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 No.8368[Reply]

Updated the invite link to work.

If you're lonely and want to talk to a couple of anons or you want to discuss improvement elements or be kept accountable, this is the place for you.

For improvement elements, the following are what are being done:

>an accountability group

>weekly/monthly progress reports

https://discord.gg/q488BCG

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 No.8816

i am looking for the loan / Business partner. I just want to start my Sea food business (south East Asia). It have huge margin and highly profitable business.

I am not doing any thing illegal and fake.

I am having legal company i am ready do partnership. I just need financial support of 10000 - 20000 USD.

If anyone interested please contact me. I will send all details regarding company.




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 No.6793[Reply]

Looking for a book?

All the below books can be found using any of these methods.

https://sites.google.com/site/themetalibrary/library-genesis

http://bookzz.org/s/?q=&yearFrom=&yearTo=&language=&extension=&t=0

https://www.reddit.com/r/Piracy/comments/2oftbu/guide_the_idiot_proof_guide_to_downloading_ebooks/

Productivity must reads

Habits

Power of Habits, by Charles Duhigg

Superhuman by Habit, by Tynan

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2012/11/20/power-of-habits/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8

Willpower

Willpower Instinct, by Kelly Mcgonigal

Procrastination Equation, by Piers Steel

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

Time management

First Thing's First, by Stephen Covey

Art of Getting Things Done, by David Allen

Philosophy of life

StoicismPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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 No.8483

File: 99cd48fb501b60f⋯.pdf (2.09 MB, Nine Laws.pdf)

Dark Triad people always get ahead. Don't beat them, join them.




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 No.8709[Reply]

For the /fat/ folk around here. I lost almost 100lb (310 to about 215) ask me anything.

 No.8713

>>8709

What diet?

>inb4 low carb


 No.8814

>>8709

Any particular schedule ??


 No.8888

>>8709

How?


 No.8889

>AMA

>doesn't reply back for 7 months

It was too little too late. OP died of heart disease before he could share his secrets.




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 No.8847[Reply]

Let give you guys the low down, 6th grade rejected by crush, 8th grade, rejected by crush, going into high school distance my self from girls because I figured that I would be a burden to interact with.

Now I’m ready to change that

>inb4 that’s the whole purpose of this board you jerkoff

I get that but I’m going balls to wall with this, whatever advice you anons give me is going to be used to my benefit. Whether it’s to talk to girls, increase my social rank(ing) or just for bantz I’m in it for the long haul for this change in my life

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 No.8878

> in control of his destiny

Is that actually possible?


 No.8882

>>8878

Anything is possible if you BELIEVE IN YOURSELF and JUST DO IT


 No.8883

>>8882

yes, that's why I won a 100m against Usain Bolt and got a new world record.


 No.8884

>>8883

Based. Told you it would work


 No.8887

>>8882

No, but you can shape your own mind.




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 No.8837[Reply]

Oftentimes I find myself making decisions and saying things that I regret, while at the same times knowing what the right things to do and say are. I feel like I am stuck playing a role, and fear exposing my real self to the people that I love and trust. In the end, I resort to lying which puts a heavy weight on my shoulders, and when the lie eventually comes out, the damage is worse. I made this thread for people to give advice on how to boost ones courage, and how to convince yourself that its important to not care as much about what others think and do. Or for people to talk about things that they've been hiding from others in order to get it off their chest. The goal is to improve your self confidence, and I feel that putting to words things that bother you is a necessary first step on the path of enlightenment.

 No.8838

I guess ill start first. Ive been in a relationship with this girl for about 1 year now, and the first 6 months went by smoothly. Thats when my first lie came about, that Ive been talking to this other girl for quite a while. As you can guess things didnt go smoothly, and it resulted in me getting slapped a few times. Since then we've been on and off, but I just can't find the courage to end things with her. I feel like i act the role of a loving boyfriend in order to spare her feelings, but most of the time it puts me under a lot of stress. I know the easy answer is just to end things altogether, but i cant seem to find the courage to do so.


