. Of course, most things are perfectly good in moderation so there's no need to stop doing something completely, at least not immediately.

eg:

Instead of videogames - cyoa

Instead of coffee - green tea

Instead of candy - fruit

And so on…

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How to work with others?

So recently I got a promotion where I work, and now I'm on the management team. However, I need your advice on dealing with certain workers. So basically I've only had a couple days so far on my own as a leader, and it was going very good. No complaints, no problems, and everyone listened to what I was saying. However, there are a few people that are giving me a hard time, and I would like to hear your thoughts on what to do with them. Most of the advice my co-workers have given me is to report them to my higher ups.

Person A; Now for whatever reason, he thinks that he is the next crew leader and feels the need to go behind my back and try to change the schedule. I've caught him a few times, and my higher ups have caught him more times, but he still does it. I've had a few private complaints about him abusing his 'authority' and making people do the dirtier parts of his job, and most are surprised to find out that he's on the same level as them. My biggest concern is that a lot of the new people (mass hiring) are acquainted with him, and he convinces them to go to him before coming to me. Literally me standing right there and the newer ones go to him. I understand that he is more charismatic than me, but I don't want to be competing with him for something that he wasn't mentioned for.

Person 2; We used to be friends before I got the promotion, but even before I got the promotion she was a thorn in my side. I'd try to train new people, and she would argue with me, or 'jokingly' say that I was a shit trainer. The sad thing is, is that the ones that were really close to her are the ones either needing extra training after they completed it, or are being called into the office because of their attitude or poor customer service. My first night, I had her in the back 'crying' because I wouldn't let her have the keys (I need to have them on me at all times). Last night every time I asked her to do something she would roll her eyes, stand there in a pose that looks like a young child after being told to clean their room and would either snap with a 'Fine!', or would mumble stuff under her breath. Then I hear her in the back crying and going on about how I'm so mean to her to person 1, just because I asked her to refill something. I don't understand it. I try to be friendly, and give positive feedback and I don't give people very hard jobs. All I asked was the cups to be stocked up. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Persecuted for being nice?

I think I'm just too nice to people, and that I'm a target because of it. I'm such an innocent soul, I don't understand why everyone is so bitter and mean. I need help here, how do I develop my evil side?

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Help pleeeease

im 22 NEET , i hate my faculty , my parents chose it for me because of my autismo , now i don't hate anything more than it

also im in a country where you have only one chance to join the college , and i have tried a lot to change this but it's not allowed

now everyday passes is an exact copy from the day before , i really want to change my life but i don't know what to do

i wanted to study either mathematics or programming but maths more

if you were in my place what would you do ?

please help anons i want to start a new year with a new hope

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A strange thought...

nofap, as far as I know, originated in the strange conservative revival that imageboards have brought forth. The notion that masturbation indeed is bad for you and that the bygone eras that once forbade were not so paranoid after all. Many attest to it for reasons that are simply more than just physical but also mental. There are theories of course, such as dopamine overdose, instant gratification problems(similar to imageboards/internet) but nothing has been very exact.

With this in mind, I would like to delve back into time and pull forth another activity that was once sternly disciplined against. That of daydreaming. I am strongly against any pastime that removes you from your reality, gaming for example, as I believe it saps not only your physical self but your cognitive self as well. Time that could be spent mentally reviewing and planning for your real life simply taken by the fantasies of a television screen, comic, etc.

I have no proof of anything that I say and only offer my personal experience which is that of bygone days filled with nothing but dreams of the unreal. Of course we all must have play but I believe that daydreaming, like masturbation, when used excessively to the point that your fantasies are nothing short of fantastical is an incredibly perilous undertaking and one that is ripe for attack.

While nofap would have once been stupendously mocked it is now seen as a legitimate gamechanger perhaps we could do the same to mindless daydreaming.

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Nutrition and Physical Degeneration

Good day, dear /improve/.

At the beginning I would like to mention that I come from /pol/. Unfortunately my thread was "Bumplocked" there. But an "anon" recommended me to report here (once again heartfelt thanks to you). I hope it's okay if I share my information with all of you. If not, I apologize in advance for this.

I would like to share knowledge in areas that might be interesting to others, so their not making the same mistakes and / or bad experiences as I do. I apologize very much for this text and my bad English skills. I have full understanding if someone does not want to read this long message.

I think that this topic might be interesting for a few people, since physical beauty is for many a sign of health.

[Story]

It began with the fact that during my childhood and youth I was mainly fed on cereal and sugary foods. I have not paid attention to myself. The consequences / "facial deformities" were rapid, such as crooked teeth & nose, caries, teeth pulling, overbite, an asymmetrical, narrow and long face shape and amalgam fillings. It was anything but attractive or beautiful, but at that time it did not bother me.

Some years later, women became interesting and I realized that with this look, it was very hard to get to know the other sex. So I decided to take better care of myself. This included a fixed brace, surgeries, several visits to the orthodontist and various doctors, dietary changes, sports activities, change of clothes style, avoiding pornographic material, drug consumption, etc.

In the adult age I was told by my orthodontist that my narrow jaw and overbite must be corrected surgically. There is no other possibility, since the bones are solid. In the hospital I got a device to the palate (rapid maxillary expansion appliance). This had to be turned every day so that the jaw could be broadened bit by bit. After about a year I had to go to the hospital again to correct my overbite.

Very often, I hear from other people that genetics plays an important role. Whether it is hair loss, crooked teeth, an unattractive face or other "diseases". I am not a doctor, but because of my own experiences, friends, relatives and acquaintances, I believe that we can influence our genetics with the right diet and physical exercise either positively, or negatively.

I came to this realization when I discovered the works of a man named Weston Andrew Valleau Price. When I understood everything correctly, he was a dentist and nutritionist who was looking for factors that required good health and was lacking in the modern world - he found them mainly in food.

Especially in the food of different peoples living in solitude from modern civilization, he found that these had little to no decay / caries and also no degeneration of the body. He also noted that a "deformed body" can be created by a mainly sugary and cereal diet (especially in growth).

People who, on the other hand, have fed a healthy diet from birth, rarely had to deal with the problems mentioned above. A healthy and balanced diet has been defined as: animal intestines, healthy fats (coconut oil, red palm oil, ghee), raw milk (cheese), bone broth, cod liver oil, algae (spirulina, chlorella), various fish and much more.

In addition, this should be avoided: fluorides, sugar, amalgam fillings, artificial sweeteners, antinutrients (phytic acid, gluten, tannins, oxalates, lectins, saponins, trypsin inhibitors, isoflavones, solanine, chaconine), soy, and wheat.

With this contribution I would like to inquire whether you see it as much as I do, or have a completely different opinion on the subject. I would be very happy about helpful, interesting and informative answers.

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December improvement month

Why wait until next month to promise yourself to be better in 2018. Start now!

What will you this december improvement wise?

I will continue C25K program and finish it by the end of the month.

I will lose weight and get to 70 kg this month.

I will study everyday for at least 30 minutes.

I will wake up every morning at 7:00.

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Jaw Discussion

Hello, i wanted to ask you guys what i could do about my jaw. I saw some old pictures of me and it wasn't always like this.As far as i can tell, i used to have a normal jaw as a kid.When i was younger i fell and landed straight on my chin and i can remember that there was a lot of blood but i can't remember exactly what happened.I also have 2 bones sticking out of either side of the chin, but i'm not sure if it was caused by the fall.

What do you recommend, outside seeing a doctor?If i go to a doctor, what kind of treatment should i expect?

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November Improvement General

With 2017 almost over, what is on your mind?

What sort of things are you working on and how is that going for you?

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Dealing with Social distractions and Autistic friends

How do you deal with those NEET friends that count on you spending hours on vidya

or those chad friends with perfect rigid schedules, no distractions and have centuries of free time they want you to spend with them

All while I'm trying to self improve

These holidays I've tried to give a shit about my downhill life and unproductive lifestyle but social pressures are eating me alive

Worst of all every time I finish or in the meantime of anything with friends I hook into a vice of checking my phone over and over.

For example, this one friend asked me to edit some shit,

>I accepted because he said he'd pay me and I'm the only one in my grade with decent editing skills

<besides they were easy removing background jobs

>He looses his phone and forgets to send them

>I check my Whatsapp for over a weekend because of an annoying lingering feeling instead of waiting for a notification until he finally sends them

>easily spent approximately 10-15 mins just in checking the phone plus distractions that came after

This happens all the time, I check everything and agree to everything because I don't want to let anyone down even if there's no point in doing so

What do?

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>open book/program/whatever right in front of you

>"Okay this time i'm defintily going to do this!"

>finger freezes before even touching the mouse

>"okay maybe first some snacks"

>end up dozing off the whole day and regretting not doing anything.

does anyone else have this? is there any way to get over this strange inability of clicking the mouse button to get things started?

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Productivity Systems

I have always relied on motivation and only worked when I felt inspired. I have produced some great work doing this, but it has taken me a long, long time (almost ten years) and I am still way, way behind. I need to change things and implement some system to increase my productivity.

Can you guys share your own productivity systems and schedules?

I have been using the Pomodoro Technique and an app called Timeglass, which have given me great results so far, but I want to know what works for you.

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Can anyone give me an invite to the discord?

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Finding a decent woman

For Christ's sake, I went through the process of making myself more attractive to women in my posture, speaking, etc., but now I am regarded in better standing and get looks from plenty of different women, I've come to a barrier even bigger than the first.

How the fuck do I actually find a woman that is actually worth my time?

Ever since I have gotten better and have successfully approached and flirting with different women of all kinds in my Sixth Form, with them flirting back, they all turn out to be absolute shit.

>You're pretty cu- weed smoker and often wears whorish clothing

>I've sort of known you for a while and- oh you deal weed and complain when I stop flirting with you when I saw you deal to a 14-year-old girl in the middle of a school day

>You are kinda shy- oh, nope, you're used goods and hug virtually everyone while deliberately rubbing your cunt on their thighs

>I've always thought you were pretty attrac- already seemingly has a boyfriend, while flirting with me and would probably cuck him with me, and you always go out partying

>You're very studiou- always goes to low-key parties, gets piss drunk and is apparently an awful kisser

>Ok, you're REALLY sh- uber bitch that scowls at me for having dared said I found her attractive

Is it too hard of an ask to find a virginial woman that is moderately attractive while not being a whore, a drinker, and doesn't go to parties?

Where the fuck do I look, and what do I look for in their appearance and such as an indicator?

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What happened? Did your motivations drop off?

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Building a better future

I've had the idea stuck in my head since high school that everyone is retarded (including me) and that we need to focus hard as a species on creating a better world for everyone instead of fucking shit up constantly not caring about each other or about truth like we currently do. How do I do this? How can I handle my sporadic dread with society as a whole?

I'm hoping I have more options than "become part of ai research and try to create benevolent overlords and pleasure simulations" but if it's something like that I will understand. Humans are hard to change.

I am somewhat new to 8chan and I didn't see any other boards to post this on, i'd appreciate directions if there's a more appropriate board.

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Please Help Me

I just walked out of my job today. I left 6 hours into my 12 hour shift. It was my first "real" job and I've been working there for one week. I couldn't stand working. It makes me feel pain? Nausea? Dread? I feel like a coward for quitting. I really just want to kill myself, but I'm too cowardly for that too. I cannot seem to move my life on my own. No matter what I've done, it's almost never been my decision and I've never been the best at anything. I hated school too - I barely found the determination to get a GED. Despite having 99th percentile test scores, I failed multiple classes including remediatory ones. These aren't the only instances of my seeming inability to accomplish anything. I feel like I sabotage myself at every attempt to become better. At every attempt to become more like the person I want to be. I feel like I let down everyone who depends the slightest on me. I sit here unable to force myself to do anything hard, or anything I don't want to do. Why am I like this? I hate myself. I am a failure, a loser, and a coward. I just want to change.

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Reading

Does anyone else have trouble with actually sitting down and reading? I don't mean comprehension, I mean actually deciding to start the task of reading a book.

I used to, and still do, love reading, and once I pick a book up it's hard to put down - but I just can't seem to "find the time", despite having all the time in the world as a NEET. It's so depressing. I have so many books now; interesting novels from christmas and birthdays, and numerous philosophy and self-help books i've bought myself, but I just can't pull myself away from the computer and can't read with the noise and distraction of the computer fan and screen. blease help

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Mental States And How To Achieve Them

I have 3 modes:

1) utterly relaxed, chill

This is my everyday, when I get to be alone and od my shit.

2) family setting

Or at least close people. I'm sociable, and calm, but not outlandish. My voice modulates at a healthy frequency, and I can joke around and interact normally.

3) utter sperg mode

While I don't go into eternal autism. This is me when I'm in public, voice either too high or too low, avoiding extra movements. Extra self conscious. Nervous as all hell.

You might have guessed what I'm asking here, how do I move from 3 to 2?

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Help your own self improvement by helping others

It's the to stop thinking about yourself only and to stop posting about how you deserve to reach your potential while you watch others lay dead in the tracks.

It's time to tell nerds online to stop masturbating, to go to the gym, to study something productive they are interested, and to become an upstanding citizen.

https://8ch.net/pol/res/10638736.html

https://8ch.net/leftypol/res/2092849.html

>linking /leftypol/

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Trumpism 102: Dealing with failure

This is a continuation from my last Trumpism thread. I notice, that when people start to improve, when they gather inertia or momentum (as Trump calls it), they improve, but then they fail.

They improve, having success after success but then, it suddenly stops. Why? They experience their first failure.

> They loose motivation.

> They get depressed.

> They feel ashamed and become angry for failing themselves.

Then their momentum stops and their improvement topples like a house of cards.

Trump says (from Twitter) :

> Ask yourself, "Is this a blip or is it a catastrophe?" and your equilibrium will be kept in check if/when hard times hit.

When you experience a failure, it is very important how you deal with it.

What I have found to be the best way to deal with failure, is to simply continue. Failures will happen. Your goal is not to be perfect, but to improve.

Imagine riding a bicycle. You can stop for one, two, maybe even three seconds - but if you stay still more than that, you will fall.

I have learned to ignore failures and consider them as bumps. Failures are no reason to stop. (Imagine playing the piano also. The worst possible thing a musician can do when he presses the wrong key is to stop.)

I met with a couple of failures on my road to improvement, but I simply continued.

Don't take your failures too seriously or they will consume you and make you fail at other things as well.

Last thread: https://8ch.net/improve/res/7795.html

(Notice how instead of adOpting Trumpism, I wrote adApting Trumpism - an embarrassing failure, that I could have seen and corrected - I don't let it consume me, I simply make a note to check this thread carefully for any mistakes, so that it doesn't happen again. )

Musical Inspiration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAxQVx9X-DE&list=RDSAxQVx9X-DE

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jobs and interviewing

I only have a part time job but don't want to say as part-timer or do minimum wage forever, I've called and applied for so many jobs but It feels like demotivating when sometimes it takes forever for the process to end and ask if my status is there or if I get to do another interview. Example to days ago I got a call asking my interview availability and nothing else but haven't heard from them a month ago when they set me up for 2 phone interviews and don't understand.

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Hobby Thread 2017

After reading and thinking about the subject for a long time and I wanted to make not just a list but rather a set of guidelines for categorizing hobbies and interests. My main hope is that we can have a concise rule set so that future imps will be guided by us even if we ourselves are long gone. Curiously, I found very little subject matter on this topic aside from thematic lists. I have four main categories and will give examples as to what I believe represents them. In theory the best hobbies be able to rank high in all of them but this ranking system is still a work in progress.

>1. Effect on Quality of Life

One of the measures by which we may consider a hobby good is how much of an impact it has on our day to day quality of life. Naturally, the more of an effect you see in your daily life by your interest the better it ostensibly is. Here, it's relatively easy to categorize; I'll order it from high to low ranking.

Daily: You will see its usage daily and as such will be one of your most prized skills. ex. cooking

Weekly: Your skill set will be employed often enough and the side effects should still be felt day to day. ex. team sports

Monthly/Seasonal: The skill set may be seen in between long periods but it's effect will still be impactful ex. car maintenance, hunting

>2. Level of Creation

Hobbies are often categorized through levels of creation even if we don't consciously think of it that way. The arts, for example, are generally always rated high in these sorts of threads. Here it's not so much a measure of practicality but rather a measure of the hobbies ability to let you express your subconscious self and abstract and not so abstract inner thoughts and emotions.

High Level of Creation: Here you are abound only by your imagination(and tools). ex. sculpting , painting

Medium Level: Creations here are appreciated more for their practicality. ex. knife making, homebrewing

Low: Creations here are made more for consumption than expression: ex. photography, playing an instrument

**Note, just because it ranks low DOESN'T mean it's a bad hobby

>3. Accessibility

The best of hobbies should be easy to deploy anywhere. The most important thing should be your individual skill and talent not the objects. Ask the question, if my house burned down tomorrow could I easily be able to pick up the craft again? The important things here are cheapness, ubiquity, and universality. I'll base this on how little change the hobby can tolerate from least to most.

Apocalypse: The end is nigh and supply chains are cut off. Only hobbies that require day to day items are available. ex. writing, singing

Hurricane: You're stuck in a hotel after you left dodge with a few key belongings like a computer. ex. programming, bodyweight exercise

House Burned Down: It will be awhile before you can fully pick up back where you left off, but you'll get there. ex. ham radio, hobby electronics

Moving: Things that are location dependent on specific gyms or specific geological factors are rekt immediately. ex. rock climbing, surfing

Something to consider is also space requirements, generally speaking the smaller the space requirements the easier it is to pick back up. Consider the idea of replacing a guitar vs an entire garage full of wood working tools. Same thing goes for starting the hobby in the first place.

>4. Growth Potential

Ideally the hobby should have limitless potential so that it can last you a lifetime and will let you hone your craft until pretty much the end of your days. This is probably the hardest to categorize out of all of them so I'll give you an analogy.

