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Updated the invite link to work.

If you're lonely and want to talk to a couple of anons or you want to discuss improvement elements or be kept accountable, this is the place for you.


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Don't use discord, use Tox groups

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Looking for a book?

All the below books can be found using any of these methods.




Productivity must reads


Power of Habits, by Charles Duhigg

Superhuman by Habit, by Tynan




Willpower Instinct, by Kelly Mcgonigal

Procrastination Equation, by Piers Steel


Time management

First Thing's First, by Stephen Covey

Art of Getting Things Done, by David Allen

Philosophy of life

StoicismPost too long. Click here to view the full text.

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Dark Triad people always get ahead. Don't beat them, join them.

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hey guys.

i saw topics about shit test, frame, and powertalk on r/theredpill.

i know that sub is about sex strategy.

but its also about self-improvement.

these topics that i saw were eye opener.

shit test. whole school life of kids bantering each other is constant shit testing.

power talking- this also is major in young adult and professional life.

and holding frame- basically keeping good attitude and be admant.

so i wanna know have you found any other topics that i could research on. and improve myself.

i am now very good at shit tests and can usualy shut other persons mouth if he is messing with me. but i fail at powertalking. frame is too little weak.

please share your research thanks.


The Rational Male: Positive Masculinity

Buy the book before it's deemed hate speech or whatever



I'd look into self-actualization, how external-validation should always be avoided and Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Maybe look into MGTOW Philosophy, as an individualist worldview all about improving yourself and moving towards self-validation. This opposed to chasing pussy and praise from others. That being said, it's also an echo-chamber. So if you do take up some of the philosophy, I'd avoid getting caught up in the community.

At the end of the day though, as so long as you're healthy, not harming others and working towards fulfillment. Then it doesn't matter what you do.


r/theredpill is pure poison.

I have nothing against PUA concepts, but that place is a circlejerk of insecure guys. To them every interaction is costant posturing against women, friends, and so on. They think everybody is always out to get them. They think they're scientific but they clearly never read the source material (mostly evolutionary psychology) and it shows. Of course they may be a post or two that are decent, but they're covered in shit.

I used to read the sub a lot and I felt like there was something off. Only by growing up I saw how bad they were.

The thing is that they blow everything out of proportion.

Shit test are real, but you just need to be assertive.

Power talking, I don't know what fucking new autism is this now, so I won't comment further.

Holding frame is also retarded, since you just need to be assertive.

Also they make you feel like women have virgin radars and can almost read mind. Just like most people are shit at reading other people, so are women.

It's a complete waste of time and I can't believe I used to post there.

If you want to have success with women you need to meet a lot of them (not with 1000 cold approach a day) and be clear with what you want. That's it. Everything else has such a low impact that is a complete waste of life.




Bunch of sheep acting tough, but they'd never be tough enough to say any of the shit they post online in real life.

They're onto something but all they can do is circlejerk each other and tell each other how tough they are and how sad society is. It's just an excuse to not step up and do anything about your situation if you ask me. I can understand going through an anger phase when youre snapped out of the lovey dovey dreamworld but at some point you either face the music or become a depressed sad manlet.

Also, any woman would probably rather date a sheep than a depressed angry butthurt sheep, and to anyone who's a real "alpha" (which also isn't what these RP-guys think it is) it comes over as laughable.

If you know a man who has build himself up from nothing and actually accomplished something, ask him about this. All the "hidden knowledge" and weird conspiracies these guys believe is second nature to these people, to the point where they don't even feel the need to discuss it.

100% ask a succesful person about the nature of woman, race differences, global warming or politics. They understand how the world works, they know how to leverage the system to get what they want and so they can easily spot when other people do the same.

At some level I do feel sympathy for Red Pillers, as they have spotted the flaws of the system but can't escape it. I remember when I was like that and all I wanted was someone to help me out and just tell/teach me how shit works and how to work it. Doing so does nothing for the sheep though and only makes them dependand on you. Hence why nobody has ever told you.

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In this video a guy steals a bottle from a cyclist after a race, the cyclist gets angry.


