/improve/ - Self Improvement

*just to make her happy

*want to be able to look

Don't be a cuck OP. Be as sexist as you want.
Lots of love
From /pol/

>>1449
Honestly, everyone is sexist to some extent, but as long as you don't act out on it, it's not a crime to objectify people in your mind. Having said that, you want to change, ok.

You'll have to change it just as any other habit - every time you catch yourself doing whatever you think is wrong, in your case looking at ass'n'titties or masturbating to mental images of random girls, consciously stop it as soon as you're aware you are doing it, and, if you want, reason with yourself why you are not happy with what you're doing until your mind gets used to not doing it anymore.


ex. "Daymm that bitch got a nice ass, would slide nicely up and down my dick…NEVERMIND let's look at something else. I bet if a random 40 year old cougar was checking out my junk and imagining herself getting impregnated by me, I'd feel just as creeped out"

>>1449
Holy. Fuckin'. Shit.

>objectify women's bodies
You aren't reducing them to the state of an object; you're well aware that they have worth beyond their bodies. Just like everyone else, when you look at someone, you make judgments about them. Dude sitting on the street, unshaven, holding cardboard sign? HOMELESS. Obese guy with a neckbeard? LOSER. Fat man in a suit? RICH FATCAT. For women, it just so happens that you're attracted to them, so your judgments include aspects of that. This is a part of being human, and isn't bad. When your girlfriend looks at Brad Pitt or Hugh Jackman, do you think she worries about 'objectifying' their bodies and status? God no.

>Fapping to friends
Cut this shit out. Every time you do it, you reinforce neural pathways that associate your friends with sex. Presumably you don't want to be popping a boner at all your female friends. It's inconvenient and you don't wanna shit where you eat.

>Telling your girlfriend you fap to her friends
HOLY. FUCKIN'. SHIT.
Dude. You are fucking up badly here. You're allowed to acknowledge that her friends are bangin', but you don't ever use them to replace or supplement her in the relationship. When you tell her you fap to them, you're saying "I think your friends are better than you." What the actual fuck OP.

>she's attractive in the same way other girls are
Yes, and so she should be. Your GF is not a special snowflake, looks-wise. You met her, you were both available, you found each other attractive and you got along. Thus a relationship. You're not drawn to each other as mystical soulmates or some bullshit. You're also not purely 'in love with her mind'. Bodies matter and both of you should know it. Not just because it's attractive and pleases your partner (But that is a big part of it), but also because it signifies health and wellbeing.

>staring at tits and ass first
No problem checking out the goods. Just don't stare enough to make it awkward. You're a sexual being and so is every other person on the planet. Nothing wrong with appraising others sexually.

Overall, you have a massive case of kotowing to bullshit feminism that says visual aspects should be discarded. Your sexuality has been thoroughly shamed. You are sexual. You have sexual desire. You are attracted to tits and ass and nothing you do will change that AND THAT'S OKAY.

in all honesty you probably have your gf now because of how sexist you are.

Treat person like person. Don't be a douche. Accept that you're attracted to stuff without being an asshole about it. etc.

Just learn to either control your damn eyeballs a bit more if you're THAT consistent and obvious (as you seem to imply you are), or get better at crafty/sneaky ass-looks. Worse comes to worst, remind her that even though you appreciate someone who looks nice, it's HER you chose and are spending your time with. But seriously, if you're fapping to her friends, keep that shit to yourself. Even I can see why someone would be put off by that, god damn.