You want your hobby to be sort of like the river that made the grand canyon, you know, something that will work in the background regardless of where you're at in life so that whenever you sit down to admire it you appreciate just how much better you are at it than you were when you started.

>Miscellaneous

I do want to point out a few things. I do not consider basic skills like walking or reading hobbies. These are things that don't require any work and that you will pretty much encounter doing anyone of the hobbies above. Git gud, don't be a fag. Also, consumption items such as watching TV or playing video games are hobbies but are shitty ones. They shouldn't rank in my guidelines in a meaningful way.

And that's it, lol.

Credit goes to a particular post from wizchan which gave me insight into one of the key points by which we consider hobbies "good" or "bad". https://wizchan.org/hob/res/4656.html#8785

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Getting a dump phone

Hello Everyone how are you?

Since I was wasting a lot of time of my smartphone, I was thinking that I should ditch it and get a dump phone. However, there are a few problem that I'm now facing, first, I need a to do app and a calendar. Second, I need a reader app, and third I need to use it as a multimedia phone. Is there any phone which has those things or is dumping my smartphone a stupid idea after all?

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How do I quit imageboards forever? I've been here for far too long.

Imageboards have done nothing for my life but made me a nihilistic pessimistic depressed little bitch content with my isolation. I'm completely fucking addicted to the internet, videogames and pron and I hate is so much. I have important things in life that I need to focus on but can't because keep getting distracted by this meaningless escapism. I'm completely wasting my life, I'm 21 now and have very little real life experience and shit social skills. I'm such a fucking wreck and often feel like I'm gonna be this way forever but I want to change I really want to change. Is there any hope for me?

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How can I force myself to study and do my homework? I've been fucking up in university the last couple semesters. I can't bring myself to do my work, even now as I write this I have 2 weeks worth of homework for 3 classes due tomorrow and I havn't even started it any of it.

I end up mindlessly browsing the internet instead of doing what I need to do. It seems I have no self discipline

Someone help

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Alternatives to Adderall

I have a terrible problem with focusing, and I sleep a lot and get nothing done. I'm trying to see if I can get a prescription for Adderall, but in case I can't I still need to know of an alternative. I've tried herbal nootropics, but they do nothing for me.

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Sleeping Pattern

What is your optimum sleeping pattern /improv/?

As a student, my pattern is fucked and I regularly go to bed about 3 am, miss morning lectures by waking about 11 and subsequently feel fucked off and pissy for the rest of the day.
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Philosophy of Trump

The philosophy of Trump for WINNING

- In life you are either a winner or a loser.

- Never ever ever give up.

- Tackle the problems in your life one by one.

- Important to never stop and build a momentum. (The more you win, the luckier you become, the easier the next problem will be to tackle)

- Never back down. ( The truth is if you back down, people will take advantage of you, even if they are good people. That's how human beings work. They see weakness and they exploit it.)

-Focus ( Focus on the issue at hand and be totally intent on WINNING! Even if it is something small and undeserving. A lot of small successes build big successes. Be intent on winning everything - ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING. NEVER BACK DOWN - NEVER STOP- NEVER REST - AND NEVER SLACKEN (hehe) )

" WE WILL HAVE SO MUCH WINNING IF I GET ELECTED, THAT YOU MIGHT GET BORED WITH WINNING."

Don't be a total disaster

Since adapting Trumpism - I have a total streak of winning.

I have done away with some of my worst problems and I don't think on stopping.

When I heard Trump talking about how the U.S. is a total disaster now and "we don't win anymore", that reminded me of me. Trump's philosophy might be brutal for some people, but it sure works.

Some musical inspiration https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tsu7wEyiWGQ

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Does/did anyone have thanatophobia here? Is there a way to overcome it without being religious? Suggested books or other materials? I just don't want to die anons.

This and nihilism are really fucking my life now.

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/improve/ update

Seems like we haven't had a heart to heart in awhile. How's life and the improvement game going? Are you heading in the direction you thought you were when this board started? Are you meeting them goals? What things should we focus on next; it seems sometimes that we've just about touched on every topic there is.

Also, since a lot of activity is apparently going on discord is it time for us to call it quits on the board itself? At this point 8ch is really dead everywhere you go. I've rec'd this place to a few people on other places but I dunno how effective that is.

Get in the thread fuggers!

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I read Marie Kondo's book, and will post the executive summary in hopes of giving people some inspiration.

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How do I stop saying "uhh" so much.

I sound like Chris Chan when I talk.

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How the fuck do I /improve/ my social skills?

I feel that many of my problems in life would disappear if I could communicate with others as a healthy well adjusted person normally would.

The problem is that I don't even know where to start with working on my social skills, I am terrible at human interaction both face to face and digital. I often struggle to find the right words to adequately describe my thoughts and feelings, even writing this post is challenging for me. I have a job where I have to talk to people almost nonstop, at first I thought just the near daily interaction with people irl would be enough for me to become better at communication but I was wrong, instead it has only shown me how bad I really am.

So again I ask, how the fuck do I improve my social skills?

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parents wont let me move

I do not want to be a neet and i let my parents know that but they wont let me move.

I have my whole life ahead of me /improve/ and i feel they are stopping me. the place is literally 300 a month and its close by. I already asked them if i can move in with my relative and yet they still say no. I had the chance to lead an alright life, have a cute korean boy as my partner, and do my SAT while being a freshman.

How do I leave /improve/?

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How To Improve At Business?

Okay here is the short spaghetti story.

I live in Vancouver, B.C. The city when I was a kid was afordable, going to elementary school it was a very real possibility to buy a house. Now adays the average houses are in the multi millions.

Here are some of the things working against me;

-) I'm not rich

-) I'm not well connected

-) Terrible with women, *(The women here though are messed up beyond belief)

I'm trying to devise a way forward. What I would like to do is eventually move out of here. It seems like the best choice, the competition for women and everything else is just bizarre. I'll never be a contender in a world where it works like that.

Currently working on a trade ticket, back to going to the gym minimum three times a week. Is there anything else I should be accomplishing?

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This is why discord is a mistake. Watch, they'll come after you all next. We need to either stick here or go on irc proper for /improve/ discussions.

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How to improve my physical appearance?

This is me, what are some tips?

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Can intentional solitude be a worthy and healthy way of life?

I can't relate to my long time acquaintances/friends or other people. I always feel distant from everyone and and unable to create normal close relationships with people like everyone else can. I eventually just get hate from other people.

Because of this, my friends can't relate to me either and are not what friends should be.

I remember reading on the Dale Carniegie book (about how to win friends etc.) that people tend to bad-mouth acquaintances that seem distant and with whom they don't relate much. This probably happens to me. My friends/acquaintances probably talk on my back.

I've accumulated a lot of bad experiences with other people. In many of these experiences, I agree that it was my fault, for snubbing people around me, being anti-social and distant.

So instead of trying to be social, maybe I should just embrace solitude.

Any books about this way of life? Walden maybe? Don't know much about it but seems like a start.

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Self improvement with gamification

Hi /improve/, I just found this board because it's featured, and I want to share this game/app with you guys, because it has helped me a lot over the past few months. It's called HabitRPG

Essentially, Habit turns your life into a RPG. You fill in your goals, to-do's and daily chores and you get rewards (exp, gold, potions, pets) for doing/achieving stuff. If you don't do them, you take damage. There is also quest system, with bosses. They even have an Android app.

For me, it's a little extra motivation to just get shit done. I'm a lvl 16 Rogue.

We could create our own guild and help each other out.
What do you guys think?
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Hello /improve/, need help argumenting for self improvement

I am an outsider from another chan and we are having a discussion about whether its good to set up "self improvement" kind of board.

Main disagreement in discussion is whether its better to have "fitness and literature" board or we need whole "self improvement" board which also spans to topics like depressions, advices, stories, etc…

/fitlit/ argues that full "self improvement" board attracts defeatists and other gay undesireables.

/pd/(personal development) argues that this option is better because there is so much more to improving yourself other than just becoming fit and reading books (financial, social status, charisma, vocal, body language, habit building, spiritual, emotional state too, etc…).

What is your take on this? Help me offer some good arguments and it may be you help in creation of another "self improvement" board.

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Slaying Your Dragons

Your dragons are those things that you're choosing not to pay attention to. Those those problems, large or small, that you've decided are easier to ignore than to deal with.

Dragons are truly the things that will ruin your life. Start slaying your dragons and you'll find a lot of the rest of your life will start falling into place.

>1. Name your dragons.

>2. Pick one dragon to slay, or at least start slaying, this week

>3. Give one concrete toward slaying that dragon, and commit to doing it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REjUkEj1O_0

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21

I'm 21, turning 22 in a few months. And I feel like an old man going through a mid-life crisis. I grew up in a shitty abusive home and a shitty small town full of pieces of shit. I now live in a slightly more urban area that's less shit. I want to get an art and music career going, but I don't know how.

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Aversion to work + getting over people

One of the biggest anxieties I have is the will/necessity to leave my room and make money or better myself through education. I don't know why, but I just have no interest in anything. I never did any extracurricular activities in school, I never had any other special talents other than video games (in fact, I wanted so much to be a professional CS:GO player- so much in fact that I used to namefag on dingus's /r9k/ about it). I'm starting to think that I'm ruining my life by both not having any income and shutting myself in night after night. But I resorted to this kind of life because I felt there was nothing for me in real life. Anyone ever go through this?

Also, I need some advice on what I should do about my ex-gf. Given what I just typed out above, it should be no surprise that I was a bad boyfriend. I probably talked to her once a week, I never did exactly what she wanted, I even once went out with a few of my friends from high school and got into some really childish activities (second pic related, this was on my friend's birthday and we were out late causing shenanigans). Well anyway, when she broke up with me, I had no words to say to her, but now I do after about 3 months. Should I even bother to message her on facebook? She just removed me this morning (also she removed me on steam), so it's a bit odd to see that after 3 months. Or should I just forget about her?

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Meditation book recommendations

Hello everyone.

So, I've been looking for a meditation book, but the ones I found so far weren't so good. What I dislike about them is the style they are written in. I like books which are written in a "scientific" way ( e.g the power of habit), so is there any books about meditation written in a similar style?

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habit replacements

You cannot remove habits, only replace them. (read Power of Habit, it's in the book thread).

Let's offer each other some replacement habits that have worked for us and mention things we need help replacing. Good habit replacements should have the same trigger that starts the habit, and the same reward, but a different action.

video games > puzzle games > math puzzles > programming (now a successful career for me)

chans/youtube/imgur > political talk radio (I'm here) > more reading (planned)

compulsive masturbation > ???? (working out maybe? will probably be solved when I stop going on chans and seeing pictures of hot women)

Maybe we can also provide suggestions for cues for things we want to do more.

???? > practicing piano?

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Jordan Peterson: Manchildren

I've recently tuned to this Peterson fella and man he is making so much sense with a lot of things. This short vid in particular basically articulated one of my longest fears which is that of letting another lifetime pass by(just like my teenage years) without much to show for it. Except that this time there won't be a 3rd chance.

Something that did bother me was that his way of saying "choose your limitation" implied simply to choose which career or field your going to dump the rest of your life in which to me seems bullshit to dedicate that much to any set of corporations or even society in general. They don't help me in my day to day life so why should I "dedicate" my life to any one of them.

I dunno, what are your thoughts? I highly recommend watching the video, it's short and sweet.

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Expatting

Let's say I live in a third world shithole, it wasn't always like this, and I've been raised elsewhere, am of a different (ethic even) group than the majority and want to leave.

Yet, the local citizenship is the only thing I got.

Now, for a thrid world shithole it's not so bad. There's welfare for one, if you grovel and pretend you're a freakshow case hard enough, which I am ashamed to admit, I ended up doing.

The local social worker ladies are all really nice, and ready to help me re-intergrate back into society.

I doubt that will last once they learn I've been faking my autism, and am making up escape plans as if this was Alcatraz.

So it has to be one-shot. Get courses and all I can, jump, hope it sticks. There won't be a second chance (at gov.assistance/welfare) when I fail.

So far I have:

1) 2k$ in the bank. Penny pinching works.

2) maybe the possibility of getting some job courses. But that's after going through local language courses because (surprise!) I didn't have a chance of knowing the local speak.

3) youth (20 y.o.) and readiness to go through hell and high water

Biggest issues seem to be:

1) didn't finish high-school

2) no job experience. I can fake that easily because nobody is going to call in and ask a foreigner that barely speaks english.

3) no real understanding of what is to be done

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Share some strength/cardio programs you do with the rest

Running program

First week you might get some muscle and ankle pain because you're starting to pressurize your feet. If the pain stays consider checking with a doctor and/or physiotherapist. If you use a running machine try to run at 10 km/h or 6mph thus you'll be able to run 5 km or 3 miles by the end of week 9.

http://www.coolrunning.com/engine/2/2_3/index.shtml has some nice articles for people who don't have a clue what running includes (like stretching, running technique, etc.)

Pushup workout

>n pushups

>rest

>n pushups

>rest

>n pushups

I started with 3 pushups and added 1 pushup every day. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4dF1DOWzf20 explains how to do correct pushups.

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How to move out

Living with my family is a fucking drag. Living with them is a barrage of harassment, annoyance, and autism. There's no question I need to get out. Thing is though, I haven't finished my technical training, so I don't have a reliable source of income right now - and even if I did, I don't want to throw all my money away on rent. So what do I do? I've been considering buying a van, fixing it up, driving up to New England, and crashing Harvard business courses Goodwill-Hunting style. But every day until then is a fucking anchor on my soul. Any suggestions?

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There was a 52 book a year reading challenge that's gone now. 404'd. Anyway, I wanted to reply to the person that said that after awhile you would get really good at finding short books. You were right, I haven't done nearly a book a week but I've had a constant pile of books on my desk since 2016 and as I've gone through the backlog the books have gotten not just smaller in size but more basic in topic. What I once thought I was too good for I approach with a little more humility.

Adding to that, I skim a lot too before truly jumping in, saves me from reading quite a few bad apples.. You also learn what books to avoid since you get to know what your tastes are, personally I don't touch self help, fiction above 300 pages, or topics that are just way too esoteric no matter how cool they sound or technical books where I have no way of applying the knowledge within.

Just my experience I'd like to share, I think it's a good challenge for many reasons but primarily because you get to learn a little about yourself based on your book preferences.

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Tips for handling pain?

I have severe pain that does not go away, and it has been this way for a long time. It has always been pretty miserable, but it has been getting worse quickly. I have been seeing doctors for a long time, and nothing they have suggested has helped with it. This is more a shot in the dark hoping to find some tips that work. I've always wanted to live a long life, but it is getting to the point where the pain of living makes it seem pointless to live a long time. What would the point of living 100 years be if they were miserable the entire time? That is how I feel right now at least.

Please post tricks. I have tried many things from meditation, breathing techniques, proper sleep, using odors, acupuncture, electric acupuncture, and probably over 40 different prescription medications and every over the counter there is.

Thank you

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How have you progressed?

/improve/ has been around for more than 2 years. Some people have been here since the start while others have gone and never come back.

To the people that have been around in /improve/ for a while, how have you progressed in that time frame? Have you improved or have you regressed? And more importantly why?

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Getting over the past

How can one forgive themselves for past mistakes, even when they've hurt other people in their lives and done unethical things? I feel like I deserve to live a life of total misery for my failures, that I don't deserve to be happy as punishment for being an asshole. I feel so bogged down in the present by mistakes I've made in the past that I'm unable to move forward.

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Neckbeard Challenge

I haven't seen this here yet. Anyone interested in doing this together, maybe posting the results?

Dice is in the "show post options and limits" section

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Improving Studying methods

I know this board is kind of dead but I think I really need to ask here

Incoming BlogPost

(TL;DR after it)

My last years I have skipped studying or doing homework alltogether, usually studying on hard exams the days before it, and barely passing them.

But this year I have failed all the exams (except one or two with 5/10) and I decided that its time to improve and start studying.

The problem I had is that even if I study like 4 hours a day and take notes in class, I still fail the exams while the rest of my class passes them with ease.

Ignoring the option of me being retarded, the other posibility is that I dont really know how to study, or Im not used to it.

TL;DR

So my question is…

How can improve my studying methods, get to pay more attention and other tips about this matter?

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Should i get rid of my smartphone

I got an apple Iphone when i was trying to come out of NEETdom, I thought i would use it to get jobs and go to school, but since I failed at that it just makes me depressed going on it.

I use it to fap 6 times per day and send way to many nudes. It also hurts my eyes and makes me feel like a greasy pig because the screen is so grimy. Plus im always tempted to download dating apps and fantasize about getting a gf or something.

Did you get rid of your smart phone and did your life improve?

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A year of my life passed being a NEET. I still live with my mom and have done fuck all but draw, jack off and use the internet and I want out.

I made sort of a plan to just go homeless and far away. I plan to join Job Corps (a US government education thing) because I'm too autistic to go anywhere and just apply. Also because I haven't a thing to put on a resume and have zero documented work experience. High school diploma is all I got.

To prepare I have every legal document needed for basic stuff, clothes, and what not in a duffel bag and plan to stay in shelters until I get through Job Corps.

Was wondering if this seems like a solid plan or if anyone could give any advice of going through times like this. From what I've read a gym membership for showers, a locker and phone charging is very beneficial, I have $64 to my name so I don't know how long that'll last.

In the end all I want is to be someone who can pay taxes and live independently without relying on government benefits, I don't care if I make a meager living or live in a shithole.

Have an OC NEET pepe for any troubles.

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So I haven't backed up in about a year and while my computer was backing up I went looking through some old files, admittedly not much, but I found an 8th grade exit test from the year 1912. I always assumed one of our goals was to be as well rounded as possible and I thought this would be fun to show off. Surely, us being from a century in the future will scoff at such an easy test.