This made me think that I would never get angry for something like this. I would be flabbergasted at most and ask for the bottle back.

This is another reason why I will never amount to anything.

Unable to get angry easily when wronged.


You found out that just like 99% of people, ur a sheep. Now it's up to you to decide if thats really who you are or if it's something you've been taught.

So you either stay like this and accept it, stop whining and sit out ur days (which'll be difficult since you probably love to whine and complain) or you reprogram yourself and become a predator.

Good luck

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What would you consider mandatory for humans to do for self improvement?



why do you want to improve?



Bump. Meta. Beautifully answered.


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Quiet times with written self reflection.

Moving the body either with exercise or being out in nature.

Participating in engaging debates or discussions.

Understanding what is in your control and out of your control, specifically attuned to your life.


Taking care of yourself and making plans.


What a great thread and very useful ideas. Found my key on the 3rd go by getting my sleep sorted. Now I can work on the next log jam.

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You lack the internal drive to do this alone. That's why you're here. You need a set of rules and external guidelines to get on the right path. This is what this thread is.

A beginning is a very delicate time.

Let's get started.

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I'm sorry. This is the first time I've said "we" and "our" instead of strictly "you" and "your". I've tried to be reliable and impartial and insightful in this thread for nearly two years now, but I hurt and struggle too.



>Our thoughts betray and infect us with pessimism and hopelessness. They permeate our being and whisper doubts that no person would ever say to us. Grant them no quarter.

This is wisdom. So often the negative internal voice is the echo of a parent who didn't know how to nurture. There is no arrogance nor self-pity in believing that you deserve better than the pits of hell.



It's been two years.

Where were you two years ago? Where will you be two years hence?


I made a slight change in my mindset and I've seen the most dramatic change of anything I've done to my results. You need to make this change if you're thinking the same way.

Before I was constantly focusing on the ideal version of myself and comparing myself to it.

Now I am focused just on improvement. I compare myself to who I was yesterday.

This has so many benefits:

>You don't push yourself further than you can go and end up burning out because you only have to do better than yesterday

>You don't beat yourself up and ultimately drain your own will because you have realistic expectations

>You don't linger on past mistakes because you know you're better than you were

>When you falter you don't lose everything, you only lose the day's progress

>You don't stress yourself out that you're not perfect and ultimately self-sabotage

>You don't take major wins as evidence that you've reached your destination and regress


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Nurture your daemon or genius. While you may not believe in a veritable guardian angel, recognize that your soul, psyche, or essence is comprised of many components.

Listen to the divine nature or spirit that permeates your being, regardless of the decisions you make based on your disposition or personality alone. Nurture this influence. Allow it to guide you to benevolent and glorious action that your base instinct or habit might not.

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Welcome to /TGTG/ - Three Good Things General!

Three Good Things is a simple exercise that empirically reduces symptoms of depression and increases happiness over six months.

All you have to do is:

>Write down three things that went well today and why you think they happened.

Do this every day for at least one week to see results!

(Here's a link to some evidence for it: http://www.positiveinsights.co.uk/articles/EMPIRICAL_RESULT_OF_INTERVENTIONS.pdf )

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1 - I got out of work early

2 - I got a big chunk of work out of the way thats taken weeks

3 - I read a really good book on the train


three good things

1. went for a run

2. didnt fap even though i had ample opportunity to

3. had a pleasant shift at work

why they happened

1. because i care about my body

2. because im done with that shit. I dont need that poison in my life

3. because im not as much of a sperg as I tell myself I am and am cool with most of my coworkers so its not so bad i guess


- went home with my squish yesterday since i didnt saw him for the past few weeks. It happened since i go home with him and his dad when we both have night classes

- talked with his dad about different music generes since his dad kept playing songs that i like on the car radio

(My squish told me to ask his dad about it)

- i saved money yesterday since i didnt bring extra money at all



whats is a squish?



> Went to the gym - Felt motivated enough and been wanting to. Felt better afterwards

> Felt good overall and ate more than I have been lately - bigger apetite

> Got over bad friendship - Thought about it fully today and was able to let it come to a close.