 No.8839

>>8838

>I act the role of a loving boyfriend in order to spare her feelings

This does not spare her feelings. It only makes the bomb bigger and bigger when it finally drops. And it will drop.

I've been lied to in a similar way and man it hurt so fucking bad, it still hurts. I wish so much that she would have just told me from the start, that would have hurt for sure but it would have been quick and I could have moved on. The more time passes the worse it gets.

It will be hard to end things, but you have to do it man. But you already know all this anyways. Good luck brother.


 No.8840

>>8839

You're right. I shouldn't push things any longer than it already has because i feel it's getting harder and harder to make the move. Thank you for the reassurance


 No.8853

>>8837

This is very relatable. It is a meta strategy of society to not care about what people think or do and to be authentic (not playing a role).

But I would like to propose a counter intuitive approach - care even more about what is going on inside other peoples minds. The thing is that your interpretation of certain mental processes is getting you to feel down - not the processes themselves. You can get an upper hand on that if you want.

If you don't like that - how about roles and lying? Sometimes it is necessary to do if you want to carry out your agenda while not stirring up a hornet nest. Other people are doing it. Doesn't mean of course that this is the reason why you should too. Really depends on your goals and what kind of person you are. Some people live off their morality and purity - making other people feel better and at ease. But it is not going to get you far in any sort of materialistic career.

If you are sure that those people you love and trust won't dig or respect your real self - drop them. Sorry for bluntness. Or summon all of your courage to test whether they won't. Otherwise the bomb will get bigger and drops anyway as >>8839 said.

Self confidence is that feeling of knowing that you are able to do anything that could be required of your body / mind at this very moment. It is an alignment of many aspects. Physical health and state of mind (what you are focused on) for example. But its really hard to recommend something specific because we are all very different.

As you can see from my post - great amount of self confidence can come from you leveraging things that are your disadvantages or negative factors. Getting an upper hand on the situation and getting control over it. More importantly - feeling of control. Which will allow you to get even more control by the snowball effect of confidence.


 No.8886

>>8853

Ive put it in my mind for some time now to try my best to be honest with myself, and others. The truth is the truth, and the subsequent result of speaking the truth is something that I have to become comfortable with. Unless in specific circumstances, where I would have to be a bit more subtle, I would like to become more honest about what goes on in my thoughts because I feel this would be a better way to connect with people. People that actually care and respect my real self. Would you be able to clarify how I would go about caring MORE about what people think? As I feel I already care a substantial amount. Also thanks again for the advice.




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 No.8818[Reply]

Boards that are like /SIG/, r/theredpill?

 No.8819

>>8818

also why dont threads load. keep getting errors


 No.8885

I heard the /improve subreddit on 4chan was pretty good, kinda dead though




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 No.8877[Reply]

How do I get out more and make more friends?

Would greatly appreciate general advice but I'm also looking for help for me specifically: 23 year old guy, work part time and school part time but nearly all of my classes are online. I already made a few friends at my job but I'm looking to get out more and meet new people. As of right now I only have like 2 friends from work that I hang out with like once a week. I want a gf and I know the best way to get a good one is to go out and meet a ton of people you find someone good, it's like a numbers game right?

So yeah what are good ways to meet people and make friends for 23 year old guys who aren't really used to going out all that much?

 No.8879

Have you tried Meetup or hobby groups? I made quite a few friends during my tabletop phase. Picked up rock climbing and .at some good people as well.


 No.8880

people today are scared as fuck and extremely demotivated. A lot of them want simple things but they can't express or are ashamed of this desire (not all, of course).

I got new friends even past 25, and what they all have in common is that they were really active and open. They invited me to shit and organized shit.

If others aren't open, you have to be the one who is open. You have to be the one who organizes shit. If you want to do something, invite others. I mean, you're making friends so you can even tell them if they want to accompany you to get a McDouble or some shit, you don't have to impress anyone.


 No.8881

That second pic is fuckin deep brah. Too real.