So, /improve/, would you be able to pass the 8th grade back in 1912?

HARD MODE

without google

EXTREME MODE

using your personal education up to the 8th grade and nothing more

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I want to learn to draw, but when I think about doing it I feel something almost like physical pain. It feels like so much work and I'll be shit anyway and it's embarrasing etc

Actually I would say that I want to be able to draw but I don't want to actually learn it. I got a book called "You can draw in thirty days" and I did the first chapter. Now I just don't want to do anything at all.

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

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Roll Call for 2017

/improve/ is deader than ever it's basically comatose.

With that said it seems we have at least 3 posters active since 2017 started. Post in this thread your goals for the year so we can review come 2018. It will survive, we have threads from 2015 still alive.

Also, where is board owner, is he dead? What about any surviving /improve/ communities? Are skype and discord still alive?

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Even though I've always despised anime/video game/other nerd shit clubs at school I've also always secretly envied how much fun they seem to be having. At least they have each other, I have no one.

I'm in my third year of college (20 years old), still a nofriendo never had a gf and really considering joining a club cause I want friends and I want to experience life outside of my room. and everyone says that's a great way to meet people but I won't lie I'm kinda scared.

Here's a list of clubs that have piqued my interest:

>Clubs at the campus closest to me:

Spanish Club - I would like to learn Spanish and this club would probably be a great opportunity for me to practice speaking but I'm pretty sure this club populated by people who I would not get along with

Entertainment Club - idk sounds alright I guess right

>Clubs at a campus farther away but I would still be willing to go to:

Computer Club - would be good for me since it is relevant to my degree, but I feel like I would have a harder time meeting people and making friends at this club vs some of the others

Table Top Gamers - I've always wanted to play these but never had anyone to play with so I don't know how to play any, how much patience would they have for a complete noob?

Do you guys think I should do it? Which one should I join? Also do you think I should get professional therapy? I really have a lot of issues but I'm scared to trust them.

I really regret being so antisocial in highschool, I wish I would have pushed myself harder I have so many regrets.

Please give me real advice not memes, I'm tired of living this bullshit life I want to change things

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Motivational stories, good feels and general motivational videos and images thread

>Started waking up early (7am everyday)
>Have been going gym consistently
>Have been getting the necessary nutrition and I am finally gaining weight
>Spend free time studying
>Finally started flossing
>The more productive I act, the better I feel and the more I want to do
>Finally beginning to look at my social life and actually imagining myself doing well in it
>Actually beginning to consider going out and meeting people and not nearly shitting myself when thinking about it

W-we are all going to make it Anons
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How can I learn to speak louder? I'm really quiet.

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Don't want to wait

I'm already trying to /improve/ myself before this board opened.

Questin:Does attraction formula or things like that work? Has any anyone tried things like that?

I would waste my shekels instead of my years so should I try? Are those fiddlers, worthless shit or useful?
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I can't even read a book anymore? I can't pass the first page. I used to read when i was a kid.

I've been a neet for years and i simply can't concentrate on what i do anymore.

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So let's shoot the shit. It seems /improve/ is starting to go comatose. How's everyone been? What have you been up to this year? What project or goal are you currently keeping up with? Anything you started but dropped cause you realized it wasn't for you?

Yes, I do in fact envision this place as a small cozy bar whenever I visit.

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Top 5 books in every subject

YOOOOOO I just found a fucking kickass website.

Basically it's the top 5 books on any subject as recommended by an expert in the field. Along with the books is a transcription of the interview and their explanation as to why the book is in the list. It's not just math or programming either but various other topics as well.

Happy reading motherfuckers!

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Hey guys,

I'm looking for this blog post about a guy who managed to do 8 college courses and work 2 part-time jobs while getting amazing grades and doing college in half the time. I've been looking for it for a while(ironic since I don't want to waste time), but I've given up. If anyone has it bookmarked so we can all read it that would be cool.

It basically consisted of using a if-then method to realize when you are wasting time and get back to improving.

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Vidya help thread

(pic not related)

Ive been going through a lot of my backlog, but im wondering, if I do finish it, will I really be "done" with my gaming? My goal of this is to simply clear what ever thoughts left about vidya are on my mind and move on with other mediums, but is this a good thing to do, or should I try abandoning vidya alltogether

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Getting a gf

Hey, /improve/, I’ve been on this board since it’s started, and I’ve never seen a thread about how to get a gf. I figured I’d make one since this question has been on my mind for a little while now, and I’m sure other anons have this question as well.

As for me specifically, I was wondering where I could find a nice, conservative girl who hasn’t fucked a whole bunch of guys (I’m only 18 so I don’t think finding a virgin gf would be such a crazy thing to aim for). I sort of had a thing going with this girl from my work, but that fizzled out and there aren’t really any other girls there who I like. I’ve looked at dating sites, but most of the women there are fat, old, or skanky. I’d like to find a girl who I could actually have a real relationship with, not just fool around with.

I’m decent looking (probably 7-8/10), average height (6ft), on my way to getting /fit/ (currently ottermode), and well groomed (I brush my teeth, shower every day, etc). I can talk to people without spilling spaghetti, and I’ve been told that I’m pretty funny.

My main problems are as follows:

>I don’t know where to go to meet the kind of girls I would actually want to date

>I’ve never been in a long term relationship before

>I don’t have a lot of experience flirting, and I’m not very good at it

>I’m even worse at text-flirting than regular flirting

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I was looking at a book on Genghis Khan I have and thought about reading it. Then I thought maybe I should also get other books also about Genghis and the Mongols in general, and also look out video games and movies related to them to watch and kind of immerse myself in this part of history. My thinking is that doing this might aid my learning of this topic and help me retain the knowledge. Kind of like how learning a language comes so much quicker and easier if you immerse yourself in with native speakers of it.

Does anyone know of any kind of scientific studies regarding this?

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Good books about how to defeat procrastination?

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Started a /pol/ alternative, would love it if /improve/ would start posting with us. I think /pol/'s mods separating /pol/ from self improvement threads is a crime. Let us reunite.

>>>/polk/

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Get a broom, go outside and sweep the road.

Do it right now.

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How to end laziness and find motivation?

I can't seem to motivate myself to work on my portfolio, so I feel deep shame for myself, I just don't know what it is. I want to do something, but it's like my brain wants something else. I tried just sitting and drawing, forcing myself to be creative, it worked after about 5-7 doodles. I drew some decent stuff, but there was this second subconscious mindset in deep agony, I felt like I had to stop and do something else.

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Tightening loose skin after losing 50 pounds?

Early 2016 I took action and lost about 50-60 pounds of body fat through just dieting. I no longer feel liver pain nor do I get horrible acid reflux.

I feel great, and look great, but I still have some work to do. I went from not being able to do pushups to doing 300 a day, and doing 3-4 pullups in a row.

I've been trying to focus more on the abdominal muscles, and I'm not noticing much difference. What gives?

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So I finally got a job, it's nice to have money but now I have no fucking time to do anything. I work Sunday Monday Friday and Saturday all day and on my days off I have school. Before I had a job I was doing really well, working out everyday, eating a lot and very healthy, practicing guitar and coding everyday, replaced videogaming with book reading, and was on top of my schoolwork.

Now my grades are starting to slip cause whatever free time I have I am either dead tired/mentally exhausted and paralyzed with dread of going back to work so I numb myself with videogames and youtube. I havn't worked out or touched my guitar since I started working and I'm eating like shit now.

Just when I though I was getting my life together it all crumbles apart before me. Why does this have to be so hard?

I know that in the long run this job is good for me, it gets me out of the house, forces me to socialize, and I no longer need to leech off of my parents, but in the short run it's killing me. I just need to overcome this bullshitery and then I will be pretty much unstoppable but fuck dude why does it have to be so hard? Need advice. Thanks.

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mantras

You know, those phrases that you repeat to yourself to build healthy thoughts in your mind and self-confidence.

The book "No more Mr. Nice Guy" recommends and suggests some mantras. I think it works too.

Any source for meaningful and good mantras out there?

pic unrelated

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Hygiene tips thread

I used to have mild to moderate acne. Here is what I did to totally eliminate my acne completely without any actual effort. Follow these two rules:

>1. Never ever touch your face with your hands. If you need to touch your face for whatever reason use the back of your hand, arm or a cloth/towel

>2. Always take showers with hot water first, then finish with cold water. The hot water will open up your pores, the cold water will close your pores and keep them clean. Plus an added benefit is that you will feel more awake and alert (a scientifically proven fact).

My hair is always bouncy, good looking and I get compliments about my hair fairly often. My secret? Little to no shampoo. You actually don't need to wash your hair that often and when you do you lose the natural elasticity, sheen and health. I generally wash my hair once a week or sometimes once every two weeks. Every other shower or if my hair feels greasy or dirty I wash it out with conditioner.

>TL;DR End your showers with cold water and don't wash your hair with shampoo often

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Neckbeard Challenge 2

Last thread reached post limit

Dice is in the "show post options and limits" section

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Anyone know anything about flexibility?

I want to get fit, but actually fit not /fit/. I don't just want big muscles I want to have good cardio and flexibility as well as some strength training. Like being able to do the splits, handstands and raise my leg vertically above my head, those types of things.

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Hello /improve/

Hello /improve/, I'd like to invite you to join our discord server, 24.

>what is 24?

24 is a little place where you can talk about your interests, hobbies and general stuff. We want it to be a place where people with many niche interests can meet with each other and tell other people about the things they like to do.

Bring music, because we have a bot to play tunes, be cool, be calm, and welcome!

>Why did you advertise here?

Because we're not interested in top 24 boards and want real discussion with people who actually want real, in-depth discussion.

https://discord.gg/P9TBm

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brain fog?

How do I stop being stupid about minor things? I have too many moments where I'm talking to someone and I just draw blanks on a normal word, and I stand there forgetting what the fuck the word is. I just forgot what I ate for dinner, 20 minutes later, was asked and couldn't draw up the word but I knew what was in it. The word(s) was tuna helper.

Is this what happens when you spend almost a decade in front of a computer? Also, smoked weed for two years, stopped that completely about two and a half years ago. It's embarrassing and I just feel slow. But I'm smart at programming, don't think I'm low IQ, just shitty at verbal stuff.

How can I be sharp, quick in the mind, and not have this slowness? The term I had used a while back is brain fog.

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Scientific self improvement

Do you /improve/ yourself in a scientific manner?

I did recently and made an interesting finding. Here is my story

>Be slightly overweight, BMI=25.something

>Slowly but steadily gaining weight
>Wonder why
>Fast for one day, except chewing sugar free gum (total calorie consumption about 100kCal)
>Lose weight as expected
>Slowly change things until weightloss stops
>Start eating, but eat healthily, never completely full
>Still losing weight (less quickly though lol)
>Did the sorbitol in the gum cause the weightloss? Stop chewing them.
>Still losing weight
>Was the problem that I overate? Start eating until completely full
>Still losing weight
>Was it because I sometimes replaced meals with candy and snacks? Start eating candy and snacks again.
>Still losing weight
>Was it maybe all the sandwiches I ate out of boredom? Start eating sandwiches again
>Start gaining weight

The culprit is found, and I now know how to lose weight without going hungry or foregoing candy. Great success. Have you ever done anything similar?
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I want to learn everything.

What's the closest I can get and how can I go about it?
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How do I get a gf?

I work out, I'm not super /fit/ but I'm not tiny, I eat healthy, I play guitar, I try to do nofap (this is crazy difficult idk how you guys do it tbh), I try to read everyday and keep up with my studies, I'm trying to get a job (had an interview this morning will hear back from them within two days hopefully). I now dress better and got a haircut so I don't look like an autismo anymore, in fact I'd say I'm above average in the looks department, not chad tier but def above average.

The main thing holding me back is my subpar social skills. I don't really talk to anyone, I don't have any friends and I have no clue how to talk to people irl (I think maybe once a conversation starts I can do manage, but idk how to initiate with people). I've been trying to cut back on videogame/internet escapism and I now feel true loneliness. I want friends but I especially want a girlfriend (see nofap).

So how do I work on /improve/ing my social skills, how do I make friends, and how do I get a girlfriend?

Any advice would be appreciated.

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I think somethings wrong with me and I don't know what.

I'm a NEET and when mummy dies I'm fucked. I got things to do but I just sit all the computer all day fucking bored out of my mind. I just flick through one tab after another looking for new threads but never seeing anything interesting or rewatching YouTube videos over and over again and checking the same sites over and over for anything new.

I get books and don't read them. I got other things I want to do like the piano and I always wanted to learn to draw and programming and I figure I need to do these things so I have something for when mummy dies or I'm homeless and fucked. Maybe I could make a game or something. But I don't.

I've been in my room for almost a decade now doing fuck all but being bored at the computer and never feeling any desire to do any of the things I know I should do. Sometimes I'll play the piano for a few minutes or something then get bored and go right back to the computer even though that bores the fuck out of me too.

I always get excited at night thinking about how I'm gonna fix my life tomorrow but then tomorrow comes and I can't be bothered to do any of it.

Even as a little kid I remember I'd fucking sit and stare at the wall being bored rather than doing anything.

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What made you start your improvement?

Did you just decide to change your boring life?
Was it desire for success?
Or something else?

Personally I started because I want to someday be able to have chance with this girl that I started to love.

It may take me years to finish my goals and it will probably do, but I won't stop it.
Even if she marries someone else in meantime I just want her to see my success if my chances are over.

Then I realized how bigger potential there is.
Not just to improve myself physical but mentally, to explore new ideas and things.

But I'm not going to do it just because of her, but because of me also.

Please, do reply.
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Lasting Longer During Sex/getting Rid of Premature Ejaculation

I was wondering if there was any way to make yourself last longer/get rid of premature ejaculation (preferably a permanent or exercise type solution). I'm doing nofap right now (so makes it extra hard to last a long time) but when I did fap I only lasted around 5 minutes. I'm a virgin right now but I'd obviously like to have sex at some point in my life and I feel like it'd be pretty unfulfilling if I came before I could even get my pants off. Any remedies would be appreciated, thanks in advance.

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Breathing

I know this might seem a little odd at first, but I've read on different books that breathing is actually a really important factor that can help with anxiety and energy.

Now I don't really have anxiety issues at the moment, although it might be useful for some people here.Personally, I really want to improve my breathing if it makes my health better in the long term and it sounds really easy on paper. Also, Yogic traditions seem to put emphasis on breathing, so I'm leaning towards believing that there is importance to this.

However I don't know what of the resources online are the best (more so which are total bullshit) and I want to know what are your thoughts and experiences about it.

Hopefully everyone can improve on this.

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New Years Resolutions for 2017

I'm resolved to get my RHCSA (Red Hat Certified Systems Administrator) certification, and reenter IT as a career.

I used to work in IT, for most of a decade, but was stuck doing level 1 (asshole customer facing phone support) for Microsoft type environments. It drove me nearly to suicide and my last few jobs didn't last very long.

I eventually left and worked landscaping and then warehouse work, which was good for me. The problem is that cost of living is rising so fast in my area that I haven't been able to live on my own for years, I live with a parent, and it just keeps getting worse. I've determined that I need to make at least $20/hr to live on my own, working full time, and not be at risk of failure if some say car expense comes up.

I think the only way I can make that money consistently is to return to IT work.

I actually know much more than I knew when I used to work in IT (I've been doing stuff on the side and as a hobby), but I'm much more linux focused now.

I'm pretty sure I can pass the RHCSA with only two or three months of studying, and there are plenty of starter $30/hr jobs in my area for people with that cert. As a bonus, it's being more of a systems administrator position, I wouldn't be dealing with asshole ignorant end-users (practically got PTSD from that). I have worked with systems administrators and they are stressed out as well, but it's less from bad interpersonal interactions than just general deadlines. I think I can deal with it.

Anybody else have any New Years resolutions, or any plans for progressing or starting a career?

I know this board is dead (as are practically all boards now except a few) but if there's any time people might want to post here I figure it's right now.

Also, how did it go with last year's resolution? I was going to quit smoking and mostly succeeded. I probably smoke a cig once every few weeks (while drinking with friends) and hit a vape pen moderately during the evening when at home. Certainly an improvement over my old half-pack-a-day habit. I can recommend vaping for anybody that has tried other methods and not been able to quit. The Ego AIO (box version, although pen is okay too) works well and is cheap, and the .5ohm coils work better than the default .6

Anyways..

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Height, anons ! Let's talk about height , growing methods and the like .

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I am completely bound to my computer.

Every day, from waking to going to sleep, I will only rise from my seat to piss, shit, shower and do the dishes. I eat in front of my computer.

What always makes me angry and sad is that when I am taken away from a computer I am a perfectly functional human being, assuming I'm not sleep-deprived because of playing vidya. What is ridiculous is that I have never smoked, drank or done drugs. To this day I am so afraid of another crippling addiction that I don't even ever consider those things.

I fucking hate myself. Years where I could have been something exceptional, instead I was a mediocrity in high school. Back then when I came home I'd immediately play vidya until bed. Same thing now that I'm in uni, which has done catastrophic damage to my grades. I don't even enjoy playing video games anymore, I get angry when I lose and then say to myself you worthless piece of shit you waste your life on this but you are still shit at it. When I win I feel nothing.

I have reached new heights of self-loathing and cynicism and now I have a fatalistic attitude towards myself and life. I feel like only a miracle, blindness or death could cure me from this.

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Weight Loss General

Will be starting a major cut tomorrow. Goal is to get down to about 12%bf. Also got a gym membership. Anyone here doing the same? Post dieting/fat removal tips.

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I turned 20 last week and I realised I've been wasting my fucking life, there's so much shit I want to do in my life yet I've taken no steps to do any of it.