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Let give you guys the low down, 6th grade rejected by crush, 8th grade, rejected by crush, going into high school distance my self from girls because I figured that I would be a burden to interact with.

Now I’m ready to change that

>inb4 that’s the whole purpose of this board you jerkoff

I get that but I’m going balls to wall with this, whatever advice you anons give me is going to be used to my benefit. Whether it’s to talk to girls, increase my social rank(ing) or just for bantz I’m in it for the long haul for this change in my life

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Anything is possible if you BELIEVE IN YOURSELF and JUST DO IT



yes, that's why I won a 100m against Usain Bolt and got a new world record.



Based. Told you it would work



No, but you can shape your own mind.


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>not even able to fuckin admit my crush

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The twilight of another year is upon us. At this stage in the life of /improve/ I think I speak for us all when I say resolutions rarely successful but is there anything you want to achieve in general in 2019? Any lessons from 2018 you are willing to share? Or maybe just vent and offload if you want.

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In my second semester now, haven’t talked to anyone outside of group work with the exception of one weird girl who tried to talk to me in history. I just have no energy to try to talk to anyone even though I’m usually not awful at making friends.



Too late for a 2019 resolution but gonna post anyway

the past year ive really been making great improvements in my life. This is the year I finally get a gf. In fact before the month is over I will have one. Count on it.

We're all gonna make it lads. Work hard. Do better. Seize what is yours.

Above all else: never fucking give up



Good job man, and remember: it's never too late for a resolution.


I finally got away from porn but need to work on my body and my internet addiction.

Pornography really is the devil, always tempting you.


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wew I did it.

Got a gf and no longer kiss virgin at 22

shit is pretty cash not gonna lie

new goal: get an internship in my related field so that I can get a real fucking job and leave my current dead end one

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As the saying goes, “a problem shared is a problem lessened.”

What's bothering you? Get it off your chest.

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After over a year I finally got a job and was able to buy a decent car. I got plenty of monies to do what I want now. The only problem is I still have anxiety and don't really know how to ask a girl out. I got over my old friend's sister but she only got replaced by my qt manager.


I think I fianlly reached the fabled point where there is nothing left for me to buy. Nothing really fills the void anymore, at least nothing that amazon can ship to me. It's a sort of an empty void where you can feel that old yearning yet at the same time it's gone. What a joke it all was. For nothing.



I'm socially stunted. I've had very few friendly relationships and as such am very self conscious and awkward among other people. Have no idea how to fix it. Currently all of the people I used to hang with have went abroad and I haven't bothered to talk to them since then. I'm completely alone for a year now. No friends, no gf, no one to talk to. I occasionally call my parents, but that's it.

TL;DR I'm 20 and have no idea how to make friends



I know that feel anon. I'm 21 and haven't spoken to someone in my age group for almost two years.



Tough shit man

What's your story? Never find yourself around other people or just generally antisocial?

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For the /fat/ folk around here. I lost almost 100lb (310 to about 215) ask me anything.



What diet?

>inb4 low carb



Any particular schedule ??






>doesn't reply back for 7 months

It was too little too late. OP died of heart disease before he could share his secrets.

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Oftentimes I find myself making decisions and saying things that I regret, while at the same times knowing what the right things to do and say are. I feel like I am stuck playing a role, and fear exposing my real self to the people that I love and trust. In the end, I resort to lying which puts a heavy weight on my shoulders, and when the lie eventually comes out, the damage is worse. I made this thread for people to give advice on how to boost ones courage, and how to convince yourself that its important to not care as much about what others think and do. Or for people to talk about things that they've been hiding from others in order to get it off their chest. The goal is to improve your self confidence, and I feel that putting to words things that bother you is a necessary first step on the path of enlightenment.


I guess ill start first. Ive been in a relationship with this girl for about 1 year now, and the first 6 months went by smoothly. Thats when my first lie came about, that Ive been talking to this other girl for quite a while. As you can guess things didnt go smoothly, and it resulted in me getting slapped a few times. Since then we've been on and off, but I just can't find the courage to end things with her. I feel like i act the role of a loving boyfriend in order to spare her feelings, but most of the time it puts me under a lot of stress. I know the easy answer is just to end things altogether, but i cant seem to find the courage to do so.