Outside of work, hobbies and recreation and school, if you don't already have contacts then you're basically fucked. Wicked hard to make friends outside of those situations.

Try to milk the 2 friends ya got for all their contacts, then make friends with their contacts, and so on. Involve yourself in as many social circles as you can.




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 No.8841[Reply]

March-August 2018 everything was going well in my life, for the first time after a long, long time. I was completing therapy, I felt good, I was going to the gym regularly.

Then In September-November something happen. I accepted a very simple freelance job, which didn't require much time or effort but slowly burned me out. This means that I stopped going to the gym, and slowly stopped everything.

Then I started making random and weird decisions, up until January when I shouted at one of those NGO faggots who ask you money for bringing niggers into the country (I live in Europe, that's what they do). From that day I completely broke down and I refused to go out. I only went out to buy food from time to time and that's it.

Last spark of hope was a month ago, when I joined the gym again. After three sessions, in the first week, I got the flu which lasted for 10 days and I couldn't train. Then in the third week I was depressed and I also had to take my mom to be visited by some useless jew (in the soul) doctors who asked for 150euro on the phone and then 200 in person. Then after that third week, in the fourth week I got the flu again.

Now I've been at home for more than a week. I honestly don't want to do anything anymore. I don't want to join the gym because I'm scared that I will waste my money again and not go, and this destroy me.

The therapist can't help for shit. She has identified my thought patterns very well I must admit, but no solution is in sight. What the fuck should I do? I'm 31 and I'm rotting at home. I have pain all over my body from staying home in bed and sitting, when in August I felt fit as hell. I honestly don't understand why every time I try to turn my life around for the better something happens. It's ridicolous I can't do this shit anymore and I don't even know what the shit should I do.

I just want to punch everything and everyone and fuck this world shit

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 No.8867

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>>8850

I mean, it's pretty hard to recover from setbacks if you don't have a significant and loving social network, seriously.

If you guys are like me, and doing this one man show over here, the lows are that much lower while the highs are still pretty low.

But you are 100% correct about consistency, regardless of how you feel. Those days when you feel normal or plain even still count, as you are still navigating and making cognitive decisions (they just seem so much less important because there's no strong emotional flair or memory to them). On days like those, the entries will probably be a bit smaller, but they're still just as valuable. It can hard to remember to write though, that's why I like to set up multiple timers. Soon enough you will unconsciously move towards writing.

I've yet to pick up a new journal as the weather has been absolute shit, so I'm just going to use an old agenda and write everywhere regardless. It honestly feels a bit freeing, writing outside of the margins, on-top of calenders and whatnot, letting random thoughts or doodles take up "important" or "irregular" spaces.


 No.8868

>>8867

I use the habit app "loops" to form the habit of writing in my journal (and lots of other stuff, but not too much or it becomes overwhelming). I use a digital journal… I know lots of people find the physical form to be helpful, but I like writing in my text editor a lot so it's an extra incentive. Plus it lets me organize notes etc. really easily.

Just highlighting that even though this stuff is fundamental, there's lots of different ways to make it work for you.


 No.8873

OP here, still burned as fuck (8kg overweight). Only good thing is that I don't give a shit about anything anymore, so I'm not scared of talking in front of a camera/microphone when alone. This would have been good years ago, when I wanted to make video tutorials.


 No.8874

I think I'm close to starting my life again. In the meantime since nobody as posted on the whole board I'm gonna double-post and describe my physical pain.

I never been so out of shape in my life, after all even when I didn't train at least I took long walks. I'm not even out of shape now, I'm a little in pain and I feel weak and fragile. My neck hurts, my wrists hurt, my achilles tendon and my face feel dizzy.

I've decided I'm never going to take freelance work ever again in my life, and I'm gonna commit to this. I wasted my 20s in this cycle of freelance work burning me out and this was the last straw and the most hurtful of them all. I could have got so much done but I was never able to stick to my guts, always chasing this narcissistic bullshit.