To whomever reads this: just tell me ITT to get off my fucking ass and work towards my goals. I don't give a shit how harsh you are, I just need somebody to tell me to start working because I'll never do this shit myself otherwise.

I'll be checking this thread every single fucking day as a reminder to myself.

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Anyone got more like this?

Don't like this one because some of the language is a bit weird and I'm not sure what it is even saying.

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I am fatskinny and i want to have firm arms, no manboobs and no bellie, what is the easiest way to get that?

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Math general

pre-calc here. How do I git gud at math? Any good resources for learning math? Preferably higher level college math?

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digging yourself out of the hellhole you're stuck in in 30 days

i'm stuck in my parents' house

I REALLY JUST WANT TO GET OUT, BUT NO MONEY OR SOURCE OF INCOME

literally just around $50

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I just leave this here. Make good use out of it.

bunch of /biz/ books, enjoy

https://mega.nz/#F!1R0QATqZ!Eb1_M5KC9gkxK6w32R2ETw

Bunch of /pol/ book recommendations

https://mega.nz/#F!B4dB2SzQ!h_pMC30v2a_y31iD0dy0sg

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How often do you masturbate? Be honest

I'm shooting for once a week, my smemen is shooting for the ceiling. No but really though beating it every day pits me into a deep depression, am I the only one?

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Making friends

Does /improve/ have any tips to overcome loneliness? I've gotten better over the years to talk to strangers with small talk, but I would like to go the step further and find some friends with mutual interests in the real world.

Based on my interests (history, slav video games, guns and military shit in general) I've considering joining a gun club or something that involves outdoor activities in general. Anyone have any experience with this? Would you recommend it?

I think this thread can be used as a general for sharing questions and suggestions regarding finding new communities/friends.

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Improvement pitfalls

This is a thread dedicated to pointing out improvement misconceptions and traps. The goal is to inform people so they can avoid stalling their progress and have as smooth a ride as possible to the gates of success. We all make mistakes and the experience from that is good, but sometimes it's best to read and learn from other people's mistakes so you don't have to waste the time of having to learn it yourself from experience.

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Protip

Understanding the difference between motivation and discipline may be the missing link for you. It was for me! Here's an example:

>Tomorrow I'll workout

>I just don't have the motivation today

>I really should workout later tho…

>But now it's too late so

>Tomorrow I'll workout

Its a vicious cycle, but here's the solution:

>Don't think you need motivation, because you likely have tons of it!

Planning to workout does take motivation, so it's not motivation that you're lacking. It's discipline. What's the difference? Motivation is something you feel while discipline in something you do. Like all feelings, motivation comes and goes. Sometimes you feel it, other times you don't. Discipline, once cultivated, is constant. And this because once a person has become disciplined he won't desire to return to his past way of living. So try adopting the mindset that you need discipline and not motivation. In fact, motivation should be the reward of having discipline. How can you attain discipline? Just start. That's all you need to do. Pick one of your goals and spend 1 hour working towards it today. Repeat this with the same or another goal tomorrow. Do this until you're ready to add more to your schedule.

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Hi even though I'm one of the oldest lurker of this board I wasn't checking it out for a few years (1.5 or 2 at least)

So I want to achieve 9/10 or 10/10 male look.Even if I achieve hot bulky body, what do I need to do for my face?

I'm not photogenic, I look pretty asburger on photos compared to real life.I think I have the potential but I'm just not there, haven't reached my fullest potential.

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I don't really know if this is a topic that has been talked before, but I want to hear your thoughts /improve/

I really need to get better as a student, lot's of people, even professors tell me I'm quite clever and smart, but that I don't really read all the stuff I should or show interest, so my grades are mediocre while I could be a great student.

It's quite hard for me to show motivation about classes when I'm not actually studying what I like (I went for Public Administration, but my most loved field is Philosophy).

So, what would you recommend to be a more effective student?

I don't really have any studying tips or strategies, I just read what I need to the night before the exam and hope for the best.

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Appropriate board?

I'd like to start a journal for my progress, including methods and etc., not only for my own record but to help others - to let them see what worked for me and what didnt. Is /improve/ an appropriate board for journaling about self-improvement or should I create my own board?

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I have a morbid relation with math.

There are periods where I study it, a lot, and with the best books, courses, methods, etc (piracy helps).

Yet, I am always shitty. Slow, somewhat able to apply what I learn but never enough.

The last six years I've been quite obsessed, yet I never managed to learn more than pre-calculus.

I need math because I want a CS degree (I already work as a freelance programmer), but I think I am at my limit with real analysis. I'm also aware that math kinda destroyed my life, like if I was orbiting some girl that friendzoned me hard. I could've pursued other "girls", those who like me back, yet I've obsessed over it.

Fuck.

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Improving with Mental Illness

So /improve/, is it possible to /improve/ when you have a mental illness? Or is the illness something that needs to be treated on its own first?

I've been diagnosed with depression, anxiety, and social anxiety. I'm currently on a medication for this, but all it does is sort of tone everything down. I don't want to kill myself, just so much as disappear permanently. I still have issues handling, identifying, and understanding my emotional state. I struggle with low self-esteem, self-worth, and a sense of self. There are times where I feel like I don't know anything. I often feel lost in terms of my life, and motivation is hard to come by.

Tell me, can I /improve/, or do I need outside help first?

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Cleaning my dirty laptop

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Getting rid of dry skin

Hey /improve/, what's the best way to get rid of dry skin? For the last two years I've gotten pretty bad dry skin on my face, head, neck, and chest during the winter. I never had any problems with dry skin at all until last year. I've been putting moisturizer on it but that only seems to work for a day and then my skin is just as dry as before. I should also mention that I only take one cold shower a day.

Is there any way to get rid of the dry skin permanently, /improve/? Change in diet or something? Like I said before, I never had any problems with dry skin at all until last year. (pic unrelated)

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Obvious Shit That You Might Have Missed

Feel free to contribute ITT if you got more.

1) Move out

Can't stress this enough, if you're on this board, there's a 90% chance that your family is pretty shit.

Don't start victimizing yourself, but if you have a job or a constant stream of NEETbux it's wise to rent somewhere else. If you've got a relative that you think you'd do better living in, get with them.

2) Everything is a muscle

When you're getting /fit/, you're doing it on a constant basis, you're steadily increasing. You can't expect to dump in a shitload of effort in one go and then relax for a month. If you stop lifting, your muscles will start deflating, no matter how big you got, this is always true.

This applies to EVERYTHING in self improvement, drawing, learning kanji (you weeb), learning maths, learning any foreign language, learning programming..

Go steady with something you can handle, increase steadily (but make sure to increase), be consistent, never skip and you're going to get results in most of what you try.

3) Cold showers

Might be 100% placebo and a meme. But they seem to have helped a lot of people kickstart their routine.

When you wake up int he morning, the usual grogginess can be a bitch, a jolt of pain will give you the push needed.

Don't expect Ubermensch results.

4) Don't overdo it

Ties to the muscles stuff: don't strain yourself by going hard in the paint on everything, leave some energy for tomorrow.

5) Push the comfort zone

Don't make it into a routine. Do an extra rep, extra lap. Might sound esoterical but if you don't get the feeling that you pushed yourself, you're going to deflate.

6) Pat yourself on the back once in a while

It's totally fine to stop for a second and say "i'm awesome, I reached this milestone". In fact, if you don't do it, you're going to get depressed fast.

7) Habits beat willpower beats motivation

You rely on motivation, tomorrow your dog dies, you want to do the reps, but you feel like a sack of shit and can't muster it. You'll do tomorrow, and tomorrow your gf breaks up with you, you're even deeper in the pits, where the fuck do you get the drive to do it? As good as it is motivation is unreliable.

Willpower, the "I will to do it" instinct is great, but, as studies have shown it is finite, fighting the drive to eat an extra cookie will make it harder to force yourself to focus on a test, and vice versa (on the other hand, since everything is a muscle, the more you use it, the more you'll have later).

Habits are free, you do them unconsciously every day, when you manage to form a good habit, it's for a lifetime. The tricky part is developing them in the first place. A comfy solution is to start low: 2 push-ups per day is something even a retard can do, and when you get down on the floor, you might go for 10 or 20, but always remember to do the 2 pushups whenever you can. At some point it will become ingrained.

8) /fringe/ is your friend

Well, sort of.

Even for a complete fedora like me, there are obvious benefits to (at the very least) regular meditation.

Some will go for Kundalini Astral Tulpa Pepe Worship stuff and as long as it pushes you forward, it ought to be good.

9) Quit imageboards & co.

Might be hypocritical, since it's written here, but get Leechblock or whatever your browser's site-blocking alternative is.

Save the infopics/kawaii anime pictures (downthemall is your friend) and then block everything that's an obvious timewaster, this includes 8chan, 4chan, twitter, tumblr (lol), kikebook or whatever your poison is.

Your choice if you want to block them indefinitely or leave yourself a hour or two for sinning. When I reinstall my browser I find myself ignoring those sites automatically.

10) Never focus on your goal

Too many self-improvement focused people imagine their "ideal self", this genius aryan bodybuilder, with a six pack, six figure salary, six beautiful kids, CEO of Anon Industries etc.

While it's certainly reinvigorating that you can be at that level, at the end of the road it's going to be frustrating: you don't grow abs overnight, you work like a bitch for them, and if you suffer through working like a bitch while thinking of how happy you're going to become, you might never stop being miserable.

Contemplation Meditation helps, being just aware of the act in itself, if you can learn to love the act, rather than the goal, you've basically won at Self-Improvement for life.

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What if imageboards are what's holding us back?

You'd think that with their constant content and interaction with unique and sentient beings behind every post and randomness it's like imageboards are to our minds as what porn is to our dicks.

How does one stop this addiction?
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i need help

Recently I've been addicted to borderline CP an it's making sick how do I stop this from

(Picture not related)

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Cold showers

In my opinion cold showers have been pivotal to my self improvement thus far. Check out the link below(It explains the benefits better than I can).
Before you look at it though I should add the caveat that some of the sources for benefits are inconclusive and require further testing. For instance some use only a small group of people, while others are missing graphs and other data. Take everything with a grain of salt. With that said, with what they do have and from personal experience, it appears to be very promising, especially when it comes to self improvement.

>Add a full stop where there is a space, make sure to read this

http://collegetopia co/cold-showers-strange-addiction/

My experience with cold showers has been a good one. Before I began I used to always be depressed. I'd always manage to push it back for a while but no matter what I'd almost always relapse, each time feeling worse than before because of the feeling of the inevitability of the depression. I posted a thread on /adv/ asking for help, I got the usual responses except this time someone told me to try cold showers. I tried it but instantly changed my mind when I went into the shower, being a bit skeptical I looked it up and got a bunch of articles similar to the one I posted(Although without sources), this intrigued me so I tried again. This went on and on and until eventually it became a daily routine.

Here are some of the changes I noticed in my daily life, some occurring straight after, while others occurred weeks after regular cold showers.
>Keep in mind they could be placebo or due to something else(I doubt this but keep it in mind)

>Straight after taking a cold shower

I would feel very energised and sometimes even strangely happy.

>After weeks of consistent cold showers

I was no longer depressed
Reduced anxiety(Not 100% about this one)
I was also able to handle stressful situations better, more in control of emotional reactions
Became more productive(This could be due to anything)

>Months after

Definitely felt that I was more resilient to stress
Depression didn't relapse
Definite feeling that my anxiety was reduced


Here's a tedtalk on one of the mental benefits of cold showers
www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gb0h8ZKvJW4

DO NOT TRY THIS IF YOU HAVE HEART PROBLEMS
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how to stop being an effeminate beta loser

Ok guys, this is a board dedicated to self improvement so here I am exposing this problem.

I have a hungry skeleton physique, my personality resembles that of a girl's (like being worried with if's, I suppose this is a girl's thing), I am kissless virgin, I feel insecure all the time, my voice is weak and I stutter, I'm not comfortable with touching other people and people touching me in a friendly way. Despite all this, I'm not a faggot in the way that I'm simply not. I'm not attracted to dudes, I watch porn sometimes and it's straight porn (although I'm avoiding it now because it's not healthy and can turn into a bad addiction.) I think you get the gist.

So I have to make personality adjustments (or better said, big changes) and leave the betaness behind. I need to create a new me. How can I change myself?

You're welcome to suggest any good books that can help.

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Learning Buddies

Hi, /improve/.

Like many of us here my main problem is motivation. I've wanted to learn programming for ages now but I never manage to stick to it and have had to re-do the beginning stages of various online courses a few times now.

This time I really want to do it but I thought this task might be easier with a partner.

I'm not dead set on a specific language but I have tried and can recommend several python courses and have been told that it's a decent language for beginners.

My idea would've been to just predetermine how much work we want to do each day and use skype or some other means to discuss how we did the problems or help each other out in case someone got stuck with something.

I am a person who very much cares about what others think about him but I have little regard for myself so I need this extra pressure.

I'm 22, from germany and easy to talk to. If anyone has an idea how to go about this differently I'd also be interested.

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>determined to wake up at 7am

>go to bed at 1:45

>alarm wakes me up before I fall asleep

holy shit, was it this bad all along? How do I fix my sleep cycle?

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Quitting more than one vice at once?

Hi, /improve/. I've been reading this board for a month now and decided to make some serious changes in my habits.

First of all, i would like to thank you all, from the original posters to the fellow anons that had some time put into explaining why some of the tips posted here are bait. That sincerely helped me a lot, since we tend to believe everything when we decide to "reinvent" ourselves after hitting rock bottom.

Well, but now that i committed to it, i realized that the amount of things i want to change may be too much to face.

I decided to quit smoking as well as i started a diet and got into exercising. I am using CBT techniques, but no manual or self-help books talk about multiple problematic behaviors at once. I've been trying to reward myself with things that doesn't involve eating or smoking.

The thing is that now i'm feeling like relapsing all the time, with all of the three habits (cigarettes, binge eating and being lazy).

Did you guys face the "comorbidity" problem in your paths to change? What to do about it?

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-/improve/ Programming General

/improve/ Programming General

There's a few threads asking about it, but honestly /improve/ is very full of dead topics so going through them is a waste of time, so I thought I'd just create a general for it.

So What are we all trying to learn right now guys?

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/improve/ literature

What books helped you improve your condition the most? Which ones would you say are a must read?

I will start with hagakure, also known as the secret book of the samurai. Great advice on how to be a man from some of the baddest dudes in history.

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DISCIPLINE

How to be disciplined? It's an ability that is learned only on childhood? /r/ tips and things to do to be an disciplined person.

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>Decide to do many things like programming and drawing and an instrument

>Do them

>A bit

>For a couple days

>Wake up yesterday

>Don't want to do any of them

>Feel bad because I'm wasting my life as a NEET and I'm fucked when mummy dies if I don't have something going for me by then

>Still don't want to do any of it

>Just want to shitpost

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Hi /improve/ Biochem–fag here. I'm now able to learn quite regularly. with some breaks here and there, but I feel like it's not near enough the amount of learning I should be doing, but a big problem is that I get tired after two hours or so after intensive learning. So I began looking for ways to elongate the amount of time I can learn. I thought about changing my diet so that I can learn more shit, any ideas on how to do it?

Also, any other ideas besides diet on how to elongate the amount of time that I can learn?

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Don't know where to start

I'm 17 and I have nothing going on, no plans outside of wanting to get married and wanting children but in modern society that's an after thought, I can't write properly, I'm bored of all my hobbys, and I just don't know where to start in all of this. I feel so behind my peers mentally and physically. I just feel that I can't come back. I look at going into college but it seems that would put me into heavy debt thanks Jews cap pigs if leftypol same people whatever along side of not being able to follow the material as quickly would screw me harder.

Can anyone help me out with advice? I've been lifting for almost a year now so that's not a problem outside of not being able to go to the gym as much because of work and school.

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hey /improve/ I know this topic might have been asked in literally any of the similar boards, but I kind of want to get first hand opinions

I'm a super short guy (manlet, 1,60m/5'4) that's also very thin, and I had enough of looking like a teenager and feeling weak in comparison to others, also I think that before I die I need to see how good/aesthetic/beautiful (whatever you wanna call it) my body can be, so I decided that doing exercise (lifting) is the healthiest and more rewarding option.

However, I still live with my mom and sister, and I'm on Uni, so I don't really have that much money laying around to buy a perfect diet, supplements and weights. I only have 1 dumb bell with enough weight to last me for 1 or 2 months until it feels light enough, which can give me enough time to get some more.

I want to know what would a decent routine be, but more than everything, I want to know what are cheap ways to get protein (I know about eggs, but that's about it), considering that I will have to pay for that myself since we don't have enough money to live through the month + pay for my diet.

Needless to say, I'm quite ignorant about this, so feel free to send me to another board if this has been asked way too many times.

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himitsu-hikkikomori

i have a day job, it pays nice, people there like me…

but if you look at the rest of my life, outside working hours, i am effectively a full hikki

am i alone in this / what do

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How about a style infographic thread? Good dress can really help your social gains, after all.

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Ok went back to school to get my high school diploma. Math, reading, and foreign languages I'm way ahead of, but i have no fucking idea how to write essays. I'm sitting on 2 essays that i haven't written yet and i have no idea how to write them. I'm an introvert and I've never been good at conveying my thoughts when i talk to the few friends i have.

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What does /improve/ think about college as a career plan? Is it still worth it (assuming you major in something with a decent job outlook)? Or do you think the whole thing is a waste of time/money and we shouldn't even bother with it. What is your opinion?