>I act the role of a loving boyfriend in order to spare her feelings

This does not spare her feelings. It only makes the bomb bigger and bigger when it finally drops. And it will drop.

I've been lied to in a similar way and man it hurt so fucking bad, it still hurts. I wish so much that she would have just told me from the start, that would have hurt for sure but it would have been quick and I could have moved on. The more time passes the worse it gets.

It will be hard to end things, but you have to do it man. But you already know all this anyways. Good luck brother.



You're right. I shouldn't push things any longer than it already has because i feel it's getting harder and harder to make the move. Thank you for the reassurance



This is very relatable. It is a meta strategy of society to not care about what people think or do and to be authentic (not playing a role).

But I would like to propose a counter intuitive approach - care even more about what is going on inside other peoples minds. The thing is that your interpretation of certain mental processes is getting you to feel down - not the processes themselves. You can get an upper hand on that if you want.

If you don't like that - how about roles and lying? Sometimes it is necessary to do if you want to carry out your agenda while not stirring up a hornet nest. Other people are doing it. Doesn't mean of course that this is the reason why you should too. Really depends on your goals and what kind of person you are. Some people live off their morality and purity - making other people feel better and at ease. But it is not going to get you far in any sort of materialistic career.

If you are sure that those people you love and trust won't dig or respect your real self - drop them. Sorry for bluntness. Or summon all of your courage to test whether they won't. Otherwise the bomb will get bigger and drops anyway as >>8839 said.

Self confidence is that feeling of knowing that you are able to do anything that could be required of your body / mind at this very moment. It is an alignment of many aspects. Physical health and state of mind (what you are focused on) for example. But its really hard to recommend something specific because we are all very different.

As you can see from my post - great amount of self confidence can come from you leveraging things that are your disadvantages or negative factors. Getting an upper hand on the situation and getting control over it. More importantly - feeling of control. Which will allow you to get even more control by the snowball effect of confidence.



Ive put it in my mind for some time now to try my best to be honest with myself, and others. The truth is the truth, and the subsequent result of speaking the truth is something that I have to become comfortable with. Unless in specific circumstances, where I would have to be a bit more subtle, I would like to become more honest about what goes on in my thoughts because I feel this would be a better way to connect with people. People that actually care and respect my real self. Would you be able to clarify how I would go about caring MORE about what people think? As I feel I already care a substantial amount. Also thanks again for the advice.

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Boards that are like /SIG/, r/theredpill?



also why dont threads load. keep getting errors


I heard the /improve subreddit on 4chan was pretty good, kinda dead though

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How do I get out more and make more friends?

Would greatly appreciate general advice but I'm also looking for help for me specifically: 23 year old guy, work part time and school part time but nearly all of my classes are online. I already made a few friends at my job but I'm looking to get out more and meet new people. As of right now I only have like 2 friends from work that I hang out with like once a week. I want a gf and I know the best way to get a good one is to go out and meet a ton of people you find someone good, it's like a numbers game right?

So yeah what are good ways to meet people and make friends for 23 year old guys who aren't really used to going out all that much?


Have you tried Meetup or hobby groups? I made quite a few friends during my tabletop phase. Picked up rock climbing and .at some good people as well.


people today are scared as fuck and extremely demotivated. A lot of them want simple things but they can't express or are ashamed of this desire (not all, of course).

I got new friends even past 25, and what they all have in common is that they were really active and open. They invited me to shit and organized shit.

If others aren't open, you have to be the one who is open. You have to be the one who organizes shit. If you want to do something, invite others. I mean, you're making friends so you can even tell them if they want to accompany you to get a McDouble or some shit, you don't have to impress anyone.


That second pic is fuckin deep brah. Too real.

Outside of work, hobbies and recreation and school, if you don't already have contacts then you're basically fucked. Wicked hard to make friends outside of those situations.

Try to milk the 2 friends ya got for all their contacts, then make friends with their contacts, and so on. Involve yourself in as many social circles as you can.