From now on I'm gonna do whatever I feel like doing, I'm going to stop doing this because "I have to", because I have a sense of obligation towards my narcissism.


 No.8875

Shit happens OP, sometimes you just fail and have to pick yourself back up again. I just stopped doing everything as well lately. All my hobbies even at my job i switched to doing the bare minimum because i just don't feel anything. I also recently tried to get into motorcycling but bombed hard when I realized it just wasn't for me so that was a lifelong dream that was crushed.

All you can do is pick yourself back up and keep going bro. That's what /improve/ mantra really should be.




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 No.8820[Reply]

What would you consider mandatory for humans to do for self improvement?

 No.8821

>>8820

why do you want to improve?


 No.8855

>>8821

Bump. Meta. Beautifully answered.


 No.8862

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Quiet times with written self reflection.

Moving the body either with exercise or being out in nature.

Participating in engaging debates or discussions.

Understanding what is in your control and out of your control, specifically attuned to your life.




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 No.5864[Reply]

Welcome to /TGTG/ - Three Good Things General!

Three Good Things is a simple exercise that empirically reduces symptoms of depression and increases happiness over six months.

All you have to do is:

>Write down three things that went well today and why you think they happened.

Do this every day for at least one week to see results!

(Here's a link to some evidence for it: http://www.positiveinsights.co.uk/articles/EMPIRICAL_RESULT_OF_INTERVENTIONS.pdf )

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 No.8661

and plus i made phone call that i really didnt feel like making


 No.8829

1 - I got out of work early

2 - I got a big chunk of work out of the way thats taken weeks

3 - I read a really good book on the train


 No.8830

three good things

1. went for a run

2. didnt fap even though i had ample opportunity to

3. had a pleasant shift at work

why they happened

1. because i care about my body

2. because im done with that shit. I dont need that poison in my life

3. because im not as much of a sperg as I tell myself I am and am cool with most of my coworkers so its not so bad i guess


 No.8831

- went home with my squish yesterday since i didnt saw him for the past few weeks. It happened since i go home with him and his dad when we both have night classes

- talked with his dad about different music generes since his dad kept playing songs that i like on the car radio

(My squish told me to ask his dad about it)

- i saved money yesterday since i didnt bring extra money at all


 No.8836

>>8831

whats is a squish?




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 No.8775[Reply]

The twilight of another year is upon us. At this stage in the life of /improve/ I think I speak for us all when I say resolutions rarely successful but is there anything you want to achieve in general in 2019? Any lessons from 2018 you are willing to share? Or maybe just vent and offload if you want.

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 No.8787

Every conversation I've had in university has been terrible. Like when I'm in a group I set high expectations for people because I can actually make people laugh and have a pleasant time.

But then, when it's time to go our own ways and I start a 1-on-1 conversation with someone it becomes boring shit like this:

"Uhhh so what class do you have after this?"

"Cal 2"

"Oh ok…"

*silence*


 No.8828

>>8787

In my second semester now, haven’t talked to anyone outside of group work with the exception of one weird girl who tried to talk to me in history. I just have no energy to try to talk to anyone even though I’m usually not awful at making friends.


 No.8832

WITNESS ME BROTHERS

Too late for a 2019 resolution but gonna post anyway

the past year ive really been making great improvements in my life. This is the year I finally get a gf. In fact before the month is over I will have one. Count on it.

We're all gonna make it lads. Work hard. Do better. Seize what is yours.

Above all else: never fucking give up


 No.8834

>>8832

Good job man, and remember: it's never too late for a resolution.


 No.8835

I finally got away from porn but need to work on my body and my internet addiction.

Pornography really is the devil, always tempting you.




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 No.8358[Reply]

Does anyone have a trick for waking up in morning?

I'm not looking for way to wake up early. I'm looking for a way to remind myself that I need to get out of bed. I've had times where I just lay on my bed for hours(with more than 8 hours of sleep). Sleep is not the problem. Getting out of my bed is.