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Free Online Course about Public Speaking

Stop being an autist. Its not cool.

https://www.coursera.org/learn/public-speaking/

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Day Dreaming

what's your opinion on it? by daydreaming i mean that thing i do and i think most people do to a degree, which is basically imagine a situation in your head, usually a fantasy of yours. for example, you may imagine yourself in the LotR world a Aragorn's sidekick, battling monsters and getting the girl and whatever.

it got to a point where it was very destructive for me in real life, i would fantasize maybe 3 hours a day every chance i got (in class, at the bus and bus stop, walking down the street, 1 hour in bed before and after sleep, and whenever else i could), but i think even in moderate amounts it only distances you from reality and keeps you from facing the challenges you need to face.

sorry for the rant

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Book Thread

What books does /improve/ read? How many per year (roughly), what topics, and why?

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Job Hunting

So I applied to a bunch of places online and have yet to hear from anyone. I've read elsewhere that it is a good idea to follow up, either by phone call or by physically meeting with them, and was planning on stopping by a few places tomorrow.

My question is what exactly should I say? do I ask to speak with a manager or ask for someone who's in charge of hiring or something else?

What do I tell him/her? "Hi, I'm Anon, I submitted an online application the other day, hire me please."

Any advice would be appreciated, I know that first impressions are very important I don't want to fuck this up as I really need a job.

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I'm 19 and I still have fucking acne, how do I get rid of this shit?

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Why is it that I can waste an entire fucking day on the most trivial pointless activity (playing video games, browsing imageboards) but cannot devote even 30 minutes to studying or working on my hobbies or just being productive in any way?

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#triggered

>loser

>move out of (shitty) family, go live with grandma in another country over

>start doing actually fine

>get a daily routine

>self-improving

>family sniffs money, due to various circumstances force me to live with them

>keep on with routine…..sorta

>decide that no matter how shitty it is living with them (and by god are they abusive), I'll still work hard because willpower, strength, guts and manliness brah

>keep lifting

>keep meditating

>keep studying kanji (yeah, weeb, but I saw results and it was nice)

>fast forward a 10 months

every time I try to lift, meditate, study kanji, or even listen to music that reminds me of "back then", a strong emptiness overtakes me. And no matter how much I try to "just do it", I still end up going full depression mode.

Not just "neneneh I don't wanna, brb masturbating", it's just enormously empty, and arid, back then it felt like I was swallowing dust. At times couldn't even get out of bed. Now I get by with just memories that crush my soul.

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No Interests

After months of introspection, it has dawned on me that I'm not particularly interested in anything. From having no hobbies that interest me to not being interested in 99% of media. I'm generally curious as to how people have some innate knack for something and devote their life around it while I get bored to tears or just don't like it.

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the SCAM of self improvement

Do not fall for the scam guys. Yes, sorry to break it to you, but self improvement is 100% a scam. I myself was caught up in it for years and years, it is like an endless tunnel, or rabbit hole, that leads nowhere. You just do the same thing over and over and that's it, it's essentially mental masturbation, but convincing yourself that you're doing something. In essence a waste of time. There are so many other, better things you could be doing, rather than this crap. Again, do not fall for this faggots, you know you're better than this. Thanks.

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/improve/ psych profile

post scores, then fucking IMPROVE THEM!

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How do I make friends?

I havn't had friends since highschool and I'm just starting my 3rd year of college now, so how do I meet people?

I am thinking about joining a club but I'm so afraid, I hardly know how to talk to people.

How can I improve my social skills?

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THINGS THAT ACTUALLY WORK.

Can we have a thread where we actually focus on things that work and create a tight-knit community? I'm sick of seeing "woo-woo" with topics that have been beaten absolutely to death like NoFap and Cold Showers. I'm also not fond of impractical techniques like Polyphasic sleep, and trying to grow taller by stretching or whatever. I believe that the chips have fallen where they have and we need to accept our shortcomings and take control of things that our possible.

I want to talk about techniques that have tangible effects like

>Intermittent Fasting & Caloric Restriction

>Quitting the Internet and Reclaiming your life

>Learning how to socialize (With absolutely no PUA and Red-Pill philosophy, I am a normal guy and I know many of people/friends stupider than me can get pussy without loading their head with RSD bullshit)

>Principles like the Pareto Principle (80/20 Rule) and Rapid Skill Acquisition

>Meditation and experimentation with Psychedelic substances

It would be cool if we could make this board larger and possibly create an community that actually gets results and improves. But that would be hard if we don't focus on things that ACTUALLY WORK. I think this board has potential and to waste it would be at a loss to everyone. If anyone could point me to a community that does have people that get results point me there please.

Hear my plea and lets have a discussion.

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I want to go back

To being a NEET. I did what everyone told me to do - I self improved, I studied, I got a job, I even got promoted to management.

At first it was new and exciting, but now I just feel dead inside. It's winter here in New Zealand where I live. I work in an office without a window and barely even remember what sunlight looks like.

I still waste all my spare time watching anime and playing mindless games, the only difference is now I'm also an alcoholic and weed addict, with all the money I'm earning going towards this.

I would quit my job but I don't know how I would handle life without the money to fund my addictions.

The weeks go by in what feels like minutes. I feel more trapped than ever, just passing time until I die.

How do I go back?

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So I've been /improve/ing for a few months now, I'm starting to make progress but I'm stuck right now.

Pretty much all my free time is spent sitting down at the computer. It's not what you think- I'm not just watching anime or playing video games or shit like that, I do my schoolwork, learn languages (ahora estoy aprendiendo español, despues quiero aprender chino. además quiero aprender esperanto en algún momento) and practice guitar.

I need my computer for all these things but at the same time I want to cut back on the amount of time I spend sitting down on my computer. I know sitting down and staring at a screen all day is not good for your health so what are some activities I can do that don't involve sitting at a computer?

>inb4 work out

I do.

>inb4 go for walks

I live in south florida its so fucking hot I can only go for walks during the winter.

Any input would be helpful.

Also if anyone wants to help me with spanish I can help you with english. Si alguien quiere ayudarme con español puedo ayudarte con inglés

>Sitting down for extended periods of time is harmful

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2622916/Work-desk-Then-experts-worrying-news-Why-sitting-bad-smoking.html

http://www.nbcnews.com/health/cancer/heres-just-how-bad-sitting-around-you-n132471

https://www.washingtonpost.com/apps/g/page/national/the-health-hazards-of-sitting/750/

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Banter

This is my biggest problem. Being able to banter and playfully tease people is essential, both for flirting with girls, and for getting along in male-dominated professions.

You have to be able to say something on the spot, unrehearsed. Find something to make fun of about other people, or make humorous observations.

I have a mental block with this. It's hard to not get wrapped up in my own head and overthink what I'm saying. If I can't think of something factual and direct to say, that can't be misconstrued or made fun of, I usually keep silent. My construction-bro coworkers seem to like me, but they tell me they're disappointed that I just 'take it' and don't fire back at them when they mess with me.

Same thing with girls. I'm fit and blessed with good looks, I get mired, but I disappoint them by being boring and stiff like a breadstick.

Problem is, I feel at odds with the culture around me. I appear to be very normie, but I have no interest in most popular culture or sports. I've dabbled in extremist politics on both ends of the spectrum. I've been posting on imageboards since 2007, and it seems the things I find hilarious other people would find sick and disgusting. Everything I like seems obscure and unrelateable to others. The everyday banter of people I occur IRL seems mundane and dumb compared to shitposting on /fit/ or /pol/.

I feel torn inside, internally conflicted. I feel like I'm being a hipster while also hating hipsters. I want to be closer to other people, but I also want distance and to push others away. I like being edgy and misanthropic, but I also wish I could feel tender feels for another person.

Any suggestions?

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Sup /improve/ I was hoping you could help me with something. What do you live for everyday? What makes you happy to wake up in the morning and start a new day? What do you identify with and what gives you purpose in life?

I made the following theory and I hope you could criticize it.

I think men need the following spiritual things to be content:

>a) A tribe - a community of bros that you represent who always have your back.

>b) A sense of identity - someone that you are proud to be, who are you? Are you Anon the bodybuilder? Anon the Nationalist? Anon the Christian?

>c) A path or a purpose - something to strive for in life: Wanting to become a doctor or a famous guitarist or a professional athlete.

>d) A resolution - you need to know clearly where you stand and what you fight for.

Why do those things make you happy? Because they make you feel like a man and men are only happy when they feel like men, women are also attracted to men who are manly in that sense.

There are obviously many more things out there that you need to not be depressed but these are just the ones that I have identified in my case and unfortunately I have none of those things, yet. I think this is also the reason why many people join the army because it solves so many problems: you become part of a tribe, you identify as a soldier, you have a duty to your country and your people. I am even considering joining the military myself.

A lot of guys believe the illusion that having a girl will make them happy and all their problems will be magically solved, these guys subconsciously have their cause and effect the other way round because girls are attracted to guys who already have their problems solved. Now of course, chicks can make you happy too, but they are only the icing on the cake, you need a solid foundation first and not rely on women because they don't last forever.

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Beta parents?

>Dad started balding at 20, I'm scared shitless at the slightest sign of recession

>constantly being pushed around by my mom

>constantly whining and throwing temper tantrums

>walks around in public with slouched shoulders and head down

>Everytime we're out together and he sees a girl in my age group he nudges me and head nods to them but doesn't give any advice on how to talk to them.

>Mother

>constantly screaming and bitching at me from an early age

>Got bullied in 3rd & 4th grade, she'd always say shit like, "Well, they have point," or, "just ignore them and they'll go away"

>Tried to mold me into being as low-test as possible because she low key hates men.

Goddammit I'm sick of this shit. Any way to avoid being another beta numale in am upbringing as shitty as this? I already find myself getting all whiny and stressing out over small shit like not being able to find the sugar jar for my tea this morning.

I finding alpha role models, but the closest I have is my maternal grandfather. He's a charismatic baby-boomer but the catch is that he lives in my Aunt's house, has drug problems, and lives half-way across the country.

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How to effectively form habits?

so I'm not very good at art but I wanna be better

so I decided to spend a hour drawing every day at the same time to get more practice and artwork done

stopped after only two days or so

how does one create, and keep to a good habit?

how do I properly go about forcing myself to do things?

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random improvement tipz

Share random tips that have helped you, preferably personal or obscure.

Every night before sleep, I make a 10-30 minute voice recording where I describe my day and everything that happened. The more minute details I remember, the better. Also I verbalize the way my life is going, and whether I am achieving my goals.

I find this helps with attention and memory - too often I'm walking around like a zombie, and the whole day, or even the whole week, passes by like a blur. Now I can remember individual days and what happened in them, who I talked with, what I ate, etc.

It also gives me some accountability - since I have to do it every day, I'd feel really stupid saying, "so I came home today, wanted to do X, but I went on 8chan and started masturbating…"

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Tips for a better, more /improve/ life

I have a whole bunch of tips that can be used to improve one's day to day activities, but they don't really fit into any other thread so I will just post it here.

Feel free to add in your own!

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Things to listen to for self improvement

I recently got a job where I'm allowed to listen to music and such through headphones while I work.

What are some ways I can use this more constructively than listening to music?

My current ideas are

>intellectually stimulating podcasts

>language learning recordings

>lectures

>TED talks

>audiobooks

Anyone have any specific recommendations for any of the above or ideas beside them?

Use this thread to discuss self improvement podcasts, audiobooks, lectures, etc.

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I have discovered my main flaws that are inhibiting me in life is impatience and risks. For example;

I don't read guides or books as they are to long to read and might not help. It is also too risky as I might dislike the book/not find it useful halfway through and have wasted my time reading it that far, which I have done many times before.

I hate the concept of starting small or at the bottom of a barrel and that is most likely inhibiting my search for a successful career. And I don't want to risk disliking the career after I have started it, especially after building my way up form the bottom.

I hate learning new things as without seeing strong visible improvements I think it is a waste of time.

I want to move out so bad that I will probably settle for second best rather then waiting longer and developing a larger deposit for a better home.

I'll end all small talk and conversations as fast as possible because the risk of the person being someone I don't like is too high.

I feel I never have the time to do try anything new and should always stick with what I know I enjoy and is safe.

So how do I become patient and willing to take risks? Like I don't feel like it is easy to do. It isn't exactly something I desperately long for so it seems hard to work towards. Some things that I am deeply passionate about I do have a bit of patience, but I can't exactly feel that way about everything in life.

At the same time it feels like something I don't really care about that much either, I mean I am not that bothered by all the things I say I do above, but I guess it'd be sort of nice to fix.

So what do you think I should do? Bear in mind I am very impatience and might not take into considerations suggestions that are to risky or require patience.

Lol it seems the only cure for impatience requires patience.

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Keystone Habit

What is the one activity, action, behavior etc. that is critical to your improvement? What is your keystone, /improve/? And how could we all learn to utilize whatever it is that you find most important?

For me it is a schedule. Not a rigid schedule, mind you, but if I am left to my own devices I hardly get anything done without outside intervention, but if I plan my day even a little bit, it helps wonderfully.

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How to be an confident person?

All my life i've never had a single moment that i felt good with myself and capable of doing anything that i wanted.

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guys how do I build self esteem?

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How to Motivation

Hi /improve/

I seem to have a problem. I can't seem to get myself to do things I don't want to. Things like work for example.

When ever I am faced with a task of doing something I don't want too, I do a minimal no effort attempt. I attempted to exercise once for a particular job requirement, but as I didn't really want the job, I couldn't push myself harder and go beyond my limits, so the exercise was pointless. I don't have a license because I don't want to drive any where in particular and feel it is a waste of time.

I have been a neet a while and need a first job. but I am petrified of the idea of working almost all day 5+ days a week. How do people do this? How do they just throw away that much of their lives yet put so much effort into their jobs? I don't really have a passion that can make profit or be applied as a skill so any job I get I won't enjoy. I can't see myself working hard in a job I don't want. I don't really want a job, I want the money so I can survive.

I am just curious to know what you do when faced with a task you don't want to do. How do sort of get that willpower to do these things at my highest standard instead of just half assing everything. I want the end result of things, but not the process of doing them. Like I know I NEED a job, but I just can't get myself to work hard for one when I only care for the money. Am I just lazy?

What do I do?

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Hey /improve/!

I've recently discovered a passion for cooking! Does anyone here know how to cook? Know any tasty recipes?

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What's the point of trying self-improvement when everything is hopelessly fucked?

Isn't the only decent thing to do is to sit around, do nothing, be depressed, and hate yourself?

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Anyone else cant even into fashion here?

I'm in my second year of college and still wearing clothes from my freshman year of highschool. Most of them don't fit very well and they are all just plain solid color T shirts thats it.

I've been trying to improve my wardrobe but I realized that I don't understand fashion at all and I have no clue what to get, also I don't have a lot of money to spend on clothes, so I've come up with a plan, please tell me if this is retarded or not

Would it be weird if just bought a cool looking jacket and just wore that everyday with a pair of jeans instead of what I'm doing now?

My reason for this is:

1) it would probably be cheaper to buy one nice jacket rather than an assortment of other clothes

2) I won't have to stress about what to wear each day, I just put on my jacket and go

In terms of what jacket to get I was thinking along the lines of something like one of these:

http://www.amazon.com/King-Ma-Leather-Motorcycle-Outerwear/dp/B014NEMAKG/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1445266657&sr=8-1&keywords=punk+jacket+men

http://www.amazon.com/Froomer-Leather-Jacket-Motorcycle-Collar/dp/B00Q8I70H4/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1445266657&sr=8-6&keywords=punk+jacket+men

http://www.amazon.com/TH000-Classic-Leather-Hooded-Jackets/dp/B00JL9OJBM/ref=sr_1_10?ie=UTF8&qid=1445266657&sr=8-10&keywords=punk+jacket+men

http://www.amazon.com/Egelbel-Casual-Motorcycle-Leather-Detachable/dp/B00XJHTF3Y/ref=sr_1_11?ie=UTF8&qid=1445266657&sr=8-11&keywords=punk+jacket+men

http://www.amazon.com/Dreamall-Zipper-Adjustable-Leather-Jacket/dp/B013UFG7JY/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1445266657&sr=8-8&keywords=punk+jacket+men

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Spinach-God tier food

Reminder to consume copious amounts of spinach. Especially if you have acne.

I aim to eat a good portion every day, i'm not sure if the internet is correct but i've definitely noticed a massive difference in health, both physical and mental.

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Post your reading list(what you will be reading)

I often than not see a book I like and then I switch to a new book. The old book reading thread seems to be dead. I will post the next 5 books I plan to read so that I can always check back here if I forget and to create some accountability for myself. I will post the next 5 books I plan to read

1. Bargaining for Advantage(currently reading) ==This is a book that lays out a framework for negotiations and has some psychology. It is great==

2. Winning through intimidating. ==Also a negotiations book. I am concerned that this one won't be nearly as good and be somewhat meme-tier==

3. The Art of Woo. ==This is from the same author as book 1 so I am excited to see how this is. It is about selling ideas==

4. Networking is not working. ==This will be a book to really network well(hopefully)==

5. The House of Morgan. ==Book about great banker J.P. Morgan. I read some quotes about him and am very excited to see it, he seemed to be a smart /improve/ man. It will be my treat after multiple dry reads.==

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So i'm depressed, full of self hatred and anger, often think of violent and sadistic thoughts if not thoughts of suicide, spend most of my time just sitting around doing nothing after work, don't do anything creative or really productive while thinking I should someday, have strenous relations with my friends, distrust women enough to avoid getting in a relationship, really only focus on the negative aspects of myself, and am generally a fucking mess.

Only way of effectively improving myself is by suicide. What would you recommend that's quick, easy, and relatively clean?

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ITT we mention who we are and our goals

I'm 19 years old. I used to be very naive and shy, but I understand society and women so much better.

I used to look 4/10 due to bad harstyle and glasses but now I've better hairstyle and I switched to contacts. Even I suprised I was naturally 7.5/10 handsome guy.

In my loser day I had 2 best friends (now 3)
they are alpha but they get cheated on when they lower their guard against girls.T took a lesson from it.

I'm stil pleased they backed meup in highschool but we're living on different citiest since we start to university.