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March-August 2018 everything was going well in my life, for the first time after a long, long time. I was completing therapy, I felt good, I was going to the gym regularly.

Then In September-November something happen. I accepted a very simple freelance job, which didn't require much time or effort but slowly burned me out. This means that I stopped going to the gym, and slowly stopped everything.

Then I started making random and weird decisions, up until January when I shouted at one of those NGO faggots who ask you money for bringing niggers into the country (I live in Europe, that's what they do). From that day I completely broke down and I refused to go out. I only went out to buy food from time to time and that's it.

Last spark of hope was a month ago, when I joined the gym again. After three sessions, in the first week, I got the flu which lasted for 10 days and I couldn't train. Then in the third week I was depressed and I also had to take my mom to be visited by some useless jew (in the soul) doctors who asked for 150euro on the phone and then 200 in person. Then after that third week, in the fourth week I got the flu again.

Now I've been at home for more than a week. I honestly don't want to do anything anymore. I don't want to join the gym because I'm scared that I will waste my money again and not go, and this destroy me.

The therapist can't help for shit. She has identified my thought patterns very well I must admit, but no solution is in sight. What the fuck should I do? I'm 31 and I'm rotting at home. I have pain all over my body from staying home in bed and sitting, when in August I felt fit as hell. I honestly don't understand why every time I try to turn my life around for the better something happens. It's ridicolous I can't do this shit anymore and I don't even know what the shit should I do.

I just want to punch everything and everyone and fuck this world shit

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I mean, it's pretty hard to recover from setbacks if you don't have a significant and loving social network, seriously.

If you guys are like me, and doing this one man show over here, the lows are that much lower while the highs are still pretty low.

But you are 100% correct about consistency, regardless of how you feel. Those days when you feel normal or plain even still count, as you are still navigating and making cognitive decisions (they just seem so much less important because there's no strong emotional flair or memory to them). On days like those, the entries will probably be a bit smaller, but they're still just as valuable. It can hard to remember to write though, that's why I like to set up multiple timers. Soon enough you will unconsciously move towards writing.

I've yet to pick up a new journal as the weather has been absolute shit, so I'm just going to use an old agenda and write everywhere regardless. It honestly feels a bit freeing, writing outside of the margins, on-top of calenders and whatnot, letting random thoughts or doodles take up "important" or "irregular" spaces.



I use the habit app "loops" to form the habit of writing in my journal (and lots of other stuff, but not too much or it becomes overwhelming). I use a digital journal… I know lots of people find the physical form to be helpful, but I like writing in my text editor a lot so it's an extra incentive. Plus it lets me organize notes etc. really easily.

Just highlighting that even though this stuff is fundamental, there's lots of different ways to make it work for you.


OP here, still burned as fuck (8kg overweight). Only good thing is that I don't give a shit about anything anymore, so I'm not scared of talking in front of a camera/microphone when alone. This would have been good years ago, when I wanted to make video tutorials.


I think I'm close to starting my life again. In the meantime since nobody as posted on the whole board I'm gonna double-post and describe my physical pain.

I never been so out of shape in my life, after all even when I didn't train at least I took long walks. I'm not even out of shape now, I'm a little in pain and I feel weak and fragile. My neck hurts, my wrists hurt, my achilles tendon and my face feel dizzy.

I've decided I'm never going to take freelance work ever again in my life, and I'm gonna commit to this. I wasted my 20s in this cycle of freelance work burning me out and this was the last straw and the most hurtful of them all. I could have got so much done but I was never able to stick to my guts, always chasing this narcissistic bullshit.

From now on I'm gonna do whatever I feel like doing, I'm going to stop doing this because "I have to", because I have a sense of obligation towards my narcissism.


Shit happens OP, sometimes you just fail and have to pick yourself back up again. I just stopped doing everything as well lately. All my hobbies even at my job i switched to doing the bare minimum because i just don't feel anything. I also recently tried to get into motorcycling but bombed hard when I realized it just wasn't for me so that was a lifelong dream that was crushed.

All you can do is pick yourself back up and keep going bro. That's what /improve/ mantra really should be.

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