The only times I have ever gotten out of bed the instant I wake up is when I get a nightmare. I like nightmares for that reason only. They allow me to enjoy the morning. Otherwise, I always wait until the last 15 minutes. I sometimes have to skip shower & breakfast and apply perfume instead.

Do you feel like you're barely conscious when you wake up? And then when I get out of my bed I feel just fine. What I feel that I need is a mental shortcut that takes me from zombie mode to out-of-bed mode. I'm gonna try putting a glass of water on my night table tonight.

sleep well, /improve/

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 No.8812

I have this problem. I go between sleep and awake repeatedly for hours every morning. During this time I am unconscious and hardly alive. How can I stop that?


 No.8824

>>8615

you simply have to start earlier. I'm not good at jumping out of bed, but in my experience the only solutions are 1) wake up even earlier (expect to lay in bed for an hour) or simply force yourself to get up as soon as you wake up. Obviously, it's challenging, but if you try and make a habit of physically getting out of bed as soon as you wake up, it could solve everything. You're groggy in bed because your body is not going into action mode.


 No.8825

>>8759

need to get back onto smoothies.

I'm so inconsistent. I do these good habits for like a week and then i stop.


 No.8826

* you have to shift your sleep schedule. you can't just cut down your hours of sleep.

* write down what your plan is for the first few hours of the morning, before going to bed.

* as your falling asleep, take note of the current time and repeat a few times in your head the time you plan to wake up.

* remove any obstacles to getting to your first task. this means put your clothes out for the next day and shower at night instead of the morning. if you're going to be leaving the house, pack your bag at night.

experience: I go to bed at 7p and wake up at 1:45a every morning to do language study before starting work.


 No.8833

>>8825

Just keep trying. It does come eventually if you do it enough.




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 No.8796[Reply]

Images that you can print out, use as your wallpaper or use as anything else to remind you to get back on track. Post your favorites, whatever preferences you may have.

 No.8803

just get a mirror :^)


 No.8804

>>8803

A mirror can't look into your mind.


 No.8805

>>8803

this but unironically

a mirror shows you what you look like and therefore what your current state is.


 No.8808

>>8803

Having a large mirror i'd walk by help motivate me to work out. Tired of seeing a skellyton every time.


 No.8827

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 No.8823[Reply]

hey guys.

i saw topics about shit test, frame, and powertalk on r/theredpill.

i know that sub is about sex strategy.

but its also about self-improvement.

these topics that i saw were eye opener.

shit test. whole school life of kids bantering each other is constant shit testing.

power talking- this also is major in young adult and professional life.

and holding frame- basically keeping good attitude and be admant.

so i wanna know have you found any other topics that i could research on. and improve myself.

i am now very good at shit tests and can usualy shut other persons mouth if he is messing with me. but i fail at powertalking. frame is too little weak.

please share your research thanks.



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 No.8658[Reply]

in canada, what's a starting job that pays decent?

i have a highschool diploma but nothing else.

i've read working at warehouse is good. any suggestions?

any other ways i can supplement income? like this amazon or ebay shit

 No.8678

If you're in a major city, try applying with a telco (Telus, Bell, Rogers) in a call centre. These jobs pay well and can lead to other positions.


 No.8698

Depends on what you consider decent pay. Here most entry level jobs are manufacturing line, warehouse, and the odd niche thing. Most every blue collar job that's skilled requires previous experience or some sort of training beforehand before they will even consider you Best bet honestly is for you to look at your local industry if you want education otherwise just cold call every last place within a 25 mile radius.


 No.8717

>>8698

This really. Depending on what your skills are, Tim Hortons is always hiring, Walmart, and fast food place. If you have the physical abilities, or are willing to learn manufacturing lines, warehouses, demolition, basic road work. Or get a job for the city.


 No.8817

i am looking for the loan / Business partner. I just want to start my Sea food business (south East Asia). It have huge margin and highly profitable business.

I am not doing any thing illegal and fake.

I am having legal company i am ready do partnership. I just need financial support of 10000 - 20000 USD.

If anyone interested please contact me. I will send all details regarding company.




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