Right now I'm trying to be like them. They have always people to talk about irl, but I don't have unlike them.

Trying to /improve/ myself socially and trying have /fit/ body.

I'm turkish kebab and I wish I live n Euro countries, people in there act more nicely imo.

So /imp/s what's your story?
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/am/ine

>>>/am/ here.
What's your favorite anime to watch while you improve yourself, /improve/?
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Is bates method true?

Also vision improvement.

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Practicing tones?

I have an issue with speaking and identifying tones well. I used to think I could identify them fine and navigate them fine, but after recently starting to learn Chinese that has thought has vanished. I now understand that I have a clear problem with both changing and identifying tones proficiently without feeling weird. I know smiling is a method to try to have a more upbeat tone but it will take more practice. Do you know of any guides/methods to help with this?

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>this is it, once I'm done with this I can relax for awhile and coast

>well, in the meantime maybe I can start on that…

>once i'm done with this THEN i'll be set

what sucks about being goal oriented is that it seems nothing can satisfy you. once you're done, you're on to the next thing.

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I finally have a job now.

So how do I make friends?

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Learning C++

Hello lads, for my improvement I am going to be learning C++, but I provide the book for you guys to use if you want to learn with me. There won't have to be any meetups but I think it's a good idea.

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Small talk/mingling?

Do you all have any guides/suggestions for improving my ability to conduct small talk? I have a very difficult time with it.

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Camp Nanowrimo

Are you participating in Camp Nanowrimo? It seems like a good way to get that extra motivation to work on your writing.

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NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS

2015 is almost here. How will you improve for the new year? What habits will you sacrifice? What habits will you adopt? What's the best new year's resolution to make?
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How hard are you working?

Ok /improve/,answer honestly. How much time per day are you actually putting into working on your goals? Do you need to step up your game?

>working at your job counts or anything that makes you money

>same with college + time spent doing homework

>things like gym visits, reading, or miscellaneous self-improvement shit counts too

I have a full-time job + I spend about 30 minutes at the gym assuming I get up early enough. So that makes about 8-9 hours + commute time on the weekdays. I will also be doing a summer college class soon so it will be literally the whole day spent working on my goals pretty soon. 11-13 hours per day.

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My ultimate personal challenge

I'm going to do it! 2 weeks with no computer!
Starting now
wish me luck
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How to express

I don't know how to talk to people. I just cant even express myself now. I dont know wheater its good or bad to have a girlfriend. I dont know…

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don't get boners

So I've got erectile dysfunction pretty mmuch. I've been an alcoholic for the last 8 years but I quit. I've smoked for the past 13 years buy I quit. I'm excersizing and I stretch. I need help. I'm sure other anons need help in increasing libido as well.

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When and when not to be passive

What are some good guidelines to help me figure out when it's a good time to try to stand up for myself, and when it's a good time to just turn the other cheek?

Things are getting really hectic at my job in terms of me being walked on. I won't go into specifics but it involves other co-workers hypocritically blaming me for things that they too are guilty of, and it's getting to a point where I'm being publicly shamed via the company email network (to superiors who are multiple levels above me) on a semi-regular basis. At this point I've done nothing in response, I haven't replied to any emails and have just gone about my regular work day. I don't know whether or not to respond because I don't want to jeopardize my job. If this blows out of proportion I may end up losing my job or being written up.

Above all, I'm interested in learning on how to detect certain cues that determine whether or not I should be passive about a situation. I've been very passive about things my entire life, so I have more than enough examples/justifications/rationalizations of how being passive has helped me. I don't want to be passive about everything though, I think that may lead me to a snapping point resulting in terrible consequences. Please help me /improve/

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How long should I breathe in/out during meditation? Can someone teach me how to properly meditate?

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Sorry to barge in on /improve/ like this.

Suppose I can start a screencap thread of things like pic related

I'm specifically looking for one screencap of a thread of one fella who tells his story of transformation. For personal reasons.

here's TL;DR if you can find it:

>Was a fat loser until senior year

>justified not taking any action, had high self-esteem based off nothing but delusion (he says)

>asks out a 4/10 gets turned down and called lots of nasty things, goes home and cries.

>stops crying and vows to make himself into someone he can respect

>does

>Alpha as fuck, don't care if women reject him, grades shot up and still /improve/ -ing to this day.

>ends with the exact words "no time like the present."

>motivational af

Please upload if you can, or add something similar that others may not have seen before

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Self-Consciousness is a pain in the arse

Anyone else have a problem with being overly self-conscious in social situations? It seems short of being drunk, I can't act normal or relaxed around most people apart from my best friends. A large amount of the time I'll constantly monitor and analyse my actions, speech and body language rather than just acting naturally. I wouldn't say it's anxiety, just over analysis of my behaviour.
>"Shit my voice is too monotonous" etc.
This is worst when talking to girls.

Anyone got any pointers for this?How do I just tell that voice in my brain to fuck off? I find cold showers and a good sleeping pattern are helping but it's still fucking annoying and hindering my uni life from reaching it's full potential.

Cheers m80s
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Mentat General - It is by will alone I set my mind in motion.

>As was suggested in >>5247 which was an offshoot of >>4113

This thread is for discussion pertaining to self improvement goals along the Path of the Mentat. As state in the other threads, a mentat is a human computer capable of great feats of memory, analytics, mathematics and logic.

This thread is to be the main location of the discussion of things relevant to mentat training, >>>/mentat/ should be used as a repository for resources, notable posts, personal progress logs/blogs, etc.

How is everyone's training progressing?

Join on on Rizon at #mentat

Resources (from >>/mentat/ )

>Mentat Wiki

>http://www.ludism.org/mentat/HomePage

Stage one: Healthy body, healthy mind

Exercise: http://ss.fitness (thanks /fit/)

Couch-to-5k, https://archive.is/D0Qxr

Workout Routine: https://archive.is/fqa8M

Diet: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/11/10/healthy-eating/

Sleep: http://www.apk4market.com/apps/health-fitness/sleep-cycle-alarm-clock-v1-3-696-apk/

Meditation: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2011/09/07/a-primer-on-meditation/

Stage two: Brain Training

Language Learning

>Memrise http://www.memrise.com/home/

>Duolingo https://en.duolingo.com

Math

>www.khanacademy.org

>http://tutorial.math.lamar.edu

>http://mathforum.org/k12/mathtips/beatcalc.html

Speed Reading

>http://readfa.st/read

Studying/Knowledge expansion

>https://www.coursera.org

>www.edx.org

Spaced Repetition Software (memory training)

>http://ankisrs.net

Stage three: Cognitive training+enhancement

Nootropics

>https://www.reddit.com/r/nootropics/wiki/beginners

>http://www.ludism.org/mentat/NootropicsPrimer

Dual N-back

>http://brainscale.net

Progress tracking

>http://www.cambridgebrainsciences.com

>http://www.quantified-mind.com

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Personality type

What is your personality type, /improve/?

http://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

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Dealing with math

I'm pretty good at all of my subjects at school except for math. I've read about the secrets of math and ways of making the thought process better but I'm not sure what's the concrete and best way of doing so. Studying more and a tutor would help but I feel that there is a more long term solution to this problem. Any ideas?

For more clarification I'm learning Geometry right now.

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Anyone trying to work on their body language?

Your body language reflects externally on how you feel on the inside, most notably your level of confidence. So if you look awkward, you might need more confidence. But that kind of inside-out approach is tough, because getting more confident is really elusive. Therefore I think an outside-in approach makes sense, i.e. faking it 'till you make it.

Most obvious part is posture. Training your chest, back and core to better support and allow you to naturally gravitate towards a rigid posture, which makes you appear more manly and confident.

Next you'll probably want to consciously prevent yourself from any bad habits you might have. Things like looking down on the floor, crossing your arms over your body, keeping your hands in your pockets, or darting your eyes around to avoid eye contact. They're all hard, particularly the last one, since you're trying to override an old habit, but if you force yourself consistently, you'll eventually create a new habit.

The last aspect I can think of is really elusive and I'm struggling to figure out what to do with it. I feel that in a lot of things I do, there's kind of subtle self-restrained awkwardness. It's like… if you watch someone dance and they're crap at it, you can notice not only that they're crap, but that they're instinctively holding themselves back because they know they're crap and don't want to embarrass themselves further. Just that this extends to everything I do while communicating with others. Or if you compare the body language of a Finn and an Italian. The Italian stereotypically appears more open and expressive. I want to become more like that, but I have no idea how you "learn" Italian body language outside of growing up in Italy.
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Have you ever wondered why so many people have vision problems? When you look at how many people are essentially blind without prescription glasses, it makes you think that something is very amiss with our environment. There's no way that humans in ancient times could survive with the crappy vision that they now have.This got me worried when I was thinking about it in conjunction with doomsday predictions, so I looked it up.

The scientific consensus seems to be that nearsightedness is caused by too much close work, in other words reading and computer screen use. Another suspected cause was lack of outdoor play.

So hopefully this may provide you guys some impetus to get outside and do physical activity. Bad vision is a very noticeable negative effect of sedentary lifestyle, at least if you wear glasses. So it can serve as a constant reminder of the need for physical activity.

Do you guys feel greatly less depressed when you have run or ridden a bike outside? When I do something like that my body just seems to get 50% better. I even seem to get stronger erections. It only lasts a day though. You have to do it continually.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwLf1BiSiqI

Hey guys, does brainwashing work? I'm thinking of using this + Gorilla Mindset, I feel my productivity has slightly improved, more over my mindset towards problems has become a lot more positive. What do you guys think?

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Loving yourself

What do people mean when they say "You have to love yourself"?

As in:

>me: tfw no gf

>them: you have to love yourself first m8

…or something along those lines.

How does one possibly love himself? I don't hate myself, much, I am quite confident with myself most of the time. I don't get this piece of advice, is it the same shit as "hurr just b urself"?

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>try to be productive writing essay/schoolwork

>finish a few words

>get bored and browse chans/fb/youtube/etc…

>4 hours later

>nothing gets done

How do you actually focus and be productive on shit that is boring? How do you not get distracted? It's almost like my brain has some kind of workphobia or something.

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Growing up

I think many anons who lurk chans could learn from this, so I hope experienced people out there contribute.

How does one go about growing up after due time? It seems to be a natural process to most people. Getting a girlfriend, a job, having sex, doing adult stuff in general. It comes a time when the fruit matures and it just falls down from the tree, naturally.

However, I haven't done that. My profile is undoubtedly similar to many anons. I'm 23, kissless virgin, have never had a job and still struggling with school (at least I don't have to pay for it, it's a public university where I live), only learned to drive last year.

Having decided to do it, how does one go about actually doing it? I have missed the right time and now I am clueless.

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Shoulder Width

Howdy /improve/.

I'm 5'8 and want to improve my shoulder width. Naturally (as in, having done very little targeted exercise) I'm at 17.5 inches.

What are some good exercises for increasing shoulder length and how much of a potential increase could I get?

I have no expectations, any kind of improvement is a-okay by me.

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Tomorrow I'll finally do it xD

Here's a major improvement pitfall that everyone falls into: It's the promise that you'll do task x tomorrow or any future date that isn't today.

The sad thing is that when you say it, you probably believe it, it seems so likely that this is it, that tomorrow is truly the day it all changes. That all your problems, all your pain, all your discomfort, ends tomorrow, because tomorrow you will finally do what is necessary. As you're saying this you're getting feelgood chemicals, because now you're imagining the success you will achieve. The success that will make the last decade of pain worth it, because it all lead up to this magic moment where you gained the strength to become great.

You then wake up next morning with no energy and your mind telling you to shut that alarm clock the fuck off and go back to sleep. The seconds and minutes of the day blend together and you're in the exact same position as yesterday, thinking of how great tomorrow is, that tomorrow is a new beginning and that it'll all change tomorrow.

The truth is that no matter how many times you do this, it is unlikely to ever happen. When we imagine the future, we imagine ideal circumstances, we do not take into account the challenges of today. If you're prone to leaving things off for tomorrow, the future image of yourself that you regularly imagine is more likely to be a work of complete fiction than something that you will be anytime soon. If you want a decent indicator of what you will be able to do tomorrow, take a look at what you did today.

If you reflected on your day and realized: "I didn't do anything today, if today is an indicator for what I will do tomorrow, am I doomed to failure?"

No, if you do something about it TODAY, you've just laid down one brick out of many that will eventually build a nice house.

How will you manage to do something right now when you've struggled to get anything done for the entire day?

I will use meditation as an example. Say for example you want to start meditating an hour a day. Starting on 1 hour is probably not going to happen and if it does, it will probably end as fast as it started, simply because it beginning at that big number probably relied on motivation and motivation runs out. Instead start on a number that you know you can do RIGHT NOW. It doesn't matter how low the number goes, as long as you get something done. 3 minutes today is 5 minutes tomorrow. 5 minutes tomorrow is 10 minutes in a week. 10 minutes in a week is 1 hour in a few months.

So choose a number of minutes that you know you can do right now. And then do it. And after you're done doing it, give yourself a mental pat on the back.

If you struggle to get started on even that tiny amount of minutes that you said you'll do, then trick your mind into doing it. For instance, make your perception of the task much more approachable by tackling one aspect of it first. How will you do this?

Trick your mind, "I will get into the meditation position and that's it". The point of this is that you lowered your perception of the task making it much more approachable. You said that you'll only go into the meditation position and that's it, so your mind didn't account for the x amount of minutes you also have to do. However once you go into the meditation position you've already got the ball rolling and you can get your x amount of minutes that you said you'll get done, done.

Rome wasn't built in a day. It took months upon months of construction to achieve the final result. Don't leave things off for tomorrow, time flies faster and faster the older you get, until that task you told yourself half a decade you'll do, has still not even been started yet. Instead do something today, even if it's a tiny amount and slowly build it up.

Watch the video for a more effective approach to the "starting small, gradually increasing" approach to your tasks.

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meditate

Not in video:

20 minutes to undo time's damage

anything more to improve

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Why some of us lack social skills

So, I don't think I'm retarded but a lot of times I ask/answer/do retarded things. I think I have some thought on why sometimes I'm socially retarded. When exploring the reasons why you have poor social skills

1. You're just slow and like to take it easy

When some people get impressions and it takes you some more time to 'get' what's going on and what would be an appropriate response. Ofc most of the time you're just quiet and try to find something to say but can't.

2. You didn't socialize for a period of time

Sometimes you forgot how to interact with people lot's of time this can be because of bullying or because other reasons where you get ignored by the majority of people. You also lose how to distinguish talk towards friends, family members, acquaintances, etc.. The extremest case like this is Christopher Knight, a man who lived +- 25 years in the woods. He used to read a lot of books while in the woods and talks like people do in books. The same applies to some guy who played WoW/runescape for years and most of his socialization came from here.

3. You frequent a lot of online forums

The same as with games, if a big part of your social skills come from forums. Forums may resemble most of the time to real life social skills, but they aren't. One big part is that most people don't really form any relationship with any of the users. So any retardation you say, has no big implications in your actual life and is quickly forgotten (when I used to frequent reddit there was a joke that a real life week equals an internet year). In real life you cannot have many retarded moments or people will shun you and you'll live more and more solitary.

I like to believe I'm a combination of all I have listed here, if you know any other reason what might cause low social skills please tell me.

Part 2 will cover my ideas how to 'force' my self to be more socially and thus improve my social skills.

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NoFap General

Been more than one week since I last ejaculated. My balls literally feel like they're full (but not uncomfortably so) and there's a tingly feeling in my pelvis, perhaps around where the prostate should be. At this point I feel I can keep this up with little effort.

Have I finally slain the beast? Will it get better or worse? Tips on how to avoid getting back in the routine?

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meditate

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there is any good android game for mental training?

>mental training thread

>pic unrelated

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deriving pleasure from challenge, learning, practice

I've often held the idea of practicing a certain skill or craft to be pleasurable and a pure activity. The refinement of motor skills and improvement that is in theory on a curve. More time you put in, the better you are. The more rewarding and meaningful the thing becomes. Dedication to an art to be the highest form of hedonism.

Yet from my experience, such a state is impossible to achieve. It's constantly met with thoughts of the ego which results in demotivation. Here I feel as though I'm making a repetitive fatal flaw. Overthinking things which naturally devolve into misery. To the point where it's crippling. "If you can't do this at least x times every day, may as well not do it at all". I can't tap into that playful, in the moment, intuitive mindset.

I've been dabbling in competitive gaming for the past few years during my NEETdom. Mostly dota 2 and now CS:GO. I've never been able to achieve anything beyond pathetic mediocrity. People who I deem aren't thinking much about the experience at all achieve better results, find longer lasting motivation etc.

It's one thing to know consciously about how something is supposed to feel, but actually feeling it…

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Video games - Life plan - How fucked am I?

Tell me what you think of my plan /improve/, I'm in serious need of some constructive criticism, please tell me what I could do to improve this plan.

Phase 1:

Instead of going to college, I want to save up enough money at whatever shitty job I am working at.

>This phase ends when I have enough money to be a NEET for at least 6 months.

Phase 2:

Why be a NEET for 6 months? Because I will spend the time to full-time improving my art and drawing skills and building a portfolio.

>This phase ends when I am satisfied with myself as an artist.

These first two phases are just something I actually want to do for fun and what I always wanted to do but couldn't because of work. These next phases are when things get serious.

Phase 3:

During or at the end of those 6 months I will look for a full-time, stable job as an artist or graphics designer for some company. I will also be doing art gigs here and there which will be a source of extra cash.

If that doesn't work then I will be doing whatever shitty job I can find that can allow me to save up enough money.

>This phase ends when I save up enough money for phase 4

Phase 4:

What am I saving cash again for? I need enough to be able to hire a programmer and maybe a few other team members and pay them salaries for 6 months or whatever amount of time is necessary so that they could work with me to produce a small video game or two.

>This phase ends when the video games we made are profitable enough to at least pay my bills and the salaries of my employees, if they aren't then I go back to phase 3 until I save up enough cash to try phase 4 again.

==Phase 5:

Continue making video games. Hire more guys. Expand game studio. Make cooler games. Live the dream…

So that's it. Am I insane or what? I know it will take a while to do this, but I am willing to give it a go. My family wants me to be a doctor or a lawyer or something, I can imagine I will be utterly depressed if I work at jobs like that so I can't do it. I always wanted to make video games and I came up with a plan like this to start. I also understand that there are a lot of shitty indie developers out there making shitty indie games, well… maybe we will be an indie company for a while but I certainly will not be making shitty, generic, indie flash games, no thanks.

So please tell me what you think, sorry if the post is too long.

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How to stop worrying

Hello, kind anons. I have a question for the more anxious of you out there.

How can one stop worrying at every step? No matter how much I try to rationalize things, I just end up over-thinking and getting more things to worry about. I find myself completely overwhelmed by all these small things that I have to check and fix and make sure they are ok, and if I can't, I'll worry about it until I can see the actual outcome. Sometimes this nitpicking helps, since it stops me from accidentally overlooking essential details, but most of the times it's just pure mental stress that will not let me enjoy anything.

I suppose I should just "let go" or "stop trying to be in control", but how?

Pic related is mfw all i want to do is sleep when these moments hit me hard.

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Guide to productivity

Lets make a guide on how to get your shit together, tailored towards the typical my shit is absolutely fucked 4channer/8channer. The difference between this guide and something like "The Well Cultured Anonymous" is that this one will focus mostly on how to become productive and stay productive, this one will be the gateway drug to something like TWCA. I say this because it's pretty hard to make a transition from doing absolutely nothing all day to one day doing everything you've always wanted to do. This guide will hopefully make transition as simple as possible.

This guide will assume you are:

>Browsing image boards all day

>It assumes you have no skills

>It assumes you are a NEET

>It assumes you have no friends

>It assumes you are depressed/have social anxiety

>It assumes you are overweight/underweight/not active

Something like this will take a long time to do but if anyone wants to help out with this, just say so below. If you think there is anything else that should be taken into account or anything that should be covered, say so as well.

Also, criticism is important and highly recommended here since I want to be able to cover all perspectives with this guide. Although I've experienced a lot of the above, I can't say I've experienced it all and thus advice that would work for me may not necessarily work for everyone. I want to avoid this as much as possible.

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Recovering NEET general

Currently back in college. Trying to fix my life and move away from parents soon. Post good helpful advice to help out those trying to step out of their shell. Stuff like:

>how to get first gf in your 20s-30s

>how to handle adult life

>how to get a good job

>college tips

>etc..

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Invitation to join /mentat/

Hello /improve/, I would like to invite you to join an offshoot board- >>>/mentat/, inspired by my thread on this board.

A mentat is a human capable of great feats of mathematics, memory, analytics and logic. /mentat/ is for those of use trying to achieve such goals.

I have a few plans for the board, such as a weekly documentary stream, courses taken together as a board and use the board as the discussion forum, books the board is reading and discussing. Training update threads.

I made it recently, so I'm going to be really putting in the work for it soon. Please stop by and check us out, we're also on irc on rizon at #mentat.

>>>/mentat/

>>>/mentat/

>>>/mentat/

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Looking into eyes

A while ago, I started to realize that I never really looked people in their eyes, I somehow grew up and got used to looking with looking at their mouths. Although even then when I talk to someone I often look away and only directly look into their eyes/face occasionally and for short times. Now after a quick search it seems like looking into peoples eyes is a way better thing to do as it shows confidence and dominance.
I'm trying to force myself to learn this habit, I still feel uncomfortable, but who knows what good it might bring later.

Now I'm wondering how many people are like me? Do you 'always' look people directly into their eyes during (serious) conversations? When talking with the opposite gender?

discuss
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Polyphasic Sleep

Has anyone here tried polyphasic sleep?

I did some reading after seeing an infographic detailing different sleep schedules. The idea is that the body only enters REM sleep a few times during the standard 8-hour sleep cycle, leaving the remaining time as "wasted" non-REM sleep. Apparently, the REM sleep is when your body repairs tissue and catalogs memories. When the body gets less sleep than normal, it cuts out the non-REM sleep periods to ensure enough REM sleep is achieved.

I've read many different accounts from both believers and doubters. Believers claim that you need to push through the adaptation period (when you're body hasn't gotten used to a lowered amount of sleep yet) in order to get to the benefits. Doubters claim that will never happen or that there are negative side effects like decreased creativity and energy; believers counter by saying this only focuses on the adaptation period. Steve Pavlina is a notable example of someone who succeeded in using polyphasic sleep to work efficiently on 2 hrs of sleep a day; but he's just one example.

I get off from uni for a month tomorrow and I figure that's plenty of time to get through an adaptation phase, particularly if I start with a less extreme sleep cycle (current plan is 4.5 hrs core w/ 2 30-min naps spaced during waking hours, then down to 3 hr core w/ 3 20-min naps if things go well).

Any personal stories /improve/? Any tips or thoughts?

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QTDDTOT

starting the thread with one, figured this board would be an apt venue to ask

quickest route to a bachelors degree?

i'd imagine what with CLEP and CC you could acquire one in three semesters or so. to any of you with relevant experience or methods heard repeated please chime in

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Do you guys actively log your /improve/ment progress and if so, how do you do it? Diaries? Spreadsheets? Calendars?

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shy bladder hopelessness

Anyone here overcome shy bladder? This shit is a curse and it's fucking with my life. I'm always hesitant about traveling because I know I will be away from home for hours and will need to piss at some point. School is annoying because I have to go from floor to floor until I find an empty bathroom.

I have to use stalls and have to sit down which is both disgusting and humiliating.

How do I deal with this shit?

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I never really tried going into these therapy threads, the last time I asked for advice was on half-chan but I got a bunch of 'you're just being a bitch' 'stop making excuses' which made me angry and more depressed.

Hell, this place can be a troll board where people secretly laugh at other people's problems.

but I don't care, my life is beyond fucked now so there's really no point.

Anyway I came here to ask for help. I'm at my parents house for being severly depressed. I've been living with them for a few years.

How I got this way was from bullying back in highschool. It's mostly psychological with words rather than being punched (I guess it was because it was girl on girl so). I feel pathetic I get worked up over words but that's how weak I am. After graduating, I thought college will bring a new light like everyone says but I got deceived by similar events. The final knock-out punch was when I lost my friend since childhood. I lost her because she thought I wasn't 'cool' anymore. Whatever maybe because she's a female, maybe because she's bothered I'm half-retarded.

After my college therapist saw me staying in my dorm all day and not going to my classes, she suggested I go back home for 'a break'. It's been a few years though and nothing has happened. I still go to therapy. It's been ups and downs, sometimes I would feel positive and productive for a week then I would feel depressed and do useless shit like play videogames. Whenever I expressed my hopelessness to my therapist, she would tell me to just change my medication and contact my psychologist.

Right now I'm at that low point.

I don't know, maybe I'm just venting tonight and I would feel all better tomorrow morning like nothing happened or have the energy to try to not think about it until dusk where I tend to get depressed. I don't want to die because there's things I want to do but still I feel like I should kill myself.

Also another thing making me depressed is that I wanted to do art since I was a kid. Also writing to some extent. I thought to myself after high school 'I'll show them! I'll become a good artist and writer and make wonderful stories with inspiring illustrations!'. Now I'm just scared and don't want to do it anymore because of how intimidating it is.

Everything seems so depressing to me.

Sorry for rambling like a psycho but I really am just that. I don't know what to do anymore. I just want to be happy and alive I guess.

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How do i improve my posture?

I injured my neck at a young age and basically stand like this guy now.

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Inferiority complex

I hate myself. I'm in law school at a good university but I feel fucking worthless.

You see, although in my country law is not an oversaturated field I still feel worthless. Why? Because I don't build/make/invent anything concrete. Ever since I was a kid I wanted to be an engineer or a doctor or a chemist. But I am a retard with numbers. I didn't memorize basic multiplication (4x4, 8x9 etc) until 4th grade. I cheated my way through middle and high school math.

I don't have to work immediately after college. Hell, I could take 2 more bachelor degrees after I finish law take that 'muricans. But should I? And anyways I'm still horrible at math. I could be a lawyer/engineer and build both legal and literal frameworks IF I could actually into math. But I can't even do 1st year highschool math. Getting a job in law is not a problem after college for me.

When I was in high school I planted a small plot of land with cassava. They're dirt cheap and you could buy them, but when I harvested them I felt pride and joy from the feeling that my effort has materialized into something concrete. I was more proud at this than when I won a debate competition at the same year.

Sorry for the tl;dr. Thanks if you read it.

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Reaction Time

How can I improve my reaction speed?

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I can't help but drop my spaghetti when I try to start a conversation, unlike with guys where It's much easier to make a comment about their shirt and get their facebook. When I talk to chicks I just feel like they know I'm trying to get with them (which is true) and feel like I'm coming off as creepy.

What do I do? How do I initiate a conversation with woman? Is it as easy as commenting on the crappy weather?

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I fucking hate nostalgia. If you are still in love with the past then you will never truly improve.

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I want to eat in a more civilised manner. To foster a more natural relationship with my food. Has anyone here done something like this?

Anyone have any rules the follow or family/local customs in this regard?

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Trying to stop FEELING WORTHLESS EMOTIONS

Anybody done this? I'm not talking about being a stoic.

Examples of worthless emotions: worry, guilt, remorse, anger, envy, self-pity

How much extra energy and time would you have if you didn’t spend energy and time on worthless emotions? Any emotions focused on the past are worthless, as the past can't be changed. Envy is worthless as it does nothing for you apart from make you feel bad. Self-pity, also, is worthless as it does nothing for you.

The only good emotions are those which help you in some way.

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I woke up this morning thinking about how easy it would be to kill myself. I don't truly want to kill myself, but this is the sort of mentality I've built in my years as a NEET. There is a strong resistance to any sort of challenge and boy there are a lot of challenges coming up this year. To me it looks like a looming cloud carrying a storm coming nearer and nearer.

Things have changed though, I stopped avoiding these challenges, I've stopped fleeing. I'm going to jump head first into this storm and I am going to smile while the rain and hail batters me. I'm not crazy, I just know that this scurge that I've been battling for over a decade is dying. I can feel it dying, I can feel its power weathering and I know this last upcoming storm is its last strongest offense. After this, it's done. It'll throw stuff at me occasionally but not like before, it won't have control over me or my actions. The scale will be tipped and I will be commandeering this ship from that point on. I will sail it through uncharted territory I once feared and there won't be a single thing the storm can do to break my resolve. Once I'm free, it won't be me on the defensive, it will be it. And for each stretch of sea that I cover, I wreck its puny resistance, and I'll push it back and back until it'll be dead. And at that point I will be at the highest point in my life I've ever been.

The journey won't end there, I will change my course and go straight into a new storm, because although these years have been painful, they've turned a boy into a man. There's strength in discomfort, and I will make it my cause to pursue it. This unexpected uncomfortable path I went on changed the course of my life, I'm no longer doomed to a life of mediocrity or dirt, I aim to become somebody great and there's no storm, monster or God that can possibly stop me.

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Alright, so I was reading up on foreskins and what not and I was thinking of doing the restoring thing. Anyone ever done the foreskin restoring thing? Were you pleased with the results and how long did it take for you to notice results? Any things I should read? Does it look natural or am I just fucking around with my already mutilated cock. And of course, how do women respond to it. Because my dad cut mine to look "normal" so he better be damn right.
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How do you normie/social/life? I'm starting to put some pieces of my life together. I'm back in college and finally passing my classes and shit. And before you ask, going for STEM degree so I should be making some dank bux after college.Only trouble is,

>nomoney cuz all my money has to go towards college

>nojob until summer because work+college at the same time is hell

>stuck living with my parents because of the above two things

>friends moved away and suffered 4 years of NEETDOM

What do?

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Depression, the Secret We Share | Andrew Solomon | TED Talks

"The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality, and it was vitality that seemed to seep away from me in that moment." In a talk equal parts eloquent and devastating, writer Andrew Solomon takes you to the darkest corners of his mind during the years he battled depression. That led him to an eye-opening journey across the world to interview others with depression – only to discover that, to his surprise, the more he talked, the more people wanted to tell their own stories. (Filmed at TEDxMet.)

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http://socialpronow.com/outgoing I think this is the best self help material out there. It gives ready to use solutions that sound good. And it's free. What do you think about it? Can it turn anon into chad?

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artfag here

how do I into jobs around my field

I'm going to say straight up that I've been living in this bubble of oblivion by having some tumblr blog (minus the political shit, I don't care about that) and drawing crappy pictures and posting them occasionally.

I mean, I kind of gotten a grip this year by actually studying art but still

>21

I don't know how I'm going to live

I don't know jack shit about money and I hear trying to live with an art career is hard

I just don't know what the hell to do really or what the right thing to do is

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Chewing Gum?

Does anyone chew on some chewing gum to help them think?

What's everyone's thoughts on chewing gum/chewing on other chewy things?

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52 books in 52 weeks reading challenege

so It's a new year, I suggest you guys attempt this… Keep in mind that racking up some short books is a way to make room for longer ones.

I started on Christmas day, so I am one week in.
So far:
Week 1
1. Way of Men 5*
2. Reuben 4*
3. Storm of Steel 4*
4. handbook of traditional living 4*

Rated on a 1-5 scale

This is a good way imo to encourage you to get those books read you've been dragging your feet about
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Conquering My Mind

I recently destroyed a relationship with two very great people because of jealously and selfishness. It's over between me and them I can't go back and fix things I just made the situation worse and worse never thought to much about what I was doing to them. Realization of what I did comes into full view now I'm a compulsive liar, manipulator and have hurt multiple people in the past just to get my way. I thought I might have been able to change but I could not in time it comes back in full swing usually I can't keep doing this forever. This keeps happening through out my life I have episodes where I nearly destroy or actually destroy someone's life because of how my emotions get to me. I'm seeing a psychiatrist only went to the first appointment so far not much has been done yet now next appointment will be on the 6th I hope he can help me but in the mean time how can I work on this myself.

I've improved several aspects of my life, I have enough money to move somewhere nice now and out of this dead place I live in, I finally got my license, getting a car soon and I have a steady job but I no longer want feelings of lust, jealously, selfishness, wrath and greed to rule my life.

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2015 Summary Reports

Lads and Lasses let us toast to our successes here and failures(yes those too) as it can only get better from here!

>kicked the gaming habit early on in the summer

>got myself back into school had nothing but A's this fall

>survived massive layoffs

>no signs of anxiety

>completed a few career milestones

>managed to lay a foundation for direction for at least 2 more years

>dozens of small goals too small to list here

This year was tremendous for my own personal growth. The little successes I've had have transformed my outlook from I CAN'T into I FUCKING CAN with solid proof to back my "usually" empty words of bravado!

Alas, not all is well in paradise

>still no gf

>savings has been depleted

>weight/health still a problem

>social life is nonexistent

Nevertheless brothers and sisters, I am ready for the the negatives. I have repaired, refuelled and rearmed and I have new goals and things to try out and plan to roll them out ASAP Q1 of 2016. I hope you do to so please share. I hate to think we've given up already!

Whether they succeed or fail, it matters not because if we tried then we /improve/d!

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social potato off and online here

I want to feel less ashamed of my hobbies and engage with communities of those hobbies, or don't have to feel the need to commit online sepukku temporarily whenever I fuck up.

I've tried in the past to engage myself with a community but I ended up running away because I spilled my spaghetti there.

I don't know, I had a history of bullying and it got me phobic with interacting with people. I just don't want to experience the pain again. I know life is full of pain but still I just naturally avoid it.

I want to go back to the community or engage with others and not be ashamed of what I like, but I'm afraid of judgements from others outside or someone calling me and my group a fag.

I just want to be free from this teenage bullshit or learn how to deal with it, maybe this is the key for me to be able to feel alive.

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decorating room

hey /improve/ so i decided to decorate my room , i was thinking of sticking a bunch of random pictures i like on the wall but i figured that would be kind of pointless

now i'm planning to print some famous figures for motivation , like scientists, people that appear in history school book, and people like gates or steve jobs , the one i know of course, but that is not enough to cover the wall , any suggestion comes mind? im on my 1st semester in computer science degree if that helps

also i'm making a list of my goals within the next few months with the dates on each goals and im also sticking this to my wall

this is some picture of my room, it's kind of a dorm but and unofficial one, like an apartment but only a room

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Is there any book/guide on how to talk to people and know what to say without spilling spaghetti? A guide to how not to be a social retard if you will.

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I get depressed whenever I get home

Right now I have a wageslave job that takes up most of my free time (factoring in the time it takes to get ready and drive to and from work, as well as the shift itself, I'm left with anywhere from 1-2 hours of free time on a regular weekday). Obviously that in itself is annoying, but what's more is that I can't even utilize this free time to my own benefit. When I'm at work, I can dream. I can actually feel motivation to achieve shit. I think about saving up money and learning skills now that will help build a better future for myself instead of working in a goddamn factory and living with my family.

The only problem is, when I get home, I get depressed, anxious, etc. I become suddenly afraid of /improving/, and too lethargic to even attempt it. I've felt like this for months and while I don't know what actually causes it, it seems to only happen when I'm at home, in my bedroom. Even through the weekends, I still feel the same exhaustion that I did coming home from work.

What do you guys suggest I do? There's no way that I just can't go home (not like there's anything to do here in Bumfuck, North Dakota anyway).

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Community college woes

Right now I`m in college obtaining a degree that I don`t really want at the behest of my parents. It just so happens that the career that I`m pursing does not require a degree and it all just seems pointless. I`d rather work while waiting for a response from the Police department.

How do I motivate myself to do my coursework and try to enjoy going to my local community college more?

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do you know some web where i can lean some martial arts free?

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Thats it

I don't know if anyone will reply to this TL:DR but here it is

I am a waste. I've spent the last 5 years of my life tied to my laptop, gaming.The Sims 3, stronghold crusader, whatever, gaming.

The sad thing about that is what I was before that. I was a smart student, hardworking, I read AT LEAST one novel a week. Fuck, I read Oliver Twist and Phantom of the Opera unabridged when I was in 5th grade. I ENJOYED learning.

Fast forward to now. I'm 18 and in college. I don't know how I managed to get in high school or college, I understood NONE of the math in high school, I've only finished 4 novels in the last 5 years. I barely go out to do anything anymore, the onlything that will dislodge me from my laptop is a power outage, and I mean that.

I hate myself. I hate how I'm enslaved to a machine. I hate how I gamed high school away. I wanted to become a fucking doctor or engineer for fucks sake, but now I'm in law school destined to jew for corporations for a living.

Sorry for the rant. I just had to get it out.

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/SIG/

>Took from 4chan /fit/'s /SIG/ - Self Improvement General (http://pastebin.com/j8K45DDD), we should participate and/or encourage to come over here.

/SIG/ Self Improvement General.

How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.

The sticky is divided like so:
>Recommended Readings.
>Some tips to get your life back on track.
>Study and Career.
>To-do list habit.rpg (If you’re TOTALLY Lost. Start with this one)
>Focus and meditation
>Finance

Basic Recommendations:
>Have a productivity Framework that is flexible. A mindset that gets you going.
>Use a calendar, like google calendar. Hours and shit for things YOU WILL DO.
>Learn to focus.
>Meditate.
>Do routines for things you should do periodically/daily, this should cover daily things or weekly chores such as laundry, cleaning, shopping.
>Identify and Eliminate conflicts within yourself.
>Focus on identifying the time wasters in your life and eliminate them.
>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once you’ll burnout. Little by little.

Resources:
arcitea.com/
>This is a good ‘sticky’ for self-development
http://www.bakadesuyo.com/blog/
>This one is a good blog for resources of this kind. I’ve seen annons give good feedback.

>Framework

http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI
http://youtu.be/3Ao7rZ8-HWo
http://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY
>Motivation
http://youtu.be/ZtMm0swu5i8
http://youtu.be/WxOFvpplvAM
http://youtu.be/ix4xSzkqwhk

>If you think there is material that should be added (Or taken off). Please say so.

>There is no central authority for the /SIG/, everyone could copy, modify and upload the info here in a latter post.
>To future curators of the /SIG/. Stray away from PUA, and avoid Fedora stuff please.
>If you try monetizing with this, I’ll cut you.
>I’m looking to expand the ‘how to focus’ Area. If you believe you can help out/have tips. Please share.
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Can't Work Around Others

Hey /improve/, I have had an issue my whole life, but it has been exacerbated recently since I've moved into a dorm and now have a roommate. I find it very difficult to work when other people are around or could be watching me. I think I don't want anyone to see me as having a problem with my life or in anything I do. It's as if I want to maintain this chalant persona of having everything perfect and under control and if I was improving it would show that something is not going the way I want it to

I also think it's because I know they'll ask me questions, and they might raise their expectations that I'll then have to live up to. So there is a lot of work that I have not done and a lot of improving that I have not done because of this. I have googled around and I haven't found anything relevant or useful. Does anyone else have this problem or know how to solve it? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

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This is a good idea for a board.

Regrettably posting something from halfchan in the pic, but hopefully we can devise our own stuff.
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What is your greatest weakness?

So on the road to achieving a better self, I think its important to reflect on ones weaknesses.

So at the moment, what would you say your greatest weakness/stoppingpoint/whatever is? What steps have you taken or will take to improve on it?

I've been making a lot of gains in terms of learning and doing better in my career, but its come at the expense of my social and especially my romantic life. As of now, I'm basically a celibate monk.

What I will do starting next year is devote more free time to making new friends (I want to expand from my current social circle) and will start hitting on girls more who show interest.

Now go and tell me about yourself.
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I'm looking at starting a small business and want some advice from other people. I don't want to give my exact details but I want to start a loot crate knock off for a niche hobby that has a lot of people who have a lot of expendable cash. They're known for buying expensive stuff and there is a wide range of products focused at them which would fit well in a box.

I have 20 years experience in this hobby and I'm in the world's central point for it. So I think it's viable to set up a loot crate knock off for it here and because I'm already contacting the distros, I can have an ebay store on the side selling the entire range of products.

Has any one else tried this or would they have any advice? I'm currently on neet bucks due to disability, I want to get off them and this seems like a potential path for me.

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Quitting the devils Lettuce

Anyone here had experience stopping smoking weed after a long period of time?

How did it go? What worked and what didn't work?

I'm struggling to break the habits I've formed using it, any advice or ideas much appreciated.

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Future of the board

This board has been on the verge of being completely inactive since its creation. I think it's time for me to start putting some work in to try to expand the number of people that visit here. The quality of posts has always been high but the board is just too slow at the moment.

If you have any advice or tips on how we would go about doing this along with improving the general quality of the board, feel free to share your ideas below.

Here are a number of things I want to work on:

>A new background

The CSS of the board needs to change.

>An /improve/ sticky

The current plans for the sticky will just be a guide on how to productive. Once this is done more topics will be added.

>/improve/ banners

I'm going to be making some but if you make some too, I'll gladly put them up too

If you want to help with any of these, post your skype username below and I'll make a new group for this project

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let's start again from scratches, shall we? i'm pretty sure we can build something of useful from ourselves, but with ease because we have a log journey ahead

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Anyone know how to deal with hair loss? The front of my head is thinning fast. I wake up with tons of hairs on my pillow and I can't brush my hair without a ton falling out. Yes I have had a shitty diet and didnt exercise until lately. I just hope it's not too late for me. Will post a pic tomorrow

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A short story about life

Dear Anon,

I have just come back home from running. During my exercise, something happened that I wish to share with you, and also with others.

First, I need to show you a sketch of the area where I run. The sketch is relevant to the story, so give it some attention.

>pic related

The dark grey represents the road (asphalt), the light grey is the "sidewalk" area, where I run. The little green dots are either posts or trees. The red area represents the roofs of nearby houses. The center area around the track is dirt and some bushes.

So, now that you have the scenario pictured, I can tell the story.

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Acne

Sup fellas, I'm gonna be starting a course of Roaccutane on Thursday if my blood tests are okay. There are a few nasty side effects (to the point where it is no longer available in the US because legal fees exceeded profits), but it seems like many are pretty rare and the more hyped ones like depression are not proven.

Does anyone have any experiences with this drug, or want to know more? Are there any other treatments that have worked out for you?

http://www.acne.org/messageboard/topic/119308-faq-for-accutane-users/
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Kratom

Kratom could probably help a lot of you guys. I know it has helped me so much. I can answer most questions you have about it but I'll wait and see if anyone cares first before writing a wall-o-text.

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This might be obvious, but it's become increasingly evident that momentum is essential in creating change for yourself. That's not to say you have to be on a roll 100% of the time all the time to succeed, but the more you slow down the harder it is to get up and going again. An issue for me is when I fail substantially in some regard, it leads me to give up for a small period of time and it's as if everything gets reset. I lose any feeling of achievement that I've gained and instead feel even worse off than before I began. Binging on those toxic pleasures on days where you feel like a failure and just want a simple dopamine hit just aren't worth it. It's not easy to ignore these cravings when you have a really shitty day either, but in doing so you will set yourself apart from everyone else.

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Check in thread

Check in thread. How are you doing, lads? Keeping up on your daily habits and routine? Weekly routine? Monthly routine?

Still doing yoga?

Meditation?

Programming?

Art?

Reading?

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I finally have a goal

Second year of college and I just decided what I want to do major in/ what field of work I want to go into. Though it I fear it might be too late, as this whole year I have been ultra depressed and had absolutely no motivation to do anything, as a result my grades have dropped significantly.

But now that I have something tangible that I want to work for, I feel able to turn everything around.

However, I am scared that this motivation, like all others I have experienced, will fade in a week at most and I'll be right back were I was.

How can I force myself to develop good study habits? How can I be sure to keep up these habits once my motivation leaves me? How can I increase my willpower? Because I have literally none I've been attempting nofap for 2+ years and my highest streak was 20 days

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Internet addiction rant

Skip all the way to the last paragraph + green text if you don't want to read wall of text also sorry for my bad english

Ok I finally accepted I've got internet addiction when it's the third day in a row i've been the whole time on the internet.

Some facts about me: 20 year old, learning economic engineer, doing my second first year at uni, still living with parents because cheaper and uni is 15 min away with bike.

My parents went for their annual week trip and left me and my brother home alone and I've done nothing except watching fucking hour long DBZ battles on youtube, watched like half of south park and big bang episodes checked every thread on this board, /pol/ (also 4chan), /his/ on 4chan and sometimes /b/ and on 4chan. Hell even jsut know as i'm writing this I opened a fucking tab on a fucking minigolf game ive been playing and i'm wasting at least some hours a day on stupid simulation game on kongregate.com

The thing is I always knew I had an addiction on computers and tried to limit myself, i even used leechblock to block some websites but I can't control my fucking urges to fuckign restart all of mozilla.

I take my laptop everywhere I go even to the fucking bathroom and every time I open it I tell myself im gonna study summirize the audio of my past lecture, i'm gonna write that essay down which is due in a week.

Anyway my parents went away and before that I somewhat learned 1 hour a day because i felt bad cuz i was wasting their money. Now that they are gone for the week I simply do not care. So much I didn't even fucking shower for over a day and a half and didn't went to uni since my parents left .

I'm going to do a white night where i'm gonna finish the shit I had for the past days and let my brother change the code of wifi

Does anybody on this board fought/fights against internet addiction and please share some tricks on how to battle this fucking addiction?

>I have tried leechblock, worked out for a day until I disabled it.

>Tried only going on the internet with the intention of doing what I need to do, did not work

>gave during exams my laptop to my dad so i wouldn't be on it to much, i failed after some days and haven't given my laptop back

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I was browsing Sacha Chua's excellent blog and came across this:

http://sachachua.com/blog/2011/07/planning-for-summer/

What do you think of this "rubrics"? It seems fun, I might try it out.

Pic semi-related: it's some visual notes she made.

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drowsiness/need for sleep

>stopped being depressed

>started doing shit

>drowsy af

All the time I'm tired and have the desire to go sleep, it's creeping into my routine too, with me thinking "after finishing X I'll go take a nap" and then waking up all groggy and angry for no reason, or even worse using it as a justification to procrastinate.

Taking cold showers seemed to help for a while, but it's getting cold, and I've gotten sick several times (probably because of them).

So far, most logical theories would be:

>not enough sleep

I can sleep 12 hours straight, and still feel tired.

>sleep at the wrong time

I adjusted my sleeping habits several times, going to sleep at a reasonable hour (11-12 pm) doesn't seem to fix it.

>lack of exercise/fresh air

go out most of the time, either for [things] or just to use my legs.

>lack of proper vitamins

which ones?

>brain cancer

RIP

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What are your favorite/ best blogs?

Hey guys I was making an list of the best blogs I have found on the internet. Alot of the blogs I used to follow either stopped being posted on, or the guys were shady.

The only critieria for the blogs/websites is that they must be

> Informative

> Mind-expanding

> Have depth to them

Here are some of my favorite blogs.

markmanson.com

refinethemind.com

goodlookingloser.com

collegetopia.com

kratosguide.com

I need more sites to add to my feedly list, so I can kick back and get quality information instead of digging. Lets help each other out.

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What's your daily routine like, guys? Do you follow any set guideline of activities?

I exercise for one hour, practice something for one hour, and study something for one hour, and make sure I have a healthy meal prepared before 7.

My day usually looks like this:

3 AM - Get up, log my dreams in my notebook (going for lucidity!) and take a cold shower. Then I stretch and get ready to ift, and kind of think about my day. Usually to wake up I play starcraft 2 or read and listen to an album I haven't heard before.

5:30am - This is when I lift. It's the only time my gym in town is open.

7:30am Practice keyboard (would be piano if I had room/ money)

8:30am Study my LINUX book, I'm trying to understand /tech/, lol.

Then I start my day. I work from 10-4, once I'm off I take a 20 minute nap and a warm cozy shower, and cook. Then I get ready to do it again the next day..

Do you guys do anything similar? I know that writing out my routine in detail really helps me, and getting it all done first thing in the morning gives me a huge boost to the rest of the day (I also find if I don't do it immediately upon waking, it gets pushed off far too often). Admittedly, every day does not look like this, I usually aim to take only saturdays off, but more often then not there are a few days a week where I'm sleeping in.. I'm trying to improve too :)

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Should I drop out of college since I can't make friends?

What's the point of this experience if I have no one to share it with? Been here over a year now and haven't found a group of close friends like everyone else has. I've always been a very social person and being alone all the time is not fun. Almost not worth continuing.

I'm even thinking my lack of social ability will prevent me from being able to network and get a job.

What's everyone's take on this?

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does someone know how to make my voice deeper with permanent efects?

>dimebag unrelated

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Instant motivation thread

Let's create a thread with short, snappy motivational videos/quotes/encouragement.

I'll start by posting this video of a homeless man giving an incredibly encouraging speech.

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Drinking

1 year off and now I'm back to drinking.

How do I stop myself from drinking soda?

Not fat or diabetic, I'm skinny as I can be without being anorexic, but how do I stop?

I have NEVER tried smoking, drugs, drinking or gambling. Soda is my last obstacle to pure, unhindered teetotalism

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Why is there not educational resources stickied here? Why does this board not have the worlds greatest polymath, Da Vinci, as it's icon or model of inspiration?

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Video Games

I decided I would make a brief return to video games for MGSV. I'm reminded why I quit them.

Video games build dependance. Their early levels are meant to lay a framework that idicates there will be great reward later on. As the game adds complexity, it adds more things for you to have to worry about. Whether it's wanting to come back and beat a level or to wanting to grind until you complete the game, these things are not actually worth the tradeoff in your time. Even realizing this, the time you've already invested keeps you coming back. That time invested does not go away. Eventually a game becomes a series, and a series becomes a genre, and a genre becomes every game that comes out. Then years of your life are gone.

Meta gaming can be enjoyable. Watching people take out an entire base with an anime cardboard box is hilarious. However, to get to the level of play and creativity to maintain gameplay like this consistently takes even greater time. This applies to building skill and familiarity in any particular game or games as a whole.

If you're still at a point in your life when games are new and exciting and you find joy in them, please continue your hobby to its completion. However, if you're feeling sluggish and find yourself wondering why you're still playing games, or you're thinking of going back, don't play games. Just leave them be.

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Is meditation useful for losers?

My apologies if I sound like a retard.

I've been lurking self-help communities for a while, and I've seen constantly the advice that meditation is really helpful for depression, social anxiety, etc. That we should liberate ourselves from our egos in order to be one with the world, relax, do the things, you know the drill.

But isn't that the problem? My ego is squeezable as a berry, I have a horrible self-esteem, and I'm always rambling in my mind like an autist, to the point sometimes I don’t even notice anything around me. Why would I want those things if I already have them?

What I see is that this entire ‘chillout’ practice is really being targeted for extraverted people who are already confident with themselves, are impulsive as fuck and as a result they have stress problems.

But when it comes to us it seems to me like a very different process, how are we supposed to liberate our ego if we don't have one to begin with? For us, all these relaxing stuff seems like accepting defeat to me. If we want to overcome this shouldn’t we do the exact opposite? Like turning into alpha-mode, being egoistic, proud, getting mad and so on?

Am I missing something? Maybe there is something I'm not seeing. What do you guys think?

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What are the best hobbies for self improvement?

Ok, ok, before autists come in say "it's subjective!" and "whatever you find most fun!", let me just say that the purpose the thread is classify and find the hobbies with the most benefits, physically, mentally and finicallly with the least downsides.

Before you try to master anything, I believe you should focus on; building up the mind, increasing your memory, visualization, subconscious processing, thoughtform networks, etc. to achieve a superior level of intelligence.

Me prior to mind-building / training: Took me ages to read and it still barely made an impression in my mind.

Me today after so much work on fixing up my mind and diet: Can read through a book and remember it all and cite parts of it, can process large volumes of new information intelligently and apply it, can learn new skills and develop in anything I do much faster now.

I'll start the thread out with a simple tier-list I whipped up.

The best hobbies, imo, are

>reading+writing+art (obviously. art is a very broad topic including things like sewing, knitting, pottery, graffiti, drawing, painting, etc)

>cooking, nutrition, fishing and gardening (or at least some understanding of the processes involved)

>music (singing, musical instruments)

>technology

>science

>programming

>bodybuilding

>some sports

And some fun, but, pretty useless hobbies

>origami

>juggling

>puzzles

>calligraphy

Mundane-tier crap

>most collecting-based hobbies (muh cards, muh rocks)

>99% of video games

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Okay this is gonna sound ridiculous but I'm addicted to masturbating.

I've wanked 2-3 times every single day for the last 6 years of my life and I'm only 20

It's even reached the point where I've lost my sex drive and that obviously needs to change.

After coming here a few days ago I saw a few posts explaining that cutting down will make a difference.

If I can, would cutting down to once or twice a week really help me?

What sort of changes would I see in my body after cutting down to that many?

Is stopping completely a good idea? I've tried going for a week and 3 days in I'm really really struggling…

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Hey guys.

Is there a board in 8chan for - I don't wanna say pickup - women advice? I tried /dir/ but I found nothing. Thanks